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Joe Rogan Experience #1199 - Tom Segura & Sean Anders

Tom Segura is a stand-up comedian, and hosts his own podcast with his wife, Christina P called "Your Mom’s House." Sean Anders is a writer and director, and his new movie "Instant Family" premieres November 16 in theaters.

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Nov 13, 20181h 55mWatch on YouTube ↗

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  1. 0:030:13

    Hair jokes, going live, and teasing the new movie

    1. TS

      I didn't realize how good your hair is.

    2. SA

      Thanks. I'm losing it, but it's, what's left of it is still working all right.

    3. JR

      Boom, and we're live, gentlemen. Hello, Sean.

    4. SA

      Hey, how are ya?

    5. JR

      Hello, Tom.

    6. TS

      Hello, Joseph.

  2. 0:130:31

    “You guys do movies?” — Sean’s directing background in brief

    1. JR

      What's go- you guys did a movie? Did you make a movie?

    2. TS

      We made a movie.

    3. SA

      We did.

    4. JR

      You guys do movies?

    5. SA

      We do. We're movie guys.

    6. TS

      (laughs)

    7. JR

      How many movies have you made?

    8. SA

      Uh, well, one.

    9. TS

      Well, I bet you've made ... How many have you made before?

    10. SA

      Uh, uh, like six. But-

    11. TS

      Yeah.

    12. SA

      But we've made one.

    13. TS

      We've made one.

    14. SA

      Yeah.

    15. JR

      What's your favorite one other than the one that's right now, which is definitely your favorite? 'Cause you're promoting it right now.

  3. 0:313:06

    How Sex Drive got made—and why it felt like the career might be over

    1. SA

      Uh, Sex Drive.

    2. JR

      Sex Drive? Which one was that?

    3. SA

      It's the first one. It's the one nobody knows about.

    4. TS

      Yeah, it's his first one.

    5. JR

      Oh. Nobody knows about it?

    6. SA

      I mean, it just, it was one of those movies that just opened and nobody knew about it, but it was, it was a really, really fun movie. It was.

    7. JR

      Maybe we could change that.

    8. SA

      Yeah.

    9. JR

      Is it on iTunes or Netflix or-

    10. SA

      Yeah, yeah, it's all over. James Marsden's in it. harry-

    11. TS

      This is the one, is this the one that you, like, when you made it, you were like, "And maybe I'll go back to working fucking construction." Or whatever, right?

    12. SA

      Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, that's, I thought, I thought, thought it was over after that. (laughs)

    13. JR

      Did you finance it or anything?

    14. SA

      No, no, we made it, um, we made it with Summit Pictures and it was, it was, it was amazing. They, they, uh, we were in town trying to get a career going, you know, trying to, trying to make things happen. We were making a TV pilot at the time, which was a living hell. And, uh, and we had gone out and pitched this, uh, idea to a bunch of places and nobody bought it. So then in the middle of our, uh, editing our pilot, Summit Pictures called and said, um, "We really, we keep thinking about that pitch. Would you guys be willing to write it?" And I said, "You know what? Tell them ..." I was really busy. I said, "Tell them we'll write it if I can direct it." But I figured that would make them go away. And they said, "All right." And so we went in and we wrote it and we turned it in and they green lit it. (laughs)

    15. JR

      (laughs)

    16. TS

      (laughs)

    17. SA

      It was just crazy. It was just this crazy process where we got this movie green lit and I think we wrote the draft in, in like a month and then we turned it in and they, they loved it and they said-

    18. JR

      What's it about?

    19. SA

      It's a, it's a, it's a teen road trip movie. It's about this, these kids that, uh, it was kind of in the early days of the, you know, Facebook and all that stuff. And it might have even been, I don't know, I could never track the ... It might have even been like sort of Myspace into Facebook, that era, you know. Um, but it was about a kid who meets a, a girl online and goes to lose his virginity on a, on a road trip.

    20. JR

      Oh, shit.

    21. TS

      Funny.

    22. SA

      It is funny, yeah. Marsden's in it, James Marsden, he's really funny. Uh, Clark Duke and, um, yeah, it had a good cast and, uh-

    23. JR

      There it is.

    24. SA

      (clears throat) Yeah. Wow, good. Um-

    25. JR

      Bam.

    26. SA

      But it was a really great experience. It was really fun. And then we, we, we tested it, we did the test screenings and it just murdered, like it just ... And the studio got really excited and I thought, "Oh my God," like, "I'm gonna have a huge career."

    27. TS

      (laughs)

    28. SA

      And the movie came out and it didn't do any- (laughs)

    29. JR

      (laughs)

    30. TS

      (laughs)

  4. 3:065:12

    Instant Family’s real-life roots: adopting three siblings

    1. JR

      So this movie is based in, uh, in no small part on your o- own life experiences.

    2. SA

      It is, yeah.

    3. JR

      Of, uh, adopting an actual ... You, you adopted like a full family.

    4. SA

      Three human children, yeah.

    5. JR

      Wow.

    6. SA

      (laughs)

    7. TS

      That's wild.

    8. JR

      That's a, that's a bold maneuver, sir.

    9. SA

      Yeah. (laughs)

    10. JR

      What were the ages?

    11. SA

      Uh, six, three, and a year and a half in my home.

    12. JR

      Wow.

    13. SA

      Yeah.

    14. JR

      What was the process?

    15. SA

      Um, well, it starts ... And this is how it starts in the movie as well. My wife and I, for years I didn't, I wasn't making any money and including when, after I made Sex Drive. And, um, I, uh, so I didn't really feel like I could afford to have kids. So whenever we'd talk about it I'd just be like, "You know, not there yet." And, uh, and then finally, um, when I felt like I was doing better, I was starting to get a career together, I just started to feel like I was gonna be one of those old dads, you know? Like by the time the kid was a teenager I wasn't gonna be able to play with them or-

    16. JR

      How old are you now?

    17. SA

      I'm 49 now. I was 41 at the time.

    18. JR

      Mm-hmm.

    19. SA

      And, uh, so ... God, is that right? Oh man, it's depressing. Anyway, uh, (laughs) so I, I, uh, I made this dumb joke to my wife. I said, "Look, why don't we just adopt a five year old? It'll be like I got started five years ago and like I'm, you know, right back in the game."

    20. JR

      Right.

    21. SA

      And she was like, "You know, that's actually a really interesting idea." And I was like, "No, I'm, I was totally kidding. Didn't mean anything by that at all."

    22. JR

      (laughs)

    23. SA

      And, and then she went to a website and she showed me the website. And then when I saw the website I was like, "Oh, wow." You see these kids, you see their faces, you start to learn a little bit more about it. And we just started having conversations and it, it went from there. Now I, now I got three kids and a movie.

    24. JR

      And they're all siblings?

    25. SA

      Yes.

    26. JR

      So they all came from one mom and what d- what is, how did they get separated from the family?

    27. SA

      Um, I don't have a lot of details about that. You know, they don't really tell you.

    28. JR

      Right.

    29. SA

      (clears throat) You know, you, you know a little bit, but not much. I mean, I know that there was, that there were issues with drugs and I, and I think there was some kind of a fire at some point.

    30. JR

      Mm-hmm.

  5. 5:129:58

    Why make a comedy about foster-to-adopt (and fears about misconceptions)

    1. JR

      And what, what made you want to turn this into a film? Like, I would imagine that's a very personal experience.

    2. SA

      Yeah. Um, it was actually my writing partner, John Morris, 'cause I had been about three years into it at that point. And the beginning of it was a nightmare. Like, like epic v- bad decision, why did we ever do this? (laughs)

    3. JR

      Really?

    4. SA

      Yeah, it was, it was really a nightmare for a short time. And then when it came online and we became a family, it really became the best thing that ever happened to me. And you know, when John and I get together every day, we just talk about our lives a little bit. That's how we get started. So John had been hearing all these stories and one day he just said, "I don't know why we're not doing a movie about this, 'cause nobody really knows how this works when you go into foster care to adopt kids." So we started talking about it and then there was the conversation of whether it could be a comedy or not, because that's what we do. We make comedies. And John again was like, "Most of the stuff you've told me is really funny." So not all of it, of course, but that's ... And then we thought, wow, you know, we could approach this as a comedy and we might be able to get-

    5. TS

      ... you know, a more general audience to, to get their, their interest in it that way because it'll feel less scary because that's the problem is that most movies that are made on this topic just frighten people.

    6. SA

      Right.

    7. TS

      And they make people think that these kids are all, are all damaged and-

    8. SA

      Right.

    9. TS

      ... unreachable and everything, you know?

    10. SA

      Right. Do you worry that it'd be like that movie 101 Dalmatians that a bunch of people start getting foster kids now and just screw them up?

    11. TS

      Yeah, we (laughs) -

    12. SA

      (laughs)

    13. TS

      ... well, we were talking about Top Gun, about how, you know, remember when Top Gun came out and everybody joined the Navy thinking they were gonna fly the planes?

    14. SA

      Right, right. (laughs)

    15. TS

      Yeah. (laughs)

    16. SA

      Well, when, um, The Color of Money came out, pool halls boomed across the country. I mean-

    17. TS

      Yeah.

    18. SA

      ... a giant impact on pool halls-

    19. TS

      (laughs)

    20. SA

      ... from that one Tom Cruise movie.

    21. TS

      Mm-hmm.

    22. SA

      Really.

    23. TS

      A lot of people just got scammed out of their fucking-

    24. SA

      (laughs)

    25. TS

      ... pocket money basically. (laughs) Sure.

    26. SA

      (laughs)

    27. TS

      I'm sure there was some of that going on.

    28. SA

      But that always happens.

    29. TS

      I think the crazy thing about this too was that, like, on the set you realize, like when you're, when we're doing this, you go like, "Oh, yeah, I always thought of people who do that," like you know they exist, but you're like those are nameless, faceless angels.

    30. SA

      (laughs)

  6. 9:5813:05

    Press tours, red carpets, and the humiliation of media training

    1. TS

      Wait, so you, 'cause you were telling me this and I was like, he was about to tell me before you came in, I was like, "This sounds like this could be pretty good. Don't tell me. Save it for the podcast." That... 'Cause he's done... This is the most press Sean's done for a film that he's put out. That, did you go under they were like, "Let's give you some advice on media?"

    2. SA

      Yeah, well first of all, I'm terrible at it. (laughs) So there's that. 'Cause I don't do... This is the thing. When you direct a movie, especially movies like the kind of movies that I make, you know, comedies and, you know, big broad comedies, people don't really care who directed those movies. And I'm good with that, like I'm totally good with that. But what usually happens is the studio, the director usually wants to be kind of a part of the campaign, so the studio will find... They'll sort of throw bones at you of like press that you can do. And I always tell them, "Look, if I can be helpful in any way, let me know. I'll do whatever you need me to do, but don't throw me any bones 'cause I don't care." Right. Like I don't need to- (laughs) So they do that to kind of just pump up the ego of the director that-

    3. TS

      (laughs)

    4. SA

      ... certain directors just really wanna be the next Quentin Tarantino. (laughs)

    5. TS

      Yeah. Yeah, I can't-

    6. SA

      You want them to-

    7. TS

      I can't imagine there's some directors they really have to do it for.

    8. SA

      Mm. Well, I mean, I get it. They don't want you to feel left out or whatever.

    9. TS

      Right.

    10. SA

      But by my first couple movies, I thought, "Oh, I have to do this stuff." And then I realized... I, I actually had this experience where I was in this red carpet thing and they brought me up to this reporter and they said, "This is Sean Anders. He directed the movie." And she had this big look on her face and then she went like, "Oh."

    11. TS

      God.

    12. SA

      And she's... (laughs) And I was like, "No, no, no. It's cool. You don't have to..." (laughs)

    13. TS

      Wow.

    14. SA

      "You don't have to-"

    15. TS

      She was so disappointed.

    16. SA

      She was so dis-

    17. TS

      (laughs)

    18. SA

      She was so disappointed. Those people. And that's when it sunk into me where I was just like, "Oh, they don't care. They don't give a..." So that's, that's fine with me. I'm good there, you know? Well, they're such fame whores in those-

    19. TS

      They are.

    20. SA

      Those red carpet things.

    21. TS

      Yeah.

    22. SA

      They're so weird.

    23. TS

      Yeah.

    24. SA

      Those things are so weird. And some people, that is the highlight of their life walking that carpet.

    25. TS

      Yep.

    26. SA

      Oh, I can't... (imitates camera clicking) Over here, Tom. (imitates camera clicking)

    27. TS

      Get your pose down right. (imitates camera clicking)

    28. SA

      (laughs)

    29. TS

      It's a really weird thing. Also, paparazzi at the airport. You have that where, um, I've seen them where I'm at baggage and they're looking around and then they're like-... "Hey, Tom..." And they'll ask me, like, one thing-

    30. SA

      (laughs)

  7. 13:0528:01

    Clickbait ambush culture: airport paparazzi, gotcha questions, and out-of-context clips

    1. JR

      (laughs) Yeah. Well, what's interesting too is it's, like, sort of an impromptu interview that you have to do, right? Like, if someone said, "Hey, there's this guy. His name is Mike. He lives in Studio City. He wants you to go to his house, and, uh, he's gonna film you. Uh, he's gonna ask you wacky questions." You're like, "No."

    2. TS

      Yeah. (laughs)

    3. JR

      But if Mike just shows up-

    4. TS

      Yeah.

    5. JR

      ... at the baggage claim and puts that camera in your face. "Hey, Sean. Uh, Jennifer Aniston, man. What's up with the Botox?"

    6. SA

      (laughs)

    7. TS

      Yeah.

    8. JR

      And then you're like, "What?"

    9. TS

      Yeah.

    10. JR

      "What the fuck?"

    11. TS

      Right.

    12. JR

      You know? I mean, that's how they get you. Like, you wouldn't do an interview with them under any other circumstances, which is one of the... Like, one of the weird things that happened during the Roseanne Barr things, Roseanne Barr, when her show was canceled and all the controversy was going on, she was supposed to do the podcast. And it became a big news thing.

    13. TS

      Right.

    14. JR

      Because she put it on her, uh, her Twitter that "I'm gonna do it," and we talked about it. And then they tried to show up at the podcast studio. So they had all these news people standing outside the podcast studio with their microphones. We're out, out in front of where Joe Rogan does his podcast. And they thought for some reason, just because they're there, people have to talk to them.

    15. TS

      Right.

    16. JR

      Like, "I'm here."

    17. TS

      Yeah.

    18. JR

      "Talk to me."

    19. TS

      You must.

    20. JR

      Like, they're, they're, they're made out of milk. They're barely human. They, the way they talk is the most boring version of an interview you'd ever get, ever. It's a, a tiny, quick little sound bite.

    21. TS

      Mm-hmm.

    22. JR

      But they feel like because they're there, like, "The camera's on. I've got the microphone. Come on."

    23. TS

      Yeah.

    24. JR

      "Do it." If they said, "Hey, you know, KWFuckYourself wants you to come in and, and sit down for an interview." You'd be like, "No. I don't wanna-"

    25. TS

      Yeah. (laughs)

    26. JR

      "... I don't wanna talk to them. I don't... I don't have anything to say." Like, "I'll, I'll do all my talking on the podcast," but-

    27. TS

      Yeah.

    28. SA

      Well, but... And also, if you're... Uh, I mean, I'm in the business, but again, I'm not somebody that does a tremendous amount of press or, or at least not until a couple of weeks ago. Um, and if you're not accustomed to that, it's terrifying.

    29. JR

      It's weird.

    30. TS

      Oh, yeah.

  8. 28:0142:58

    The economics of outrage—and the fight to sustain real journalism

    1. JR

      Yeah, well, it's a weird time for these publications too, man. That's, uh, another thing to take into consideration. No one's really buying magazines and newspapers-

    2. TS

      Yeah.

    3. JR

      ... like they used to.

    4. TS

      Yeah, yeah.

    5. JR

      It's hard to sell. And so they're reduced to these online publications, and they have to compete with a bunch of these clickbait-y bullshit things, and that's where the money is. I mean, even in New York Times, man. The New York Times is resulting to a lot of clickbait-y shit now, and you're like, "Wow."

    6. SA

      Well, do you guys have that feeling, like when you're online, that you're on, like, a clickbait diet where you see things-

    7. TS

      Totally.

    8. SA

      ... where you're like, "Oh, man, I totally wanna-"

    9. JR

      Yeah.

    10. SA

      "... eat that right now-"

    11. JR

      Yeah.

    12. SA

      "... but, like, I'm not, I'm not gonna do that."

    13. TS

      Oh, yeah.

    14. JR

      Fuck all that sugar.

    15. TS

      I'm sadder than that.

    16. JR

      Let me look at the ingredients.

    17. SA

      (laughs)

    18. TS

      (laughs) Yeah, yeah.

    19. JR

      Open it up. Oh, it's so sweet. (laughs)

    20. SA

      You click on it, you're like, "Ah."

    21. TS

      You learn to navigate it now.

    22. JR

      Yeah.

    23. SA

      Right?

    24. TS

      You g- you read that title and you're like, "I know this will have no substance."

    25. SA

      Yes.

    26. TS

      "This is-"

    27. JR

      Well, I'm-

    28. TS

      "... just the headline."

    29. JR

      ... I'm fascinated to see where this goes because this didn't exist, right? The, these online clickbait-y things didn't exist 20 years ago.

    30. TS

      Mm-hmm.

  9. 42:5849:08

    The adoption “nightmare” phase: fairs, teen placements, and sudden matches

    1. JR

      Now, you said that your experience with adopting three kids started out as a nightmare.

    2. SA

      Yeah.

    3. JR

      Like, how did it start out as a nightmare?

    4. SA

      Well, it goes into it... You know, do, do... You know you have friends that, that join the military and when they're in high school, they think they're really tough, and they're like, "Yeah, yeah, it's gonna be awesome." And then they go to boot camp, and then they're like, "Oh, shit, this is-"

    5. JR

      Yeah.

    6. SA

      "... really hard." And then they get on top of it, and then they're, and then they're good again, you know?

    7. JR

      Right.

    8. SA

      But they have to go through that transition of like, "Oh, man, maybe I'm not as tough as I thought I was."

    9. JR

      Right.

    10. SA

      And then they get tough.

    11. JR

      Right.

    12. SA

      And-

    13. JR

      So you never had any kids.

    14. SA

      I never had any kids.

    15. JR

      Had a dog. You've-

    16. SA

      Yeah.

    17. JR

      ... done the dog thing.

    18. SA

      Did the dog thing. Yeah.

    19. JR

      So you know how to take care of, uh, in a very small way.

    20. SA

      (laughs)

    21. JR

      I had a friend who said that to me. He's like, "Well, I've had a dog."

    22. SA

      Oh, yeah.

    23. JR

      He was talking about having a kid.

    24. SA

      I've heard that a lot.

    25. JR

      I'm like, "I'll fucking kill you with a rock." (laughs)

    26. SA

      (laughs)

    27. JR

      "You better not compare the two." (laughs) That's so stupid.

    28. SA

      Yeah, and we... No, we, we went from, y- you know, zero kids. And you kind of think, "Well, I babysat my sister's kids and that kind of thing."

    29. JR

      For how long?

    30. SA

      And n- yeah, that's, that's the-

  10. 49:0854:07

    First meetings and bonding: the awkwardness of becoming a family fast

    1. TS

      Mm-hmm.

    2. SA

      And says, "Here's a picture of them." And there's this long pause, and my wife goes, "Oh, they're cute." (laughs) But they didn't sound cute by the inflection (laughs) in their voice. And you know, you're-

    3. TS

      (laughs)

    4. SA

      ... you're trying not to be-

    5. TS

      (laughs)

    6. JR

      (laughs)

    7. SA

      ... you're, you're trying not to be that guy, you know, that you're like-

    8. TS

      So you're like, "Wait, what do they look like?" (laughs)

    9. SA

      Yeah.

    10. JR

      (laughs)

    11. SA

      But, but, you know, you don't wanna be shallow about it.

    12. TS

      Sure.

    13. SA

      I mean, k- kids are kids, and you know you're gonna fall in love with them regardless. But, you know, like you kind of, everybody wants to think their own kids are cute, whatever. So i- it was funny, and then when I saw the picture, the picture was, it was just a weird, bad picture of the kids. Like my son, who was six at the time, looked like he was 11, and he looked (laughs) like this... And it was just the look on his face and whatever.

    14. JR

      Looked hard?

    15. SA

      Yeah, he looked (laughs) he looked hard and a little s-

    16. JR

      Yeah.

    17. SA

      And, and we go over to the house, and these kids are adorable. So, oh, so this is, sorry, I'm getting ahead of myself. So, so when you, so we have the meeting, and we go, "Okay, we're gonna go meet with them." And just to be clear, we didn't say okay because of the picture. (laughs)

    18. TS

      (laughs)

    19. SA

      Because the picture was kind of like neither here nor there, you know?

    20. TS

      Right.

    21. SA

      We were just like, "All right, let's go meet these kids." So we go to the house, and these kids are adorable.

    22. TS

      Mm-hmm.

    23. SA

      And, and it's the weirdest thing ever 'cause you go to this foster home where they live, and you play with them for like two hours. And when do you ever play with any kids for two straight hours?

    24. TS

      Mm-hmm.

    25. SA

      Like actually actively play with kids, especially kids you've never met before. (laughs)

    26. TS

      Sure.

    27. SA

      So it's exhausting-

    28. TS

      Yeah.

    29. SA

      ... and it's weird. And, and we touch on this in the movie that I was really scared when we were getting there 'cause I wanted so much to walk in, see these kids, well up with tears, know it's for real, know these are my kids-

    30. TS

      Right.

  11. 54:071:14:18

    Kids’ activities and the concussion rabbit hole: football, lacrosse, and CTE

    1. JR

      What does he play?

    2. SA

      Well, he, I mean, whatever he plays, he just tends to be pretty good at it. So he played flag football for a while, and he's playing lacrosse now, and he's played soccer.

    3. JR

      Dude, keep him away from lacrosse and football. We were just playing it with Brennan Schaub the other day.

    4. SA

      (laughs)

    5. JR

      And I, I had no idea how many people get knocked the fuck out playing la- lacrosse.

    6. SA

      Really?

    7. TS

      Lacrosse is fucking violent, man.

    8. JR

      Oh my God. Violent. We were saying like there's a difference between this even in football in that they're striking each other.

    9. TS

      You're allowed to. You can clock somebody.

    10. JR

      They're allowed to hit each other with the stick, but they're also striking each other with elbows. They're running in, and they have the stick in their hand, and they're elbowing each other in the face as they're running. I mean, whoa.

    11. SA

      Oh, shit.

    12. JR

      It's a crazy amount of force-

    13. SA

      Yeah.

    14. JR

      ... they generate.

    15. SA

      Oh, yeah.

    16. JR

      And these kids are getting flatlined.

    17. SA

      (laughs) Yeah.

    18. JR

      I'm like, that sh- 'Cause I had Dale Earnhardt Jr. here the other day on.Really nice guy, great guy, um, suffered 12 concussions over a period of four years.

    19. TS

      Racing?

    20. JR

      Yes.

    21. TS

      Fuck.

    22. JR

      And has, like, some significant brain damage because of it that he had to go through, uh, therapy for to, to help him, like to the point where he was walking and he had to hold onto things because his balance was so fucked up.

    23. TS

      Wow.

    24. JR

      He couldn't, couldn't just walk, couldn't get off the couch and walk to the bathroom. He had to hold onto, like, a, a table and a chair and he had to make his way through. All of this from concussions. And, you know, what they're getting in lacrosse or they're getting in football, it's all the same shit.

    25. TS

      Yeah.

    26. JR

      It's all head trauma.

    27. TS

      It's head trauma, yeah.

    28. JR

      Yeah.

    29. SA

      So I'm a terrible parent.

    30. TS

      (laughs)

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