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Botez Sisters: Chess, Streaming, and Fame | Lex Fridman Podcast #319

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Alexandra BotezguestAndrea BotezguestLex Fridmanhost
Sep 9, 20222h 35mWatch on YouTube ↗

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  1. 0:003:18

    Introduction

    1. AB

      I mean, I've definitely experienced moments where I didn't want to do anything but chess.

    2. AB

      I would also say that's pretty universal. I think if you wanna be that, the best at anything you do, or any sport, you have to be that level of obsessed.

    3. LF

      The following is a conversation with Alexandra and Andraia Botez. They are sisters, professional chess players, commentators, educators, entertainers, and streamers. Their channel is called Botez Live on Twitch and YouTube. I highly recommend you check it out. A small side note about the currently ongoing controversy in the chess world, where the 19-year-old grandmaster Hans Niemann beat Magnus Carlsen at the Sinquefield Cup. After this, Magnus, for the first time ever, withdrew from the tournament, implying with a tweet that there may have been cheating or at least something shady going on. Folks like the Grandmaster Hikaru Nakamura fanned the flames of cheating accusations, and the internet made a bunch of proposals on how the cheating could have been done, and it ranged from the ridiculous to the hilarious, often both. Hans himself came out and said that he has cheated before when he was 12 and 16 on random online games to jack up his rating. But he said that he has never cheated in person over the board. Danny Rensch from chess.com, who I've spoken with, may make a statement in response to Hans' claims soon. Folks like Grandmaster Jakub Urga spoke to his experience training Hans Niemann, and has said that, "His memory and intuition were quite brilliant." So as you see, there's a lot of perspectives on this. ChessBase has a good summary of the saga that I'll link in the description. Also note that this is so quickly moving that new stuff might come out between me recording this and publishing the episode, but I thought I'd mention this anyway since the episode with the Botez sisters is a conversation about chess and was recorded shortly before the controversy, so we didn't talk about it. I'm considering having Hans on this podcast, and also Magnus back on the podcast, and maybe others like Hikaru or folks from chess.com's anti-cheat staff to discuss their really interesting cheating detection algorithms, but I may also just stay out of it. I find chess to be a beautiful game, and the chess community full of fascinating, brilliant people, and so I'll keep having conversations like these about chess. It's fun. My goal with this podcast and in general as a human being is to increase the amount of love in the world. Sometimes that involves celebrating brilliance and beauty in science, in art, in chess. Sometimes it involves empathetic conversations with controversial figures that seek to understand, not deride. Sometimes it involves standing against the internet lynch mob, as the ChessBase article calls it, to hear the story of a human being who is under attack, even if it means I get attacked in the process as well. This is the Lex Fridman Podcast. To support it, please check out our sponsors in the description. And now, dear friends, here's Alexandra and Andraia Botez.

  2. 3:1810:20

    Trip to Italy

    1. LF

      You just got back from Italy. What's the most memorable thing? I was just there recently as well.

    2. AB

      It was very chaotic because we went out on a whim, and we only f- had our first hotel booked, and then we rented a car and drove around all of the cities and went to, like, five different cities in about a week and a bit. Um, so I think it was just the variety of seeing so many different places when we're used to being at home all the time. And Andraia, is yours your luggage?

    3. AB

      Yeah. I would say it was the most stressful vacation we've been in in our life, and it was a valuable learning lesson because now I know how to be prepared for trips. Um, but we lost our bags and I never got them back. And like Alex said, we didn't know where we'd be sleeping every night and we're just driving through a new city, um, with a giant van in the most narrowest streets with... and getting in many, many fights with Italian men. Um, so-

    4. LF

      (laughs)

    5. AB

      ... it wasn't really a vacation.

    6. AB

      I saw this motion so many times (laughs) .

    7. LF

      Yeah. Wasn't it liberating to lose your baggage? Is there, like, a silver lining?

    8. AB

      Actually, it, it was liberating. My entire life, I've always had the issue of overpacking no matter what.

    9. AB

      And I told her before the trip, "Andrea, you're gonna pack light, right?" "Yeah, Alex, yeah." And then I see her stuffing her overweight suitcase.

    10. AB

      But you did the same. We both had giant, big, like, extra baggage that we didn't need. And I'm actually very glad we lost it because for Venice, hauling that around on all the boats and through the tiny streets, and there's no Ubers. Um, and now, it's the first time where I can travel without checking in a bag, which I've never done before. So now I've learned what it means to pack light, 'cause I saw that I could survive off of just my... This sounds very dramatic, but it was really a big learning lesson for me (laughs) .

    11. LF

      The driving must have been crazy, 'cause driving in Italy is, is rough.

    12. AB

      The driving was crazy. I did most of it, and it would be really interesting driving through places like Florence or even through, uh, the beach areas that were super windy, because there are two-way streets that should really only be one way. So you'd be driving this huge van, and then another car comes on a cliff, and you're just waiting for it to slowly pass. So it took all of my focus and concentration to drive well in Italy, but it was actually really relaxing because the hardest thing about, uh, making a lot of videos online is you're always thinking about it, what's coming next. And when we were in Italy, it was so chaotic that I did not think about work for a good week and a bit.

    13. LF

      Oh, 'cause you were just, uh-

    14. AB

      We were stressed.

    15. AB

      I was just trying to keep us alive.

    16. AB

      Very stressed.

    17. AB

      It seemed a higher priority. (laughs)

    18. LF

      And that was kind of fun.

    19. AB

      It was kind of fun.

    20. LF

      No planning, nothing.

    21. AB

      Just on a whim.

    22. AB

      I, I wouldn't recommend it or ever do that again, but... (laughs)

    23. AB

      (laughs)

    24. LF

      It sounds, sounds pretty awesome. It sounds-

    25. AB

      And we even randomly ran into two friends of ours who were in the same city, and we just traveled with them for about half of the trip.

    26. LF

      Yeah.

    27. AB

      Yeah.

    28. LF

      So you just took on the chaos.

    29. AB

      Exactly. It was an adventure.

    30. LF

      Okay. And I see, like, 'cause you were using your hands a lot, you'd gotten-... you, you picked up some of the, the Italian hand gestures and stuff?

  3. 10:2015:07

    Chess tournaments

    1. AB

    2. LF

      So, how'd you guys get into chess? When, when did you first, let's say, when did you first fall in love with chess?

    3. AB

      So we both started playing when we were pretty young, around six years old. That's when our dad taught us. And I enjoyed playing chess because I had good results early on, but a lot of it was being pushed from my dad to play chess, and I only really started loving it when we moved from Canada and we started moving a lot, and chess was the one stable thing that I had, and it was also where all my, uh, f- friends were, so it was kind of that foundational thing for me. And that's when I started studying chess very intensely, and when I started putting in the hours out of my own will and not because I was being pushed by my dad, that's when I started really loving it, and I even wanted to take time off college to just focus on chess.

    4. LF

      So, training and competing?

    5. AB

      Training and competing, yeah. It was when I was doing it for myself that I started getting my best results.

    6. LF

      And actually enjoying the thing.

    7. AB

      And really enjoying it, yeah. I would spend summer vacations studying for tournaments, and my mom would come and say, "You need to make friends. Go leave the house." And I'd be like, "No, I need to play chess."

    8. LF

      (laughs)

    9. AB

      And I remember those moments.

    10. LF

      That you rebelled by playing chess. That's awesome.

    11. AB

      Yeah, exactly.

    12. LF

      How did you get into it?

    13. AB

      Yeah. Uh, my, my experience with loving it in high school is very opposite from Alex's, but right, my sister was playing and my dad taught me when I was also six.

    14. AB

      Andrea was cool in high school, unlike me.

    15. LF

      You are.

    16. AB

      Uh, I, I wouldn't say cool. I'd say more balanced, and I was interested in other hobbies. In my childhood, if I ever really did love chess, there's certainly moments about like traveling and being together with my family and spending those moments together, but those were more the social and the experiences. But funny enough, like, I think my happiest moment where I really played the game for my own enjoyment was probably my most recent tournament, um, because-This was after, obviously, we've been streaming and I'm no longer in high school. But when I was in school, I was always playing for college and for the results, trying to build a resume. So I was too stressed out about the pressure to really enjoy the game. Whereas when I just played my first tournament, so it was like a, after like a two-year break because of the pandemic, um, and it was also all live on Twitch, so there was some pressure. But it was the first time that like I was really eager to study for the game, sitting and focusing since we've been streaming, and not getting distracted by something else in years, like I said. And the tournament experience, I hit my highest rating and it was my best tournament ever. And I think most of that is 'cause it came from my own enjoyment.

    17. LF

      Hmm. So y- you didn't enjoy the, the domination? 'Cause I think you like did really well, right?

    18. AB

      In-

    19. LF

      This is like a couple months ago.

    20. AB

      Uh, oh yeah, yeah. The tournament, well, of course, the, I think the results came from enjoying the tournament.

    21. LF

      Yeah.

    22. AB

      'Cause I would be in high school like studying double, triple the amount of time, like six hours every day compared to this tournament, I didn't even prepare for it. And for three years, I wouldn't be able to pass one rating, whereas in this one tournament, I passed it by like 70 points without even any preparation. So it was, I think as soon as you stop worrying about the competition is when the games get much better.

    23. LF

      Wh- what does it mean to pass a rating?

    24. AB

      So I was stuck at 1900.

    25. AB

      1900 is 100 points off of expert.

    26. AB

      Yeah.

    27. AB

      Usually when you reach 2000 you're considered an expert, which is the rating Andrea was going for.

    28. LF

      Okay. Expert, that's like a technical term or that's like a talking trash-

    29. AB

      It's more of a colo- it's more of a colloquial term where if somebody's around a 2000 and you're playing them in a tournament, they won't have the actual title next to their name, but you, you say "I'm playing an expert."

    30. LF

      What about like the, the more official things like master?

  4. 15:0727:11

    Streaming

    1. AB

    2. LF

      Do you feel the pressure when you're actually recording it, like the streaming?

    3. AB

      It was definitely, so before every round I was vlogging and I was doing meet and greets, and doing other things for the livestreams.

    4. LF

      Yeah, I saw you do a, a meet and greet.

    5. AB

      (laughs)

    6. LF

      You didn't know what the hell you were doing. It's great. (laughs)

    7. AB

      Yeah. Yeah.

    8. LF

      Like, "What am I, how do I do this?"

    9. AB

      (laughs)

    10. AB

      Yeah. I, uh, see, we made it-

    11. LF

      "What, what do I do?"

    12. AB

      It was actually really wholesome. The beginning was, um, very silly 'cause I was just not expecting that it was gonna be more of a seminar. I thought it was like, oh, you pose and take pictures. But they actually asked really nice, meaningful questions. But unfortunately it's bad for YouTube retention and we cut them all out, so.

    13. LF

      (laughing) Bad for YouTube?

    14. AB

      Yeah.

    15. LF

      (laughs) The good long form conversation.

    16. AB

      Yes.

    17. LF

      So it was like questions, Q&A type of thing.

    18. AB

      Exactly. You have to have very fast paced for YouTube, and, um, that seminar was not fast paced.

    19. LF

      Okay. Well not everything in life needs to be on YouTube, right?

    20. AB

      That's true.

    21. LF

      There's like two parallel things, stuff that's fun for YouTube.

    22. AB

      Yes.

    23. LF

      And-

    24. AB

      One day we'll post that Q&A on the-

    25. LF

      Yeah, when you guys like, when you-

    26. AB

      ... YouTube channel.

    27. LF

      ... become like ultra famous. You're currently just regular famous.

    28. AB

      Currently. Then they'll appreciate the long-

    29. AB

      Andrea's first Q&A.

    30. AB

      ... slow content, yes.

  5. 27:1147:37

    Chess strategies

    1. LF

      when you guys play, when you look at the chess board, how much of it is calculation? How much of it is intuition? How much of it is memorized openings, um, also there?

    2. AB

      It really depends between short form chess, so five minutes, three minutes, one minute, and classical chess.

    3. LF

      What's your favorite to play?

    4. AB

      I love playing blitz now because that's most of what I do, and that's actually how I got into chess streaming 'cause I couldn't spend entire weekends or weeks playing tournaments, so I would just, while I was in college, log on and play these long blitz or bullet sessions. And it's very fast so you don't have time to go ca- calculate as deeply. You basically have to calculate short lines pretty quickly, and a lot of it is pattern recognition and intuition. Um...

    5. LF

      That's three minutes, you said?

    6. AB

      Three minutes. Yeah.

    7. LF

      Okay. Cool. And so for that, it's just, it's basically intuition?

    8. AB

      A lot of it is intuition. Yeah.

    9. LF

      See, I saw on streams you actually keep talking while playing chess.

    10. AB

      Mm-hmm.

    11. LF

      It seems really difficult.

    12. AB

      Yeah, that helps my resul- that doesn't help my results. (laughs)

    13. LF

      It doesn't? It hurts?

    14. AB

      It helps the content, not the game.

    15. AB

      Yeah, exactly.

    16. LF

      But you can still do it.

    17. AB

      Right.

    18. LF

      'Cause I, I, it feels like how can you possibly concentrate while talking?

    19. AB

      It's because so much of it is intuition. You're not... While you're talking, you're thinking about that topic, but then you just come to the board and you just understand what you should be doing here. And then sometimes you get in trouble 'cause you're talking and you have now lost half of your time, you have a minute and a half, your opponent has three, and you're kind of at a disadvantage. Um, but that kind of goes to show that that's how blitz chess usually works, whereas classical is very different.

    20. LF

      Which of you is better at chess? I mean, le- let's do it this way. Can you, um... Andrea, can you say what i- in which way is Alex stronger than you, which way is she weaker than you? Not physically, in, (laughs) -

    21. AB

      (laughs)

    22. LF

      ... in terms of the ch- in terms of chess.

    23. AB

      Um, well, yes, of course she is higher rated. But when we do play, um, I think her strength against me, where she really gets me is the end game. She has stronger end games so she can... And I actually have a stronger opening, um, but as soon as she's able to simplify-

    24. AB

      Andrea, I'm supposed to say what is good about you, not you. (laughs)

    25. AB

      You know, I'm getting there.

    26. LF

      (laughs)

    27. AB

      Well, see, that's what I'm saying, 'cause... Don't worry, it's related, okay? 'Cause if, I can, I can get an advantage in the beginning of the game but as soon as she starts trading pieces down, like my confidence drops because I know that the end game is the hardest part of the game and the longest, and that's where she ends up beating me. So, her end game is her sh- I think really what makes the difference. And she has to be a little bit pos-

    28. LF

      It sounds like her psychological warfare is better, too.

    29. AB

      That definitely-

    30. LF

      'Cause if you're getting nervous.

  6. 47:371:05:37

    King's Indian Defense

    1. AB

    2. LF

      One of the games you f- found to be pretty cool is the, uh, Hikaru Nakamura versus Gelfand in 2009 and that one, I think, includes the King's Indian defense?

    3. AB

      Yes.

    4. LF

      Um, what's, what's, why is that an interesting one to you?

    5. AB

      I also play the King's Indian as black and I love this model game but, and as Alex was saying, like all of these advantages it g- for the King's Indian, but now there's this one line that like every higher rated player just destroys my King's Indian, and you see these beautiful games and you're like, "Ah, yes, I wanna play for these ideas," but now no one plays into it anymore and you just get demolished, so this is why I don't play the King's Indian anymore, but not through in the fun or anything.

    6. AB

      It's a love-hate relationship, truly. (laughs)

    7. AB

      Just the tru- the reality. (laughs)

    8. LF

      But that's like the higher level players do or does everybody do it?

    9. AB

      Yeah, if, if you're studying openings and you know this line as white, you just, you automatically-

    10. AB

      Yeah.

    11. AB

      ... get the upper edge, which is-

    12. AB

      And that's kind of how openings develop. You start having players trying new lines and then you see ones, and then everybody adopts it if they think it's the best one but yeah, so Hikaru is really known for his aggressive style of play and-

    13. LF

      Is Hikaru Black here or what?

    14. AB

      Yeah, Hikaru is black here, so he's playing the King's Indian and as you can see in this position, white already has a lot, a, a huge center advantage, but what Hikaru is gonna start doing even with the next move is bringing all of his pieces towards the white king side because his plan is to start pushing his pawns towards the white king and-

    15. AB

      Yeah, this is-

    16. AB

      ... ignore the attack that goes on in the queen side.

    17. AB

      ... this is like a great example of the dream attack with the King's Indian.

    18. LF

      So there's a complete asymmetry towards the king side on the left side of the board is a, a ton of pieces.

    19. AB

      Yeah, exactly. Um-

    20. LF

      Wow, he moved the knight like three times in a row. Interesting.

    21. AB

      Yep. And, and that's what you need to do 'cause you have to move th- the knight in order to make space for your pawn. So again, this is why it's so counterintuitive and Stockfish doesn't like it. You're putting almost most of your pieces on the back rank, and you're pushing your king-side pawns, and you're blocking your own dark squared bishop. So none of it makes sense.

    22. LF

      You're mimicking it. That's awesome.

    23. AB

      Uh.

    24. AB

      Um, okay. So yeah, here you see white going for a queen-side attack, black going for the king-side attack, and you can keep going a little bit, and I'll wait to where he starts with the pretty sacrifices.

    25. AB

      It's more fun to analyze games in person than on the computer, I think.

    26. LF

      Yeah.

    27. AB

      Okay. It's just-

    28. AB

      Here we go.

    29. AB

      Okay, so here Hikaru is preparing the attack, and what I really like about this game is that he finds these tactics that are not necessarily what a computer would go for, but it's very hard to face as a human, and that's why a lot of people play the King's Indian because in, in practice, it's hard to defend against. So we can keep moving a little bit forward. Okay. Yep, so white is just continuing the king-side plan. And-

    30. LF

      No, it's the fir... Is that like the first piece, I think, that's taken in the game?

  7. 1:05:371:10:03

    Chess training

    1. AB

    2. LF

      Uh, how do you train chess these days? What's, um... Do you practice? Do you do deliberate practice? I mean, you're in this tough position because you're also a creator, an educator, an entertainer. So do you try to put in time of, like, daily practice?

    3. AB

      I don't train chess anymore when I'm focusing on creating. I do if I'm preparing for a tournament. But back in the day, I would train very tournament, very seriously for tournaments. And the way it would work is I'd do opening preparation for a specific tournament, because that's when you really need to have those lines memorized, and you could also prepare for specific opponents. And I would do tactics to make sure I stay sharp. So those are the two things I would do every single day for a tournament, and then mix up the rest with, like, maybe some end games, maybe some positional chess.

    4. LF

      So what does tactics, uh, preparation looks like? Do you do, like, a puzzle-

    5. AB

      Mm-hmm.

    6. LF

      ... like, uh, like a random puzzle thing? Like-

    7. AB

      Yeah. I would just train puzzles for at least, like, 30 to 60 minutes, or books. And sometimes you were... A- a- and there's different kinds of puzzles. One, you could train for pattern recognition, where you're supposed to go through them very quickly. And that's just so that when you're playing the game, if your mind is tired, it's still keeping track of things a little bit more easily. And then there's where you're practicing your combination, and those sometimes take like 20 minutes to find because you have to just calculate a lot. And it's more like making sure that you've trained that muscle. But Andrea's actually very good at-... finding ways to balance and, and still study while also doing content.

    8. LF

      Yeah, so what, you're able to do both?

    9. AB

      Eh, that's the hard thing. I was getting very irritated with content because I'm very competitive and I don't like playing chess if I'm losing. And if you're talking and entertaining, you're gonna be losing more games than winning. So then I started doing more training streams where I'd bring on my coach. And, uh, one of the things that I wanted to add to Alex's training repertoire, so I do, I would do daily puzzles every time, um, I'm streaming, which helped me a lot, even if it's like there's this thing on chess.com called Puzzle Rush where you have three minutes and you just do puzzle after puzzle where they get incrementally harder. Um, and it's just a really good way to build your pattern recognition, especially when you're rusty. So I would do that til I hit a high score and I wouldn't play any blitz until I hit the score that I want. Um, but that's kind of more like the fun part of chess studying. Um, the very important one is actually analyzing your losses in your tournament games. And first you sit and you look through your mistake yourself and try to see if you can find the better moves, and then that's when you would check over with the computer to see if you're right. Um, so game analysis is also very important, which I try to do.

    10. LF

      I remember, to give a shout-out, I listened to a couple of episodes of the Perpetual Chess Podcast, which is pre- pretty good. But one, with the, whatever I listened to, I remember the per- it's, um, I think they really focus on like teaching people how t-

    11. AB

      How to train?

    12. LF

      Yeah. How to play, how to train. All that kind of stuff. Uh, they, they do like, uh, yeah, I'm looking now, adult improver. So basically, like how do regular noobs get better at chess?

    13. AB

      Yeah.

    14. LF

      Uh, one of the things they-

    15. AB

      Cool, it's a podcast.

    16. LF

      ... one of the person that said, I think he was the grandmaster, but he said, uh, "To maximize the amount of time you spend every day of, like..." basically as you were saying, like, suffering.

    17. AB

      (laughs)

    18. LF

      So, like, you, it's not about the, like, you should be thinking, you should be doing calculating. So it's the opposite of what Magnus said. Like, you should be doing a lot of time, it doesn't matter if, what the puzzle is or whatever the hell you're doing, but you should be, like, doing that difficult calculation. That's how you get better.

    19. AB

      Yeah. It, it really depends what you're training. 'Cause I used to think the same, but it depends what you're weaker at. 'Cause if you're doing the really difficult puzzles, you're training for, like, visualization and calculating more moves ahead than you typically would. Which maybe you wouldn't get into that as often in a regular game, because typically you run into, like, three to four tactics, which are actually the easier and more fun ones to solve. So really depends.

    20. AB

      And on top of that, as a hobbyist, your motivation is very different than when you're playing from a young age and have pretty high competitive ambition. And a lot of people who are new to chess, you could basically work on anything and still improve.

    21. LF

      Right.

    22. AB

      So if you're focusing on something you like, you're probably gonna stick to it more and be more consistent, which I think is more helpful long term.

  8. 1:10:031:13:22

    Losing

    1. AB

    2. LF

      What was the most embarrassing loss of your career?

    3. AB

      I had so many flashbacks, but I'm so glad it's a question for Andrea. (laughs)

    4. AB

      I like that you specified. You know, it's funny 'cause-

    5. LF

      I... (laughs)

    6. AB

      (laughs)

    7. LF

      I mean, because you said you're so competitive, and like-

    8. AB

      Yeah. No, no, no.

    9. LF

      ... I c- I could tell just even from the way you said it that it, like, you hate losing.

    10. AB

      I, yeah. I mean, that was the reason I hated chess in high school, 'cause it'd always be like... But, but okay, there's many traumatizing loses whereas you feel like you're top three, you're running for first, and then you throw a game you shouldn't... But, and this shouldn't hurt my ego as much as it does, um, but it's always kids, or when I was a high school girl, it's the younger boys who are really cocky.

    11. LF

      Yeah.

    12. AB

      And when they win, they start rubbing it in your face, and they're yawning and looking around when, like, 90% of the game you were destroying them and you had this one tiny mistake, and now their ego's huge. Um, but I'll never forget, I was playing, like, for a chess scholarship, um, and I was, it was tie-breaker for first, and I think I lost to a 12-year-old girl who couldn't even use the scholarship. But she beat me in one first place and she got some other prize. Um, so yeah, it was losing to that little girl-

    13. LF

      You, you- (laughs)

    14. AB

      ... who's literally, like, 2300 now, so makes sense.

    15. LF

      Right. You keep telling yourself that.

    16. AB

      (laughs)

    17. LF

      What do you think Kas- What do you, what do you, do you think Kasparov was feeling that when he was playing 13-year-old Magnus? Like-

    18. AB

      Yeah.

    19. LF

      ... why?

    20. AB

      As, as much as it's a beauty of the sport that any age can be brilliant, any demographic, anything, um, I feel like when you're adult and you're paired against a kid, it's just hard not to let it get to y- And it depends. Maybe if they're a really sweet kid, but most of the times-

    21. LF

      (laughs)

    22. AB

      ... I play kids, they're just really arrogant. And, but I don't think they do it intentionally, 'cause they're kids.

    23. LF

      I mean, there is a certain etiquette thing where, like, like you say, yawning and in general. Like, it's not, it's-

    24. AB

      Yeah. When they're kids, there's no etiquette.

    25. LF

      Yeah. Yeah.

    26. AB

      They don't care.

    27. AB

      Yeah. The kids traumatize me too. I was playing in Vegas-

    28. AB

      (laughs)

    29. AB

      ... and it was not even my opponent, it was the board next to me. And the kid was at least 10 years old, may- 12 max, and he was playing against an adult.

    30. AB

      (laughs)

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