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11 Stoic Rules For "The Good Life" - Ryan Holiday

Ryan Holiday is a podcaster, marketer and an author. Over 2,000 years ago, the Stoics identified the timeless challenges that would affect both men and women. Thanks to Ryan’s work, this philosophy now thrives in a modern context, providing a framework for anyone seeking a more virtuous life. Expect to learn why Ryan doesn’t talk about the projects he’s working on before finishing them, if Ryan agrees that competition is for losers, why self-belief is overrated, What Ryan’s morning routine and a typical day looks like for him, why Broicism has found a new life after Stoicism, how to take responsibility for yourself vs. other people and much more... - 00:00 Talking Vs Doing 05:34 Run a Race With Yourself 11:19 Life-Changing Decisions Are Never Simple 20:13 The Value of Going Through Difficulty 29:40 Be Quiet, Work Hard & Stay Healthy 40:00 Be Clear on What Success Is 55:48 Stop Wanting Things to Be Easy 1:03:02 Self-Improvement as a Parent 1:12:07 Is Justice the Most Important Virtue? 1:22:40 Why Gandhi Was Such a Genius 1:32:04 How Marcus Aurelius Kept His Integrity 1:44:34 How to Know If You’re Doing the Right Thing 1:55:20 The Rise of Stoicism Among Young Men 2:05:32 Where to Find Ryan - Get up to 32% discount on the best supplements from Momentous at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom (automatically applied at checkout). Get 20% discount on Nomatic’s amazing luggage at https://nomatic.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM) AG1 - Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D and more from AG1 at https://drinkag1.com/wisdom Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

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Jun 9, 20242h 5mWatch on YouTube ↗

At a glance

WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

Ryan Holiday’s Stoic Blueprint For Ambition, Ego, And Integrity

  1. Ryan Holiday and Chris Williamson use Stoic philosophy to unpack how to pursue big goals without being consumed by ego, audience capture, or toxic fuel like resentment. They explore why talking about plans can sabotage execution, how to define success on your own terms, and why the most life-changing decisions rarely feel like obvious “hell yeses.”
  2. Holiday argues that sanity, character, and justice—showing up as a decent person in private and public—matter more than raw ambition or external metrics like money, fame, or follower counts. They discuss confidence as evidence-based, not mantra-based, and how struggle, bombing on stage, and early failure can become durable proof that you can handle hard things.
  3. The conversation ends by reframing Stoicism as a philosophy of responsibility and service, not emotional numbness or selfish optimization: if success makes you a worse human, it isn’t really success, and the “right thing” usually costs you something and must be done now, not later.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

Talk less about plans and put that energy into execution.

Describing projects in detail gives you premature dopamine and a false sense of completion, making you less likely to do the hard, boring work. Treat praise as something you earn after the marathon, not as an advance on work you haven’t done.

Define success by what’s in your control, not by external rankings.

If winning depends on money, awards, or other people’s approval, you may never feel successful. If success is about effort, improvement, and pushing your own limits, you always ‘run a race you can win’ and avoid being trapped in red‑ocean competition.

Big, life-changing decisions rarely feel like a clean “hell yes.”

Dropping out of college or leaving a safe job was 51/49 or 60/40 for Holiday, not obvious certainties. Overconfidence blinds you to real risks and necessary effort; you often gain conviction only after you’ve committed and done the work.

Build confidence from evidence, not affirmations.

Real self-trust comes from a track record of doing hard things, recovering from setbacks, and seeing your process work over time. Each time you bomb, correct course, and still finish the job, you add to a “stack of proof” that you can handle future challenges.

If success makes you worse, it’s not really success.

More money, status, or reach that costs you your relationships, sanity, or basic decency is a bad trade. Clarify your ‘hidden metrics’—time, health, family, integrity—and refuse opportunities that grow observable metrics (followers, income) at their expense.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

Talking about the thing and doing the thing vie for the same resources. Allocate your energy appropriately.

Ryan Holiday

If you only run races where winning is up to you, you’ll always win.

Ryan Holiday paraphrasing Epictetus

Self-belief is overrated. Generate evidence.

Ryan Holiday

If it makes you a worse person, it’s not success.

Ryan Holiday

It’s easier to be a great man than a good man.

Ryan Holiday

Why talking about goals undermines actually doing the workCompeting only on what’s in your control and defining your own raceRisk, big life decisions, and the myth of total certainty (“fuck yes or no”)Ego, evidence-based confidence, and the limits of validation-driven successStruggle, failure, and using difficult seasons as formative experiencesSanity, long-termism, and not letting early success or algorithms ruin youJustice, character, and Stoicism’s demand to do the right thing in practice

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