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Simple Life Changes That Lead To Big Results - George Mack

Sign up and download Grammarly for FREE: http://grammarly.com/modernwisdom George Mack is a writer, marketer and an entrepreneur. George is one of my favourite writers and probably delivers the highest insights-per-minute of anyone on Twitter. Today we get to go through some of my favourite ideas from him over the last few months on human nature, tribalism, happiness and politics. Expect to learn what the Busy Trap is and how to avoid it, the biggest differences between the US and the UK, the contrarian argument for why money doesn’t buy happiness, why strategic ignorance is so important, George’s favourite story about Charlie Munger, the lessons we both learned celebrating George’s 30th birthday in Miami and much more... - 0:00 The Busy Trap 07:51 How People Signal Busyness 15:10 Tactics to Get Out of the Busy Trap 21:34 Differences Between US & UK 32:50 Why You Need to Big Up Your Friends 41:35 The UK’s Biggest Strengths 45:40 Why Adults Don’t Really Exist 56:22 Does Money Buy Happiness? 1:05:41 Why George Loves Federer, Nadal & Djokovic 1:11:51 Praying at the Altar of Hard Work 1:15:29 A More Effective Way to Make Friends 1:26:35 The Most Annoying Thing About Cynics 1:35:38 The Uniqueness of Salvador Dali 1:43:22 Being Trapped With a Sub-Prime Audience 1:53:49 People Who Go Against the Consensus 2:00:24 The Power of Incentives 2:04:40 Why Men Need Sausage Fests 2:13:01 Where to Find George - Get 20% discount on the best supplements from Momentous at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom AG1 - Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D and more from AG1 at https://drinkag1.com/wisdom Get a Free Sample Pack of all LMNT Flavours with your first box at https://www.drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom (automatically applied at checkout) - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

Chris WilliamsonhostGeorge Mackguest
Jun 24, 20242h 13mWatch on YouTube ↗

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  1. 0:00 – 7:51

    The Busy Trap

    1. CW

      What's the busy trap?

    2. GM

      The busy trap is the idea that we're busy today because we were busy yesterday, and we'll be busy tomorrow because we're busy today. And it's this never-ending busyness that we get busier because we're busy now. Weirdly, I was looking at Google Trends earlier, and if you look up the word busy from 2004, it's like the Apple stock price. It just... Each year, we get about 10% more busier, and we're constantly hitting the peak every single year of people searching the word busy.

    3. CW

      Right. So busyness is getting busier?

    4. GM

      Yes.

    5. CW

      Right. And what do you mean when you say that you waste years not being able to waste hours?

    6. GM

      So this is a quote from Amos Tversky, who was Daniel Kahneman's writing partner on Thinking Fast and Slow. And when you hear it, it's like, as a writer, you're like, "Why didn't I write that? That is so good." You waste years by not being able to waste hours. And it's this idea that because we're so busy, we never get round to actually asking the bigger questions. We're constantly on the C+ tasks rather than the A+ tasks. And one of the memes I posted with this essay, it's two guys working extremely hard, like being super busy. And there's one guy in the corner who's like, "You all right, lads? Um, can I give you a bit of help?" And he goes, "We're too busy," and the guy is carrying a wheel. And these guys are carrying everything, but they're too busy to realize that there's a wheel out there. And I think Tversky's point with that is by having a few extra hours in your schedule, you may change your annual direction here or there, but if you're constantly compressing everything into some kind of maximum efficiency, um, you end up wasting years as a result.

    7. CW

      Why is the busy trap a trap? Why do we default to busy as opposed to defaulting to lots of spare time?

    8. GM

      I think... Well, there's, to quote the philosopher Molly-Mae-

    9. CW

      (laughs)

    10. GM

      ... there's, there's only 24 hours in the day, Chris. Which is a lie, by the way. Which is a lie. Not, not having a go at Molly, but there's actually 16 hours in the day. Like I find the fact that we talk about 24 hours when we sleep for eight hours is absurd. It's like confusing your revenue with your profit. It's putting up the Shopify screenshot. It's like, "How much did you spend on other things there?"

    11. CW

      (laughs)

    12. GM

      So you have, let's say, 16 hours a day, and that's pretty lindy. Like that's been consistent throughout human history, our experience of time. Meanwhile, the amount of activities we can now do, the amount of content that gets uploaded to YouTube every minute, the amount of Slack messages that are coming through, the amount of emails that are coming through. The digital... The beauty of digital systems is it's so high leverage. The, uh... Uh, as you're sat here right now, there's probably 5,000 people watching a clip of Chris as we speak in the next couple minutes. And that, uh, the digital level for yourself is a constant problem because you only have 16 hours in the day, yet there's things that are constantly coming through. Unless you're proactively trying to put systems in place, you will just get destroyed by the busy trap.

    13. CW

      We also learn in school to do work without questioning the work.

    14. GM

      Yes. So one of my, uh, old essays was this point around... It's a lot of the behaviors from school that you were rewarded for, you ultimately get punished for later in life. And a lot of the behaviors at school that you were punished for, you ultimately get rewarded for later in life. And it's this sad change of affairs. I realized my age from like 20 to 29 was just trying to rewrite what I learned from 10 to 19.

    15. CW

      (laughs)

    16. GM

      So it's been a clusterfuck. And one of the behaviors that you were punished for in school that you get rewarded for later in life is asking, "Why are we doing this? Does this make sense? Is this the most important thing to be working on?" If you said that in your, like, year 10 algebra class, it didn't go down well.

    17. CW

      Shut up, Matt.

    18. GM

      Yeah, exactly. But what did go down well is if you just complied and took the schedule as it came through. And I think you basically have these digital systems compounding on top of these weird, or let's say incorrect behaviors that you learned at school.

    19. CW

      Yeah. And what, what about the trap element of busyness? Why does it sort of continue to... Why does it cyclically make us more prone to being busy in the future?

    20. GM

      Uh, everyone's experienced cleaning out their inbox, and you realize you've not cleaned out your inbox, you've just essentially chopped off Hydra's head and another head has reappeared. So the more you almost try and defeat busyness, ultimately the more busy you become. Actually, my number one test for myself because I've been this guy, still am this guy, recovering busy guy, it... The number one test I have for myself is, I know I'm too busy if I don't know what the most important question is right now.

    21. CW

      What do you mean by question?

    22. GM

      Well, the priority, the thing I need to be answering. Um, and the irony is, if you don't know what the most important thing to do in your life right now is, or the most important question to answer, or what the number one focus should be, you've actually just found it. So that's quite a beautiful thing within itself. So if you are concerned that you're too busy... Whenever I'm concerned that I'm too busy and I go, "I've not figured out what the most important thing to focus on right now is," I've just figured out.

    23. CW

      Focusing on what is the most important thing to focus on right now-

    24. GM

      Yeah. I've just figured it out.

    25. CW

      ... is what to focus on.

    26. GM

      Yeah.

    27. CW

      Yeah. What are some other, uh, signs that you're too busy? Like what... When you think back to the times when you've been drowning in busy work, what are some of the other things that come along for the ride?

    28. GM

      I think it's... It's... So it's a funny, uh, a funny message I got sent the other day when I posted this from my friend Phil. And he was saying how the essay hit him, and he asked himself this question, which was... Let's say he set his five goals for the week, and he said, "If I got them done by Tuesday, how would I feel or what would I do?" And he goes, "I think I'd go in this full-blown anxiety of what do I do for the rest of these few days." And the irony is, he goes, "That problem means that it just stretches out throughout the week," versus if he just said to myself, "How about I sprint and get everything done by Tuesday?" Then I'm relatively free Wednesday, Thursday, Friday.... but this busyness, you con- because you're so busy, you constantly need to stay busy. You're addicted to that feeling, you're like the rat when the cheese comes out.

    29. CW

      Mm-hmm.

    30. GM

      Um, when I, whenever I've found I'm too busy is I know that, um, Peter Drucker has this great thr- great thing called the activity trap, which is essentially the idea you have your activity and you have your output. And your activity is just inputs going in the system, doing things, replying to messages-

  2. 7:51 – 15:10

    How People Signal Busyness

    1. GM

    2. CW

      There's another element of this, f- especially for people that work in offices, right, the demonstration of effort. You know, you're not cranking widgets, you can't see the bucket of widgets to be cranked to the one you're cranking and the bucket of widgets that you have cranked today. So, how do people demonstrate their work, their effort, their optimizing for signals of busyness-

    3. GM

      Mm-hmm.

    4. CW

      ... which is always being the quickest person to reply? Didn't you tell me that some dude in your Slack channel, well, he was the only guy in the entire company that checked Slack on Christmas Day?

    5. GM

      Yes.

    6. CW

      (laughs)

    7. GM

      Yeah. He's incredible, that guy. Uh, Bradley. Um, so yeah, I mean, Slack's a problem itself. Um, I was thinking, and I'd be surprised if we don't look back five to 10 years from now about how broken Slack is, because sometimes I'll check Slack like a social network. I'm just like refreshing the feed just to see what's-

    8. CW

      What's going on?

    9. GM

      ... going on, what's going on.

    10. CW

      Yeah.

    11. GM

      And-

    12. CW

      Even in channels that you're not supposed to be supervising, you just happen to be in-

    13. GM

      What's going on?

    14. CW

      ... 'cause you're an admin, yeah.

    15. GM

      So, Sam Karakas, the guy that, could've butchered his last name there, but fuck it, uh, the guy that runs Levels, he said, it was a study recently where the average tech worker checks Slack every seven minutes, which is quite an absurd, absurd idea for people that are trying to increase outputs, to be constantly moving things, just messages and bits back and forth.

    16. CW

      Mm-hmm. What about energy? How does sort of energy flows throughout the day play into the busy trap?

    17. GM

      Yeah, I, I think the, the lure I've found with my own personal energy levels is that if I don't sche- like proactively schedule things and increase my energy, they'll never happen. And if I don't proactively defend things that decrease my energy, they will eat up-

    18. CW

      (laughs)

    19. GM

      ... my calendar. It's kinda like running a business. It, all, all, it's almost like the laws of physics that your revenue is trying to go down every day, and your costs are trying-

    20. CW

      (laughs)

    21. GM

      ... to go up every day. And it's exactly the same with energy. And I weirdly found this when I was traveling or when I'm going through super stressful periods of life, that the natural idiot brain that I have is, when I have, imagine your energy level's like inflows and outflows, like an engineering system. Whenever there's lots of energy outflows on the system, i.e. I'm super stressed, i.e. um, I'm traveling right now, the natural weird thing that we do is to turn off all the energy inflows.

    22. CW

      To give ourselves more time to work on the outflows.

    23. GM

      The outflows, and then you end up completely burnt out, whereas actually what you need to do is crank up the energy inflows more to deal with the higher costs-

    24. CW

      I-

    25. GM

      ... on the system.

    26. CW

      Last week, I tweeted, "There's no such thing as being overworked, only under-rested."

    27. GM

      That's, yeah.

    28. CW

      How much truth do you think is in that?

    29. GM

      I th- I think it was, it was one of the... I forgot which president it was who said that, "I never stand up when I can sit down, and I never s- I never work," sorry, "I never work stood up when I can be working sit down- sat down, and I never work sat down when I could be lay down." And even Churchill, when you think about grinding, like Churchill, World War II, like that's some like sigma-

    30. CW

      (laughs)

  3. 15:10 – 21:34

    Tactics to Get Out of the Busy Trap

    1. GM

    2. CW

      Yeah. I, uh, I think a lot about trying to dial back busyness. You know, w- both of us are kind of permanently fighting this entropy.

    3. GM

      Mm-hmm.

    4. CW

      On a morning, well, wha- watch, maybe b- b- time block the morning or protect it. Like, w- go through some of the tactics that, like, from a strategic perspective, that you've used personally to try and defend the busy trap.

    5. GM

      So, go back to cocaine kale phone.

    6. CW

      Mm-hmm.

    7. GM

      Everybody should know that by now, two separate phones. I'd say the, the busy trap for me, probably the easiest thing is having a big three. So I got this from the concept of 4,000 Weeks and having a big three of things I need to do, and then everything else just goes to the everything else section. And the idea of only being able to have three tasks on the big three makes you prioritize things by definition. I think ultimately, the opposite of the busy trap is prioritization, which is such a difficult skill when there's infinite things coming at you.

    8. CW

      Mm. Yeah. If there's so much that you could be focused on and permanent notifications, this ambient sense that you're falling behind... Oliver Burkeman has this beautiful sentence where he... (laughs) It's in The Productivity Debt essay that he does, and he says, "I just have this vague sense, this vague fear that I'm falling behind." And I think that that kind of really encapsulates, at least for me, the, if I take too much time off.

    9. GM

      Mm-hmm.

    10. CW

      And here's the brutal thing. You realize that you have become your own task master in many ways. You know, uh, you, you complain about the prison of your busyness, but you realize that you're the g- guard that's holding the keys to it. You've locked yourself in-

    11. GM

      (laughs)

    12. CW

      ... and thrown them out. Um, you know, (clears throat) perfect example of this, if I spend a ton of time, uh, working and working and working and all I can think about is, "Oh God, it'd be so cool to just have, like, a couple of days, and I'd do... I'd play pickleball, and I'd have fun with my friends, and go and do this thing." And about, n- ten hours into the first day of that, I think, "I really could do with getting a bit of graft done."

    13. GM

      (laughs)

    14. CW

      "What if I just... Uh, you know..." (slaps knees) There, and then you smack up with a little bit of Slack, or you get on an email, or you do... You know, you, you complete a little bit of work. So yeah, we are the prison guards of the-

    15. GM

      Mm.

    16. CW

      ... jail that we're complaining about in many ways, which actually, I think when people fully realize this, which everyone listening will have done because we've spoken about it a lot and they're all reasonable, there's a lot of shame that can come along with that too, which adds another layer of difficulty on top. Because you say, "God, you know, I'm choosing to do this to myself. I don't need to answer my boss's email at 11:00 PM at night. He's not expecting it." I think it's even illegal in France or something.

    17. GM

      Mm-hmm.

    18. CW

      They made that law, right? Where you can't-

    19. GM

      I didn't know that.

    20. CW

      ... you can't contact... This is, it stinks of a thread of you.

    21. GM

      Yeah.

    22. CW

      Um, that you can't contact workers outside of their hours of work.

    23. GM

      Wow.

    24. CW

      I think they...It might even be, like, how China, uh, used that streaming service to stop kids from playing computer games. It might be like cold turkey or frozen turkey, but for work email or something. But yeah, they just, they're trying to have this sort of, um, Worker's Health Act where people don't work outside of it. Uh, but it's you. It's always been you. And then you realize, "Oh God, it's me." And then you think, "God, how shameful am I that I'm wasting my life? I'm choosing to do this to myself." And then you start to layer all of these stories on top.

    25. GM

      Mm-hmm. Yeah, I came up with this idea of the Midwit Review, the Midwit Week Review, which was... Previously, I'd done, like, end of week reviews, and it'd be like a fucking three-hour session that's, like, 60 different points. And my Midwit version now is for each area, so, like, health, life, work. What are, what were the three wins this week? And then what are the three things that would actually move the needle for each one? And then every-

    26. CW

      Do you mean when you say move the needle?

    27. GM

      Like, in play, in terms of leverage, in terms of prioritization. 'Cause otherwise, unless you really think about each action, I, I put that thing in the essay, which is, "If you don't have 20 minutes each day to think about what's the most important thing, you probably need an hour." So again, another note to myself.

    28. CW

      (laughs)

    29. GM

      And what I mean by move the needle is, I think, probably one of the underpinnings of The Busy Trap is that you never really write down your hypothesis like a scientific experiment. You never say, "Okay, of these... So there's option one I can do today. I can reply to this Slack message or the, the, all these Slacks. Option two, I could build out this new marketing funnel that will take me two hours. Option three, I could go see my parents," whatever it is, like, in terms of that. And then actually mapping out, "Okay, according to all my different priority areas, what's that gonna deliver?" It's much heart- willier in life, I guess, but from a business perspective, we very, very rarely ever go, "Okay, here's the five decisions we can make. How much time is each one gonna, do we anticipate each one will make, um, each one will take, and how much revenue or profit will this thing make?" And it's only then when you-

    30. CW

      What are the returns of this thing?

  4. 21:34 – 32:50

    Differences Between US & UK

    1. CW

      Uh, so you've been in the US three weeks now?

    2. GM

      Mm-hmm.

    3. CW

      Yeah. No, more. More actually, 'cause you did Miami.

    4. GM

      Yeah.

    5. CW

      Um, we've been talking a lot about differences between the UK and the USA. What have you come to believe about that?

    6. GM

      So I, my biggest takeaway from being in America as a Brit is it's like finding out my dad had a kid with another woman that I never met, and we meet for the first time, and I'm like, "You're kind of me, but you're not me." It's like he spent a bit more money on you. He-

    7. CW

      (laughs)

    8. GM

      He made you believe in yourself. Your mom was clearly much nicer or kinder. And you go, "Oh, Americans, like, we're kind of the same." But-

    9. CW

      It's like Brits with self-belief.

    10. GM

      Brits with self-belief is what Americans are-

    11. CW

      (laughs)

    12. GM

      ... is one of the differen- There's lots of pros and there's lots of cons for both, but that was my overwhelming, overwhelming takeaway. The second-biggest takeaway I have is that Brits don't really truly realize how impactful the British accent is-

    13. CW

      Mm-hmm.

    14. GM

      ... until you leave Britain. And the metaphor I came up with for describing the British accent to Brits is, imagine everywhere else in the world, there's a salmon famine, right? And a British accent is like selling salmon. And the only place in the world where there's an abundance of salmon is in the UK. So if you're there using that, it basically gets you nothing in the UK, but you suddenly leave or go outside-

    15. CW

      Go anywhere else and you're exotic.

    16. GM

      ... outside the UK, pretty much anywhere else, and they think you're smarter, they think you're more attractive. Um, yeah, it's incredible.

    17. CW

      Americans often ask me when they talk about that, and I do think it's true that Brits have an unfair advantage in America of being seen as more learned. Uh, so, like, everyone presumes that we're part of the aristocracy or something. Um, and they often ask me, "Well, what do you think of American accents in the UK?" And that was a really interesting question. It's like, I actually don't know. I think it's, like... Certainly for me on girls, it's, like, kind of sexy. It feel, that, that feels exotic in some way. Uh, definitely energetic, overly enthusiastic and excitable, uh, especially when you've got one American and a bunch of Brits. When you're the Brit and a bunch of Americans are, oh, you know, everyone's just sort of excitable and first-line cocaine energy. But when you drop one American in a, like, Newcastle or something, oh my god, who is this? It's a nuclear warhead surrounded by a bunch of swords. Um-Yeah, I think since being here, you know, it's made me reflect on the UK. I- I hate being disparaging about the UK. Like, it's the country that gave me and you a start. We both went to university there, we both had our first jobs there, we both built businesses there. Uh, I think we're both, in one form or another, still registered. You'll be on Companies House, some vestigial old fucking thing. I hate, I really wish that I didn't sort of talk badly about it, but you sent me a tweet last week, and I've been watching Bald and Bankrupt, it's an awesome YouTube channel.

    18. GM

      Yeah.

    19. CW

      Um, I invited him on the show. He replied, he said he'd love to, but he's actually trying to actively wind down his, uh, public exposure. So, he said he keeps getting asked for too many selfie photos in Tesco.

    20. GM

      Ah.

    21. CW

      Uh, and he does strike me as the kind of man that probably doesn't want to be overexposed. You know, he was doing... For the people that don't know, this guy who does kind of like dark tourism stuff, he got trafficked across the border into Mexico, he was detained in a Russian jail for a while, and then he decided he was gonna take on the final boss of dangerous places, which was seaside towns of the UK. And, um, he just travels around sort of looking at all of these- these bad places. And, um, you sent me that tweet last week, which I think nails it, which is, "The UK has the sixth-largest economy in the world, but people are confused. The UK doesn't have the sixth-largest economy in the world. London has the sixth-largest economy in the world. It just has a really poor country attached to a very rich city."

    22. GM

      Yeah. And then there was another one, which was US universities, um... So, I think in the top 10 universities in the world, the UK has three and the US has three, yet the US outputs five times... Those US universities, five- output five times the number of entrepreneurs that those UK universities do. So, in theory, these people are as intelligent as one another-

    23. CW

      Mm-hmm.

    24. GM

      ... um, across that. I think it's Oxford, Cambridge, and another university I've forgotten.

    25. CW

      King's, maybe, Durham.

    26. GM

      Maybe, yeah. And, um, what's interesting when you go across global university rankings and outputs of entrepreneurs in the study that was shared, the UK university, the- which was Oxford, so that's the number one for entrepreneurial output, was 50th across the whole world. Despite the fact we rank so high in education-

    27. CW

      Mm.

    28. GM

      ... yet actually transforming that into entrepreneurship doesn't seem to happen. And I wonder, again, whether that's the self-belief thing. You also see this weirdly, and I could be mistaken here, I have this bias that I think Brits are fundamentally more funnier than Americans.

    29. CW

      Mm-hmm.

    30. GM

      However, way more great standup comedians that are American than British. Like we have Ricky Gervais, we have Jimmy Carr. And then in terms of global appeal outside of that, there's not a huge amount more. And my theory behind that is, so why do you have the funniest people, yet not the- the biggest standup comedians out of those names there? And I think the same crub- crabs-in-a-bucket mentality that makes people so funny, 'cause we can shoot people down and shoot ourselves down, is the same thing that makes it absu- an- absurd as a concept to go and get on stage and say, "I want to be a funny person." Like, that in the UK... So, I think the funniest guy in the world right now is probably in a Greggs in Wigan-

  5. 32:50 – 41:35

    Why You Need to Big Up Your Friends

    1. CW

      for certain people, th- I had this discussion with Piers Morgan. Piers was like, "I, I, I like, I like people bringing me back down to, to earth. I, I, I like the, the, the mockery and stuff." I'm like, "Piers, that's great for you. It doesn't seem to work too well for me." Like my desperate requirement for validation and reassurance from the world, like, wasn't being very satiated in Stockton-

    2. GM

      Yeah.

    3. CW

      ... right? Or Newcastle. Uh, and then you come over here, one of the best things... And this is something that anybody, anywhere on the planet should do, and this is one of the coolest life hacks I've taken since being in America. And you've seen me do it to you and you've like toe cold at a bunch of parties, which is, when, in America, at least in my group of friends, you are the new person in a group. Your friend that knows you and knows the group will introduce you and tends to do it in the best 30-second showreel of you that anybody could give. "You know, he's g- got this amazing marketing agency, he's a phenomenal writer and he's pivoting, he's kind of ch- champagne homeless at the moment, he does all of these thing." And like, that's a really lovely gesture. It's your friend, it's an opportunity for them to do something nice for you, it gives you the best impression on the group, and it reminds you about what your friend kind of says about you behind your back when you're not there. And it's like, it inflates you a little bit, makes you feel good and warm and stuff. What would the equivalent be if you were a British friend-

    4. GM

      Huh.

    5. CW

      ... being introduced to British friends by a British friend?

    6. GM

      It would be your worst ever story.

    7. CW

      Correct.

    8. GM

      Certainly in the north- Again this is a northern thing I think.

    9. CW

      This, this, this, this, this is George, shit himself last week. Like-

    10. GM

      (laughs) Just said that live on the podcast.

    11. CW

      You know what I mean? Still has wet dreams.

    12. GM

      Yeah.

    13. CW

      Like, you know? Um-

    14. GM

      Yeah. Uh, it is int- like the introduction side, how we introduce one another, I've definitely found Americans are much better at selling themselves immediately, whereas I think Brits often downplay themselves immediately. There's a big difference there in terms of, like, ever so slight cultural differences. One of the reasons why I think America has been so successful so far, and one thing Britain could improve upon, is, if you look at human beings, I think what makes human beings... If you put one human being in a jungle, um, it's that classic phrase that if you put one human being in a jungle, immed- you've just introduced prey into the environment. But if you put a thousand human beings into the jungle, you've just introduced a apex predator of which the world's never seen before. So the only thing that really makes us special, like, if you look at us, we don't hear that well compared to other animals, we're not that fast, we're not that strong, we're pretty shit across the board, but our ability to cooperate is what makes us unique. It's the classic Steve Jobs thing of, if you looked at, um, I think it's energy efficiency in movement, humans are so far down the rankings. Right? There's so many animals ahead of us in terms of, to do a mile, how much energy they need to burn. But if you look at a human being on a bicycle, like human beings have just blow- blown through the charts. And he has this great quote which is, "The computer is the bicycle of the mind." And if you then go back to, well ultimately, the only thing that makes us unique human beings, 'cause we're shit at b- at everything compared to other animals-

    15. CW

      Mm-hmm.

    16. GM

      ... is our ability to cooperate. If you have a more enthusiastic society, that supports one another more-

    17. CW

      Mm.

    18. GM

      ... um, you can cooperate more which means that you'll then have way more economic output because in a certain country that's more optimistic that goes, "I've got this idea," a load of naive Americans are like, "Great idea."

    19. CW

      Yeah.

    20. GM

      "Let's do it tomorrow."

    21. CW

      Yeah.

    22. GM

      Whereas peop- a, a culture that's more, maybe cynical-

    23. CW

      Mm-hmm.

    24. GM

      ... um, means that those ideas don't happen. Which I think explains why, across these universities-We have essentially the same IQ levels, the same intelligence levels-

    25. CW

      Mm-hmm. Better accents.

    26. GM

      ... but better accents, more salmon-

    27. CW

      (laughs)

    28. GM

      ... but five X the number of entrepreneurs in America.

    29. CW

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    30. GM

      Yeah, which is where I got the thing from.

  6. 41:35 – 45:40

    The UK’s Biggest Strengths

    1. CW

    2. GM

      Mm-hmm. What do you... So to flip the script, though, um, so we don't get lots of angry Brits-

    3. CW

      Mm-hmm. We already do.

    4. GM

      ... what do you, what do you miss about the UK, or you think the UK has its strengths over America? 'Cause I would say America definitely has greater blowup risk. Like I could easily imagine a scenario where the US goes to civil war quicker than the UK does.

    5. CW

      I would imagine that there's many more people, many more entrepreneurs that have gone bank- bankrupt-

    6. GM

      Yeah.

    7. CW

      ... in the US, because they're just swinging for the fences-

    8. GM

      Mm-hmm.

    9. CW

      ... a lot more. Uh, it's my belief that most people who do things like entrepreneurialism, from a good standpoint, are more risk-averse than they are, uh, prepared to deal with risk. So most people actually need to crank that up. They need a little bit more encouragement. Um, things that are problems in America is, is certainly that. There are blind spots that many of them have. There's an entitlement that a lot of Americans have, too. You know, think about the fact that-... as you're coming up through school, maybe less so now when America's the most, you know, misogynistic, xenophobic place on the planet, but for the most part, up until maybe about five or 10 years ago, children were promised the what, the American dream is still alive and well, blue sky thinking, helicopter vision, we'll loop back by end of week. And if that's what you've been told as a child, and then you arrive in adulthood and you're not given that, you throw your toys out of the pram. This wasn't the world that I was told, and I think that that's why the entitlement and the victimhood culture is more, um, propagated in America-

    10. GM

      Mm.

    11. CW

      ... and it isn't in the UK because all hopes and dreams that you had for a life that was remotely good are just stamped out of you. You know, it's, it's, to so many people in the UK, and this isn't a knock, to so many people in the UK, success is getting a solid graduate job at 23 on 35, 40 grand a year, and then slowly climbing the corporate ladder to make six figures by 40, and then to retire with a solid pension toward the end of life.

    12. GM

      The British dream.

    13. CW

      Yeah, that is the British dream, and it's just, it's much more on a set of train tracks. There's fewer, uh, variations, and again, that is a perfectly acceptable, perfectly successful life. But more people slot themselves into that because they don't think about stuff going in other directions. I think the opposite problem occurs in America, which is kind of the paradox of choice. Well, I can do anything I want, I've basically got 50 countries attached within one big continent, I can go wherever I want, I can work there, I can use the same currency, I can speak the same language, I've got the like, all of the things. What should I do? I don't fucking know. Way more homeless people.

    14. GM

      Yes. Way more prescription drugs. I, I wrote about that in the, what is neglected by the media but will be studied by historians, that I think five of the top, sorry, the top five news networks in the US, either the number one biggest advertiser or the number two biggest advertiser is a pharmaceutical company, which as a Brit sounds absurd, and there's only two company, two countries in the world that that's allowed.

    15. CW

      New Zealand, Australia.

    16. GM

      New Zealand and America, yeah.

    17. CW

      Yeah, yeah.

    18. GM

      So that's definitely a difference, but I think one of the things that you mentioned there is that ability for each state in America to have a lot more control, and it feels like if you don't like what's going on in this state, you can move to a different state-

    19. CW

      Mm.

    20. GM

      ... and you can run these AB tests, whereas in the UK, as you mentioned, London has this stranglehold. It's that thing I used to say to Americans when I was explaining the UK is, in the UK- in the US, if you want to get into tech, you go to San Francisco, if you wanna get into finance, you go to New York, if you wanna get into entertainment, you'd typically go to LA, if you wanted to get into politics, you'd typically go to Washington. In UK it's London, London-

    21. CW

      (laughs)

    22. GM

      ... London, London. And obviously that's changing, Manchester's beginning to boom a little bit, but if we could begin to decentralize things a lot more, that Newcastle could go, "You know what? We're gonna be the AI-"

    23. CW

      Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

    24. GM

      "... capital, and if you come here, we can have all these incentives." That would-

    25. CW

      The YI capital.

    26. GM

      (laughs) Fascinating. Y- (laughs) YI.

    27. CW

      Oh, yes.

    28. GM

      There we go.

    29. CW

      Fucking got it.

    30. GM

      There we go.

  7. 45:40 – 56:22

    Why Adults Don’t Really Exist

    1. GM

      hell.

    2. CW

      Why do you say that adults don't exist?

    3. GM

      Oh, fucking hell. This is, um, probably my most, when I had this idea, somebody asked the question of if you could have something on the billboard for everybody to see, what would it be? And it would just be, "Adults don't exist." And it's just a big mistake of mine, like having not that much agency growing up and still at times trying to improve it, where you constantly think there's this adult class out there, and again, it kind of comes from the education system of teachers. You have these teachers and they've kind of figured out life and they're giving you all this advice and they, they, they've, these adults, and I say this kind of two red pills that make you realize that adults don't exist. So the first one is when you go to college or university and one of your friends or people that you know who's just so, like all over the place, unintentional, hungover all the time, doesn't know what they wanna do with their life and they go, "Thinking of becoming a teacher," and you go, "Hold on. Well all my teachers-"

    4. CW

      (laughs)

    5. GM

      "... or a significant amount of my teachers, that person who just didn't know what they wanted to do, and I put them on this pedestal." So it's this kind of low agency mindset of thinking that there's these emperors out there that are wearing these beautiful clothes, and there's these CEOs, there's these politicians, but actually, the more high agency perspective is realizing that they're just grown up children, right? They were a sperm cell that fertilized an egg that came out screaming, that looked at things around them, learnt this language, and puberty kicked in, and then they're a quote unquote "adult." And the other realization you have is when you're 15 and you meet like a 25-year-old, you go, "Wow, they're 25. That's like old. That's an adult." And you, you become 25 and you go, "I still don't-"

    6. CW

      When am I gonna become an adult?

    7. GM

      "... when am I become an adult?" And you realize, oh, 30 is the same, and I think it'll just be the same all the way throughout. So there's, these adults just don't exist.

    8. CW

      Yeah. I have this sort of undue respect, I think, and I place an awful lot, I, I did for a long time, similar to yourself, place an awful lot of credence in authority. Uh, I think this is a big British thing too, like Brits love a queue, love queuing, can't wait to queue. Um, and that sense that the people in charge know what they're doing. Ah, they've got it all sorted. Uh, you know, think about America, think of a perfect example of this, perfect example, not to bring it back to the UK, US thing. Look at the, uh, first dose vaccine uptake in the UK compared with the US. I think first dose in the UK will probably by now be 96%, it was at least 92 a couple of years ago. So 96%.I think the U.S. it wasn't even two thirds.

    9. GM

      Hm.

    10. CW

      So there are so many more people on this side of the pond that are prepared to say, "I don't think the people in charge know what they're fucking doing."

    11. GM

      Yeah.

    12. CW

      I have distrust in our officials, in the people that say that they are beyond us. I wonder whether this is at least in part downstream from having a monarchy. You know, Your Highness, it's someone that is raised above us. Highness, right? You're literally positioning yourself. This is an Alex O'Connor-ism. Um, you know, argued with Piers Morgan about this. Um, yeah, I put a lot of undue, uh, weight in the words of people who knew no more than me, and it's that same thing about business, uh, degree lecturers at university. Like, these are the people teaching you about business. What is the outcome you want to be successful at business. Okay. If you were successful at business, would you be teaching business in a UK univ- uh, Newcastle University? Probably not. I'd probably be busy running my business.

    13. GM

      Mm-Hmm.

    14. CW

      Uh, like, not everyone's Scott Galloway, swanning in to give a- a- like, community speech once every quarter and saying that he still teaches at NYU Stern.

    15. GM

      (laughs)

    16. CW

      (Laughs) It's like an honorary position for Scott Galloway.

    17. GM

      Yeah, that kind of stuff.

    18. CW

      Yeah, yeah. M- meanwhile, he paid 14 mil in taxes last year.

    19. GM

      Yep.

    20. CW

      Like, he's got proof in the pudding. But yeah, I think it's idiots all the way up, and it's the same for any industry that you care to care about, whether it's status, whether it's athletics, whether it's podcasting, whether it... Like, any of the people that you respect probably don't have that much of a clue about what they're doing. They all fumbled through the w- the number of people that I've met that have a really well-constructed thesis, first principle, fundamental view of why they do the things they do, how the world works, why they've got to the place that they are, almost everybody just stumbled into it. There was that thing from my live show that, uh, adulthood is like being pushed down a set of stairs at age 18 and trying to catch your feet until you die. Just permanently building it as you go. Like, "Oh fuck, we're in the air." Like, "All right, we'll put a wing on the plane, and let's get a propeller, and let's do this thing."

    21. GM

      Mm-Hmm. Yeah, I come back to one of the problems with adulthood as well, is during childhood, there's these milestones that you have. Not being able to talk (laughs) , like, being able to talk, walk. I guess it's the reverse order. Then first grade, second grade, third grade. Oh, you have these big birthdays every single year that people celebrate. GCSEs, in our case, A-levels, uh, or middle school, high school, whatever the- they have out here. And then adulthood, and it's pretty much mortgage, wedding, uh, like death, funerals of other people and- and-

    22. CW

      Kids maybe? Your first-

    23. GM

      ... yeah, kids. Sorry, yeah.

    24. CW

      ... first kids being born.

    25. GM

      Kids, mortgage, wedding, kids, funerals of- funerals of loved ones, then your own funeral. So there's so few milestones. What's really interesting is COVID then acted as a quite an interesting milestone now, whereas when you talk to people about COVID, there's a before COVID moment and then after COVID moment. And I actually think it's quite, it's interesting when you get to experience other cultures for the first time and you go, "Of course, that's such a better way of doing things." So, in the Jewish community, they celebrate, uh, bar mitzvahs, which is a big coming of age when you're 13. And I think there should be some kind of bar mitzvah for turning 25.

    26. CW

      Mm.

    27. GM

      'Cause your brain kind of fully develops when you're 25.

    28. CW

      Mm.

    29. GM

      And it's when it's def-

    30. CW

      Speak for yourself.

  8. 56:22 – 1:05:41

    Does Money Buy Happiness?

    1. GM

    2. CW

      What is your contrarian take about whether money buys happiness or not?

    3. GM

      So, everybody's probably heard the question, does money buy happiness? And then there'll be a big debate either way, but the correct way to actually answer that question is to say, "That is the stupidest question that I've ever heard," and then explain why. So we can use, uh, an example here. Let's say you've used 95% of your salary to get this crazy penthouse in New York to show off to everybody, and you realize in the first night that your next door neighbor's P Diddy. And he's just-

    4. CW

      (laughs)

    5. GM

      He's just having these, like, wild, loud orgies all night, and it's just a-

    6. CW

      Beating his wife in the corridor outside.

    7. GM

      Ye- yeah, yeah. A nightmare to live next to, right? In that case, did money buy happiness? Actually, money might have bought misery. Let's say you then go on Amazon Prime and get those earplugs, silicone ones that mold to your ear, that block out all noise, and it costs you $10. Well, in that case, a little bit of money bought a lot of happiness. So, the problem with this phrase, "Does money buy happiness?" is it implies all money is created equal and all happiness is created equal. And you can see, if you ask the question... So when people ask you that question, the best question to reply with is, "Does money buy good investments?" Well, I know some people that have bought-

    8. CW

      Depends what you invested in.

    9. GM

      ... incredible stocks really early on, and I know some people that have bought Bitcoin 1, 2, 3, and had a terrible time. So ultimately, it completely depends on what you've invested in. So the actual re- what the question's trying to get to, or what the real answer to the question should be, is that strategic money buys happiness and unstrategic money can buy misery. Or strategic money can buy happiness, and unstrategic money can buy misery. Exactly the same with investments. So, the reason why this question exists is because within itself it's a presupposition. It presupposes that all money is created equal, and it presupposes that all happiness is created equal, when it's not. It's a completely individualistic thing, like an investment.

    10. CW

      What is a way to strategically spend money, and what is a way to un-strategically spend money?

    11. GM

      The, the honest answer is, and this makes it into a terrible YouTube clip, but the honest answer is, is that it's so personalized to the individual. By definition, um, it's comp- wha- may make one person happy with one purchase may make another person happy with another purchase.

    12. CW

      I gave you a pickleball paddle. That's brought an awful lot of happiness.

    13. GM

      Exactly.

    14. CW

      If I gave that pickleball paddle to Zach, it would become a doorstop.

    15. GM

      Yes. So it's looking at the, um, cost of w- thing, service, product, experience, and impact that has on your life.

    16. CW

      Utility of the person.

    17. GM

      Utility, yeah. I mean, Zach said the other day at yours that you guys have a sauna that you spent a little bit of money on.

    18. CW

      Mm-hmm.

    19. GM

      And he says that is an example of strategic money can buy happiness.

    20. CW

      Mm-hmm. Yeah, uh, it's a very interesting reframe on the question, and we'd spoken about this before. I think both of us are fortunate that we have a low materialism set point, and I've always thought about this as a competitive advantage for people. So, if you grew up in a household that was, uh, gifts and, um, public presence and stuff were kind of displays of affection, if large things were made out of birthdays and of Christmases and that wa- there was a sort of keeping up with the Joneses mentality, maybe mom or dad were always looking to improve the car and stuff like that, that's fine, but it is likely that as you grow into an adult, you will tie an awful lot of your self-worth and your place in the world to the possessions that you have, or your ability to provide possessions to other people. Or maybe the way that they give gifts and possessions to you as a, a show of their love and affection. And again, hidden versus observable metrics. It's very... In a society that is obsessed with more, more, more, it is a radically revolutionary thing to say that I have enough.

    21. GM

      Mm-hmm.

    22. CW

      And I have always seen, of all of the different mental pathologies I've got, and it's a fucking laundry list-... the one of the ones I'm most glad that I don't have, after alcoholism and, and sort of substance stuff, is, uh, a need for materialistic possessions to make me feel, uh, satiated and, and, and satisfied and enough. So, if you are the sort of person that doesn't have that, if you don't have a drive to get more possessions in order to make yourself happy, you can basically see that as your happiness burn rate is way lower. You know, it's 10 times less, 100 times less than somebody else. And you could have been brought up or born with the predisposition where you had to have the newest car, you had to have the fanciest bag, you had to always be flying away on holidays. Is it fun? Yeah. But basically, that means that your operating costs as a human are way higher.

    23. GM

      Mm. Yeah, it's, it's a good point.

    24. CW

      (laughs)

    25. GM

      I'm reminded of, uh, I forgot who said it, it might be Coco Chanel, of, "The best things in life are free, and the second-best things are really, really, really expensive."

    26. CW

      (laughs)

    27. GM

      Um, but yeah, the- the more str- the more- the more I've realized as I get older is, you know, the money buy happiness question is so absurd, and all it comes down to is how strategic you can be with your money.

    28. CW

      When it comes to you, you said it was personalized.

    29. GM

      Yeah.

    30. CW

      When it comes to you, what are the places that you have found a disproportionate, uh, investment leverage, where when you spend a dollar on it, are you getting 10X return in terms of your money for happiness?

  9. 1:05:41 – 1:11:51

    Why George Loves Federer, Nadal & Djokovic

    1. GM

    2. CW

      Why have you been obsessed with Roger Federer-

    3. GM

      Uh-

    4. CW

      ... and Djokovic and Nadal? Because you just won't shut up about them.

    5. GM

      Oh, this is so good. So this came from Matthew Syed. And for me, this is, I've always enjoyed, like, self-help and self-improvement. But there's a part of it that always felt a bit icky. And this metaphor kind of explains my problem with it. And Matthew Syed is a big tennis fan, and he talks about, he would go and watch tennis, and it was such a unique point in history because you had the three GOATs at once. So in football you had arguably the two GOATs at once, you had Cristiano Ronaldo and Lionel Messi. In tennis, you had Djokovic, Nadal and Federer. And obviously in the self-help world or that space, it's like, "This is the way." Or you see these Instagram Reels and it's like, "If you do A, B, C, this will happen." And what's beautiful about this metaphor that Syed tells is...You have, he used to watch at Wimbledon, the warm-up courts. So he'd turn up and Nadal's there, and Nadal is, like, full-on Goggins, like biceps bulging, screaming as he's hitting the shots, like, s-

    6. CW

      In warm-up?

    7. GM

      Yeah, in warm-up, sprinting up and down to get himself into the zone, like, going as hard as he can. Then you have Djokovic who comes out, who's almost an emotionless, like, robot, who's just laser focused on getting the job done. Watches him warm up, he's like... Hold on, these are the two goats at the same time, completely different way of doing things. Then Federer turns up, and you can hear him laughing before he arrives at the court. He's trialing, like, trick shots, he's doing dinks, he's laughing with his friends. He's just finessing the ball left, right and center, and these three, and obviously there's a debate between them, but these three are arguably the three goats of their, at the exact same time, give or take, and had completely different philosophies to doing things. And that goes to show, and I've always now took that metaphor whenever somebody gives me, "Oh, you need to do things this way," or, "This is the way this gets done." And realizing, "Oh, okay. That's the Djokovic way of doing it. That might not apply to me."

    8. CW

      Mm-hmm.

    9. GM

      Or, "That's the Federer way of doing it." Or, "That's the Nadal way of doing it." Ironically, Nadal actually had the most amount of injuries, which is, um, one thing you could take into consideration. But ultimately there's no the way, as shown by those three. There's completely different ways of achieving essentially the exact same output.

    10. CW

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    11. GM

      I think so.

    12. CW

      ... to work out how to do it.

    13. GM

      Yeah.

    14. CW

      Right? What people want is a reliable set of inputs that can get them the outcome someone else got. They don't need to go, "What is the way for you to get the outcome?" It's the same thing again, it's what are you focusing on? Inputs or outcomes? You want to get the outcomes-

    15. GM

      Mm-hmm.

    16. CW

      ... but if someone says, "Here is the answer," there is no answer. There are multiple different ways, and here are some principles, and you need to work it out. It's like, I fucking... I paid $500 for this course.

    17. GM

      Yeah.

    18. CW

      I've paid $500 for the productivity course, and you're telling me that it isn't that I need an external brain, but I might do, and it isn't that I need to do spaced repetition, but I might do, and it isn't that I need to do time blocking, but I might do. Uh, yeah, I think a huge hesitation should be placed on saying this person achieved success and did this thing, therefore doing the thing that they did will cause me, different person, different disposition, different background, different set point, to get the same outcome that they did.

    19. GM

      Mm-hmm. I think it then comes down to the scientific method. It's, we live in the Enlightenment period. It's only been, what, not a couple of hundred years or so that we've had electricity, had all the things that we take for granted now, and that comes out of the scientific revolution and applying a scientific frame to viewing these problems of, okay, that's the Nadal way of doing it, that's the Djokovic way of doing it, that's the Federer way of doing it. How about I'll try this, see how that goes? I'll try this, see how that goes. Try this and see how that goes, and then judging based off the experiments how it worked personally for you. You're seeing this huge boom in nutrition, right, where for the last 50 years it was like, there's this diet, there's the only banana diet, there's the vomit three times a day diet, and now it's like actually what's probably the best diet for Chris is different to what's the best diet for George-

    20. CW

      Mm-hmm.

    21. GM

      Et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.

    22. CW

      Yeah.

    23. GM

      And I think we'll just find out more and more with time that personalization is more and more important than we think. But as you mentioned then, it's hard to sell that, so it's not as gimmicky. It's not as easy to get people into a funnel that buys the 699 course because it's often a lot more personalization and the people need to have a lot more agency over their existence.

    24. CW

      The work is put back onto the person who-

    25. GM

      Yes.

    26. CW

      ... needs to do the work.

    27. GM

      Yes.

    28. CW

      Like-

    29. GM

      But it's the truth, it's the way.

    30. CW

      I... Yeah. Yeah. I, I, I think that you're right. We also

  10. 1:11:51 – 1:15:29

    Praying at the Altar of Hard Work

    1. CW

      had this discussion in Miami, uh, about why hard work is something that people often pray at the altar of, and I'm one of these people, right? You know, Hormozi being on the show, Goggins, Jocko, et cetera. I don't disagree. Hard work is a very reliable route to achieving success, but I think that optimizing exclusively for hard work causes you to miss an awful lot of the higher leverage, uh, routes, and also maybe some of the more personalized ones too. There's very few problems in life that aren't made easier by working harder, but there are other higher leverage, higher return, less painful routes to achieving the same outcome. Those are less reliable though.

    2. GM

      Mm-hmm.

    3. CW

      Right? Like, hard work will almost always get you closer to your goal. Working harder will almost always get you closer to your goal incrementally. Uh, therefore it's like a, um...... moderately effective but highly robust drug that I could give you to-

    4. GM

      Mm-hmm.

    5. CW

      ... deal with some malady that you're dealing with. And then here's five other options, four of which won't work at all, but one of which will work ten times better than you just doing the hard work thing. And maybe hard work sits sort of alongside it, you kind of, uh, loop them in as, as, uh, combination. Um, but yeah, I think that's one of the reasons why (clears throat) praying at the altar of hard work is something that's so, uh, it's so pedestalized because when has anybody ever worked harder and it hasn't helped at least a little bit? So it's the panacea, but it's actually only working at sort of a, a, a, a ceiling capped sort of rate. And there's way more effective versions that you could look at alongside that or outside of that, that isn't just, okay, just get up earlier, go to bed later, spend more time in front of the screen.

    6. GM

      Mm-hmm. What's an example for yourself that's more productive or impactful than hard work, or things that you often neglect because you're too busy working hard that often is a bigger lever?

    7. CW

      Reading. So I asked myself this question during my end of year review, I think I asked you-

    8. GM

      Yes.

    9. CW

      ... this as well, what are the things I think are productive but aren't?

    10. GM

      Yes.

    11. CW

      And what are the things that are productive but I don't realize are? And that's just such a phenomenal question, because you're starting to see where am I putting, investing into hard work, kind of reliable but could be not so useful? And where am I not seeing the penny stocks that have got 1,000 X potential upside? So for me, sitting in front of the computer when I'm not working or when I'm low on energy makes me feel like I'm working, it makes me feel like I'm busy. I actually don't really get anything done. Uh, being on Slack, being on emails and taking calls, for the most part, very, very low ROI. Does move me incrementally closer to the goal of whatever it is that I'm trying to do. Uh, stuff that is productive but I don't realize it, uh, going for a walk without my AirPods in and without a phone. Uh, reading, which is huge. Reading and writing probably should have been in there. Focused reading and writing, massive, massive upsides. Um, going for coffees with-

    12. GM

      Mm-hmm.

    13. CW

      ... uh, friends, uh, and going for dinner with people that come through town for a short period of time. So, uh, next week we're gonna go for dinner (laughs) . We're going for nut pudding with Bryan Johnson and, uh, a bunch of his, a bunch of his friends. And it's like, you know, it's a Thursday night, it's gonna be one of the last nights that you're here, like, do we really want to, uh, uh, spend the time with you, we're not too sure. But I can almost guarantee that I will come away from that evening with an amazing story or some cool insights or a new friend, or e- something cool. So I just think saying yes to more-

    14. GM

      Yeah.

    15. CW

      ... novelty is a good, a good start.

  11. 1:15:29 – 1:26:35

    A More Effective Way to Make Friends

    1. CW

    2. GM

      One I'd add on to the list that's really meta, that I think when we discussed the UK issue earlier, and I know you chat to, like, young guys a lot or in that space, about feeling lonely or the-

    3. CW

      Mm-hmm.

    4. GM

      ... loneliness epidemic. One of the things that doesn't feel productive but I'd say is like the, the most productive thing I've ever done is, whenever I'm on social media, which is by definition often quite unproductive time, or it's like, I describe Twitter now as like swimming through sewage searching for gold. And every day I'll get a bit of gold but I'm covered in shit, and it's like-

    5. CW

      (laughs)

    6. GM

      ... that's the trade, that's the trade-off that I kind of make with social media platforms now. And one of my friends recently was saying, um, how he's not got a circle like himself where he is, he's got his old friends, he's not got a circle like himself. And he goes, "Oh, I might start, um, going to, like, a yoga class or, um, a CrossFit class and see if I can meet these people." I go, "That's definitely better than doing nothing." But the odds of it, of that is quite slim relative to online. So I go back to how me and you met, right? I, I, I think I was sat on the loo and I DMed you. So I was just like, uh, "Hey, mate." And what, did I mention some about Chrome extensions?

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