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What Use Is The Female Orgasm? - David Puts

David Puts is a Professor of Anthropology at Penn State whose research focuses on the evolution and development of human sexuality and sex differences. Apparently women orgasm. Why they do it however, has been a mystery for a long time. They don't need to in order to get pregnant. And sometimes they don't do it at all, for ages. So what use is the female orgasm, and what predicts the sort of partner who'll make it happen? Expect to learn if the female orgasm is just a gatekeeper for oxytocin, whether more dominant male faces predicted earlier orgasm, why men competed for women through contests rather than sexual selection, how male-male aggression, not female selection drove the evolved differences between men and women, whether you can tell a person's personality from their voice pitch and much more... Sponsors: Get £150 discount on Eight Sleep products at https://eightsleep.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Get 15% discount on Craftd London’s jewellery at https://bit.ly/cdwisdom (use code MW15) Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D and Free Shipping from Athletic Greens at https://athleticgreens.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Extra Stuff: Check out David's website - https://beel.la.psu.edu/ Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom #women #evolutionarypsychology #mating - 00:00 Intro 00:46 Why Does the Female Orgasm Exist? 07:26 The Purpose of Released Hormones after Sex 16:53 Is Too Much Dominance Bad? 22:19 How Sexual Selection Occurs in Humans 28:36 Unique Traits of Male Development 37:55 Are Male Traits Only Developed for Survival? 43:28 How Does Male-Male Aggression Attract Females? 54:47 Is there a Difference Between Male & Female Mental Capabilities? 1:04:26 Telling Someone’s Personality From Their Voice 1:18:06 Where to Find David - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

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Nov 30, 20221h 18mWatch on YouTube ↗

At a glance

WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

Evolutionary Secrets: Why Female Orgasm, Male Traits, And Voices Matter

  1. Evolutionary psychologist David Puts discusses why the female orgasm likely evolved as an adaptation in mate choice rather than a nonfunctional byproduct of male orgasm, arguing it subtly biases conception toward higher‑quality or more investing males. He presents evidence that oxytocin released around orgasm can facilitate sperm transport and that women orgasm more easily with more masculine, dominant partners. The conversation broadens into how male–male competition has shaped male bodies, brains, and voices—favoring traits that intimidate rivals more than they attract women directly. They also explore sex differences in spatial and cognitive abilities, voice modulation as a real-time status signal, and how modern environments like online dating may be changing how these evolved systems play out.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

Female orgasm likely functions as a selective fertility amplifier rather than a reproductive necessity.

Because many women conceive without ever orgasming and orgasm occurs only sometimes during sex, Puts argues it probably evolved to increase conception odds specifically with preferred or higher‑quality mates, not as a mandatory step in reproduction.

Oxytocin released around orgasm can physically help move sperm toward the egg.

Experimental studies where women were given oxytocin and a semen‑like fluid showed increased transport of the fluid into the fallopian tube, especially near ovulation—supporting the idea that orgasm-related hormones can boost fertilization probability.

Women orgasm more easily with more masculine, dominant partners, supporting a mate-choice function.

In Puts’ research with heterosexual couples, women whose male partners had more masculine faces and were rated as more dominant reported faster and more frequent orgasms, consistent with orgasm biasing reproduction toward males with putative ‘good genes’ or higher status.

Male traits are shaped more by competition with other males than by direct female preference.

Across traits like body size, muscle mass, facial structure, canines/weapons, and especially voice pitch, the data suggest these features are better designed to intimidate or defeat rivals than to serve as pure ornaments for attracting females.

Sex differences in cognition map onto ancestral roles in ranging, hunting, and foraging.

Men tend to outperform women on large-scale spatial tasks like mental rotation and navigation, while women excel at object-location memory; these patterns fit an evolutionary story where males ranged widely to hunt or seek mates and females specialized more in local, stationary resource tracking.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

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Every bit of evidence seems to support the hypothesis that women’s orgasm functions in choosing mates, and that it’s unlikely to be simply a byproduct.

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If orgasm were just about increasing conception, you’d expect women to have an orgasm every time they had sex—but they don’t.

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Men’s phenotypes really look like they were designed primarily to win fights or intimidate same‑sex competitors, more than to attract females.

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Before I started taking testosterone, I could masturbate. After I started taking it, I had to.

David Puts (relaying an anecdote)

Lowering pitch seems like you’re signaling status, authority, dominance… and raising it is basically saying, ‘You don’t need to worry about me.’

David Puts

Evolutionary function and hypotheses of the female orgasmOxytocin, sperm transport, and fertility mechanismsFemale orgasm, mate choice, and male masculinity/dominanceMale–male competition, weapons, and sexually dimorphic traitsSex differences in spatial cognition and object-location memoryVoice pitch as a signal of dominance, status, and fighting abilityModern mating contexts (e.g., online dating) versus ancestral dynamics

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