Modern WisdomWhy Do Women Take Sexy Selfies? - Dr Khandis Blake
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Sexy selfies, status, and inequality: Rethinking female competition today
- Dr. Khandis Blake argues that women’s sexualized self-presentation online is driven less by patriarchy and more by status-seeking in unequal economies. Using large-scale social media data and lab experiments, she shows that economic inequality predicts increases in sexy selfies, cosmetic spending, and beauty-focused behavior, which can also raise women’s sense of assertiveness. Blake and Williamson then connect mating-market imbalances, female and male intrasexual competition, and incel ideology to broader issues like domestic violence, radicalization, and social stability. They close by critiquing adversarial gender narratives and calling for integrated biological and sociocultural approaches to gender and mating problems.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasSexy selfies are primarily a status strategy, not just patriarchal oppression.
Blake’s cross-national Twitter data show that sexualized selfies correlate more strongly with income inequality than with gender inequality; when both are modeled, the gender-inequality effect disappears, suggesting women are actively using beauty to compete for status rather than merely conforming to male pressure.
Economic inequality reliably increases women’s investment in beauty online and offline.
In more unequal regions and US counties, there are higher rates of sexy selfies, greater spending in women’s salons, and more cosmetic purchases, indicating that when status gaps widen, appearance becomes a more salient competitive resource, especially for women.
Beautification can make women feel more agentic and assertive.
Lab experiments where women prepared for a ‘hot date’ versus a casual hangout found that those who beautified more reported and implicitly displayed higher assertiveness, suggesting that appearance-enhancement can function as a psychological empowerment tool, not just self-objectification.
Sex ratio seems less important for women’s beautification than theory predicts.
Both correlational and experimental manipulations of local sex ratios failed to change women’s interest in using appearance to get ahead, implying that female competition is less about sheer quantity of mates and more about status dynamics and economic context.
Poor men and rich women are structurally disadvantaged in modern mating markets.
Simulation models under hypergamy show that low-income men and high-income women have the hardest time pairing, especially in unequal but gender-egalitarian economies, helping explain rising singlehood among educated women and disenfranchisement among poorer men.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesSexualization is not actually manifesting from patriarchal pressure where men force women to beautify. It's manifesting from a state of the economy that has people want to strive to do better, to out-compete their peers.
— Dr. Khandis Blake
It didn't seem to me to be something that was done to women, but very much something that women were owning and using quite strategically.
— Dr. Khandis Blake
We compete in a different way than what people have traditionally considered to be competition. Status gives us different benefits. It doesn't mean it's not really critically important, though.
— Dr. Khandis Blake
If one sex loses, both sexes lose. As far as I can see, sexlessness is increasing amongst men… It’s not good for anybody at the moment.
— Chris Williamson
I was pissed off not because there was this whole framework in biology… I was pissed off that I'd spent an entire gender studies degree looking at it and no one had told me about it.
— Dr. Khandis Blake
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