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Modern WisdomWhy You Feel So Anxious All The Time - Dr Russell Kennedy
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At a glance
WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Healing Anxiety: Reconnecting With Your Body, Childhood Self, And Alarm
- Dr. Russell Kennedy (“The Anxiety MD”) explains that what we call anxiety is often a persistent state of physiological “alarm” rooted in unresolved childhood experiences, especially separation, chaos, or trauma. He blends neuroscience and somatic psychology, arguing that chronic stress in childhood sensitizes subcortical fear and addiction circuits while weakening the prefrontal cortex’s ability to regulate stress. Modern approaches that focus only on changing thoughts (like CBT) help people cope but often hit a ceiling because they ignore the body and the younger self that still “lives” in those sensations. Kennedy advocates a combined approach: somatic work, parts/IFS-style inner-child repair, and cognitive tools, along with learning to tolerate uncertainty instead of compulsively worrying to escape it.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasReframe anxiety as ‘alarm’ rooted in earlier experiences, not just thoughts.
Kennedy suggests that chronic anxiety is better understood as a body-based state of alarm encoded during childhood stress or trauma; the mind’s anxious thoughts are secondary attempts to explain and escape that alarm, not its primary cause.
Locate and befriend the bodily sensation of alarm instead of escaping into worry.
He recommends noticing where alarm lives in your body (solar plexus, throat, chest, shoulders, etc.), placing a hand there, breathing into it, and allowing it to exist—because compulsively going into your head with worry strengthens the alarm–anxiety loop.
Use somatic and parts work to connect with your younger self.
Approaches like somatic experiencing and internal family systems help you treat the alarm as a representation of a younger, wounded part; repeatedly ‘showing’ this child that they are now safe and not stuck in the past can gradually rewrite deep unconscious patterns.
Combine body-based work with cognitive tools rather than relying on thoughts alone.
Kennedy argues that cognitive therapies (CBT, reframing, positive psychology) are far more effective after you’ve calmed the body and reconnected with yourself; trying to ‘think your way out’ of a feeling problem without somatic engagement is usually exhausting and limited.
Practice tolerating and even embracing uncertainty to weaken anxiety’s grip.
Because the brain is wired to hate uncertainty, especially in those with early trauma, worry functions as a maladaptive strategy to create a false sense of certainty; intentionally recognizing situations as uncertain—and choosing not to catastrophize—can reduce compulsive worry over time.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesIf you abuse, abandon, or neglect a child, the child doesn't stop loving the parent, they stop loving themselves.
— Dr. Russell Kennedy
You can't think your way out of a feeling problem.
— Dr. Russell Kennedy
All anxiety is separation anxiety, and it's mostly separation from yourself.
— Dr. Russell Kennedy
We worship the mind so much that we believe the mind can heal the mind, and it really hasn’t done much for emotional healing.
— Dr. Russell Kennedy
When you are alarmed, just allow it to be there in your body as opposed to compulsively going up into your head.
— Dr. Russell Kennedy
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