CHAPTERS
Feeling like a burden as a common autistic experience
Alex opens by describing the deep, recurring feeling of being a burden—something he believes many autistic people strongly relate to. He frames it as a widespread emotional experience rather than an isolated personal insecurity.
Harmful framing in official documentation (NHS)
He notes that the idea of autistic people being a burden appears in NHS documentation, and not in a supportive or empathetic way. He reacts strongly to this as stigmatizing and damaging.
Internalizing stigma: feeling broken
Alex explains how this messaging can be internalized, leading to a core belief of being broken. He suggests autistic and ADHD people may share this deep self-perception.
Belief that he brings only stress to others
He shares a painful conviction that he doesn’t add anything positive to others’ lives and instead creates stress. The emphasis is on the perceived imbalance—effort to be good still feeling like it results in harm.
Fear of wearing people down and being “bothersome”
Alex lists specific fears: making others tired, stressed, and fed up with him. He acknowledges it may sound like self-pity, but stresses he’s voicing it because he thinks many neurodivergent people feel similarly.
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