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Deep Dive with Ali AbdaalYou’re Not Lazy: How To Make Discipline Easy - Ryan Holiday
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Ryan Holiday and Ali Abdaal on discipline, process, and doing the work
- Holiday argues that obsessing over productivity tools and systems is a form of procrastination, and that the real work is picking one system, sticking with it, and doing the thing.
- Both speakers say that focusing on the process rather than numbers, bestseller lists, or comparison with others protects you from what you can't control, and Holiday says he keeps working on the next project rather than watching how the last one performs.
- Holiday says rigid routines have given way to flexible practices as he has become older and a parent, with kids acting as ballast that keeps him grounded rather than baggage.
- Holiday distinguishes the higher self from the lower self and says the key question is whether you are resting for recovery or avoiding something simply because it is hard.
- The conversation also covers practical advice on launching a book as a long marathon, taking risks with a limited downside, and Abdaal's three-step productivity plan of setting goals, converting them to weekly actions, and scheduling them.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasObsessing over productivity can be procrastination
Holiday says amateurs fixate on tools and optimize things they aren't doing, and Abdaal admits researching running shoes while rarely running. Both say the answer is to pick a system and stick with it.
Trusting the process requires having been through it
Holiday says it's hard to trust a process you haven't completed, and uses the Texas 'false fall' idea to describe how projects seem finished and then get hard again. Repetition lets you anticipate the rhythms and conserve energy.
Success can distract you as much as failure
Holiday notes that when something does well, people lose a day refreshing and basking in it. He recommends being in a rhythm where you're always working on the next thing, like a comedian preparing the next hour.
Rigidity should give way to flexibility, with the main thing protected
Holiday describes moving from near-OCD routines to practices he moves around, such as early rising, a walk, hard exercise, and writing before other tasks. He still asks whether flexibility is really complacency.
Kids and commitments act as ballast, not baggage
Holiday cites Lin-Manuel Miranda saying a child kept him from spinning off after Hamilton's success. He also says working 'for the kids' while never seeing them is selfishness cloaked in selflessness.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesI think it's not quite sufficient to just say trust the process because it's hard to trust a process that you have not been through.
— Ryan Holiday
Again, we think these things are gonna be baggage. It's more like ballast.
— Ryan Holiday
Like, if you're gonna waste a day, go waste a day. Don't waste a day refreshing your Twitter feed.
— Ryan Holiday
you are doing something very selfish, but you are cloaking it in selflessness.
— Ryan Holiday
The worst case is never as bad as we think it is, and recovering from the worst case is also never as hard as we initially think it's gonna be.
— Ali Abdaal
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SPEAKERS
Ryan Holiday
guestAuthor and media strategist known for modern Stoicism books including “The Obstacle Is the Way” and “Ego Is the Enemy”.
Ali Abdaal
hostDoctor-turned-creator and productivity educator, host of “Deep Dive,” and author of “Feel-Good Productivity”.
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