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Ann Summers CEO: The Heartbreaking Story Of One Of Britain's Richest Women! Jacqueline Gold CBE

This weeks episode entitled 'Ann Summers CEO: The Heartbreaking Story Of One Of Britain’s Richest Women: Jacqueline Gold CBE' topics: 0:00 Intro 02:35 Your early years - a traumatic childhood 18:00 Being a shy person 21:47 Using work as an escape 24:27 Physical consequences from emotional trauma 30:32 How hard times have shaped me - Breast cancer 34:18 The importance of being optimistic - The pandemic 39:31 Ann Summers, your journey 48:32 Receiving a bullet in the post 54:12 Discrimination as a female CEO 58:19 Putting a stop to a bully culture 59:41 Your relationship with money 01:03:26 Your worst day in business 01:05:54 Your partner 01:09:15 The passing of your child, IVF treatment 01:18:49 Being poisoned by your nanny 01:26:36 Your conclusive life advice 01:30:49 Our new question segment Jacqueline: https://twitter.com/Jacqueline_Gold?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor https://www.instagram.com/jacquelinegoldcbe/?hl=en  Donate to Breast Cancer Now, a charity Jacqueline is an ambassador of - https://secure.breastcancernow.org/appeal/donate/#/ The Diary Of A CEO live - Sign up here - https://g2ul0.app.link/diaryofaceolive Listen on: Apple podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-diary-of-a-ceo-by-steven-bartlett/id1291423644 Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/7iQXmUT7XGuZSzAMjoNWlX FOLLOW ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/steven/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SteveBartlettSC Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/steven-bartlett-56986834/ Sponsors: Huel - https://uk.huel.com/ Myenergi - https://bit.ly/3oeWGnl

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Oct 4, 20211h 33mWatch on YouTube ↗

CHAPTERS

  1. 0:00 – 4:40

    Introduction: An Unbelievable Life Story

    Steven Bartlett frames Jacqueline Gold as one of the most successful and inspiring businesswomen in Europe, whose life has been marked by extreme misfortune and resilience. He introduces her role in transforming Ann Summers and normalizing conversations about sex, hinting that her story is dramatic enough to be a film.

  2. 4:40 – 12:40

    Childhood: Abuse, Control, and the Birth of Independence

    Jacqueline recounts an unconventional, traumatic childhood: her parents’ separation, her mother’s extreme fearfulness and control, and years of sexual abuse by her mother’s boyfriend. She explains how repeated betrayals and lack of protection pushed her toward financial independence as a route to escape.

  3. 12:40 – 19:40

    Sisters, Different Childhoods, and Rejecting the Victim Label

    Jacqueline contrasts her own experience with her younger sister Vanessa’s, noting how a few years’ age difference changed everything about their exposure to adversity. She emphasizes that everyone processes trauma differently and explains why she personally refuses to see herself as a victim, despite multiple serious life events.

  4. 19:40 – 26:20

    Confronting Her Abuser and Finding Personal Power

    Jacqueline describes the moment at 15 when she finally confronted her abuser, carefully framing the conversation to avoid his anger. Only as an adult does she fully recognize how brave she was and how much more power she had than she realized, despite being conditioned to people‑please.

  5. 26:20 – 34:00

    From Shy, Overprotected Girl to Courageous Leader

    Steven probes how such a shy, tightly controlled child became a bold CEO and cultural crusader. Jacqueline explains that shyness is situational, not innate, and that a deep inner fire and passion for her mission forced her to step into public roles despite fear.

  6. 34:00 – 45:40

    Work as Escape and Early Physical Consequences of Trauma

    Work becomes Jacqueline’s only sanctioned escape from a controlling, task‑master household. The conversation then turns to psychosomatic effects of trauma, where she links experiences like constipation and tinnitus to acute stress from abuse and stalking.

  7. 45:40 – 52:40

    Consent, Sexual Violence, and Ongoing Educational Gaps

    Using her own experiences and recent work, Jacqueline highlights how far society has come in believing victims and talking about sexual abuse—but also how far is left to go, especially around consent education for both women and men.

  8. 52:40 – 1:01:00

    Resilience, Cancer, and the Power of Optimism Bias

    Asked what resilience means to her, Jacqueline details her breast cancer journey—from stage 2 to stage 4—and how an almost stubborn optimism bias shaped her reactions and decisions. She treats serious illness like a strategic problem to be solved, not a passive fate.

  9. 1:01:00 – 1:10:40

    Optimism in Parenting and Leading Through the Pandemic

    Jacqueline shows how her optimism extends from parenting to crisis leadership. She instills a daily ‘I can’ affirmation in her daughter and recounts steering Ann Summers through the Covid‑19 retail shutdown, leveraging communication and creative pivots to survive and grow.

  10. 1:10:40 – 1:26:40

    Discovering the Ann Summers Party Model and Reinventing the Brand

    Jacqueline recounts how a casual invitation to a clothes party in a Thamesmead council flat sparked the idea of women‑only Ann Summers parties. Listening to women’s discomfort with sex shops and leveraging her own naivety, she built a new, female‑focused business model that would transform both the company and UK sexual culture.

  11. 1:26:40 – 1:37:40

    Sexism, Brand Bias, and the Bullet in the Post

    The discussion shifts to institutional resistance and personal danger Jacqueline faced while mainstreaming a sex‑positive, women‑centric brand. Landlords, councils, and officials tried to block her stores; in Dublin, the conflict escalated to public television debates, a court case, and a threatening bullet sent to her.

  12. 1:37:40 – 1:47:00

    Being a Young Woman CEO in a Sexist Business World

    Jacqueline reflects on becoming CEO in her 20s and the overt and subtle sexism she faced. From being ignored in meetings to being challenged in first‑class train carriages, she illustrates how bias works in the everyday micro‑moments as well as in boardrooms.

  13. 1:47:00 – 1:54:40

    Money, Legacy, and Expanding the Definition of ‘Every Woman’

    Asked about money’s role in her life, Jacqueline acknowledges financial success as a societal marker but argues her true fulfillment comes from building female financial and sexual empowerment. She describes evolving Ann Summers from serving ‘women’ to consciously representing “every woman” in all her diversity.

  14. 1:54:40 – 2:00:40

    The Hardest Business Day: Covid and Cash Flow Cliff Edges

    Steven presses for the single hardest day in business, and Jacqueline returns to Boris Johnson’s sudden retail closure announcement. She details the fear of running out of cash, the inadequacy of initial government support, and the emotional strain of seeing decades of work suddenly frozen.

  15. 2:00:40 – 2:06:20

    Marriage, Illness, and Emotional Support Gaps

    The conversation turns intimate as Steven asks how she maintained her marriage through such crises. Jacqueline distinguishes between her husband’s strong business support and the more uneven emotional support during her illness, shedding light on how partners can struggle with vulnerability and role reversals.

  16. 2:06:20 – 2:15:20

    IVF, San Francisco, and the Birth of Twins

    Jacqueline walks through a harrowing IVF journey, including multiple failed attempts and the culture shock between UK and US clinics. Her eventual successful cycle produced twins, one of whom—Alfie—was diagnosed in utero with a catastrophic brain abnormality.

  17. 2:15:20 – 2:26:00

    Living and Losing Alfie: Grief, Care, and Family Bonding

    Jacqueline describes the complex grief of bonding with a severely disabled son she’d been told would not survive. She details his early life in hospital and at The Children’s Trust, the impact on her marriage, and how Alfie remains part of their family story even after his death at six.

  18. 2:26:00 – 2:37:20

    Poisoned by a Nanny: Betrayal Inside the Home

    In another almost unbelievable episode, Jacqueline recounts discovering that her trusted nanny had tried to poison her—culminating in screenwash being poured into her soup. The incident shattered her trust and led to a criminal conviction and later an injunction.

  19. 2:37:20 – 2:48:00

    Life Lessons: Courage, Networking, and the Power of People

    In closing, Jacqueline distills her life and business lessons for her daughter and listeners. She champions daring, embracing difference, investing in relationships, and recognizing people as the true engine of any business.

  20. 2:48:00

    Farewell: Silver Linings and a Legacy of Empowerment

    The episode ends with a mutual expression of admiration. Steven underscores how Jacqueline always finds a silver lining after recounting extreme misfortunes, and she reiterates her commitment to female empowerment and culture change as her enduring legacy.

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