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Ashley Walters: The Unheard TRUTH About Top Boy! "Me & Kano Didn't Have The Greatest Time"

If you enjoyed this episode and want to hear more about the inside world of acting, you'll definitely enjoy our conversation with Cole Sprouse: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3XP9J3UyTUo From Asher D to Top Boy, prison to fame, Ashley Walters refuses to be told what he can or can’t do. In this new episode Steven sits down with rapper and actor, Ashley Walters. 00:00 Intro 01:37 😢 Ashley Walters discusses his troubled childhood, trauma, and anger issues, leading to a negative attitude and reckless behavior. 04:46 🧠 Walters delves into his therapy experiences and the impact of his absent father on his self-esteem and relationships. 11:06 💔 Walters reflects on his deep desire for his absent father's approval and how it shaped his self-worth and fear of rejection. 15:32 🎥 Ashley Walters shares a poignant story about his father's last days, his own obsession with dying young, and the emotional impact of his father's death. 23:41 😔 Walters hints at unresolved grief and the struggle to cope with his father's loss, even after 18 years. 24:28 🌌 Ashley Walters believes in the universal law and manifestation, feeling that what he gives, he eventually receives. He attributes his success to this belief. 27:14 🚀 Ashley admits to abusing his celebrity status, making reckless decisions, and hurting his first partner, resulting in two children. He acknowledges his past ego-centric behavior. 32:28 🧡 Ashley reflects on the last two weeks with his father before he passed away, gaining a better understanding of himself and his father's impact on him. 37:45 🎭 Ashley attributes his success to his charm, people skills, humility, and maintaining good relationships within the entertainment industry. 47:02 🌟 Ashley describes the rocky and unstable nature of the entertainment industry, where rejection is frequent, but his drive and motivation come from turning those rejections into fuel for success. 48:58 😶 Ashley Walters prefers the opportunity to try rather than being told he can't do something. He values the chance to bring his ideas to the table and learn from failure. 50:09 🎬 Ashley Walters overcame skepticism about directing by making a short film after being told he lacked experience. This experience led him to discover his passion for directing. 51:51 🤝 Ashley advises students to embrace their unique life journeys and not seek to replicate his own path, which includes hardships like prison and loss. 54:47 💔 The pandemic forced Ashley Walters to confront himself, his flaws, and the importance of communication in his relationship with his wife. It was a challenging time but led to self-awareness. 01:00:53 🗣️ Ashley recognizes the limitations of the voice in his head, which can sometimes lead to poor decisions. He emphasizes the importance of seeking outside perspectives and avoiding impulsive choices based on emotion. 01:12:18 😌 Ashley Walters believes in taking action and not just talking about problems, inspired by his mother's practical approach. 01:13:39 😔 Ashley Walters discusses the challenges of bridging the gap with his partner, who may struggle to understand his background and emotional complexities. 01:14:47 🧔 Ashley reflects on his past failures as a father, acknowledging that he wasn't fully present for his older children due to career priorities. 01:16:02 😞 Ashley expresses concern about the generational impact of his distant relationship with his own father and how it may affect his relationship with his children. 01:17:20 Ad break 01:18:25 🎬 Ashley Walters journey with Top Boy 01:31:20 😢 Ashley Walters shares his thoughts about the final season of "Top Boy," 01:36:27 🌍 "Top Boy" has helped opening doors for a new type of shows. 01:38:41 ❤️ Ashley Walters would use his last phone call to tell his children that he loves them, emphasizing the importance of expressing love. 01:37:45 🙌 The last guest's question Follow Ashley: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3RfAyI9 Twitter: https://bit.ly/48f3PZt My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now: https://smarturl.it/DOACbook Join this channel to get access to perks: https://bit.ly/3Dpmgx5 Follow me: Instagram: http://bit.ly/3nIkGAZ Twitter: http://bit.ly/3ztHuHm Linkedin: https://bit.ly/41Fl95Q Telegram: http://bit.ly/3nJYxST Sponsors: Shopify: https://bit.ly/3Zf4qpQ Wework: https://we.co/ceoworks Huel: https://g2ul0.app.link/G4RjcdKNKsbo

Ashley WaltersguestSteven Bartletthost
Sep 14, 20231h 43mWatch on YouTube ↗

CHAPTERS

  1. 0:00 – 3:30

    Opening Montage: Violence, Fame And An Obsession With Dying Young

    The episode opens with a stylised montage of Ashley’s voice over gunshots and Top Boy clips, juxtaposing his obsession with dying young, his desire to hurt others as he was hurt, and his success as artist and actor. It sets a stark contrast between his traumatic inner world and his public achievements.

  2. 3:30 – 13:00

    Therapy, Fatherlessness And Becoming The Angry Kid

    Prompted by Steven’s observation that he sounds like someone who’s done therapy, Walters traces his problems back to growing up without a consistent father figure and not understanding how deeply that shaped him. He explains how his dad’s prison absences, chaotic visits and alcoholism left him angry at the world and desperate for male validation.

  3. 13:00 – 22:30

    Replacing Dad With Dealers: Belonging, Gangs And Early Success

    Ashley describes how, once resentment towards his father hardened, he sought replacement father figures among local drug dealers and older men in So Solid Crew. Even as he ascended in music and TV, he remained emotionally underdeveloped, equating manhood with hardness and aggression rather than emotional capacity.

  4. 22:30 – 35:00

    Interpreting Rejection: Imposter Syndrome And The Need For Approval

    With Steven’s help, Walters explores how children interpret parental failings as personal inadequacy, which for him evolved into chronic self‑doubt and imposter syndrome. He also revisits his complicated feelings about his father’s death, including a late reconnection that profoundly challenged his image of his dad.

  5. 35:00 – 49:00

    Filming His Dying Father, Sudden Loss And Never Grieving

    Walters recounts obsessively filming his daily life because he believed he’d die young, and turning the camera on his terminally ill father during their time together in Canada. He then describes the moment he learned of his father’s death on set with 50 Cent, his decision to immediately resume filming, and his sense that he has still never fully grieved.

  6. 49:00 – 55:30

    Losing His Spiritual Compass: Ego, Infidelity And The Dark Years

    In the aftermath of his father’s death, Walters says he lost faith in the universe’s order and slid into a self‑centred, reckless period. He drank more, cheated on his partner, fathered two children outside the relationship, and let ego take precedence over his earlier caring nature.

  7. 55:30 – 1:01:00

    The Lost Tapes: Missing Archive And Unfinished Emotional Business

    Ashley explains that all the footage he shot with his father ended up in a production company archive that dissolved amid personal and business turmoil. The former partner took the tapes, and a decade of trying to retrieve them has so far failed, leaving him without the only real visual record of his dad.

  8. 1:01:00 – 1:14:00

    Lessons From Two Final Weeks: Identity, Confidence And What He’d Say Now

    Reflecting on those last two weeks, Walters says truly knowing where he comes from—seeing his father’s character and charm—helped him understand himself, including his own confidence and mannerisms. He regrets not clearly thanking his father or softening more, and wonders if his dad boarded the last flight unsure of his forgiveness.

  9. 1:14:00 – 1:26:00

    Talent, Drive And ‘Invisible PR’: Why Ashley Is Still Working

    Steven challenges Walters to define the real traits behind his unusually early and dual success in music and acting. Ashley reluctantly outlines a mix of personal charm, authenticity, humility and generosity that have earned him a loyal fanbase and long‑lasting industry relationships beyond simple ‘talent.’

  10. 1:26:00 – 1:32:30

    The Harsh Realities Of Acting And The Power Of ‘No’

    When asked whether he’d support his own kids becoming actors, Walters admits fear because of the industry’s instability and rejection. He also discusses his intolerance for being told “you can’t” and how that resistance helped him evolve into directing when initially blocked from directing his own show.

  11. 1:32:30 – 1:37:00

    The Vengeful Inner Voice, Forgiveness And Emotional Communication

    Ashley digs into the nature of his inner voice—angry, vengeful, and often a poor guide—and his commitment to leading with love and forgiveness instead of retaliation. He then pivots to how his wife Danielle and her affectionate family have forced him to confront his emotional limitations and learn healthier ways to communicate.

  12. 1:37:00 – 1:46:00

    Kingdom, Regret And Embracing His Own Story

    Discussing his acting school, Kingdom, Walters underscores that students shouldn’t aspire to copy his exact path, since it includes prison and deep trauma. He has come to see even his worst experiences as non‑negotiable parts of the chain that created his current life, and says he wouldn’t erase them for fear of erasing his children and present reality.

  13. 1:46:00 – 1:51:30

    Pandemic Pause: Losing Work, Depression And Facing Himself

    The pandemic stripped Walters of work and external validation, forcing him into 24/7 family life he wasn’t prepared for. He describes becoming depressed, drinking and smoking more, arguing heavily with his wife, and being confronted with habits and flaws he’d long avoided by staying busy.

  14. 1:51:30 – 2:04:00

    Fatherhood, Distance And Fear Of Repeating The Cycle

    Walters candidly addresses his shortcomings as a young father, including prison time and emotional absence, and how that has affected his relationships with his older children. He fears passing on his own distant patterns but is intent on doing better for all his kids, even as he acknowledges some damage is already done.

  15. 2:04:00 – 2:17:00

    Top Boy: Reading The Script, Representation And Global Impact

    The conversation shifts fully to Top Boy: its raw subject matter, Channel 4 cancellation, Netflix revival, and cultural influence. Walters explains why he broke his own vow not to play another street ‘bad boy’ when he read Dushane, and how the show humanised Black British crime stories in a way that resonated worldwide.

  16. 2:17:00 – 2:31:00

    Cancellation, Revival And Fighting For The Final Season

    Walters speculates on why Channel 4 originally cancelled Top Boy and reflects on the fortunate gap before its Netflix rebirth. He then describes the bittersweet feelings around ending the show, the creative battles of the last season, and the sense of cultural responsibility he and Kano carry.

  17. 2:31:00

    Legacy, Last Words And What He’d Tell His Kids

    In closing, Walters is asked what he’d say in a final phone call to his children. After a joke about chicken wings, he returns to the core wound with his own father and says the only essential message is that he loves them—a simple phrase he never exchanged with his dad.

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