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“It’s An Emergency!” The Number Of Men Having No Sex Increased 180%! - The Relationships Professor

If you enjoyed this video, you can listen to my first conversation with Scott, here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vHpZEMesriU 0:00 Intro 02:46 Understanding Men's Struggles & Addressing societal issues 05:18 Exploring biases in the education system affecting boys. 16:53 The impact of AI-driven relationships. 22:24 Tips for building real-life connections amidst online distractions. 26:33 Exploring the crisis in romantic relationships among men. 28:55 Analysing societal expectations affecting women's relationships. 31:41 The disproportionate focus on attractive men in online dating. 35:54 Tips for young men on making money and investing wisely. 43:13 Importance of diversification and starting early in investing. 44:21 Role of mentors in the development of young men. 50:09 Emphasising discipline and character in personal growth. 01:02:37 How moments of rock bottom lead to personal growth. 01:03:30 Importance of moderation and self-awareness in personal development. 01:05:40 Balancing career, fitness, and social life for holistic growth. 01:08:53 Addressing societal issues through economic reforms. 01:18:21 Modern interpretation of masculinity and romantic relationships. 01:23:09 Acknowledging challenges in online dating and building confidence. 01:25:22 Discussing the dynamics favouring the top 10% in online dating. 01:27:23 Importance of economic policies for genuine connections. 01:32:48 Valuing social connections in the workplace. 01:42:11 Discussing the need for regulation in AI and its impact on society. 01:45:49 AI's role in creating purpose beyond traditional work. 01:46:46 Exploring new job opportunities in the age of AI. 01:49:45 Discussing the effects of autonomous driving on jobs. 01:51:23 Analysing the positive impact of AI on job opportunities. Scott’s books: ‘Adrift: 100 Charts that Reveal Why America is on the Brink of Change’: https://amzn.to/47snioy 'The Algebra of Wealth, A Simple Formula for Success’: https://amzn.to/467sGvZ Follow Scott: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3NdunjW Twitter: https://bit.ly/3W9Y4Gn Listen on: Apple podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-diary-of-a-ceo-by-steven-bartlett/id1291423644 Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/7iQXmUT7XGuZSzAMjoNWlX Join my exclusive Telegram Community: https://g2ul0.app.link/SBExclusiveCommunity FOLLOW ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/steven/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SteveBartlettSC Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/steven-bartlett-56986834/ Sponsors: Wework: https://we.co/ceoworks Huel: https://g2ul0.app.link/G4RjcdKNKsb

Steven BartletthostScott Gallowayguest
Oct 2, 20231h 55mWatch on YouTube ↗

CHAPTERS

  1. 0:00 – 8:50

    Framing the Male Crisis: From Suicides to Compassion

    The conversation opens with stark UK suicide statistics and broader data about male addiction and incarceration. Galloway argues society misframes men’s suffering as a failure of character rather than a societal crisis deserving compassion, which leaves a vacuum filled by unhelpful online voices.

  2. 8:50 – 15:50

    Biology, Biased Schools, and Vanishing Male Role Models

    Galloway explains how slower male brain maturation, school discipline biases, and a shortage of male teachers disadvantage boys. He argues the key inflection point where many young men ‘come off the tracks’ is the loss of a male role model, exacerbated by incarceration and family breakdown.

  3. 15:50 – 22:00

    Economic Squeeze and Generational Shame

    The discussion turns to economic trends punishing young people, particularly men whose worth is still largely judged economically. Galloway outlines how wealth has shifted to the elderly, homeownership has become unattainable, and for the first time 30‑year‑olds are doing worse than their parents, fostering shame and rage.

  4. 22:00 – 28:30

    Galloway’s Backstory: Saved by Government and Random Men

    Galloway shares his upbringing with a single mother and how he nearly derailed without male guidance. Government support and accessible public universities, combined with multiple unrelated men who mentored him, convinced him to focus his work on helping young men.

  5. 28:30 – 37:30

    Overprotected Youth, Social Withdrawal, and the Dating Collapse

    The conversation explores how today’s sanitized, over‑programmed childhoods and digital habits reduce unsupervised socialization. Galloway connects fewer in‑person interactions, collapsing shop classes, and brutal online dating odds to male social atrophy, loneliness, and the rise of the ‘lonely, young, broke male.’

  6. 37:30 – 44:00

    AI, Sex Bots, and Digital Substitutes for Intimacy

    Galloway warns that AI, social platforms, and emerging sex‑bot technology offer low‑risk, low‑calorie substitutes for friendship, learning, and sex. These shortcuts discourage real‑world risk‑taking and deepen depression as men forgo the hard but rewarding work of building human relationships.

  7. 44:00 – 55:00

    Rejection, Porn, and Reallocating Time Capital

    Galloway reframes time as capital and urges young men to audit their phone usage, especially porn and trading apps. He positions the ability to endure rejection as the core skill for entrepreneurial and romantic success, and suggests moderating porn to keep sexual drive pointed toward real‑world engagement.

  8. 55:00 – 1:06:40

    Women’s Side of the Crisis: Shrinking Pools and Rising Loneliness

    The focus shifts to how male decline and changing gender economics affect women. Galloway explains why many accomplished women in their 30s and 40s struggle to find suitable partners despite being highly desirable, and how online dating concentrates male power at the top while leaving many women and men lonely.

  9. 1:06:40 – 1:18:20

    A Practical Playbook: Money, Work, and Living Below Your Means

    Galloway outlines a straightforward algorithm for young men to achieve economic security: focus on a viable skill, live like a stoic, and invest early and passively. He dismisses ‘follow your passion’ as dangerous if misread as turning hobbies into careers in oversubscribed fields.

  10. 1:18:20 – 1:25:50

    How to Start Investing from Almost Nothing

    For absolute beginners with a few hundred or thousand saved, Galloway offers simple, concrete investment steps. He stresses low‑fee diversification, tax‑advantaged accounts, and the astonishing power of time and compound interest, even on small sums.

  11. 1:25:50 – 1:32:10

    Male Role Models, Mentorship, and the ‘Second Family’ Reality

    Galloway becomes visibly emotional discussing the men who stepped into his life and how cultural suspicion now hampers such involvement. He argues that non‑sexual paternal and fraternal male care is overwhelmingly positive and that men must overcome stigma to mentor boys in need.

  12. 1:32:10 – 1:56:20

    Andrew Tate, Status, and the Allure of Extreme Masculinity

    Galloway gives a nuanced take on Andrew Tate, acknowledging the appeal of his early messages about fitness and accountability while condemning the misogyny and grift. This leads into a broader discussion of status games, luxury branding, and how men and women signal mating value.

  13. 1:56:20 – 2:11:00

    Defining Modern Masculinity: Protector, Provider, Procreator

    Galloway outlines his developing framework for masculinity, pushing back on both right‑wing cruelty and left‑wing ‘just act like a woman’ messaging. He sees masculinity as available to any gender and centers it on protection, provision, and respectful romantic initiation.

  14. 2:11:00 – 2:23:00

    Work, Offices, and Where People Now Meet

    Discussing remote work and loneliness, they argue workplaces are crucial sites for friendships and romantic relationships. Galloway supports remote flexibility for caregivers but believes young people should maximize time in the office to build careers and connections.

  15. 2:23:00 – 2:34:00

    Alcohol, Addiction Audits, and the Value of Pain

    The hosts explore how alcohol and other addictions interact with ambition, happiness, and rock‑bottom moments. Galloway suggests auditing addictions and using pain or ‘bottoms’ as catalysts for change, especially when building careers.

  16. 2:34:00 – 2:51:00

    Systemic Solutions: Wages, Wealth Transfer, and AI Regulation

    Returning to macro issues, Galloway argues for straightforward but politically difficult policy fixes like dramatically raising minimum wage and strengthening regulation of big tech and AI. He sees wealth concentration among the old and rich as ‘ground zero’ for many social ills.

  17. 2:51:00 – 3:07:00

    AI, Future of Work, and Vocational Paths

    In response to Daniel Ek’s question, Galloway positions himself as an AI optimist. He expects short‑term job destruction but long‑term job creation, especially for those who learn to use AI, and calls for more vocational training and less stigma around trades.

  18. 3:07:00

    Fatherhood, Modeling Behavior, and Closing Reflections

    The episode closes with Galloway’s advice to his own teenage sons and his evolving book projects on wealth and masculinity. Both men reflect on their own status games, disciplines, and the rapid rise of the show itself as they aim to use their platforms for positive cultural change.

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