The Diary of a CEO“It’s An Emergency!” The Number Of Men Having No Sex Increased 180%! - The Relationships Professor
CHAPTERS
- 0:00 – 8:50
Framing the Male Crisis: From Suicides to Compassion
The conversation opens with stark UK suicide statistics and broader data about male addiction and incarceration. Galloway argues society misframes men’s suffering as a failure of character rather than a societal crisis deserving compassion, which leaves a vacuum filled by unhelpful online voices.
- •In the UK someone dies by suicide every 90 minutes; 76% are male, and suicide is the leading cause of death for men under 45.
- •When women suffer disproportionately, we treat it as a system problem; when men do, we talk about ‘accountability’ and tell them to ‘get their act together.’
- •Men are four times more likely to be addicted and 12 times more likely to be incarcerated.
- •Talking empathetically about men’s problems is often stigmatized as anti‑woman or ‘red pill,’ deterring honest discussion.
- •Galloway insists compassion is not zero‑sum: civil rights and gay marriage did not harm the groups that already had rights.
- 8:50 – 15:50
Biology, Biased Schools, and Vanishing Male Role Models
Galloway explains how slower male brain maturation, school discipline biases, and a shortage of male teachers disadvantage boys. He argues the key inflection point where many young men ‘come off the tracks’ is the loss of a male role model, exacerbated by incarceration and family breakdown.
- •Prefrontal cortex matures slower in males: an 18‑year‑old girl has executive function similar to a 20‑year‑old boy, aiding academic performance.
- •US college cohorts start ~60/40 female/male; more men then drop out, so degrees skew even more female.
- •Boys are about twice as likely as girls to be suspended for the same infraction; Black boys are five times as likely.
- •Around 90% of primary school teachers are women; there are more female fighter pilots per capita than male kindergarten teachers.
- •The strongest predictor of a boy’s derailment is when he no longer has a male role model due to incarceration, abandonment, or absence of male educators.
- 15:50 – 22:00
Economic Squeeze and Generational Shame
The discussion turns to economic trends punishing young people, particularly men whose worth is still largely judged economically. Galloway outlines how wealth has shifted to the elderly, homeownership has become unattainable, and for the first time 30‑year‑olds are doing worse than their parents, fostering shame and rage.
- •People over 70 are 72% wealthier than 40 years ago; those under 40 are 24% less wealthy.
- •Average age of first‑time homebuyers has risen from 29 (1980) to 47 today.
- •For the first time in modern Western history, 30‑year‑olds are not doing as well as their parents did at 30.
- •Men still tend to be evaluated primarily on economic success, so these shifts hit male identity particularly hard.
- •Impacts include lower marriage and birth rates and rising suicide rates among both young men and teen girls (the latter driven by social media).
- 22:00 – 28:30
Galloway’s Backstory: Saved by Government and Random Men
Galloway shares his upbringing with a single mother and how he nearly derailed without male guidance. Government support and accessible public universities, combined with multiple unrelated men who mentored him, convinced him to focus his work on helping young men.
- •Raised by a single mother in an ‘upper‑lower‑middle‑class’ home; no resident father.
- •Pell Grants and a then‑accessible University of California system provided an educational ladder.
- •Several men—a stockbroker, baseball coach, neighbor, mother’s boyfriend—voluntarily mentored him.
- •He sees his advocacy both as a debt to those institutions/men and as a commercial ‘white space’ few are addressing.
- •Data convinces him young men have ‘fallen further, faster’ than any cohort in the US and Europe.
- 28:30 – 37:30
Overprotected Youth, Social Withdrawal, and the Dating Collapse
The conversation explores how today’s sanitized, over‑programmed childhoods and digital habits reduce unsupervised socialization. Galloway connects fewer in‑person interactions, collapsing shop classes, and brutal online dating odds to male social atrophy, loneliness, and the rise of the ‘lonely, young, broke male.’
- •Parents now fear kids won’t get into enough trouble, not too much—unsupervised play and mild rule‑breaking build resilience.
- •Teen socialization is plummeting: high‑schoolers seeing friends daily has halved; ~40% of Harvard’s incoming class are virgins.
- •Shop/auto/wood classes have disappeared, removing alternative status paths for non‑academic boys.
- •In online dating, an average‑looking man must swipe right ~1,000 times to get one date that actually shows up.
- •One in seven US men has no friends; one in four can’t name a best friend.
- •Marriage has become a class luxury: upper‑quartile earners mostly marry; lowest‑quartile mostly never do.
- •He labels the ‘lonely, young, broke male’ as society’s most dangerous archetype.
- 37:30 – 44:00
AI, Sex Bots, and Digital Substitutes for Intimacy
Galloway warns that AI, social platforms, and emerging sex‑bot technology offer low‑risk, low‑calorie substitutes for friendship, learning, and sex. These shortcuts discourage real‑world risk‑taking and deepen depression as men forgo the hard but rewarding work of building human relationships.
- •AI and big tech offer digital facsimiles: online ‘friends,’ trading as ‘learning,’ porn as ‘sex,’ all with minimal risk.
- •Life satisfaction comes from the ‘victory’ after risk and rejection, not frictionless consumption.
- •He predicts sex bots plus AI companions will soon be a massive industry, exceeding US domestic box office in revenue.
- •He recommends the film ‘Her’ as required viewing for teen boys and suggests schools teach mating dynamics as part of health education.
- •Data: Two in three women under 30 have a boyfriend; only one in three men has a girlfriend—women increasingly date older, more economically viable men.
- 44:00 – 55:00
Rejection, Porn, and Reallocating Time Capital
Galloway reframes time as capital and urges young men to audit their phone usage, especially porn and trading apps. He positions the ability to endure rejection as the core skill for entrepreneurial and romantic success, and suggests moderating porn to keep sexual drive pointed toward real‑world engagement.
- •Coaching exercise: check screen‑time and treat hours as an investment portfolio—Twitter, TikTok, porn, speculative trading are often 10–50 hours/week.
- •First reallocation: earn money via any job to build work ethic and skills.
- •Second: join activities or organizations that create random encounters with strangers for friendships and romance.
- •Third: moderate porn so sexual motivation fuels going out, not staying in.
- •He credits potential encounters with women as one reason he attended class at UCLA; unlimited porn might have reduced that drive.
- •Core thesis: success = willingness to eat rejection; those who can handle repeated ‘no’ in business and dating win.
- 55:00 – 1:06:40
Women’s Side of the Crisis: Shrinking Pools and Rising Loneliness
The focus shifts to how male decline and changing gender economics affect women. Galloway explains why many accomplished women in their 30s and 40s struggle to find suitable partners despite being highly desirable, and how online dating concentrates male power at the top while leaving many women and men lonely.
- •Women’s education and earnings have risen; in many cities, single women under 30 outearn single men, and more single women own homes.
- •‘High heels effect’: women are getting metaphorically taller (more educated, higher income); many insist on men taller literally and socioeconomically.
- •Women tend to date horizontally and up; as more women surpass men, the pool of ‘upward’ male partners shrinks yearly.
- •Online dating gives average‑looking women access to sex/attention from top 10% men, who often prefer short‑term flings (‘Porsche polygamy’) over commitment.
- •Bottom 90% of men get little attention; many women can’t find men they want to date and refuse to ‘drop standards.’
- •Women still usually maintain richer friendship networks; men without romantic partners often lack friends, perform worse professionally, and spiral more dangerously.
- 1:06:40 – 1:18:20
A Practical Playbook: Money, Work, and Living Below Your Means
Galloway outlines a straightforward algorithm for young men to achieve economic security: focus on a viable skill, live like a stoic, and invest early and passively. He dismisses ‘follow your passion’ as dangerous if misread as turning hobbies into careers in oversubscribed fields.
- •Don’t ‘follow your passion’ when passion = ultra‑competitive, low‑employment fields (acting, pro sports, restaurants).
- •Instead, choose something you’re good at with strong employment prospects (>90% employment), then apply 10,000 hours of disciplined effort.
- •Live significantly below your means early: cheap housing, basic food, walking to work—your unique advantage when you’re young and unconstrained by kids and mortgages.
- •He recounts surviving on $110/week (Top Ramen, bananas, milk) one summer to save $3,300 to stay in college.
- •Avoid consumerism’s pull (upgrades, new trainers, flights, etc.); treat frugality as a game and a character test.
- •Core to wealth is not income but the gap between income and spending, creating an ‘army of capital’ that earns while you sleep.
- 1:18:20 – 1:25:50
How to Start Investing from Almost Nothing
For absolute beginners with a few hundred or thousand saved, Galloway offers simple, concrete investment steps. He stresses low‑fee diversification, tax‑advantaged accounts, and the astonishing power of time and compound interest, even on small sums.
- •Open a brokerage account (e.g., Schwab, public.com; UK equivalents like Hargreaves Lansdown).
- •Prioritize broad, low‑fee index funds/ETFs (e.g., S&P 500 trackers) rather than stock‑picking or crypto punting.
- •Use tax‑advantaged vehicles whenever possible (US: Roth IRA, 401(k); UK: ISA, pension wrappers).
- •Limit speculative bets (individual stocks, crypto) to ≤30% of investable savings; 70%+ should be in diversified funds.
- •Time is the magic: historically, buying a small basket of S&P stocks and not trading for 10 years has never lost money, whereas ~85% of day traders lose.
- •Thought experiment: giving each baby $7,000 in a diversified account at birth would likely yield ~$1M by 65, illustrating compound interest’s power.
- 1:25:50 – 1:32:10
Male Role Models, Mentorship, and the ‘Second Family’ Reality
Galloway becomes visibly emotional discussing the men who stepped into his life and how cultural suspicion now hampers such involvement. He argues that non‑sexual paternal and fraternal male care is overwhelmingly positive and that men must overcome stigma to mentor boys in need.
- •He describes living with his mother and her boyfriend as a ‘second family’; despite moral judgments, the boyfriend was a crucial positive role model.
- •Random male figures (camp counselors, professionals, friends’ dads) taught him skills and values.
- •He insists the vast majority of male interest in mentoring boys is healthy, but scandals (Catholic Church abuse, Michael Jackson) have created blanket suspicion.
- •Key line: ‘If we want better men, we have to be better men.’
- •Opportunities to mentor are everywhere: friends’ kids, nanny’s children, local teens, etc.—most just need reassurance and guidance.
- 1:32:10 – 1:56:20
Andrew Tate, Status, and the Allure of Extreme Masculinity
Galloway gives a nuanced take on Andrew Tate, acknowledging the appeal of his early messages about fitness and accountability while condemning the misogyny and grift. This leads into a broader discussion of status games, luxury branding, and how men and women signal mating value.
- •He believes ‘the majority’ of Tate’s early messaging (fitness, accountability, action) is positive and explains his appeal to young men.
- •The harmful turn comes with treating women as property and pushing dubious get‑rich‑quick schemes (‘makes Trump University look like Harvard’).
- •Men and women both play status games rooted in mating and feeling closer to ‘God’ through beauty and luxury (e.g., Bugattis, expensive handbags).
- •Galloway candidly admits his own addiction to affirmation and signaling wealth (e.g., Aspen house, Amex Black card), and Bartlett admits similar impulses.
- •Awareness and moderation—not total renunciation—are framed as realistic goals for managing status‑seeking.
- 1:56:20 – 2:11:00
Defining Modern Masculinity: Protector, Provider, Procreator
Galloway outlines his developing framework for masculinity, pushing back on both right‑wing cruelty and left‑wing ‘just act like a woman’ messaging. He sees masculinity as available to any gender and centers it on protection, provision, and respectful romantic initiation.
- •Far right often conflates masculinity with cruelty and power (Trump, Putin, Musk), which he calls the opposite of being a man.
- •Far left can imply men should just adopt stereotypically feminine behaviors, which he sees as unsatisfying and misaligned with many women’s desires.
- •Pillar 1: Protector—men should reflexively protect others (including trans people) even when they don’t fully understand; protection > politics.
- •Pillar 2: Provider—men should work toward economic security for themselves and others; sometimes the best move is to support a higher‑earning partner.
- •Pillar 3: Procreator—men should be initiators in romance, distinguishing pursuit from predation and accepting risk and rejection as masculine responsibilities.
- •He notes masculinity/femininity traits are not exclusive to biological sex, but norms still map to most people and deserve honest discussion.
- 2:11:00 – 2:23:00
Work, Offices, and Where People Now Meet
Discussing remote work and loneliness, they argue workplaces are crucial sites for friendships and romantic relationships. Galloway supports remote flexibility for caregivers but believes young people should maximize time in the office to build careers and connections.
- •Galloway once said, ‘If you’re young, you should never be at home. Home is for sleep,’ causing viral backlash but reflecting his belief in external engagement.
- •Roughly one‑third of romantic relationships start at work; friendships at work are the strongest retention driver.
- •He supports remote work as a massive unlock for caregivers and those who can’t afford to live near offices.
- •However, he stresses that for under‑30s, physical office presence is a feature, not a bug, for mentorship, promotions, and social life.
- •He encourages companies to intentionally fund social time (e.g., his rule: if four employees are together, he’ll pick up the tab) to build culture and community.
- •He advocates reasonable boundaries: senior executives should treat office relationships as off‑limits due to power imbalance.
- 2:23:00 – 2:34:00
Alcohol, Addiction Audits, and the Value of Pain
The hosts explore how alcohol and other addictions interact with ambition, happiness, and rock‑bottom moments. Galloway suggests auditing addictions and using pain or ‘bottoms’ as catalysts for change, especially when building careers.
- •Galloway enjoys alcohol and believes many people use substances without total ruin, but addiction strongly correlates with unhappiness in longitudinal studies.
- •He advises everyone, especially young men, to audit their addictions and ask: ‘Would I be a little less shitty at things if I did less of this?’
- •During his early career push and desire to provide for his mother, he dramatically reduced alcohol and drugs to maintain ‘all‑in’ focus.
- •Bartlett notes many guest stories include rock‑bottom moments where the pain of staying the same exceeds the pain of change.
- •Galloway likens careers to rockets: most fuel is used escaping ‘atmosphere’; once you’re in orbit, momentum carries you further with less effort—early sacrifices compound.
- 2:34:00 – 2:51:00
Systemic Solutions: Wages, Wealth Transfer, and AI Regulation
Returning to macro issues, Galloway argues for straightforward but politically difficult policy fixes like dramatically raising minimum wage and strengthening regulation of big tech and AI. He sees wealth concentration among the old and rich as ‘ground zero’ for many social ills.
- •Under‑40s’ share of wealth has collapsed while over‑70s have gained; housing is ~12x more expensive than 40 years ago while incomes are ~6x.
- •He proposes dramatically increasing minimum wage; studies from Washington, California, and New York show it boosts economies and jobs, contrary to business scare‑stories.
- •Lower‑ and middle‑income people spend extra income, creating a strong multiplier effect; corporate profits might fall but social health would improve.
- •He criticizes tech companies for hiding behind claims of complexity while resisting real regulation (e.g., age‑gating social media, revisiting Section 230, antitrust action).
- •He predicts AI‑driven misinformation will heavily target elections (e.g., Putin using deepfakes and troll farms to swing the US 2024 race), and calls for regulators to get ahead of AI rather than repeat Web2 mistakes.
- 2:51:00 – 3:07:00
AI, Future of Work, and Vocational Paths
In response to Daniel Ek’s question, Galloway positions himself as an AI optimist. He expects short‑term job destruction but long‑term job creation, especially for those who learn to use AI, and calls for more vocational training and less stigma around trades.
- •He dismisses techno‑narcissism that AI will either save or destroy humanity, but warns of serious externalities like election manipulation.
- •Key line: ‘AI is not going to take your job. Someone who understands AI is going to take your job.’
- •Historically, technology (e.g., agricultural mechanization, industrial automation) eliminates some jobs but creates more, higher‑productivity ones over time.
- •Biggest immediate risk he sees: AI‑enhanced misinformation in elections, not rogue superintelligence.
- •He notes the US lags badly in vocational pathways: only ~3% of LinkedIn users are ‘apprentices’ vs ~11% in UK/Germany; 50% of Germans hold vocational certificates vs ~5% of Americans.
- •He urges expansion and rebranding of apprenticeships and trades, which are less vulnerable to AI (e.g., welders, builders can earn very good livings).
- 3:07:00
Fatherhood, Modeling Behavior, and Closing Reflections
The episode closes with Galloway’s advice to his own teenage sons and his evolving book projects on wealth and masculinity. Both men reflect on their own status games, disciplines, and the rapid rise of the show itself as they aim to use their platforms for positive cultural change.
- •Galloway tries to model, more than lecture: kindness to strangers, hard work, physical strength, taking occasional disrespect without retaliation.
- •He admits it’s easier to advise other teens than his own; adolescents naturally pull away from parents before returning later.
- •He is finishing a book on wealth (The Algebra of Wealth) and starting one on masculinity to counter ‘unfortunate voices’ filling the vacuum.
- •He emphasizes that discipline, purpose, and constant A/B testing of one’s own behaviors are central to being an ‘evolved’ person.
- •Both men acknowledge their ongoing status motivations but aim to ‘get better’ over time rather than chase perfection.
- •They end by recognizing the podcast’s explosive growth and Galloway’s role in bringing a US audience, reinforcing their mutual commitment to meaningful, evidence‑driven conversations.
