The Love Expert: The REAL Reason We’re Lonely, Loveless, Depressed - Alain De Botton, School Of Life

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

December 28, 2023

Duration

1h 29m

Channel

The Diary of a CEO

Watch on YouTube

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

If you enjoy hearing about the philosophy of life, I recommend you check out my conversation with Ryan Holiday, which you can find here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PafvhTSC4yE 0:00 Intro 02:17 What Mission Are You On? 04:48 Mental Illness & Where It Comes From 08:25 Is Happiness Something We Be Should Chasing? 14:14 How The Modern World Is increasing Suicide Rates 21:04 The Modern World Is Shining A Light On Our Own Wrong Doings 21:07 What Is Romantic Love 26:18 Why People Have Daddy Issues 29:57 How Do We Become Aware Of Our Own Destructive Cycles? 37:56 Conflict Resolution 40:49 True Love & Total Honesty 42:17 Sexless Relationships & How To Navigate Them 46:12 Why Does Sex Matter? 52:26 How Do We Stop Our Partners Getting Bored Of Us? 55:19 Core Habits A Long Last Relationship Needs 01:05:08 Can We Ever Truly Heal From Our Traumas? 01:07:18 The Power Of Distance In A Relationship 01:11:54 Ads 01:12:47 Why Did You Write A Book Called The Therapeutic Journey 01:20:44 What Is Resilience? 01:22:42 What Do You Hope People Will Learn From This Book? 01:25:44 The Last Guest's Question You can purchase Alain’s most recent book, ‘A Therapeutic Journey: Lessons from the School of Life’, here: https://amzn.to/4aFi9fd Get tickets to The Business & Life Speaking Tour: https://stevenbartlett.com/tour/ FOLLOW ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/steven/ Twitter: https://x.com/StevenBartlett?s=20 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/steven-bartlett-56986834/ Sponsors: Huel: https://my.huel.com/daily-greens-uk Flight Fund: https://bit.ly/48dvgCq

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Alain de Botton

  guest

• Steven Bartlett

  host

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Diary of a CEO, featuring Alain de Botton and Steven Bartlett, The Love Expert: The REAL Reason We’re Lonely, Loveless, Depressed - Alain De Botton, School Of Life explores alain de Botton Exposes Modern Love, Loneliness, Trauma And Healing Illusions Alain de Botton explores why modern life leaves so many people lonely, loveless and mentally unwell despite unprecedented prosperity and freedom. He argues that unprocessed emotion, childhood trauma, meritocratic pressure and romantic myths create confusion about love, happiness and self‑worth. Through practical psychological tools, he reframes love as a skill, relationships as classrooms, and mental breakdown as a meaningful – though painful – phase in a therapeutic journey. The conversation closes with his call for more self-awareness, kinder expectations of ourselves and others, and a more modest, cyclical view of mental health.

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