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The Real Trick To Long Term Motivation: Daniel Pink | E130

Daniel Pink is the best-selling author of books that show the hidden ways to motivate yourself and those around you. He’s the man behind Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us, When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing, To Sell Is Human and Free Agent Nation. His new book is all about The Power of Regret. This weeks topics: 0:00 Intro 01:05 Where do your skills come from? 06:59 How to be consistently motivated 08:37 Manifestation 11:51 How to keep people motivated 19:46 How to fuel purpose 28:16 The skill of sales 38:28 The secret to pitching 45:56 The type of sleeper you are 53:40 The Power of Regret 01:07:50 Counterfactual Thinking 01:11:50 Me & Daniel: Sharing our regrets 01:29:20 The power of experimentation and failure 01:35:46 The last guest’s question Follow us on Telegram: https://t.me/diaryofaceo Listen on: Apple podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast... Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/7iQXmUT... FOLLOW ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/steven/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SteveBartlettSC Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/steven-ba... Sponsors: Huel - https://my.huel.com/Steven Craftd - https://bit.ly/3JKOPFx

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Mar 31, 20221h 40mWatch on YouTube ↗

CHAPTERS

  1. 1:00 – 7:10

    Libraries, Language, and the Making of a Communicator

    Pink reflects on his childhood, crediting world-class public libraries and an early love of reading and words with shaping his career as a writer and communicator. He describes the craft and work ethic behind his concise style, including multiple drafts and reading his chapters aloud to his wife.

  2. 7:10 – 16:20

    Free Agents, Persistence, and Why Some People Don’t Stick With It

    Discussing his early book 'Free Agent Nation', Pink explains how his own move into self-employment led him to study the rise of independent work. He then dives into his core belief that persistence and consistency outstrip raw talent, and explores why many people fail to stay persistent.

  3. 16:20 – 23:20

    Manifestation, Self-Talk, and Evidence-Based Confidence

    Bartlett challenges the popular idea of manifestation as wishful thinking. Pink separates vague affirmations from research-backed self-talk, introducing 'interrogative self-talk' as a more effective alternative to hyped positivity, and reiterates that any mental technique is useless without serious effort.

  4. 23:20 – 35:00

    Autonomy, Mastery, Purpose: Rethinking Motivation at Work

    Pink unpacks decades of research behind his book 'Drive', arguing that 'if-then' rewards are ill-suited to most modern work. He details why autonomy, mastery, and purpose align with human nature and how organizations can use these levers to boost engagement and performance.

  5. 35:00 – 45:00

    Creating Purpose: From Customer Impact to 'Why' Conversations

    The discussion zooms into practical ways leaders can cultivate small-p purpose. Pink shares research showing that simply exposing workers to the beneficiaries of their work (like cooks seeing diners) improves performance, and he suggests concrete, low-cost leadership habits to keep purpose vivid.

  6. 45:00 – 55:00

    Everyone Is Now in Sales: Attunement, Buoyancy, and Clarity

    Building on 'To Sell Is Human', Pink argues that almost everyone is in sales now, because we constantly persuade and influence. He explains how the internet shifted power from sellers to buyers and outlines the new key skills: attunement, resilience, and the ability to define problems and curate information.

  7. 55:00 – 1:03:40

    Pitching as Collaboration, Not Performance

    Pink describes research on movie pitches that changed his view of pitching from a polished monologue to a collaborative process. Bartlett shares his own success relying on storytelling rather than 'sales decks,' and they explore how the best pitches invite the other side in as a partner.

  8. 1:03:40 – 1:20:00

    Timing, Chronotypes, and Designing Your Day Around Your Biology

    Drawing from his book 'When', Pink explains chronotypes—morning larks, night owls, and those in between—and how they shape optimal times for analytic versus creative work. Bartlett recognises himself as an owl, and they discuss how misaligned schedules and one-size-fits-all productivity advice penalize a significant slice of people.

  9. 1:20:00 – 1:33:20

    Introducing Regret: From Taboo Emotion to Transformative Tool

    The conversation pivots to Pink’s newest book, 'The Power of Regret.' He challenges the cultural mantra of 'no regrets', sharing personal examples—like failing to stand up for excluded classmates—to illustrate how regret reveals our values and can positively shape future behavior.

  10. 1:33:20 – 1:43:20

    How to Work With Regret: Self-Compassion, Disclosure, and Self-Distancing

    Pink outlines a practical, three-part framework for using regret constructively: inward (how you talk to yourself), outward (expressing the regret), and forward (extracting lessons). He and Bartlett share personal regrets—about empathy, family connection, business choices, health—to demonstrate the process in real time.

  11. 1:43:20 – 1:51:40

    Types of Regret, Counterfactual Thinking, and Social Comparison

    Pink discusses research on counterfactual thinking—imagining how things could have been different—and the four core categories of regret he found in thousands of submissions. He explains why upward counterfactuals ('if only') are painful yet useful, and warns about modern traps like social media-fueled comparison.

  12. 1:51:40 – 2:00:00

    Connection Regrets and Overcoming Awkwardness to Reach Out

    Using Bartlett’s ongoing regret about distance from his family, Pink zooms into 'connection regrets'—failing to reach out to people who matter. He dismantles common reasons for not reaching out (awkwardness, fear the other person doesn’t care) and offers a future-self test as a decision guide.

  13. 2:00:00 – 2:12:00

    Action vs. Inaction: Bias for Action and the Science of Experimentation

    Pink and Bartlett connect regret research to decision-making in business and life. They argue that we systematically overvalue planning and certainty while undervaluing action and experimentation, and they show how a scientific mindset—hypothesize, test, iterate—is a more robust way to avoid major inaction regrets.

  14. 2:12:00

    The Birth Lottery, Privilege, and Responsibility

    In response to a question left by a previous guest, Pink shares the single idea that most shaped his worldview: the 'birth lottery'. He explains how recognizing the arbitrary advantages of birth—time, place, identity—should both humble high achievers and motivate them to use their privilege to create a fairer world.

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