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Rethinking Bossy

Raise your hand if you have a child who likes to take charge. Now keep your hand raised if you’ve ever snapped “Stop being so bossy!” Hand still up? Well, Dr. Becky’s is too. And here’s the thing: You’re not a bad parent. And your kid’s not a bad kid. You have a good kid who has a hard time with flexibility. In this week’s episode, Dr. Becky discusses how to help your assertive child build the skills they need without shutting down their strong sense of self. She offers a new framework for “bossiness” and, as always, pairs her big ideas with practical parenting strategies you can use in your home right away. Two things are true: You can love that your child knows what they want and teach them how to make space for what others want, too. Join Good Inside Membership: http://www.goodinside.com Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Want More? Check these out: It's Okay Not to Share - https://youtu.be/9fYp9CTaCH8 Let’s Stop Calling Kids “Shy” - https://youtu.be/IYPM1yBQ5o4 Motherhood Doesn’t Have to Be Martyrdom - https://youtu.be/ywJMtRHzqFY Deeply Feeling Kids Need a Different Approach - https://youtu.be/WQNM5EyDtKE Yes, One-Year-Olds Have Tantrums - https://youtu.be/yE2To4sOHG8 #GoodInsidePodcast #DrBecky #parentingpodcast

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Jul 19, 202229mWatch on YouTube ↗

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Released
July 19, 2022
Duration
29m
Channel
Good Inside with Dr. Becky
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Raise your hand if you have a child who likes to take charge. Now keep your hand raised if you’ve ever snapped “Stop being so bossy!” Hand still up? Well, Dr. Becky’s is too. And here’s the thing: You’re not a bad parent. And your kid’s not a bad kid. You have a good kid who has a hard time with flexibility. In this week’s episode, Dr. Becky discusses how to help your assertive child build the skills they need without shutting down their strong sense of self. She offers a new framework for “bossiness” and, as always, pairs her big ideas with practical parenting strategies you can use in your home right away. Two things are true: You can love that your child knows what they want and teach them how to make space for what others want, too. Join Good Inside Membership: http://www.goodinside.com Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Want More? Check these out: It's Okay Not to Share - https://youtu.be/9fYp9CTaCH8 Let’s Stop Calling Kids “Shy” - https://youtu.be/IYPM1yBQ5o4 Motherhood Doesn’t Have to Be Martyrdom - https://youtu.be/ywJMtRHzqFY Deeply Feeling Kids Need a Different Approach - https://youtu.be/WQNM5EyDtKE Yes, One-Year-Olds Have Tantrums - https://youtu.be/yE2To4sOHG8 #GoodInsidePodcast #DrBecky #parentingpodcast

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  • Dr. Becky

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    Clinical psychologist and parenting educator; host of the Good Inside podcast.

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Good Inside with Dr. Becky, featuring Dr. Becky, Rethinking Bossy explores reframing “bossy” kids: build flexibility through empathy and boundaries The episode reframes “bossy” behavior—often gendered toward daughters—as a strength (strong ideas) that needs coaching, not shaming.

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