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#1 Entrepreneur Reveals the Real Secret to Success (You’re Focusing on the Wrong Thing)

What if everything you’ve been told about success is missing one key ingredient, how deeply you care? Jay sits down with David Grutman, one of the most influential names in global hospitality, who built a world-renowned empire from the ground up. Together they unpack a powerful idea that challenges conventional wisdom: what if the real secret to success isn’t detachment, but deeply caring? From his early days as a bartender to creating iconic experiences that shape culture, David reveals how taking things personally, your work, your relationships, and every detail of what you put into the world, can become a driving force for growth. While most people are taught to brush things off, David chose the opposite, turning mistakes, rejection, and feedback into fuel to sharpen his craft and raise his standards. Jay highlights how David’s success wasn’t built on titles or transactions, but on genuine human connection. From remembering a guest’s drink to building long-term relationships with artists and entrepreneurs, David reveals that real influence comes from adding value without expectation. Jay reflects on how many people chase quick wins or surface-level networking, but true impact lies in playing the long game, showing up consistently, investing in others, and creating meaningful experiences that people never forget. In this episode you'll learn: How to Turn Mistakes Into Growth How to Build Relationships That Last How to Make People Feel Seen and Valued How to Build Confidence Without a Title How to Give Feedback That Actually Works How to Stay Grounded While Winning Every setback carries a lesson, and every interaction is an opportunity to build something meaningful. When you focus on adding value, staying curious, and giving your best, you begin to create momentum that others can feel. If you’re ready to level up how you show up in life and relationships, don’t miss David Grutman’s latest book, Take It Personal. Pre-order your copy today, visit: https://zandoprojects.com/books/take-it-personal-hardcover With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:07 Why You Should Take It Personal 05:06 The Small Details That Make People Feel Seen 07:11 The Real Path to Self-Improvement 07:59 Turning Anger Into Growth 09:06 How to Give Feedback That Actually Works 11:20 Creating a 10/10 Customer Experience 12:52 Every Day Is a New Opportunity 14:33 Building Something From Nothing 16:27 The Power of Genuine Relationships 19:51 Does Networking Actually Work? 22:28 How to Play the Long Game 26:50 The Truth About Real Success 29:30 Lessons From a Difficult Childhood 30:56 Becoming the Parent You Needed 31:53 Balancing Ambition and Family Life 33:32 Evolving Into Your Next Chapter 35:54 The Power of Being a Connector 37:55 Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset 39:47 Check Your Ego at the Door 41:56 Staying Grounded While Winning 43:03 The Strength of a True Partnership 45:28 What Makes a Truly Great Idea? 46:42 What Makes Someone Worth Betting On? 48:39 Learning to Slow Down and Reflect 50:32 Finding Joy in the Present Moment 54:53 David in Final Five Episode Resources: Website | https://groothospitality.com/ Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/davegrutman/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/davidgrutman/ X | https://x.com/DaveGrutman https://www.instagram.com/jayshetty https://www.facebook.com/jayshetty/ https://x.com/jayshetty https://www.linkedin.com/in/shettyjay/ https://www.youtube.com/@JayShettyPodcast http://jayshetty.me

David GrutmanguestJay Shettyhost
Apr 8, 20261h 2mWatch on YouTube ↗

CHAPTERS

  1. 5:06 – 7:59

    Making people feel seen: the small details that build loyalty

    From bartending, David learned that remembering preferences and anticipating needs creates emotional connection. He argues that hospitality—and business in general—is won through consistent micro-moments that signal genuine care.

  2. 7:59 – 9:06

    Turning anger into real-time operational excellence

    David shares how hyper-awareness of details (music, lighting, pacing) can elevate an experience but also create tension for staff. He explains his bias toward fixing issues immediately because hospitality offers only a few chances to get a night right.

  3. 9:06 – 11:20

    Feedback that works: specificity + the “emotional bank account”

    David breaks down how to correct performance without demoralizing people. He emphasizes balancing critique with recognition, staying calm, and being concrete about what went wrong and why it matters to the guest experience.

  4. 11:20 – 14:33

    A 10/10 customer experience—and why tomorrow resets everything

    He explains that winning in nightlife and restaurants requires relentless freshness: each day is a new test. David contrasts his approach with competitors who get complacent after a big win, forgetting that customers judge you by the most recent experience.

  5. 14:33 – 16:27

    Building something from nothing: equity, risk, and first big bets

    David describes the leap from operating for others to owning, stressing that if you “turn the needle,” you should seek equity. He recounts early ventures (including bankruptcy), raising money, and the realities people miss about entrepreneurship—like not getting paid.

  6. 16:27 – 22:28

    Genuine relationships over networking: adding value without an agenda

    David and Jay critique transactional networking and emphasize authentic relationship-building. David explains that titles and business cards matter less than consistently adding value—and treating everyone at the table as important.

  7. 22:28 – 30:56

    Playing the long game: the Bad Bunny–Drake connection that came back around

    David recounts how he helped connect Bad Bunny and Drake with no immediate upside, which later returned as a major partnership opportunity. The story illustrates patience, consistency, and the compounding effect of goodwill over years.

  8. 30:56 – 33:32

    Childhood hardship, becoming the parent you needed, and prioritizing family

    David opens up about a lonely childhood after his parents’ divorce and how that shaped his desire to be present for his daughters. He discusses making family a non-negotiable priority, integrating kids into travel and life despite a demanding career.

  9. 33:32 – 41:56

    Evolving into the next chapter: investing in brands and becoming a connector at scale

    David describes his current focus on investing in emerging brands and plugging them into his hospitality ecosystem to accelerate growth. He frames connecting people and opportunities as his superpower—powered by an abundance mindset and generosity.

  10. 41:56 – 45:28

    Checking ego at the door and staying grounded while winning

    David explains how success can create bigger problems than failure by inflating ego and reducing openness to help. He shares how friends, gratitude, and especially his wife help keep him grounded—and why humility increases strength and influence.

  11. 45:28 – 54:53

    What makes a great idea—and a great person to bet on

    David contrasts instinct (“feel it in my bones”) with data-driven decisions, using a menu example where his favorite item underperformed. He also shares how he evaluates people: he looks for artists who move him emotionally and bring creative energy.

  12. 54:53

    Slowing down, telling stories, and Final Five rapid-fire lessons

    David reflects on learning presence from his kids and thoughtful creators, then discusses moving into TV/production to platform stories. The episode closes with the Final Five, including lessons on failure, self-investment, mentorship, and doing good daily.

  13. Taking mistakes personally as a shortcut to growth

    David explains why his core philosophy is to “take it personal,” even though most people advise the opposite. He shares how early career mistakes—and managers who got truly upset—became proof that pain and accountability can drive real improvement.

  14. Investing in yourself and leading without insecurity

    David describes choosing learning and leadership growth over immediate money, including taking a pay cut to become a manager. He connects poor leadership behaviors (yelling, overreacting) to insecurity and emphasizes self-improvement as the foundation for confident authority.

  15. Failure fueled by misaligned motives—and the LIV breakthrough

    David tells a cautionary story: chasing revenge and validation led to a major failure, despite big celebrity moments. He then explains how LIV succeeded when he focused on craft and execution instead of proving a point—bringing Vegas-style hospitality to Miami.

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