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Jay Shetty Podcast

FIND YOUR PURPOSE - If You Feel LOST & UNHAPPY In Life, Watch This! | Jay Shetty

Shortly after obtaining a degree in business, Jay Shetty decided to become a monk. Not only was this an unusual move, but it was met with strong disapproval from both family and friends.

Jay ShettyguestAlex Liebermanhost

Aug 12, 202247mWatch on YouTube

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Self-awareness as a career advantage after taking big risks
Jay Shetty reflects on finally getting a job after many rejections and realizing he had a major edge: deep self-awareness about his strengths, weaknesses, and direction. He frames his past decision to become a monk as a career risk that made later decisions feel less scary.
- •Jay says he faced 40 rejections before landing his first job after monk life
- •He describes self-awareness as his “greatest advantage” compared with younger peers
- •He connects fearlessness at work to having already taken a major life risk
- •He emphasizes knowing what he wanted to do and what he had to offer
Mapping a non-linear path: eight jobs and redefining when a career starts
Alex Lieberman introduces the show and Jay’s public-facing success, then Jay lists the many jobs he’s held across his life. Jay suggests people underestimate how early careers begin and recommends writing down every job to see the full picture.
- •Alex frames Jay’s path as unconventional and shaped by challenges and imposter syndrome
- •Jay lists roles from newspaper delivery and retail to monk life, consulting, media, and entrepreneurship
- •Jay recommends an exercise: write down every job you’ve ever had
- •Jay argues a career doesn’t only start after college; it starts when you choose
Childhood discipline, rebellion, and the spark of personal growth
Jay describes a strict, education-focused upbringing that built discipline, followed by a rebellious period starting in his teens. He credits his father’s introduction of biographies with shifting his mindset toward personal growth.
- •Jay says obedience, discipline, and school performance were top priorities in his family
- •He describes rebelling around age 14 and getting involved in drugs, violence, and other “stupid activities”
- •He says by 18 he felt done with that phase
- •He credits biographies and autobiographies (ranging from activists to athletes/entertainers) for inspiring personal development interest
Two competing forces: inner self-awareness vs. need for validation
Alex asks what drove Jay’s rebellious experimentation and whether he knew who he was. Jay explains he felt a guiding inner voice pulling him toward creative and intellectual interests, while insecurity and the desire to fit in pulled him toward unhealthy choices.
- •Jay describes an internal voice steering him away from paths his parents preferred
- •He says he gravitated toward art, philosophy, economics, and design
- •He links fitting in and seeking validation to joining the “wrong circles”
- •He characterizes it as self-awareness pulling one way and low self-esteem pulling another
Turning down ‘safe’ choices: business school and the pull of a true calling
Jay explains how he progressively watered down what he wanted—from music to art/design to a business degree—because of outside expectations. He says the more he suppressed what felt true, the louder it came back, culminating in a values-driven decision point at 21.
- •Jay describes ‘two lives’: the one you want vs. the one you think others want
- •He recounts moving from wanting music or art toward a management science degree as the ‘safe’ option
- •He says a ‘true calling’ can be suppressed only temporarily before returning more forcefully
- •At 21, he frames the core choice as chasing success vs. living a life of service
Choosing monk life despite social backlash—and why real experience matters
Jay describes how summers living with monks made the later decision to commit long-term feel less abrupt and more tested. He recounts strong negative reactions from friends and family, and credits mentors for giving him experiences powerful enough to outweigh external pressure.
- •Jay says the decision to become a monk felt easier after multiple summer ‘mini experiments’
- •He recounts friends misunderstanding the choice and distancing themselves, and family fearing he’d wasted education
- •He describes the choice as highly unpopular and “the least cool thing” at the time
- •He argues decisions can’t be solved purely in your head; short real-world trials teach what a path feels like
What monk life looked like: process vs. results, values vs. activities
Jay explains that modern culture judges happiness by outcomes, while his framework emphasizes alignment with values and enjoying the deeper process. He describes intense daily routines and difficult work, noting he didn’t enjoy every activity but believed it served mastering the mind and helping others.
- •Jay contrasts loving outcomes with loving the process and accepting results
- •He defines his monk goals as mastering the mind (ego, envy, comparison) and serving others
- •He details routines: early waking, long meditation, sleeping on the floor, minimal possessions, physical labor in extreme heat
- •He clarifies the difference between enjoying an activity and valuing what it builds in your intention
Why Jay left the ashram: health limits and a different kind of calling
Jay shares that pushing meditation and fasting experiments harmed his health and led to hospitalization, but he emphasizes a deeper internal mismatch. He realized long-term monastic desires—complete surrender and minimal personal expression—didn’t align with his desire to creatively translate wisdom for modern life.
- •Jay says his experimentation with meditation, fasting, and replacing sleep pushed his body too far
- •He describes being hospitalized and needing long recovery time
- •He contrasts long-term monks’ desire for complete surrender with his desire for creativity and expression
- •He says he felt called to make wisdom practical, accessible, and relevant through modern connections
Re-entering the world: feeling behind, then rebuilding structure and confidence
Jay describes leaving as feeling like a painful breakup and returning to a world where peers seemed ahead. After an initial month of overindulgence and “catching up,” he rebuilt discipline and eventually reframed his ‘behind’ status as an advantage once he landed a job after many rejections.
- •Jay says leaving felt like a divorce and brought back external ‘noise’ and doubts
- •He describes feeling behind peers in relationships, housing, and promotions
- •He recounts a month of binge catching up on music, TV, and movies before recognizing it wasn’t sustainable
- •He describes dressing up and going to the library to regain structure while preparing to re-enter work
From Accenture to mindfulness leadership: facing imposter syndrome on stage
Jay explains how, early at Accenture, he was invited to speak on social media and mindfulness and lead meditation for a large group. He describes intense imposter syndrome standing between high-profile speakers, but found validation in the group’s response and later expanded mindfulness programming across the company.
- •Jay credits a colleague who noticed his monk background and invited him to speak
- •He describes being scheduled between a Rugby World Cup winner and the UK CEO, which heightened imposter syndrome
- •He says leading a meditation for 1,000 peers taught him he wasn’t relying on title or authority
- •He recounts building internal mindfulness initiatives like meditations before meetings and recurring sessions
Reframing imposter syndrome as a skills gap—and choosing whether to close it
Jay tells Alex he expects imposter syndrome whenever someone is growing and doesn’t want it to disappear. He reframes it as information about a missing skill relative to a challenge, and adds an important filter: decide whether you actually want that skill or are just trying to impress others.
- •Jay says imposter syndrome persists if you’re learning and growing
- •He links the concept to the balance of challenge and skill, referencing a book he read
- •He suggests asking: what specific skill is being highlighted as missing?
- •He adds a second question: do you genuinely want that skill, or are you chasing it for validation?
Jay’s ‘greatest skill’: learning fast, taking risks, and relying on mentorship timing
Jay describes his strongest ability as confidence in his capacity to learn if he truly cares and applies himself. He says his trajectory wasn’t a neat strategy at the time, but a mix of intuition, action, repeated risk-taking, and pivotal mentorship relationships that changed how he thought.
- •Jay says his greatest skill is believing he can learn what he needs if he commits to it
- •He emphasizes repetition and practice as a differentiator
- •He says his career skills made sense only in hindsight, not as a master plan
- •He attributes major turning points to mentors who planted ideas at key times and stayed in his life
Financial and visa pressure after media success: pain-driven acceleration
Jay recounts an intense period around major life changes—marriage, multiple job changes, moving countries—and then the end of his work at a media company. Facing a looming visa deadline and limited savings, he aggressively sought any work available, describing how the pressure expanded his capacity and changed what he believed was possible.
- •Jay describes a year of compounding changes: marriage, switching jobs, and moving countries
- •He says his role ended when leadership changed, creating financial uncertainty and visa risk
- •He recounts reaching out broadly offering to do any kind of video work to survive
- •He says that ‘pain’ forced an accelerated stretch period that raised his ceiling year after year
Purpose, money, and staying grounded: scaling impact while protecting intention
Alex asks about criticism around monetization and the challenge of external-validation platforms. Jay says his guiding intention has been inner purification and service, and that scaling free content required building a business and reshaping his relationship with money as “energy” that can be used well or poorly. He describes grounding practices like returning annually to the ashram and staying close to people—teachers and his wife—who care about his character more than his achievements.
- •Jay says building impact at scale required operational resources and a team
- •He describes rewiring his belief that money is inherently bad, reframing it as energy
- •He says he’s comfortable letting critics hold their opinions while he holds his intentions
- •He describes returning to the ashram yearly and being held to a higher standard—‘purity of heart’—and credits his wife for loving who he is, not what he’s achieved

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