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Joe Rogan Experience #1369 - Christopher Ryan

Christopher Ryan, PhD is a psychologist, speaker, and author of New York Times best seller “Sex At Dawn” and he also hosts a podcast called “Tangentially Speaking” available on Apple Podcasts & Stitcher. His latest book “Civilized To Death” is available now: https://www.amazon.com/Civilized-Death-What-Lost-Modernity/dp/1451659105

Joe RoganhostChristopher RyanguestJamie Vernonguest
Oct 24, 20192h 17mWatch on YouTube ↗

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  1. 0:031:02

    Vanthropology: living out of a Sprinter and the freedom of the road

    1. JR

      And now, the official hello. Hello, Chris Ryan.

    2. CR

      Hello, officially.

    3. JR

      What's going on, buddy? How are you?

    4. CR

      Everything. (laughs)

    5. JR

      You distinguished-looking motherfucker. Am I distinguished? Oh, that's- What, what do you think is going on with the, the goatee, the whole deal?

    6. CR

      Yeah, it comes and goes. I don't know.

    7. JR

      (laughs)

    8. CR

      (laughs)

    9. JR

      What have you been up to, man? I've been following your Instagram chronicles. You-

    10. CR

      Have you?

    11. JR

      You, you, yeah. You're traveling the world in a van. What are you doing? (laughs)

    12. CR

      Vanthropology, I call it. It's the vanthropology tour. Yeah. Yeah, I love it, man. It's like, uh, you know, you and I have probably spoken about in my 20s, I backpacked all over the world.

    13. JR

      Mm-hmm.

    14. CR

      Hitchhiked to Alaska a couple times and, you know, did all these adventures. A Sprinter van that you have a bed in and a cooler and a freezer, that's kinda like a backpack for a older, slightly richer dude.

    15. JR

      (laughs) Right.

    16. CR

      You know, that's, that's how I look at it. 'Cause you have everything you need with you.

    17. JR

      Yeah.

    18. CR

      Which is a feeling I love. I love just being able to say, "You know what? I'm tired. I'm gonna pull over and sleep right here. And before I do, I'm gonna have a couple of beers and listen to some music." And, you know, it's like everything I need-

    19. JR

      Mm-hmm.

    20. CR

      ... is right here.

  2. 1:024:00

    Can you drink in your van? Policing, quotas, and how laws “find” people

    1. JR

      Right. Can you ... What, what is the deal with pulling over in a S- a Sprinter van and drinking? Are there a lot ... You know, like, you're not even allowed to be drunk in the backseat of your own car. You know that?

    2. CR

      Yeah, I believe uh, uh, if you have a, a bed, it's considered a domicile.

    3. JR

      Oh.

    4. CR

      That's what I've been told. I'm not a legal expert, but-

    5. JR

      Huh.

    6. CR

      ... my understanding is that, uh, the front two seats are considered the vehicle, but beyond that, in the back where you have the bed and the, all the stuff-

    7. JR

      Mm-hmm.

    8. CR

      ... that's considered your house.

    9. JR

      Oh.

    10. CR

      So, a warrant to search is, is the same as, uh, someone coming into your house.

    11. JR

      Oh.

    12. CR

      Yeah.

    13. JR

      'Cause I, I know a dude who got in trouble because he was drunk in the backseat of his car 'cause he knew he was drunk and so he was like, "I'm not fucking driving. I'm just gonna sleep it off." And he laid down in the backseat of his car, and the cops knocked on the door, and, uh, he opened up the door and he said, "Yeah, I'm drunk, and I'm sleeping off." They arrested him.

    14. CR

      That's bullshit.

    15. JR

      Yeah. Well, you know ... Uh, we- uh, co- some cops, they feel like they have to make a certain number of arrests. You know, some places have-

    16. CR

      Quotas?

    17. JR

      Yeah.

    18. CR

      Yeah.

    19. JR

      Which is w- ... I've always thought that was so strange. Like, what happens if no one commits crimes? What do they do about the quotas? Do they just make up crimes?

    20. CR

      And how do they fill those prisons-

    21. JR

      Right.

    22. CR

      ... that are, you know, dependent upon 98% occupancy rate?

    23. JR

      Yeah.

    24. CR

      Yes.

    25. JR

      They just assume that there's gonna be a certain amount of people that fuck up. Like, what happens if something happens? Some ... I mean, I don't know what it would be, other than a mass consumption of mushrooms across the entire population.

    26. CR

      Oh, if people just stop breaking laws?

    27. JR

      Yeah. Yeah, people just stop.

    28. CR

      They'll just pass the law ... I mean, every one of us breaks several laws every day, right? Like, there are laws we don't even know exist that we're breaking.

    29. JR

      Like, what kinda laws do you think?

    30. CR

      Oh, God, I don't ... I read an article about this years ago. Um, I- I- t- sh- I, I'd be hard-pressed to, to give you examples right now, but I'm sure there are financial laws. I mean, we're all cheating on our taxes. (laughs) Not me, not me.

  3. 4:007:15

    Invisible rule-breaking: WiFi squatting, terms & conditions, and data as the real commodity

    1. CR

      What about every time you click on one of ... You update some software and you click agree, I have read and agree to this?

    2. JR

      Right.

    3. CR

      You didn't read that shit. Nobody reads it.

    4. JR

      Well, that was one of the things that Snowden talked about yesterday.

    5. CR

      Oh, yeah.

    6. JR

      Yeah, about the terms and conditions-

    7. CR

      Right.

    8. JR

      ... that you, you accept, that-

    9. CR

      And who knows what's in there-

    10. JR

      Yeah.

    11. CR

      ... that then you're not complying with, you know?

    12. JR

      But you'd have to have a lawyer go over every piece of it, and then a lot of it is open to interpretation, and they can-

    13. CR

      Right.

    14. JR

      ... change it at a moment's notice.

    15. CR

      Right.

    16. JR

      One of the things that you see in terms and conditions is they have the ability to change it without notice, which is like, what ... You know?

    17. CR

      (laughs)

    18. JV

      Get that-

    19. JR

      Sam Harris had a great podcast with, uh, this guy who was an expert in data collection. He was talking about what's actually happening now is that we have ... There's a commodity, and that commodity is data, and we didn't know it was a commodity.

    20. CR

      Right.

    21. JR

      And then all of a sudden, these companies like Facebook and Google made billions and billions of dollars off of this commodity that we didn't even know we were giving up.

    22. CR

      Yeah.

    23. JR

      And we didn't know that they had it. We didn't know it was valuable. And then, you know, this is their-

    24. CR

      And there's no way to protect it.

    25. JR

      And it's their business model. Their business model is ... And then th- also their business model is tricking you into clicking on things by getting you outraged. So they're consistently-

    26. CR

      Hmm.

    27. JR

      ... bringing up things, whether it's, you know, Trump or abortion or what- whatever it is that, like, gets you riled up, that outrage algorithm-

    28. CR

      Right.

    29. JR

      ... is gonna find your little soft spot.

    30. CR

      Yeah.

  4. 7:1512:48

    Human nature is contextual: the H2O analogy and “different people” in different settings

    1. CR

      I... And we vary not only individually, but I think we vary, uh... We become different creatures in different conditions.

    2. JR

      Sure.

    3. CR

      So people sometimes will ask me, like, "What's your... You know, what is human nature? What's your opinion, you know, based on these books?" And I say it's like asking what's the natural state of H2O?

    4. JR

      (laughs) Right.

    5. CR

      Right?

    6. JR

      Is it boiling? Is it ice?

    7. CR

      Exactly. What are the-

    8. JR

      Right. Right.

    9. CR

      What's the pressure? What's the altitude?

    10. JR

      Yeah. Yeah.

    11. CR

      And-

    12. JR

      Don't you feel like you're different people with different people as well?

    13. CR

      Yeah. Yeah, I had a girlfriend, um, a Spanish... She was s- sh- her mother was French, her father was Catalan. She was raised in Spain and then lived in Miami, uh, when she was 13 to 15 or something. So she spoke English really well, Spanish, French, and Catalan perfectly, right? And we were living in San Francisco. And I was high. I was, I was smoking a joint. She was across the room talking to her mom on the phone in French. And then her mom put her dad on the phone, so she switched to Catalan. And, and I was just high enough that I noticed, like, "Wow, that's not Peggy talking two different languages," and then three 'cause she would, like, put her hand on the phone and say, "Ah, my mom said..." da, da, da. So English, French, Catalan. It's not Peggy speaking three languages. Those are three different Peggys.

    14. JR

      Mm.

    15. CR

      She's different. Her facial tics and her movements and her body position changed depending on the language she was speaking, right? And at the time, I was in grad school, and, um, I thought, "This is like multiple personality disorder." So I started researching multiple personality, and I g- I sort of came up with this idea that language, in her case, because she learned them all when she was very young, reconfigures the brain in such a way that she actually has different identities in those languages.

    16. JR

      Mm.

    17. CR

      And next time we were fucking, I started talking to her in Spanish and she freaked out. She-

    18. JR

      She got at you?

    19. CR

      Yeah, she... (laughs) Like, like I was s- I was a stranger suddenly.

    20. JR

      Whoa.

    21. CR

      Yeah. I wa- I just said s- I didn't... You know, I just said, like, "You're beautiful," or something. She's like, "Ah, get away." E- e- es muy guapa.

    22. JR

      Wow.

    23. CR

      Eres muy guapa. Like, "Get away from me, you creep." Like-

    24. JR

      We-

    25. CR

      'Cause our whole relationship had been in English.

    26. JR

      Mm.

    27. CR

      Yeah. Yeah, it was strange. So anyway, so I looked into-

    28. JR

      (laughs)

    29. CR

      ... multiple personality disorder (laughs) . This story has everything. Uh, and y- I don't know if you, if you've checked that out.

    30. JR

      No.

  5. 12:4813:02

    Language, identity, and dissociation: “three different Peggys” and multiple personalities

    1. CR

      And we don't know how the fuck that works. We know that hypnosis, people can have open heart surgery under hypnosis, or have limbs amputated, or all sorts of amazing things with no anesthesia whatsoever.

    2. JR

      Has that really been done?

    3. CR

      Oh, yeah. Yeah.

    4. JR

      Wow.

    5. CR

      Yeah.

  6. 13:0224:55

    Placebo, hypnosis, and healing: belief as an adaptive tool (and modern vulnerability)

    1. JR

      Have you ever been hypnotized?

    2. CR

      Yeah. But I, I don't have high hypnotic ability.

    3. JR

      Mm.

    4. CR

      That differs, uh, it's another thing that differs among people. And Stanley actually has a really interesting theory, uh, along those lines, which is that in, uh, prehistoric populations, hypnotic ability would be, um, uh, adaptive because a lot of the healing rituals were keying into placebo response. Uh, so if we have a certain ritual, if you're susceptible to the, you know, you believe in that, like voodoo. Uh, there's a-

    5. JR

      Mm.

    6. CR

      ... you know, voodoo death, people die-

    7. JR

      Yeah.

    8. CR

      ... when their, uh, spell is cast or occurs.

    9. JR

      They believe it. Yeah.

    10. CR

      'Cause they believe it. If you don't believe it, it doesn't happen. So it happens, uh, the opposite direction as well with healing. So his, his idea is that that would've been a very adaptive, um, characteristic in prehistoric societies, whereas in contemporary societies, it's maladaptive.

    11. JR

      Mm.

    12. CR

      Because you're more susceptible to advertising or you're easier to manipulate.

    13. JR

      Ah, yeah. Hmm.

    14. CR

      Yeah. So I, uh, yeah, I've, I've, uh, when I was in grad school, I had some professors who worked with hypnosis, and I studied it a bit, uh, along the same, around the same time I was looking at multiple personality disorder. 'Cause I was real interested in this question of how the brain and the body interact, how much of, you know, there's all this research showing that people with the same, um, condition in, in hospitals, exactly the same age, same prognosis and all that, they heal significantly faster if their hospital window looks out on trees as opposed to it looks out at another building.

    15. JR

      Mm, that makes sense.

    16. CR

      Something like that.

    17. JR

      Yeah.

    18. CR

      Just looking at something like nature-

    19. JR

      Yeah.

    20. CR

      ... keys the body into s- to some sort of energy that, that helps it to heal.

    21. JR

      Completely makes sense. I've met people with multiple personalities. Well, Roseanne, Roseanne's got mul- doesn't she? G- l- make sure that's true. Um, uh, I know another one that's a weird one is, uh, the football player Herschel Walker. I think he had trauma-induced multiple personality disorders.

    22. CR

      Wow.

    23. JR

      Does she?

    24. JV

      There's a article that says, like, Bill B- Bill Maher reminds us she does, and then Roseanne says she doesn't, so...

    25. JR

      Yeah, I think she does.

    26. JV

      And then this 2001 says seven, having seven personalities is tough, her saying it, so...

    27. JR

      Yeah.

    28. CR

      Hmm.

    29. JR

      Uh, well, here's the thing about Roseanne, I mean, uh, and I'm, I'm saying this for the tenth time, I guess. She was hit by a car when she was 15, and she was put in a mental institute for nine months afterwards. She had severe brain damage, and she lost her ability to do mathematics, and, like, it really scrambled her brain. And that is p- the, probably the birth of the Roseanne that we know, the comedian. And, um, that's also the case with Sam Kinison. Sam Kinison was also, uh, like a pretty normal kid, and then he was hit by a car, and, you know, pretty severe brain damage as well. And, um, brain damage for w- especially, um, apparently, uh, it has a c- it, uh, especially has an impact on, um, your ability to be, uh, rational and impulsive behavior, it, like, people with brain damage a lot of the times get very impulsive. It's-

    30. CR

      Yeah.

  7. 24:5535:27

    Pleasure vs discipline: fitness culture, runner’s high, dogs, and the “sex high”

    1. JR

      Y- you're not a guy that really spends a lotta time working on fitness or-

    2. CR

      (laughs)

    3. JR

      ... health or any o- any of those-

    4. CR

      That's a nice way to put it.

    5. JR

      Well, you, you enjoyed that article-

    6. CR

      (laughs)

    7. JR

      ... that I wrote back in the day.

    8. CR

      Lazy fuck is what I-

    9. JR

      I wasn't gonna say that, man.

    10. CR

      ... is what you're trying to say.

    11. JR

      I love you.

    12. CR

      (laughs)

    13. JR

      But, uh, w- I-

    14. CR

      I take it as a compliment.

    15. JR

      (laughs) You enjoyed-

    16. CR

      I got better things to do than work out, Joe.

    17. JR

      (laughs) I get it. Um, you enjoyed that article that I wrote a long time ago-

    18. CR

      I did. The-

    19. JR

      ... about th-

    20. CR

      ... the sand-

    21. JR

      Yeah, human body's like a sandcastle.

    22. CR

      Yeah, yeah.

    23. JR

      Like, you, you can make it beautiful, but it's not gonna last.

    24. CR

      Yeah.

    25. JR

      It's y- and you know that going in. You know that while you're doing it.

    26. CR

      Yeah. And I, uh, and, I mean, I've got this idea for a book, m- m- if I keep writing books, uh, which is sort of a self-help book, but it's a parody of self-help books. And so it'll be, it'll be calling attention to the way so much of what we do to try to be healthy is actually counterproductive 'cause we stress.

    27. JR

      Mm. Yeah.

    28. CR

      Especially Americans. Everything's work.

    29. JR

      Sure, sure.

    30. CR

      You know?

  8. 35:2746:14

    Mob mentality and the “smell in the air”: riots, brawls, and war-mode psychology

    1. JR

      You know what fascinates me, man? Mob mentality.

    2. CR

      Yeah.

    3. JR

      A mob mentality like, uh, like, you know, if there's, like, a riot, uh, uh, like, physical violence-

    4. CR

      Yeah.

    5. JR

      ... but in, in a way that you would never, like, there're a lot of people who would never think about hitting someone when people are hitting people all over the place, you'll just dive in. Like, people will dive in and kick people and punch people.

    6. CR

      Hm.

    7. JR

      It's very weird.

    8. CR

      Like bar fights you see?

    9. JR

      Mm-hmm. Yeah.

    10. CR

      I've, I've never seen one in real life. I've seen 'em-

    11. JR

      Oh, I've seen a bunch of them.

    12. CR

      Have you? Does that happen? People just randomly-

    13. JR

      Oh, yeah.

    14. CR

      ... punching each other?

    15. JR

      Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. People just punch people. Yeah. I've seen some-

    16. CR

      That's bizarre.

    17. JR

      ... I've seen some pretty chaotic brawls. It's, uh, it's, uh, but there's a strange feeling in the air. It's almost like a smell. You know, like, you, Jim, you're nodding.

    18. JV

      Yeah, I was in a, at a riot and that, earlier the da- in the day, we s- like, we were like, "The hornet's nest is gonna explode tonight." We kinda felt it.

    19. CR

      Hm.

    20. JR

      What was the premise? What was the-

    21. JV

      This was, uh, after the Ohio State/Michigan game in, like, 2002. Big Ohio State/Michigan game, I know you don't really understand the football thing of it, but they're, it's a huge day, big event, uh, we won in a very close game, undefeated season for Ohio State so they're headed to the national championship. This then meant s- uh, sofas on fire in the street for, like, the next couple of hours. And then shortly, uh, as the night exploded, uh, there was a couple bonfires in the middle of the street.

    22. JR

      ... we went, we heard or saw it on the news, so we went close to see it 'cause we were a couple blocks away. As we got close, we heard the knee-knocker bullets getting fired out, so everybody scattered.

    23. CR

      Were those rubber bullets?

    24. JR

      Yeah, from like ... So, w- everyone went from one street on campus to, like, three other streets. Then it started up again. The street I was on, seven cars got flipped over, I think-

    25. CR

      (laughs)

    26. JR

      ... a- and lit on fire. So people started trying to, like, move their cars so they didn't lose it-

    27. CR

      Oh.

    28. JR

      ... 'cause they're college kids, don't have any money, whatever. A lot of those people got caught on video, s- expelled from school, whatever. But at the end of that street, I was ... uh, we were on it. Uh, we saw all the riot police, the SWAT team, like, lining up. They started firing out tear gas everywhere. A tear gas canister ended up on the porch of the house we were in. Like, exploded in the house almost, so, like, we were all coughing and had to get the fuck out of there.

    29. CR

      Wow.

    30. JR

      Lasted for a couple hours. Like, no one died or anything like that. There wasn't a lot of violence, but just 12 to 15 cars got fucked up.

  9. 46:1449:16

    Dunbar’s number and hunter-gatherer accountability: why small groups worked

    1. CR

      150.

    2. JR

      Okay, right.

    3. CR

      That's Dunbar's number.

    4. JR

      Dunbar's number. Yeah. (laughs)

    5. CR

      Yeah. Yeah. I'm sure you've heard about that.

    6. JR

      Yeah, I mean, that might really be it. That might be real- really be what we're programmed for.

    7. CR

      Well, that's what hunter-gatherer, that's where hunter-gatherer groups always splinter.

    8. JR

      Yeah.

    9. CR

      Where they never get beyond that. And I think that's why because, uh, you know, a hunter-gatherer group, which is egalitarian and sharing and cooperative and all that, uh, by necessity, right? 'Cause that's how our ancestors survived is by taking care of each other, mitigating risk. Um, you need reputational damage. And if everyone doesn't know everyone, reputational damage n- is no longer effective. So, if you ... Let's say you go and you're, you're a good hunter and you kill an antelope and then you don't share it and you just keep it for yourself, that's not gonna go over real well with the hunter-gatherer group.

    10. JR

      Right.

    11. CR

      You're, you're gonna be, uh, ridiculed, chastised, maybe expelled from the group, maybe have a hunting accident and die, uh, because that hoarding, selfish behavior is extremely taboo in a hunter-gatherer society.

    12. JR

      Mm-hmm.

    13. CR

      Whereas, you know, you look at our society, uh, where reputational damage is no longer, uh, functional outside of your group of friends. As long as you're good to your friends, your golfing buddies, you can screw the rest of the world. Yo- you can not pay your contractors for years-

    14. JR

      Right, right.

    15. CR

      ... and become president.

    16. JR

      Right.

    17. CR

      You know? Everyone-

    18. JR

      (laughs) Yeah.

    19. CR

      Everyone in New York-

    20. JR

      Mm-hmm.

    21. CR

      I, I worked in real estate in New York in the '80s. Everyone knew who that guy was and what-

    22. JR

      Right.

    23. CR

      ... he was up to and that you couldn't trust him, he was full of shit, and that he ripped everybody off. And, but that's how business works in New York. Even the, the company I was working for, it was really interesting to see how your leverage, uh, increased when you owed somebody a lot of money. You know? There's, there's that-

    24. JR

      Of course.

    25. CR

      ... truism if you owe someone five bucks, you have a problem. If you owe them a million bucks, they have a problem.

    26. JR

      Mm-hmm.

    27. CR

      You know?

    28. JR

      Right, right, right.

    29. CR

      You really see that. But yeah, I th- I think it's 150 is, is the cutoff for how many people we can keep track of, I think. Dunbar's number has proved to be pretty accurate.

    30. JR

      Well, it seems to be what we're, what we evolved-... to, sort of, be accustomed to, right?

  10. 49:1654:39

    Audiobooks and author voice: re-recording Sex at Dawn and the “director’s cut” idea

    1. CR

      Uh, I'm thinking I might do, uh ... I did the audiobook of Civilized to Death, which I, I really enjoyed that process. I'm thinking I might do a 10th anniversary director's cut audiobook of Sex at Dawn.

    2. JR

      Did you do the audio version?

    3. CR

      No.

    4. JR

      Who did?

    5. CR

      Actors.

    6. JR

      Oh, yuck.

    7. CR

      Yeah.

    8. JR

      Oh, yuck.

    9. CR

      Yeah.

    10. JR

      My friend Steve Rinella, he wrote a book on buffalo, the American buffalo, you know, just the history of buffalo in this country. And, um, someone else wrote it, and he finally got the rights back, and he-

    11. CR

      Yeah.

    12. JR

      ... he did it himself now.

    13. CR

      Yeah.

    14. JR

      But it just killed-

    15. CR

      That's, that's what I'm gonna do.

    16. JR

      ... killed him because the person who read it w- was, like, a soap opera actor.

    17. CR

      Right.

    18. JR

      Had no connection to the material at all.

    19. CR

      And in Sex at Dawn, there's a lot, there are a lot of jokes and, and, you know-

    20. JR

      Yeah.

    21. CR

      ... sort of wry asides and stuff, and the people who read it, they, they don't get it. They didn't get-

    22. JR

      Mm-hmm.

    23. CR

      ... the humor. So it's just the straight ahead ... It's as if, you know, someone took your comedy material and just read it in a monotone. It's like-

    24. JR

      That's called-

    25. CR

      ... come on.

    26. JR

      ... criticizing me in a blog. (laughs)

    27. CR

      (laughs) Yeah.

    28. JR

      That's what they do. Someone takes it and just puts it in quotes like that.

    29. CR

      Yeah. Yeah, good point. Yeah, there's no delivery there.

    30. JR

      Yeah.

  11. 54:3958:27

    Werner Herzog, Grizzly Man, and the comedy/darkness of obsession

    1. CR

      Who else? Have you met Werner Herzog?

    2. JR

      I have not. No, I'd love to.

    3. CR

      Are you into him?

    4. JR

      Yes, yes.

    5. CR

      He's a, he's a character-

    6. JR

      Grizzly Man is one of my all-time favorite movies.

    7. CR

      Yeah. Me too.

    8. JR

      (laughs) It's one of the best unintentional comedies ever-

    9. CR

      (laughs)

    10. JR

      ... but I don't think it's particularly unintentional. There's a fucking moment in that-

    11. CR

      Yeah.

    12. JR

      ... film where the sheriff, when the sheriff's talking about, like, the body and they car- carrying the body off in bags-

    13. CR

      Yeah.

    14. JR

      ... he's like, "W- you know, what did you think?" "Well, first time I heard about it, I thought he was retarded."

    15. CR

      (laughs)

    16. JR

      And then the ca- just has a smash cut to the sheriff's face, and I'm fucking howling.

    17. CR

      Yeah.

    18. JR

      I'm howling laughing. And I'm like, "This guy did this on purpose." Like, there's so many cuts in this movie that are so humorous-

    19. CR

      Yeah.

    20. JR

      ... I gotta think that... And Werner Herzog, have you ever heard him on Eric Weinstein's podcast?

    21. CR

      No.

    22. JR

      Brilliant guy. Real-

    23. CR

      Oh, yeah, he's-

    24. JR

      Really interesting, intense guy.

    25. CR

      And very dark sense of humor.

    26. JR

      Oh, yeah.

    27. CR

      Yeah.

    28. JR

      Yeah. Well, that's why I thought, I was like, "This motherfucker did this on purpose."

    29. CR

      Yeah.

    30. JR

      "He made this a comedy."

  12. 58:271:03:09

    Closeted identity, Hollywood casting reality, and how culture shapes “acceptable” roles

    1. JR

      Well, that leap, man, that coming out leap, fuck, it's gotta be so hard for people. I, I know several guys that are closeted, and it's torturous.

    2. CR

      Yeah.

    3. JR

      Torturous to see. And one of them d- s- you know, I've talked to him. I was like, "Just come out, man. No one gives a fuck. We don't care."

    4. CR

      Yeah.

    5. JR

      "No one cares. You'll, you'll, it'll be a giant relief."

    6. CR

      Yeah.

    7. JR

      Just, they worry about... Especially c- you know, actors.

    8. CR

      Yeah.

    9. JR

      You know, they worry about their careers.

    10. CR

      Yeah. Yeah, I mean, wha- (laughs) You know, when your career's more important than the, the integrity of yourself.

    11. JR

      But I don't think it hurts who- I don't believe it. Uh-

    12. CR

      Yeah.

    13. JR

      ... I don't believe it. The only thing that would hurt with actors is leading man roles.

    14. CR

      Yeah, Rock Hudson kind of guy.

    15. JR

      Yeah, leading-

    16. CR

      Yeah.

    17. JR

      That's one thing that's fucking real. Like, if you're a... Like, I don't know if Tom Cruise is gay, but that's always been th- a s- a stupid rumor, right?

    18. CR

      Right.

    19. JR

      Let's, like, let's assume it's true.

    20. CR

      Yeah.

    21. JR

      If he did come out of the closet, man, nobody wants to go see a movie where he's the leading man and he's got a wife and kids. You'd be like, "That guy's sucking dick!"

    22. CR

      (laughs)

    23. JR

      Like, he would (laughs) he would, he would never buy into it. That's the w-

    24. CR

      Yeah.

    25. JR

      Like, a, a gay woman, like Jodie Foster, okay-

    26. CR

      Right.

    27. JR

      ... could easily play a straight woman-

    28. CR

      Right.

    29. JR

      ... in a movie, and no one would care.

    30. CR

      Sure. Yeah.

  13. 1:03:091:20:25

    Hunting as responsibility: Hawaii deer & pig hunts, ethics of bows vs rifles, and moving to Colorado

    1. JR

      Really?

    2. CR

      ... you and I spoke. Yeah. Uh, bow hunting.

    3. JR

      You went bow hunting?

    4. CR

      Yeah. Yeah. Uh, on Hawaii, Big Island.

    5. JR

      Oh, you ...

    6. CR

      I actually went on two trips.

    7. JR

      Didn't you go with, uh, Kyle Kingsbury-

    8. CR

      Yeah.

    9. JR

      ... and Ben Greenfield and all those guys?

    10. CR

      That was a deer, uh, axis deer trip to Molokai.

    11. JR

      You have a bow?

    12. CR

      I do.

    13. JR

      How, how do you ... How often do you practice?

    14. CR

      Uh, since I went hunting, not much, but before I went, every day. Yeah. I was, I was into it.

    15. JR

      Did you have a coach?

    16. CR

      Nope. Uh, I had some friends who, you know, uh, helped me out, and, um, I watched some, you know, uh, Cam, your buddy-

    17. JR

      Cam Harran?

    18. CR

      Yeah, I watched some of his videos.

    19. JR

      Cam Haines. (clears throat)

    20. CR

      Um, but, uh, yeah. It was an, it was an interesting experience. So first I went on that, uh, trip with, um, yeah, Peter ...

    21. JR

      Atia?

    22. CR

      ... Atia and Ben Greenfield.

    23. JR

      Mm-hmm.

    24. CR

      Like, all these podcast human optimization guys.

    25. JR

      Who set, who set that whole thing up?

    26. CR

      Uh, my buddy Kyle Tirman. He's a big wave surfer.

    27. JR

      Oh, okay.

    28. CR

      Uh, he spends a lot of time in Hawaii, and he knows a lot of people there. Uh, Healey? Geoff Healey, I think?

    29. JR

      Mm-hmm.

    30. CR

      Big, big surfer dude. Anyway, so he knew all these people, and I guess, uh, uh, Aubrey and some other ... those guys sort of asked him to hook them up with a trip.

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