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Lewis HowesREWIRE Your Brain & MANIFEST ANYTHING in 7 Days! Overcome Negative Thoughts w/ The Mindset Masters
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70 min read · 13,534 words- 0:00 – 3:01
Intro
- LHLewis Howes
Welcome back to The School of Greatness. My name is Lewis Howes, and if you are looking to rewire your brain for success and abundance, this is for you. In this conversation, we are learning how to shift your mind to attract more abundance into your life today. We have three powerful guest segments from some of the most favorite guests of The School of Greatness of all time. And our first expert is a New York Times bestselling author, researcher, and international lecturer. Our second guest has one of the biggest growing podcasts of the year and is taking over social media with life-changing tips and resources. And our third guest sold over 35 million copies of their book worldwide, and this was the first in-person interview since they were on Oprah in 2007. And again, we're gonna break down what these three experts have to say and how you can start harnessing the power of your thoughts to break free from your negativity to attract more in your life. In this first segment, we have someone who has helped many people break free from negative thought patterns, heal, and help them thrive in their life. His name is Dr. Joe Dispenza, and he shares his insights on the importance of shifting your focus from fear and competition to states of creativity, abundance, and transforming how you approach challenges and opportunities in your life. Let's go ahead and dive into this first moment. And what happens if we create, try to create from survival emotions?
- SPSpeaker
It just takes a long time. You just, you, you'll just force it.
- LHLewis Howes
Sure. Little at sp- little steps at a time in the physical world.
- SPSpeaker
You'll force it.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
You'll, you'll force it. You'll fight for it. You'll compete for it, and you'll manipulate. You'll cheat. You'll lie. Uh, you'll do anything to get what you want because that's what matter does when it's trying to change matter, and everybody's, everybody's playing that game, right? Everybody's trying to c- accumulate the most amount of things.
- LHLewis Howes
Right.
- SPSpeaker
Okay, so that's what abundance means to certain people. Get as many things as you can. Okay, you want that? Not a problem, but let's learn the formula of how to create, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
So then, so then you'd have to feel those emotions before the experience occurred, and if you understood that you could dissociate all of your attention from this three-dimensional reality and have no attention on anything known, and understand it's the field that creates matter-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... not matter that emits the field, and if you could get to that place and change your energy with a clear intention and elevated emotion, your heart starts beating in this beautiful rhythm like a drum. We've measured it so many times, and when that occurs, the next thing that happens, the heart informs the brain it's safe to create now.
- LHLewis Howes
[exhales] Gosh.
- SPSpeaker
So the person relaxes into the present moment, and then we see this, like, if you took a big sheet, you know, and, or blanket, and you went like that, the energy of the heart actually informs the brain to move into these beautiful, elegant states of alpha brainwave patterns.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
Coherent alpha, and that's saying, "What's the next dream?"
- 3:01 – 5:53
The Creative Process
- SPSpeaker
What is it, the ne- what's the next opportunity you want to experience? That's a state of creation. So now you have a Wi-Fi signal. You got a coherent brain. That's a directive. That's a signal out, and you got this coherent heart. That's what draws it to us, right? You combine those two, and if there's a vibrational match between your energy and that potential in the quantum field, and you're feeling abundant, and whatever your brain associates with being abundant, that's your call. That's what the creative process is. This is the creative center. The brain, frontal lobe actually says, "What would it be like to be creative or, or abundant?" I don't know what it'd be like to be abundant. Well, then go read a few books-
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
... on people who, who actually became abundant and realize it wasn't a glorious process.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
They failed miserably. They l- got, they got betrayed. They learned a lot of lessons, but they persevered.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
And what are the qualities of that person that you could embody? That, that's the key, right? 'Cause it's, it's not about wealth. It's who you become.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Right? 'Cause people think this is about their wealth, but it's the becoming process. It's the overcoming-
- LHLewis Howes
That attracted that, right?
- SPSpeaker
Of course. So then, so then you gotta turn the battleship around because most people say, "I can't feel grateful for my wealth 'cause it hasn't happened yet." That's the hypnosis, waiting for the experience to happen to feel grateful. Well, that's Newtonian. That's three-dimensional reality. That's cause and effect. In quantum, you gotta feel it in order for you to experience it, okay? So this heart becomes like an amplifier, and it sends that signal out, and that frequency can carry the thought of your abundance. Can't, suffering cannot carry the thought of your abundance. Lack cannot carry the thought of your abundance. It's, it's a different frequency, right? We feel different feelings like suffering. We think different thoughts, right? So, so people can say, "I'm abundant. I'm abundant. I'm abundant. I'm abundant," all they want, but that thought is never making it to the body because it's stopping at the brainstem because the body's saying, "I'm miserable. I'm unhappy."
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
"I'm in lack," right? So, so the affirmation doesn't work, right? Okay, so let's go one step further.
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
So if you practice this and you actually understood, you know... Well, we teach this pretty well, but if you, you, if you learned it just like learning how to play handball or learning how to hit a golf ball, learning how to dance the salsa, if you just practice the formula and you got really good at it, if you were doing it properly, then what would be the outcome? The experiment of being abundant would be that you would have to feel that feeling. It's so good at doing it with your eyes closed.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
You gotta do it with your eyes open. Now, why? [laughs] Because if you're feeling the feelings of your emotions of your future, you're no longer looking for them. You only-
- LHLewis Howes
'Cause you're in the future now
- SPSpeaker
... your f- your body is so objective that it's believing it's living in that reality-
- LHLewis Howes
Yes
- SPSpeaker
... where you are abundant, and as long as you feel that emotion, you're
- 5:53 – 8:41
Shifting from Lack to Abundance
- SPSpeaker
not separate from it any longer. You're no longer in lack. You're no longer looking for it to cur- occur, say, "Why hasn't it happened yet?" If you're feeling abundant, why would you look? Right? Yeah, we would, we wouldn't-
- LHLewis Howes
Right.
- SPSpeaker
So, so, so then our job then is to be able to maintain that modified state of mind and body. So okay, so does that mean, like, you should check your bank account tomorrow and see if there's a half a million dollars in it? No. You keep tuning into that potential, and then here come the synchronicities.
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
What's that? That's feedback in your environment. It's the universe saying, "Hey, Lewis, whatever you're doing, all of a sudden-
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
... you're starting to create," right?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
And I think it's so important for people to remember that they're the creators of their lives instead of the victim of their lives, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah, mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
So the victim is saying, "I'm feeling this way because that person or that circumstance, or I don't have any money, is causing me to feel this way. That's my relationship with money." What that really means is I'm using my lack to reaffirm my dependency, my addiction, my conditioning. That's my relationship with money, is that I put my attention on money because I don't have it.
- LHLewis Howes
Hmm.
- SPSpeaker
So their relationship with money is of course built on lack.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
And so when they don't have it, they feel bad. And what they're really saying is, "My outer environment, my reality is actually controlling the way I feel-
- LHLewis Howes
Hmm.
- SPSpeaker
"and the way I think."
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
So Lewis, why are you in a good mood today? Things are going good. Why in a bad mood? Things are going bad today. So this unconscious program of victimization is saying that, that, that we're, we're allowing our environment to influence the way we feel and the way we think. Isn't that, isn't that what victimization is? And, and the stronger the emotion we have to our lack, the more we put our attention on the fact that we don't have it, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
So then the person has forgotten that they're creating reality because what they're creating is lack, and they're creating more of it. And then they try harder, and they force harder, and they control more.
- LHLewis Howes
And they're more exhausted.
- SPSpeaker
More.
- LHLewis Howes
And their body's tired, and their brains-
- SPSpeaker
And they're breaking down and... Right. So, so the experiment then is let's try it another way. Let's create from the field instead of from matter. Get a coherent heart, get a coherent brain. Relax in the heart, and energy moves right into the brain. We've measured this a thousand times. And all of a sudden the person moves into these beautiful, elegant brainwave states where they're super creative, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
So the, the longer you're conscious of that energy, the more you draw that future to you. So then what does the synchronicity mean? It means whatever you're doing inside of you is producing that effect outside of you. Pay attention to what you did.
- LHLewis Howes
Keep doing it. [laughs]
- SPSpeaker
And do it again.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- 8:41 – 11:47
Creating Abundance and Changing Your Personal Reality
- SPSpeaker
comes the promotion. Here comes the, here comes the email.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
Here comes the person you meet at the right time.
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
Right? Whoa, we have something happening here. And then that, that becomes the momentum, right? So then we generate abundance. That's, that's how we do it. And the relationship-
- LHLewis Howes
It doesn't just happen by accident. We generate it.
- SPSpeaker
We generate abundance, right? So then if you have an hour meditation where you're tuning into your abundant future, but then you're spending the other 15 hours a day in lack, don't expect anything to change. You defaulted.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
You're back to the old energy. And if you say it's that person or that circumstance or that bank account, I'm gonna say you're back to the unconscious program of being a victim, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
So then, so then, so then let's go a step further. If your personality creates your personal reality, and it does. And your personality is made up of how you think, how you act, and how you feel, then the present personality who's listening to this podcast has created the present personal reality called their life. Nothing big there. Which means if you wanna change your personal reality, you're gonna have to change your personality.
- LHLewis Howes
Right.
- SPSpeaker
Nothing changes in your life until you change, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
So then 95% of who we are is, is on autopilot, right? It's, it's, uh, programmed thoughts, hardwired thoughts, beliefs, perceptions, unconscious habits and behaviors. And really, really emotional responses that tend to be really knee-jerk and automatic, right? So if 95% of who we are is a set of unconscious programs, then the first step to change is becoming conscious of those unconscious thoughts. Now people think when they sit down to do the work and make their change that they're, they're doing something wrong. No. Those thoughts have to come up. I can't. I'm not worthy. It's never gonna work. But a person who's truly persevering towards their abundance realizes just because they have that thought doesn't mean it's true. They're curious on what's on the other side of that thought. Ah, well that's just the thought, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
And nerve cells that no longer fire together, no longer wire together. So you keep moving past that thought. It gets, it has less and less power over you, right? Uh, now you're, you have power over it. Or, or better, better yet, you're using your brain in the proper way instead of your, being a victim to your brain.
- LHLewis Howes
Sure.
- SPSpeaker
Right? If you complain about money, if you judge people who have it, if you rush when you're in lack, if you cheat when you don't have what you need, an abundant person doesn't do that. You gotta look at that and say, "I gotta break these habits."
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
Oh, my God, if I truly wanna be abundant, I can't act this way. Now here's the big one.
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
If, if I truly wanna be a new personality that's in a new personal reality, I can't take lack with me. I can't take unworthiness. I can't take a story that goes along with it with my parents or my grandparents-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... or with my ex or whatever. That story has to end, right? I mean, if not now, when, right?
- LHLewis Howes
How do people end those stories?
- SPSpeaker
Well, of course.
- 11:47 – 14:36
The Game of Change
- SPSpeaker
Well, how many times do we have to forget until we stop forgetting and start remembering?
- LHLewis Howes
Right.
- SPSpeaker
That's the game, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
That's the game called change. How many times do we have to go unconscious and default to that old personality? When we catch ourselves and stop doing that and get conscious, that's the moment of change.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
So the problem is, is that most people wake up in the morning and they think Uh, let me think of my problems. Right? They're... The, the brain is a record of the past, right? So they think about their problems. They don't have enough money, and those, those problems are usually connected to certain people at certain places-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... with certain objects and certain things and certain times.
- LHLewis Howes
What didn't work out or who screwed me over or what. Yeah
- SPSpeaker
Right. So, so the moment they wake up, the moment they remember those problems, they're thinking in the past.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
So now they're firing and wiring the memory. They're keeping the memory of the past alive in their mind. The problem is every one of those memories has an emotion associated with it, 'cause we've experienced it. So when they feel the lack, when they feel the unhappiness, when they feel the anxiety, now the body's in the past. Thoughts being the language of the brain, feelings being the language of the body, how we think and how we feel creates our state of being. But the conditioning process starts, 'cause conditioning only needs a thought and a feeling, a memory or an image and an emotion, and a stimulus and response, and you're conditioning your body to become-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... the mind of that emotion. And now the, the memory's not in the brain. Now the memory's buried subconsciously in the body.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
And the body becomes the mind of that emotion, so the body is living in lack. And it's believing. It's beli-
- LHLewis Howes
The body is. Is that through the nervous system, or is that through-
- SPSpeaker
Through neurochemical-
- LHLewis Howes
The cells, everything
- SPSpeaker
... everything. So the, so, so the body's so objective that it does not know the difference between the real-life experience that's creating the lack and the emotion that you're creating by thought alone, called lack.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
The body's believing it's living the same past experience every day. It's, it, it... Why? Because the end product of an experience is an emotion.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Well, if you, uh, uh, your life is changing but you're still feeling lack, don't expect anything to ch- You, you won't even see it. You'll walk right past it. You're viewing your life through the lens of the past, okay? So okay, so then the person realizes that all their friends are making money and they're doing stuff, and they're like, "Wow, I'm really feeling lack now." So then when it no longer becomes about your abundance, when it becomes about your change, that's a valuable moment.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
When it's no longer about your healing, but it's about your change. I paid attention to a lot of people in, in the last couple years tell their story. The people who heal in this work from cancers and all kinds of chronic health conditions and Parkinson's and strokes and paralysis and all kinds of things, rare genetic disorders. It, it never was
- 14:36 – 17:27
Changing for Healing and Abundance
- SPSpeaker
about, when they've really got in the game, it was never about their healing. It was about, what do I need to change in order to heal? When the game-
- LHLewis Howes
Interesting
- SPSpeaker
... goes like that. So then the person who's feeling lack, on some level or another, it's not just in the mind, it's in the body, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Lewis, uh, let me hear you say that again. When someone's looking for abundance, it's never about the abundance. It's about the change they need to make for healing?
- SPSpeaker
No, the ch- What... I'm using healing as an example.
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
Let, let's use abundance as an example.
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
When, when you understand that you cannot get abundant, when it's no longer about the game called abundance, it's about the game called change.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
What do I need to change? The more I change, the more I'll be abundant.
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
So then it's no longer about why haven't, how come it hasn't happened? That's the old personality.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Separate from the experience, still in lack asking that question.
- LHLewis Howes
Which is creating your current reality.
- SPSpeaker
Which is, which is reaffirming it, because that's the lens you're perceiving it through. Okay.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
So-
- LHLewis Howes
So we should be focusing more on what we need to change every moment, as opposed to the abundance or the healing.
- SPSpeaker
Well, the word meditation means to become familiar with. Sit with yourself long enough and not turn on your cell phone.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
Not scroll through your social media and do no TikTok, no emails, no, none of that stuff. Don't... Just sit and close your eyes and, and watch the thoughts that come up. Those, that's the exact reason why you're not abundant. Watch what you wanna do when you're feeling lack, to take away the lack, and there's always something you would do to, to take it away. But, but sit with the lack and be curious on what's on the other side of it, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Because the body's programmed into lack now subconsciously, right? So the emotion of lack drives our thoughts and drives our behaviors. So it makes sense, then, that if an emotion is a record of the past, then we're doing things habitually from the past.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
We're thinking in the past, right? So, so lower the volume to the emotion every time you notice lack comes up. And just like breaking any addiction, there's gonna be cravings, right? So-
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs] Yeah
- SPSpeaker
... the body's going, "Hey, Lewis, it's been about two hours since you thought-
- LHLewis Howes
You're so used to doing this thing.
- 17:27 – 20:34
Becoming the Abundant Person
- SPSpeaker
It's gonna feel unfamiliar. Your, your body's all of a sudden saying, "Hey, Lewis, uh, why don't you start thinking those same exact thoughts-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... do the same things, make the same choices, uh, demonstrate the same behaviors, have the same experiences, so you could feel that feeling of lack? Complain again to somebody. Call somebody up and say how, how miserable your life is," right?
- LHLewis Howes
Right. [laughs]
- SPSpeaker
And that's, that's the known, right? So the body's always influencing the mind to return back to the familiar territory.
- LHLewis Howes
To a default. Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
Your default. Okay. All right. So now the person says, "Okay. What thoughts do I not want?" What, what, what would an abundant person think this way? The people in our work that have created-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
I had a guy come to our event. I, I love this guy. He healed himself of... He t- tried to take his life three times. When he... He told me that when he came to our work, he didn't have $2 to rub together. He's worth hundreds of millions of dollars now.
- LHLewis Howes
Wow.
- SPSpeaker
And just keeps giving it away. His, his lesson, his lesson was, and that wasn't the wealth, it was who he became. So it's the overcoming process that is the becoming process.
- LHLewis Howes
Who did he become in that journey?
- SPSpeaker
Exactly. He had to get beyond all of those thoughts of his past, all the mistakes he made, all the things he did wrong, all the money he owed there, all of that. That was like he just had to no longer be that person any longer.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
But he did say, "How would a wealthy person live?" And, and, and when he created his wealth, what do you think the first thing he did?
- LHLewis Howes
Started giving?
- SPSpeaker
Giving it away. Why? 'Cause an abundant person doesn't have any lack.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
And he knows how to create more of it, and that's, he's in the experiment. Well, what would happen if I keep giving it away? He keeps getting more. That's a good experiment to have 'cause he is actually living in that abundant state. He also had tremendous healings taking place because when you heal your heart, you heal your mind. I mean, it's just the way it is. We saw it so many times, right? So he healed his heart. He got an upgrade.
- LHLewis Howes
Wow.
- SPSpeaker
He got an upgrade, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
So then, the, then next fundamental question is, how would an abundant person think? Write it down, dude, and fire and wire those thoughts in your brain, and install the hardware. Keep doing it with attention and intention. It becomes the new voice in your head. It becomes a software program. Then say, "Okay, how am I gonna be in my life today? What would an abundant person, how would they behave?" And before you reach for your cell phone and start scrolling through your social media, close your eyes and rehearse in your mind how that person would walk, how they would breathe, how they would smile, how they would-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... greet people, how they would be on Zoom calls, how would they be in traffic, how would they be at dinner. And, and the act of closing your eyes and mentally rehearsing the act-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... if you're truly present, the brain does not know the difference between the real-life experience and what you're imagining. In fact, just a little bit of time, you start to install the neurological hardware to look like you already did it.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm, mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Now, the brain is no longer a record of the past. It's primed for the future.
- 20:34 – 23:25
The Rehearsal Process
- SPSpeaker
Keep doing it. Keep rehearsing. No different than playing an instrument, no different than learning how to dance, no different than learning how to act, uh, or play a sport.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Everybody's always rehearsing, right? The rehearsal process changes the brain to look like you've already done it, you've already experienced it. Now, what's the essential part of that? The hardware is in place. Now all you gotta do is step into the footprint.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
Keep doing it, it becomes a software program. You start acting like an abundant person. Everything changes. Your energy changes. Your mood changes. The way you walk, the way you breathe, your posture changes. You're out of the known, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
You gotta condition the body now emotionally into the future. Can't open your eyes in the morning until you are feeling-
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
... worthy to receive, and if you can't feel worthy to receive, then if not now, when?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
If it takes you two hours to get there, ask me if it's worth 30 years of running, trying to get what you need matter to matter, okay? So then the person who wrestles with their lack, they're out of the bleachers, and they're on the playing field.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
Here's what we learned. Here's what we learned. Let's go back to beliefs now. So remember, a belief is just a thought you keep thinking over and over again. A belief is something that you keep thinking enough times that you hardwired in your brain, and it becomes an automatic program. And we have beliefs about all kinds of things: money, relationships, God, whatever it is. It's all based on what we've been told or our past experiences, right? The boundaries of those beliefs are our emotions, right? So let's just say you got betrayed, or somebody abused you-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... or your father told you that money was bad and there's never enough of it or whatever. That's a story, okay? But, but somehow it left an impression on you. You remember that event very clearly, and that's kinda rooted in who you are, right? Okay, so that emotion then is the boundary of our belief, okay? So how you think and how you feel creates your state of being. If you take a thought and a feeling, a thought and a feeling, a thought and a feeling, a thought and a feeling, that's called an attitude.
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
A series of good thoughts with a series of good feelings, you say, "I have a good attitude today." You have a series of negative thoughts that are connected to a series of negative feelings, you say, "I have a bad attitude today." So attitudes are just shortened states of being. Good attitude in the morning, bad attitude in the afternoon. If you take an attitude, an attitude, an attitude, and you keep those up, and you string attitudes together, you create what's called a belief.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
And a belief is just an extended state of being. So if you keep thinking the same thought, you keep hardwiring it in the brain, you keep feeling the same feeling, you keep conditioning it in your body, the redundancy of that cycle over and over again conditions the body to subconsciously become the mind of that belief. And all beliefs are subconscious states of being.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
Okay. Take a belief, a belief, a
- 23:25 – 26:26
Changing Beliefs and Perceptions
- SPSpeaker
belief, and you string them together, you form what's called a perception, and perceptions are just such extended states of being that, that we're unconscious. And so then we, we edit out reality. In fact, most people don't see things the way they are. They see things the way they are.
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
Right? And people are always filling in reality unconsciously based on their memory. They could be married to a person for 40 years, and they don't see the person. They see the memory of the person.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Right? And there's research to prove this, okay? So how do we change a belief or perception about ourself or our lives, okay? We've studied this. Okay, let's just say that lack is ingrained in there. You got the story. You lived on the streets. You lost everything. You got betrayed. Your business partner took everything, took your wife, took, uh... You've got the story and a half.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
Okay? Okay, you gotta start telling a new story of the future, right? You gotta believe in that future more than you have to believe in the past. So how do you do that?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
You only believe in the past when you feel the emotions of the past. The only time you're gonna believe in the future is when you feel the emotions of the future, right? Okay. So in order for us to change a belief or perception about ourself and our lives, we have to make a decision with such firm intention that the amplitude of that decision carries a level of energy that's greater than the hardwired programs in your brain and the emotional conditioning in your body, and your body literally has to respond to your mind, that the choice that you're making to change in that moment becomes a moment in time that you never forget. Now, here's the key. Physically. Physically. The stronger the emotion you feel when you make that choice, the more you'll remember the decision. Mm. Okay? So then how do we down-regulate that old belief? If the trauma created emotional quotient of six or seven, then your decision to change your belief's gotta be a nine. Right. And you gotta come out of your resting state, and that moment has to define you. You could say, "I know exactly where I was, the time of day it was, who I was with, when I made my mind up to change." Mm. Right? 'Cause you created a long-term memory. Long-term memories are created from strong emotion. With new emotion. Yeah. Right. But if the amplitude of that emotion is greater than the betrayal, boom, the body starts responding to the mind, and you're actually giving your body a taste of the future emotionally. So you brand your- What's possible. No, your body's actually getting the taste of that future event. It's experiencing the future now. Now. Exactly. A taste of it. Yeah. Big explosion on the quantum field. Ah. Big explosion. So the side effect of that is if you combine that clear intention with that elevated emotion, you're basically remembering your future, and it looks no different than remembering your past. Think neurologically within the circuits of that memory, and feel within the emotions of that new belief, and watch your life begin to change, because nothing changes in our life that we change in. When we change our energy,
- 26:26 – 29:23
Overcoming Lack and Separation
- SPSpeaker
we change our life. So now the experiment, all of a sudden, is no longer based on it being hard or trying or wishing or wanting or hoping. That's what we do when we're lacki- or in lack or separation. It's about change. So then when we finally realize in order for us to become abundant, we have to overcome the old personality, and that's 95% of who we are, right? Yes. So then the side effect of the beginning of this process is a lot of discomfort. [laughs] It is a lot of discomfort because you're stepping outside the known into the unknown, and now you can't predict. It's scary. No, no. It's fearful. You'd ra- you'd rather hold onto your lack. The pain, the suffering. And rather tell the story of that. At least it makes you feel something that's familiar. Mm-hmm. When you step outside and you're saying, "I'm not gonna complain about money any longer. I'm not gonna complain about that I don't have any. I'm not gonna judge other people who do. I'm not gonna say I can't, I'm not worthy, it's never gonna work," all those things gotta go. I'm not gonna feel lack. I'm not gonna feel unworthy. I'm not gonna feel separation. I'm not gonna feel resentment. These are the things that are keeping my reality the same. Now it's no longer about abundance, about who you become. Mm-hmm. So the o- overcoming process becomes the becoming process. And so many people come through this work, they want abundance. They want healing. They want a new relationship. They want a new career. They want the mystical. But really, they want wholeness. And, and- They want healing. They want peace. They want- They want wholeness ... 'cause they feel unwhole. Well, well, when you're in lack or you're in separation, you're not whole. Mm. Imagine feeling so much wholeness that's impossible to want. That's what our, that's what we're working on with people. Then you can really enjoy a sunset. Then you can really enjoy a meal. Mm-hmm. Then you can really enjoy your friends. Then you can... I, I, I, I talk to people that are very abundant, I mean, in the billions abundant, and, you know, so many of them say, "We are in misery." 'Cause they're not whole. "We are, we're in agony," because they can't enjoy life anymore. That's what they want. I mean, people want abundance to be able to enjoy life. They wanna be able to do whatever they want with whoever they want as many times as they want wherever they want. That's freedom, right? Or people want abundance. The sponsoring thought is really they want freedom, right? Or w- whatever their sponsoring thought would be, right? So, so then creating from the field instead of from matter to shorten the distance between cause and effect requires that clear intention with that elevated emotion, coherent brain and coherent heart. Tune into that energy and feel it with your brain and your heart, and you have plenty of ways to do that. Examine your personality, and examine your personal reality. Change your personality, change your personal reality. Don't make it be about abundance. Make, make it about becoming abundant by overcoming the person who's not abundant. The person who heals themself from a health condition, who's no longer thinking the same way, no longer acting the same
- 29:23 – 32:24
Epigenetics and the Expression of Life
- SPSpeaker
way, no longer feeling the same way, you ask them where that disease is when they stand on the stage in front of 1,500 people or 3,000 people, and that's a four-minute mile. Everybody's leaning in. That's truth right on the stage. They say, "Where is that, where is the disease?" "Oh, it lives in the old person." Wow. "I, I'm somebody else." Yeah. That, that's like, that's... I don't even... That's not even a story. That's not even who I am any longer. So lo and behold, when we do our research, when people do this, in seven days of going all in, at the end of seven days, their body looks like, genetically, with all the metabolites, that they're literally in a different environment. Now, here's the weird part. Mm-hmm. They're in a ballroom. Right. [laughs] There's not a lot happening in a ballroom. Right, right. What's happening in a ball- I've been to thousands of ballrooms. Yeah. But the environment somehow looks like they're living in a very prosperous, very healthy, very loving, nurturing, very whole environment. Why? 'Cause they were signaling genes ahead of the environment. Mm, mm. And if the environment signals the gene, okay, that's epigenetics The end product of the experience in the environment is an emotion. If you feel the emotion before the experience, you're signaling the gene ahead of the environment, and genes make proteins, and proteins are responsible for the structure and the function of your body. And the expr-
- LHLewis Howes
Looking jacked by the, looking jacked by the way. I like that.
- SPSpeaker
[laughs]
- LHLewis Howes
Look at the muscle over here.
- SPSpeaker
The expression of proteins is the expression of life. So you actually become abundant.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
You actually become that person, and people who are truly abundant have no problem with losing things.
- LHLewis Howes
I'd love to hear your thoughts on the biggest takeaway for you in this moment with Dr. Joe Dispenza, but for me, the big takeaway is first being aware of the patterns and feelings of living in survival mode and lack so that you can then start to shift them. Because so many people, based on how we think, what we say, our body language, our energy, how we react and respond to situations in life, we are projecting lack. We are projecting survival, not enough, uh, needing more, and that projection creates more of that in reality. And when we can become aware of our words, our language, our energy, our body language, the conversations we're having, the environments we put ourselves in that might attract more lack and this feeling of survival mode, when we can be aware of it first, then we can start to shift, and we can get the information on how to shift. Again, Dr. Joe has shared a lot of these strategies in long interviews that we've done. We'll have it linked below where you can learn more on how to shift this as well. But let me know in the comments below your biggest takeaway from that segment with Dr. Joe Dispenza. In this second moment, we're building on these transformational ideas from Dr. Joe to turn our attention to practical steps we can all take in our daily lives. Mel Robbins is taking over the world with her show and her social media content. She takes us through her key strategies for attracting the life we desire, focusing on visualization
- 32:24 – 35:28
The Law of Attraction and Manifesting
- LHLewis Howes
and resilience, and she talks about the importance of visualizing the process and challenges, not just the end result, and I really like this approach, to really make sure that we enhance motivation and resilience. So let's go ahead and dive into this moment. What's your thoughts about the law of attraction, on how to apply it the right way or...
- SPSpeaker
Yeah, I think... Well, I think the law of attraction and manifesting are the same thing.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
So law of attraction, for everybody who has not read The Secret, is simply your thoughts become things.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
And it's true. We've talked all about how when you have a negative self-talk, it tends to draw more of that to you. I think about it like lint in a dryer. Once negative stuff starts collecting-
- LHLewis Howes
Uh-huh
- SPSpeaker
... it collects a lot more. We can also talk about your brain filter, something called the reticular activity system, and how it is a live network that filters the brain. We'll dig into that deeper, but let's do surface level right now, manifesting law of attraction. So here's what everybody gets wrong about manifesting. Everybody, at least kind of in the mass market, what you're trained to think about when you think about manifesting is vision boards.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
And when you hear the word vision boards, you think about the big stuff. Should you have big dreams? Of course you should. Should you dream of building a mansion on the ocean if that's your thing? Yes. Should you dream of the log cabin? Yes. If you want a Lamborghini or the new Ford Bronco, should you put... Yeah. Yes, yes, yes. If you want the family, if you want the body, should you think about it? Yeah, absolutely. Here's where everybody goes wrong. You dream about the end. You make this gorgeous collage of all this stuff that has nothing to do with your current life.
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs] Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
That literally as you're sitting in your studio apartment with the cat box that hasn't been changed in two weeks-
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs] No food in the fridge. Yeah
- SPSpeaker
... no food in the fridge, and you're looking for a job, and you're staring at a mansion going, "Someday," it's gonna make you feel like a loser.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
Because the gap between where you are and where you wanna go, it seems insurmountable. And so what happens, based on the research, is when you only visualize the end game, Lewis, it's demotivating.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
At first, it's really fun to, like, have a bottle of wine and make your, like, collage. I'm gonna visualize. I'm gonna slap this up. There's my vision board. It's fabulous. Law of attraction, baby. Come on. I'm gonna think about it. It's gonna come to me. Okay, I've been doing this for two days.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
I'm not... I'm still in this apartment with the cat box that needs to be changed. The way to visualize properly is to visualize the bridge between where you are and where you need to go.
- LHLewis Howes
The bridge.
- SPSpeaker
Yes, and particularly the horrible stuff.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
So let's use your example of the marathon. The vision board would be Lewis crossing, woo.
- LHLewis Howes
With the arms up at the medal. Yes.
- SPSpeaker
Yeah, the arms at the medal, exactly.
- LHLewis Howes
High fives. Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
High fives.
- LHLewis Howes
I did it.
- SPSpeaker
Yes, I did it. Exactly. That will not help you because when you hit mile 13 on the actual race and it is sleeting rain-
- 35:28 – 38:23
Visualizing the Hard Work
- SPSpeaker
Yes, and it feels nothing like that thing on your vision board. You're going to start a negative dialogue. I can't do this. My knees hurt. This is not what I thought it was gonna be. I'm not ready for this. I didn't train for this. I'm running New York. I train in LA. Are you running in New York?
- LHLewis Howes
LA.
- SPSpeaker
Okay, good. Well, then at least you're trained in the right weather.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah, yeah. [laughs]
- SPSpeaker
So on and on and on, and you are going to tank yourself. What you do by visualizing the bridge is you train your nervous system and your mind to do the hard work.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
So you should visualize not crossing the finish line, but what is it like to be at mile 12 when your batteries run out on your earbuds?
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
No, I'm serious.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
And you keep going. What's it like when your shoelace breaks-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... and now your heel is lifting, and you're starting to get a blood blister at mile 17?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm. Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
What's it feel like when you wake up and it is pouring rain? And you visualize yourself running anyway. That way, when you visualize the work, you are preparing your body for it, so you're not resistant to it when it comes.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
Isn't that cool?
- LHLewis Howes
I think it's great. It's, um- A story that I had, um, George St-Pierre, who's one of the greatest UFC fighters of all time, he said that he always puts himself in the most uncomfortable situations in practice leading up to the fight. The most, you know, the hardest situations to get himself out of, when his arms are behind his back and he's face against the, the mat a- in between the fence and he's just getting punched in the face, he's like, "How do I get out of this?"
- SPSpeaker
Right. Right.
- LHLewis Howes
He's like, "Visualize that," and seeing, "How can I get through this?"
- SPSpeaker
Yeah. Yeah. Exactly.
- LHLewis Howes
Where it seem- when it seems like I just wanna tap out.
- SPSpeaker
Yes.
- LHLewis Howes
And instead of tapping out, what's a process for figuring out how to get through it-
- SPSpeaker
Yeah
- LHLewis Howes
... to then raise my hand at the end victorious.
- SPSpeaker
Totally. And so you are literally building up almost like this resilience and this muscle inside of you to do the work to get the thing.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
So yeah, create the vision board, but make sure in addition to crossing the finish line, you have somebody running in the rain.
- LHLewis Howes
Right.
- 38:23 – 41:41
The Power of Visualization and Manifestation
- SPSpeaker
watching YouTube videos. Visualize your first ever course failing miserably.
- LHLewis Howes
Right.
- SPSpeaker
Like, literally, that's the sort of thing that you want to visualize yourself doing and pushing through because that's gonna help you do the work.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
Isn't that cool?
- LHLewis Howes
I think that's great. Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
Yeah.
- LHLewis Howes
Visualizing... So in order to manifest what you want, don't just visualize the good things happening. Visualize the bridge, all the things it's gonna take to get there.
- SPSpeaker
Yes, and, and, and the hard parts of the bridge because then you're ready for it.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Then you're like, "I didn't expect this to be this hard." I mean, it's still gonna be hard-
- LHLewis Howes
Right. Right
- SPSpeaker
... but you're less likely to quit.
- LHLewis Howes
Yes. So what have you done in the last five years to help you manifest after the first book? Were you doing this as well? Or kinda once you get on a rhythm and, and build momentum, does it become easier to manifest in your opinion?
- SPSpeaker
Well, so I am constantly training my mind to work for me, and there's this little trick that I talk about in the book that is all sort of the beginning of having a high-five attitude.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
And a high-five attitude is the ability to catch yourself when you're going mentally low and to flip yourself back up into a high-five attitude.
- LHLewis Howes
Okay.
- SPSpeaker
The thing that I know to be true is that you cannot control the things around you. You can't control what's gonna happen. You can't even control how your nervous system might respond or what thoughts might pop into your head. But you can always choose what you do next and what you make it mean, right? And so that's where-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... all the power is.
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
And so I, uh, do this thing where I... This is, again, it's gonna sound so dumb, but it's a way for me to introduce you to the power that your mind has to change in real time.
- LHLewis Howes
Okay.
- SPSpeaker
We've talked a lot about negative self-talk, and part of the reason why negative self-talk is so crippling is not only because you've repeated it for so long and now it's a pattern, but it's also because you have a filter on your brain called the reticular activity system.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Okay? This puppy is the keys to everything and, and it's remarkable that, uh, most of us have never heard of it. We've experienced it, but we don't know how to use it to our advantage.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
So first, let me tell you what the RAS does. Then I'm gonna give you an example of, uh, when you've experienced it in your life, and then I'm going to explain to you how to use it to get what you want in life.
- LHLewis Howes
Okay. Perfect.
- 41:41 – 44:38
The Power of Intentional Thinking
- SPSpeaker
this. So have you ever shopped for a car?
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
Okay, so what's the last car you bought?
- LHLewis Howes
Tesla.
- SPSpeaker
Oh, Tesla. Oh, fancy.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
Lewis Howes, I like that.
- LHLewis Howes
Well, I never had a, I never had a nice car until three years ago. I had a $4,000 car for five years before that.
- SPSpeaker
Yeah. Yeah.
- LHLewis Howes
And then I was like, "You know what? I have no Bluetooth. I have no..." It's like I just needed an upgrade.
- SPSpeaker
Yeah. No, I love it. You deserve it.
- LHLewis Howes
It was a 1991.
- SPSpeaker
Dude, you deserve it.
- LHLewis Howes
I had a 1991 Cadillac.
- SPSpeaker
You deserve it.
- LHLewis Howes
And I was like, "Okay."
- SPSpeaker
You deserve it.
- LHLewis Howes
"I'm gonna buy a car." So I bought a Tesla, yeah.
- SPSpeaker
Right. And so before you thought about buying a Tesla, you drive down the road, you don't really think about it.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
The second you're like, "You know, I think I'm interested in a Tesla," what do you see everywhere?
- LHLewis Howes
Teslas.
- SPSpeaker
Yes. Everywhere.
- LHLewis Howes
Everywhere.
- SPSpeaker
My husband just bought a pickup truck.
- LHLewis Howes
Yes. [laughs]
- SPSpeaker
I'd never even noticed them. Now I'm like, "There are baby blue pickup trucks everywhere."
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
"What is going on?" That's the bouncer in your brain.
- LHLewis Howes
Uh-huh.
- 44:38 – 47:37
Changing Your Inner Narrative
- SPSpeaker
everything that gets let in confirms that- Right, right ... you're a bad person. She finds proof and evidence. Yes. Yeah. That's the bouncer in your mind. I'm here to tell you that when you get intentional about what you want to think about yourself, it changes- Mm-hmm ... in real time what your brain lets in and what it doesn't. Yeah. That helps you with the other things that you're doing, the high five in the mirror. Yes. The I'm not thinking about that, the pathetic monster. "Hey, you know, just 'cause I missed the dentist appointment doesn't mean I'm a bad person." Yeah. "I'm doing the best I can here. Give myself a break." Right. High five. Exactly. You know what I'm saying? Shake it off. Get back in there. Um- [laughs] It w- well, it's true, right? Right. 'Cause it's these little things. Somebody cuts you off. Somebody reaches for the last thing of cereal that you wanted to buy at the grocery store. Mm-hmm. You think it's like a sign that the world's out to get you. This is all your story and your mind skewing the world to prove all of the stuff you keep repeating, and the only way to get a handle on it is to start acting the opposite. Like, high-five yourself, even though you don't feel like it. Interrupt the crap that you keep saying. Put your hands on your heart and settle your body down. Mm-hmm. Yeah. All of these things are things that somebody does when they care about themselves, when they think they deserve to be treated with kindness- Yes ... when they think they deserve support, and when they realize they need it. And when you start to build yourself back up, you'll show up very differently in other relationships. Absolutely. You know, if you tolerate this kind of treatment from yourself, you'll tolerate it from other people. Mm-hmm. It does begin with you. And when you create boundaries and you don't abandon yourself, then you won't abandon yourself with other people either. Correct. You won't let them cross the boundaries. Correct. Like, if you stand in front of the mirror every single morning and you're like, "I look like crap. I am not good enough. I'm unhappy with my life," and then you step into a relationship, and somebody leaves you on read, and they ghost you for three days, like, you come to expect that. Mm-hmm. Because that's how you believe you think you deserve to be treated. When you stand in front of a mirror, and you're like, "Hey, you're awesome. We got this. I got you. I know it's hard. You know, we're gonna go do this," or, "Hey, this is a big day today. I, I've got this huge presentation. I am going to destroy this." Yeah. [laughs] You know, like, you know, like, you get into it. You're excited. Like, then you're creating momentum- Mm-hmm ... for yourself. Yeah. Otherwise, what? You're gonna stand there and be like, "Oh, my God, I'm gonna screw this up. I'm not prepared. Da, da, da, da." Like, it sh- it's like the negative morning routine. Mm-hmm. Right. It leads to negative actions. Absolutely. So this training thing, training your RES. Mm-hmm. So here's what I want you to do. Starting tomorrow, after you wake up and make your bed and kind of settle your nervous system and high-five yourself after setting your intentions, so now you're, like, sending yourself into your morning routine in a totally different way with
- 47:37 – 50:50
Finding Hearts in Everyday Life
- SPSpeaker
a calmed down nervous system, an intention, and this boost of feeling supported and loved and celebrated, um, I want you to find one naturally occurring heart shape as you go through your day. Hmm. I saw this in your book. Yeah. Yeah. It could be a stone. It could be a leaf on the ground. It could be a cloud shape. It could be a coffee stain. Uh, it could be an oil stain on the floor of a garage. It could be a spot on a dog walking by. I want you to tell your mind, "Let's find a heart. Let's see if we can find a heart." And something weird's gonna happen. You're gonna see something. And then I want you to literally supersize what's going on in your brain. And what you do is when you see the heart, I want you to then take a moment and literally congratulate yourself. Like, feel like, "Oh, my God, I found it." Like, whatever you believe in, God, the universe, like, greater connection, you put that there for me, and I found it. Hmm. And I want you to feel this kind of wave of, "That's kind of cool." Yeah. "I just saw a heart." And then that positive thing, remember how I told you the bouncer in your brain pays attention to what's important to you. Mm-hmm When you get your nervous system celebratory involved, that makes your brain really pay attention, just like trauma makes your brain pay attention.
- LHLewis Howes
It does.
- SPSpeaker
So you supercharge the experience by celebrating it, and then look for another one around. I see hearts all day long.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
And what happens when you start to play this game is you will start to realize you are walking by an entirely different world every single day because you're not looking for it.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
There are opportunities, there are signs, there are mile markers on your path that you are literally tuning out.
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
And we can all sit in this moment, Lewis, and look back and see how the dots of our life connect us here. The coolest thing about practicing the high five habit, this training of finding hearts and the high five attitude, is that you start to ground yourself in the idea that this too is a dot on the map of your life, and it is leading you somewhere incredible.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
And when you start to have that kind of high five attitude, that there are signs, whether it's the little hearts that you're now seeing, or it's your ability to catch guilt or people-pleasing or insecurity or the negative self-talk, and be like, "Nope, not going down. Not thinking about that. Five, four, three, two, one. Let's get that high five attitude back. I can, I can do this. I, I can have my own back."
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
"It's not gonna be perfect, but I can keep going."
- LHLewis Howes
And you were just talking about how you never truly learned how to love yourself in your own skin, and you started this daily ritual, this habit, of high-fiving yourself in the mirror.
- SPSpeaker
Yeah.
- LHLewis Howes
How... I mean, you're-
- SPSpeaker
[laughs]
- LHLewis Howes
You've lived a, you've lived a pretty full life right now, but you feel like really you've never truly learned how to love yourself, but now you feel like you know how to?
- SPSpeaker
Yes, I do.
- LHLewis Howes
Why did you not know how to love yourself in the first place?
- SPSpeaker
Ooh, that's a big question. Um, I think that most of us are not taught
- 50:50 – 54:00
Learning to Love Yourself
- SPSpeaker
how to love ourselves just for being alive.
- LHLewis Howes
For existing.
- SPSpeaker
For existing, thank you.
- LHLewis Howes
It's always like we have to accomplish something-
- SPSpeaker
Correct
- LHLewis Howes
... then we can get love.
- SPSpeaker
Yes. It's, it's the same thing with happiness. Like you're chasing it, and you think that if you achieve something, you're gonna get it. And you also, or at least I, felt the most loved when I was little when I was achieving something.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
And, you know, I think that most parents kind of fall into this camp, and it's really interesting to write a book about this and sort of trace back how we go from being little, teeny babies that would crawl up to a mirror and put our hands up and kiss ourselves and love the sight of ourselves to being a self-loathing adult that stands in front of a mirror and either ignores or criticizes-
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah
- SPSpeaker
... your very existence. And I believe that a lot of this has to do with the fact that so much of what you learn as a kid is, "If you do what I tell you to do, then I'll like you. Then I'll love you." And so much of your existence becomes complying, fitting in, not making people angry. You learn how to sort of go in and out of spaces, belong to groups-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... make sure people like you, and you stop focusing on how you were born, which is looking in a mirror and liking yourself. So my formula-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... for being somebody that was worthy of love is, well, if I'm accomplishing all this stuff, then I'm lovable. If this person over here that I love loves me back, then I'm lovable.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
If somebody likes me, then I'm lovable. Notice where all the sources of love were coming from? Outside.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
But I never really understood, how do you learn how to put yourself first? How do you learn how to love yourself, Lewis? How do you do that?
- LHLewis Howes
Something I've been doing since I was a young kid in sports was visualizing, and a lot of people talk about visualizing the end result. One of the things I love that Mel talked about is making sure we need to visualize the bridge, not just the destination. Don't just think of, "I have this goal, and I have this dream, and I'm gonna visualize it. It's gonna happen, and it's gonna come to me." Yes, that's part of the process, but I remember as an athlete, I would visualize almost every play of the game and play it out. From the moment of getting dressed in the locker room, to rehearsing before the game, to stepping on the field, to the whistle, to every part of the game, I would run my routes in my mind on the field before it happened and visualize us winning at the end as well. It wasn't just, "We're gonna win, and I'm gonna manifest and attract this." It was putting myself through the challenging times, through the, the good times, through how am I gonna respond when there are challenges and breakdowns? And I think when you can start to look at life not as, "If I just think it and dream it and visualize it, it's all gonna come to me perfectly," that's typically not it. There's typically going to be a lot of challenges and obstacles in your way, and if you can put your mind as the bridge in seeing, what are these obstacles that I think might happen, or I'm not even sure are gonna happen, how am I going to respond
- 54:00 – 57:36
Creating Your Reality through Thoughts
- LHLewis Howes
to create and manifest the dream that I have to bring it to me? How am I gonna be responding on that bridge to the end result? And again, something I really love in that takeaway. Let me know your thoughts in the comments below, what your biggest takeaway is. And again, visualization is powerful, but you gotta be thinking about the entire process, not just the end result. Going into this next moment, after gaining insights on how to prepare for and overcome life's challenges, let's explore the foundational principles behind these concepts. Rhonda Byrne, the visionary behind the international bestseller The Secret, will now clarify how the law of attraction really works and how we can shift our thoughts to manifest success. And I love how Rhonda starts by defining the law of attraction in the simplest terms, because so many people are always talking about the law of attraction, but what actually is it in the simplest terms? She's gonna talk about it in a moment, emphasizing that thoughts Really shape our reality. Abundance isn't complicated. It doesn't have to be. And as you listen and watch, ask yourself, how does your mindset and the words that you use influence a desired outcome for you? Are you more focused on scarcity over abundance? And how might shifting your perspective, as Rhonda suggests, impact your ability to achieve your dreams? Can you explain what the law of attraction and manifesting actually is in simple terms before we dive in deeper?
- SPSpeaker
Every human being is a creator.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
And they are creating their life, and we don't know, for many of us, we did not know that that was the case, and we are creating our life through our thoughts. So it's not that our thoughts are powerful, it's that we are powerful. And so when we focus on a thought, and we really hold that focus, that thought will manifest in our life. And so we create our own life through our thoughts and through the mind. The mind, our mind is super, super, super powerful.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
Yeah.
- LHLewis Howes
For good or for worse.
- SPSpeaker
Yes. So for example, um, we can talk about what we want, and we will manifest that, you know? And so some people, they just see the abundance in the world, you know. That's all that they see. They don't, they don't see any lack. They just see abundance, and everything seems to go right for them. Everything falls into place for them. They invest in this, and it skyrockets, and they, they buy a house in this place, and that suburb goes crazy, and it's like everything they touch turns to gold. But it's because they have the mindset that is toward wealth and abundance, and they don't have a mindset toward lack. And we have a lack mindset when we say things like, "I'm broke. I don't have enough. Um, I don't have enough to pay my bills." And you see, whatever we say is what our life will be. And so if we are saying, "I don't have enough money," then by law of attraction, we will not have enough money. We will continue to not have enough money. So what we have to do is we need to speak about what we want, and we need to talk about,
- 57:36 – 1:00:46
Shifting from Overwhelm to Abundance
- SPSpeaker
for example, if it's money or if it's health or if we're not feeling really great, then we can talk about what it feels like to be really well instead of talking about [laughs] not being well.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
Right? Because if we're talking about not being well, we're attracting more of that, more of that, more of that.
- LHLewis Howes
Right.
- SPSpeaker
And so that's basically law of attraction. I mean, it is so wonderful, and it's so intricate, and the more that you... The more that it becomes a part of your life, the more you see the little kind of twists and turns and-
- LHLewis Howes
Synchronicities
- SPSpeaker
... Yeah, like for, for example, if, if, if you're f- saying, you know, "I'm so overwhelmed. There's just so much going on at the moment, and I can't get on top of things, and I'm just overwhelmed," guess what? Guess what's coming. [laughs]
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah. [laughs]
- SPSpeaker
More overwhelm and-
- LHLewis Howes
Right
- SPSpeaker
... more, you know, and s-
- LHLewis Howes
So when we speak about things that are frustrating us, that are overwhelming, that are stressing us out, that we're in lack of-
- SPSpeaker
Yeah
- LHLewis Howes
... when we speak about them-
- SPSpeaker
Yeah
- LHLewis Howes
... or we're constantly in a loop of thinking of those thoughts and then speaking them to ourselves or to others-
- SPSpeaker
Mm-hmm
- LHLewis Howes
... what I'm hearing you say is it's gonna be a lot harder to get beyond those struggles than to speak in a different way or think in a different way. Is that what I'm hearing you say?
- SPSpeaker
That's what it... That's the case, and in fact, until we think differently, it won't change.
- LHLewis Howes
Really?
- SPSpeaker
It wouldn't matter, all the action in the world. All the action in the world will not override a belief that we have. And usually, when we speak, for example, if I'm saying, "I'm so overwhelmed, so much is happening," and when we're saying, "I'm so overwhelmed," we believe it. Like, we're saying it with conviction, right? And so the fact that we believe it, it's not gonna change. We're going to keep... More things are going to come.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
More things are going to come.
- LHLewis Howes
And even if someone, let's say they, they did work hard for a long time, and they're feeling overwhelmed, and all of a sudden, they started to make a lot more money, but it's not gonna change the overwhelm if they keep thinking it.
- SPSpeaker
That's right.
- LHLewis Howes
So more money might come because you spent more time in this world and worked hard-
- SPSpeaker
Right
- LHLewis Howes
... and it's just your time to make more.
- SPSpeaker
Right.
- LHLewis Howes
But you still might say, "Well, I'm still overwhelmed."
- 1:00:46 – 1:04:26
Manifesting What You Want
- SPSpeaker
you want until you have what you want.
- LHLewis Howes
When people talk about what they don't want consistently-
- SPSpeaker
Yeah
- LHLewis Howes
... what typically happens?
- SPSpeaker
They get that. That's what they get. [laughs]
- LHLewis Howes
More of what they don't want.
- SPSpeaker
Yeah, yeah. They get more of what they don't want. [laughs] If we could just talk about what we want- Would be incredible. Incredible. Amazing. Spectacular. That's it. Just to talk about. But we are so... We have a world that's very, um, beautiful, but orientated towards drama, and you know, news is negative, and, uh, so you know, it's, it's challenging for people, but we're all in it together-
- LHLewis Howes
Yes
- SPSpeaker
... because we're all dealing with the mind, and the mind that might be delivering a whole lot of negative thoughts. But not one of us, it's not harder for one or easier for another. We all have this mind that can be like a flatmate and chatter, chatter, chatter, nonstop chatter, keep going on, you know. Um, so we all, we're all dealing with that, and the mind, it's just a, uh, it's just a program.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
It's not an entity. It's just a program. And so through, I think, because certainly through my experience, through The Secret, we-- you can to- totally train your mind to be positive so that it is not leaning toward the negative all of the time. And positive is just what you want.
- LHLewis Howes
Right.
- SPSpeaker
Right?
- LHLewis Howes
When someone is thinking or speaking about what they want, does that mean that they are in lack of it? Or how do they speak about it where it's not from a place of lack?
- SPSpeaker
Right. Um, it's a good question, because-
- LHLewis Howes
You know what I mean? If I'm like-
- SPSpeaker
... it's a fine line
- LHLewis Howes
... "I want this, I want this, but I don't have it." So how do we speak about it where we're in gratitude and positive around it as opposed to, "I really want this thing, but it's not in my life right now, but I really want it."
- SPSpeaker
Yeah, but the problem is you just canceled out the manifestation when you said, "But it's not in my life right now."
- LHLewis Howes
Ah.
- SPSpeaker
Yeah. Because if you, if you're saying that I, you know, I-- well, you could say it like this: I would really love to have this. It's a little bit softer, right, than I want. But you-- but to manifest something that you, th- to deliberately manifest, you have to want it, but then you can't have any thoughts of, well, it's not here yet. Because the moment you say it's not here yet, what does law of attraction do? It's not here yet.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm. And it's constantly not here yet.
- SPSpeaker
Yeah.
- LHLewis Howes
So-
- SPSpeaker
So
- LHLewis Howes
... say this, so say this again. How do we really manifest something? We, we put it out there. We speak it or we think it, but then we detach from it?
- SPSpeaker
Yeah. And you know, here's the thing. We so don't realize our own amazing power that we can just ask for something, and it will be given to us. [laughs]
- LHLewis Howes
Now, here's what, here's what the criticism I'll lie to is for The Secret-
- SPSpeaker
Okay
- LHLewis Howes
... or the law of attraction-
- 1:04:26 – 1:08:15
Everyone has the right to think what they want
- LHLewis Howes
like that. When you see comments like that, or people say this-
- SPSpeaker
Mm
- LHLewis Howes
... how would you respond to someone saying, uh, thinking that or saying that?
- SPSpeaker
Well, I don't, um... I always kind of feel that everybody has the right to think what they want and believe what they want, and I, I know it's not the case. Um, I remember Lester Levinson said something so incredible. He was a wonderful teacher. He's not alive anymore, um, but he was very simple in the way that he talked. And he, he told these students that if you want something, I could lock you up in a room and padlock that room, and you ask for that, and you know you have it, right? You know you have it now, and it will come.
- LHLewis Howes
Really?
- SPSpeaker
Yeah. It will come, and nothing in this world can stop it.
- LHLewis Howes
What are some examples in your life where you've, you've thought or spoken about something you've desired or wanted, and it has come effortlessly? And, or maybe an example of people that have written about their success stories. Is there anything you can think of?
- SPSpeaker
Right. Um-
- LHLewis Howes
Or maybe for a long time they'd struggled in manifesting or attracting what they wanted, but-
- SPSpeaker
Right
- LHLewis Howes
... they started to apply this and really believed it, and that thing came to them.
- SPSpeaker
Right. Well, when I did a book signing, um, and I had-- I got to talk to all of these different people, and every single person at that book signing told me about how their life had completely changed.
- LHLewis Howes
Wow.
- SPSpeaker
And what was amazing was, s- so somebody would say that they wanted to have-- they were working, I don't know, cleaning a bank or something, and they wanted to have their own sound studio. And that is what they decided to manifest, and they visualized and visualized, and they felt it, and they wouldn't allow any thoughts of doubt to enter their mind. And they are now running one of the top sound studios in LA.
- LHLewis Howes
Wow.
- SPSpeaker
But not just that, they met their perfect partner. They bought their dream house. They have, you know, two children, or they travel. Every, every single thing that they wanted they received, and that was what was so amazing about all of these people when I was signing books. It wasn't just one thing in their life, but these people were amazing. They did gratitude all of the time, or they did affirmations all of the time, and they had a complete change within themselves, you know, to be- Kind, you know, to other people. And so they would think positively. They were aware when negative thoughts came, and they would stop them in their tracks. And so for me, I think the biggest manifestation for me was The Secret.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah
- SPSpeaker
Because I w- I was, um, a mother of two children in Melbourne, Australia. I had this night where Henny Penny, the sky fell in. Everything in my life-
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
... completely collapsed, right? And I had a huge awakening that night, [clears throat] pardon me, and realized how... I realized all of this and how incredible we are and what we can do and what mastery we have over the world, and
- 1:08:15 – 1:11:26
Taking it to the World
- SPSpeaker
there and then I, I looked out at the world and I'm like, "No one knows this. No one knows this." And so I was determined that I would find a way to take this to the world. I had no idea what shape or form it would take or, or... But that night I determined that that is what I would do. And so e- eventually a whole team were gathered. I had a production company at that point, and everybody might think, "Oh, if you had a production company, it's so easy for you to make a documentary." Aha, but let me tell you, ah, there's a snag. I was $2 million in debt.
- LHLewis Howes
Really?
- SPSpeaker
That production company was $2 million in debt, and my accountant told me, "You're gonna be broke in 30 days and lose everything."
- LHLewis Howes
Wow.
- SPSpeaker
Lose everything. And to this day, I don't know how it didn't happen. I do know, because I didn't allow that thought. I only allowed the thought of taking this to the world, and nothing else mattered.
- LHLewis Howes
Wow. I'm a big fan of Rhonda. We've had her on a couple of times. I hope we have her on many more times, because every time we get to connect, she just shares, you know, valuable insights on The Secret, the law of attraction, abundance, but also just she's got a lot of life wisdom. So I'm so grateful for her for sharing. I'd love your thoughts below. For me, it comes down to language and the words you're using. You know, I've heard so many times that when you say, "I am..." Whatever you say afterwards, you start to manifest and create in your life. So if you say, "I'm an idiot, I'm no good, I'm dumb, I am whatever," in a negative way, it's hard for your body to believe that you're smart, that you're confident, that you are good enough, that you're lovable. And so just being aware of the words we're using, and if you wanna create abundance, but you're using words in lack, in negativity, in scarcity, you're, you're not creating that bridge to get to the place you wanna be of abundance. It doesn't mean you have to be overly confident and be lying to yourself and say, "I'm super smart," when you don't feel smart. It's learning how to use language that builds the belief over time, and when you can do that, I believe you start to be in alignment with your words and the abundance that you want to come your way. But we have to be aware and catch ourselves with these different words, with the language we're using, and how we communicate, so that our body will start to believe in a, an empowering way for us as opposed to a disempowering way. Let me know your thoughts, your biggest takeaway from that segment, and again, all these experts have different strategies and techniques to talk about transforming your mindset and attracting more. We are capable of attracting anything we want in our life. We just need to get out of our own way. And if you found this breakdown useful or if you wanna learn more about these topics, again, make sure to check the links in the description below for the full conversations and episodes, and think about these concepts and questions as you're listening as well. Let me know your big thoughts. I hope you enjoyed this episode and this format of content around rewiring your mind, attracting
- 1:11:26 – 1:11:59
Connecting and sharing struggles
- LHLewis Howes
more. And again, I wanna remind you that you're loved, you're worthy, you're a matter. Share a comment below on what you're dealing with, what you're struggling with, your biggest takeaway. We'd love to connect with you, and I'll see you guys next time. And if you can learn how to accept them, then you can learn how to respect them. And a lot of people don't have respect because they haven't created clear boundaries and agreements. They haven't communicated, "These are my boundaries. These are my agreements. This is what I wanna do moving forward."
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