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Lewis HowesThese 3 Simple Steps Will Change How Your Voice Sounds Forever | Vinh Giang
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Communication isn’t your personality: build self-awareness, confidence, and connection
- Vinh Giang argues that people mistake communication habits for permanent personality traits, but communication is a changeable set of behaviors that shape how others perceive you and how you perceive yourself.
- He says the quickest path to better communication is self-awareness, created by recording yourself speaking and reviewing the audio, the visuals, and the transcript to identify personalized improvements.
- He frames confidence as look–feel–sound, claiming the feeling of confidence is hardest to control, so you should start by controlling posture/appearance and vocal delivery until your emotions follow.
- He emphasizes adaptation and connection, using the metaphor of voice as an instrument that should play different “genres” depending on the room, and recommending practice with “neutral ears” who have no expectations of you.
- He shares that vulnerability and painful stories are hard to “play,” but writing and eventually sharing those stories can be healing and can deepen connection, while storytelling skill comes from structuring spark, point, and link.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasCommunication is a set of temporary behaviors, not a fixed personality.
He says the voice is produced by controllable mechanics (tongue, soft palate, teeth placement, lip shape) and is learned by copying influential people when you’re young—so it can be changed by changing behaviors.
The fastest way to improve is building self-awareness through a simple recording review loop.
He suggests recording five minutes of off-the-cuff speaking, then reviewing it three ways: audio-only (tone, sincerity, pace), video-only (body language, visual tics), and transcript (structure, rambling, filler words), choosing one improvement from each.
Avoid one-size-fits-all speaking advice; create a personalized improvement list.
He argues generic “top tips” create generic results because each person has different distracting or “non-functional” habits that have become invisible through repetition over years.
Build confidence indirectly by adjusting look and sound, not by trying to ‘feel confident’ first.
He explains that confidence is a feeling (hardest to control), so instead of chasing the feeling directly, start by controlling what’s easier: how you look (posture, smile, eye contact) and how you sound (volume, melody, pausing) until the feeling catches up.
Practice new communication behaviors with “neutral ears” before testing them in close relationships.
He warns that practicing a dramatically new speaking style around people who know you can backfire because they have expectations of “who you are,” so he recommends practicing with strangers—like at the grocery store, in an Uber, or while getting gas.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesWhereas the way you communicate, it's just a series of behaviors... that are all temporary.
— Vinh Giang
If you get a generic list, then you're gonna achieve generic results.
— Vinh Giang
I think you don't understand until you try.
— Vinh Giang
When you repeat a behavior for five, 10, 20, 30 years of your life, that behavior now becomes invisible to you.
— Vinh Giang
Greatness is being a master of your craft, but being able to do it with your inner child intact and being joyous and playful while you're doing it.
— Vinh Giang
SPEAKERS
Vinh Giang
guestCommunication coach and author of "Before We Forget How to Connect."
Lewis Howes
hostHost/interviewer of the Lewis Howes show (The School of Greatness).
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