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The Mel Robbins Podcast2 Ways to Believe in Yourself & Achieve Cool Things
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At a glance
WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Unlocking Self-Belief: Thank Yourself, Battle Old You, Achieve More
- Mel Robbins uses Niecy Nash-Betts’ viral Emmy acceptance speech to explore self-esteem, self-belief, and the power of thanking yourself for your own hard work and resilience.
- She emphasizes that meaningful goals will often “gut” you, and that real progress comes from expecting difficulty, acting before you feel ready, and continuing despite repeated setbacks.
- Drawing on David Goggins’ philosophy, Mel reframes growth as a daily battle of “you against you,” specifically you versus older, insecure versions of yourself that still influence your behavior.
- Through personal stories and exercises, she guides listeners to identify the past self they’re fighting, celebrate their own wins, and build self-esteem by taking consistent action.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasThanking yourself is a practical way to build self-esteem.
Openly acknowledging your own effort—just as Niecy Nash-Betts did—reinforces your value, validates your struggles, and helps you recognize how far you’ve come, even when others don’t see it.
Expect big goals to be hard and sometimes emotionally brutal.
Mel stresses that anything truly meaningful will include days that “gut” you; anticipating this difficulty keeps you from quitting when the process inevitably feels painful or unfair.
Action comes before belief, not the other way around.
You don’t wait to feel confident to start; you act as if you believe—whether that’s working out, quitting a habit, applying for something—and the repeated actions gradually create genuine self-belief.
Your real opponent is an old version of you.
Following David Goggins, Mel reframes growth as a daily battle with past selves (e.g., insecure, people-pleasing, fearful versions) whose narratives still drive your hesitation and self-sabotage.
Identifying which past self is holding you back unlocks change.
Once you can name the specific “old you” (like Mel’s anxious fourth-grader or her daughter’s insecure sophomore self), you can consciously outwork that identity instead of unconsciously obeying it.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesAnd you know who I want to thank? I want to thank me.
— Niecy Nash-Betts
As an artist, my job is to speak truth to power, and baby, I'm going to do it to the day I die.
— Niecy Nash-Betts
It’s not called mama esteem, them esteem, us esteem. It’s called self-esteem, 'cause don’t nobody got to believe it but you.
— Niecy Nash-Betts
There’s no hacks, bro. It’s you against you.
— David Goggins
Don’t you dare forget the one person that knows exactly how hard it was for you to keep showing up.
— Mel Robbins
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