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3 Simple Ways to Get the Love You Want

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, you’ll learn what true love really is, along with 3 simple ways to start getting the love you want. Today, you’ll learn the art & science of giving and receiving #love. You’ll get simple tools for all kinds of love: romantic #relationships, #friendships, #family relationships, mentorship, and even the smallest, simplest daily acts of love. You’ll also learn: - The most controversial thing ever said on The Mel Robbins Podcast - The truth about love (and an entirely new way to think about it) - How to instantly shift any relationship for the better - The #1 relationship study of all time: Mel breaks down the takeaways for you - 3 things you can do, immediately after listening, to boost your happiness and well-being - How the Law of Reciprocity creates a powerful ripple effect - This person made a huge difference in Mel’s life (and will change yours, too) - The secret to inspiring and motivating any person (yourself included) To go deeper into the topics shared in today’s episode, including the study Mel shares, the graphs, and the resources mentioned, click here for the episode resource page: https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-146 Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast In this episode: 00:00 Intro 02:00: The most controversial four-letter word Mel has ever said 04:00: Here’s why you might have a hard time hearing it 04:30: Why we are here on this planet 05:32: The incredibly inspiring speech behind this word 10:05: Hearing these words was a spiritual experience for Mel 11:30: Here’s what happens when you give people hope 13:30: What the science says about the benefits of having a cheerleader 14:20: The science says the opposite is true when you don’t feel supported 16:50: You won’t find Mel’s definition of love in a dictionary 18:40: Can you love someone you don’t like? 21:20: What Mel texted to her UPS driver that she does not regret 25:20: Somebody doesn’t love what you do? Use this strategy 26:25: The powerful email Mel received that broke her heart 27:05: Mel responds to John, who asks why she signs out the way she does 29:25: This listener sent a doozy of a message, and this might be why 37:40: Try this one short activity to bring more love into your life 39:30: The #1 reason you struggle with deep connection, according to research 40:06: Science shows doing this, even with a stranger, helps you feel better 44:24: How the Law of Reciprocity creates a positive ripple effect 46:00: The best thing to do to improve ANY relationship 46:45: It doesn’t cost anything to give the gifts we all want most 49:35 It may be uncomfortable, but do this today and you won’t regret it 50:15: The incredible gift Mel’s friend received from his father on his deathbed 53:30: The bloopers you love! — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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CHAPTERS

  1. 2:00 – 4:00

    The most controversial four-letter word Mel has ever said

  2. 4:00 – 4:30

    Here’s why you might have a hard time hearing it

  3. 4:30 – 5:32

    Why we are here on this planet

  4. 5:32 – 10:05

    The incredibly inspiring speech behind this word

  5. 10:05 – 11:30

    Hearing these words was a spiritual experience for Mel

  6. 11:30 – 13:30

    Here’s what happens when you give people hope

  7. 13:30 – 14:20

    What the science says about the benefits of having a cheerleader

  8. 14:20 – 16:50

    The science says the opposite is true when you don’t feel supported

  9. 16:50 – 18:40

    You won’t find Mel’s definition of love in a dictionary

  10. 18:40 – 21:20

    Can you love someone you don’t like?

  11. 21:20 – 25:20

    What Mel texted to her UPS driver that she does not regret

  12. 25:20 – 26:25

    Somebody doesn’t love what you do? Use this strategy

  13. 26:25 – 27:05

    The powerful email Mel received that broke her heart

  14. 27:05 – 29:25

    Mel responds to John, who asks why she signs out the way she does

  15. 29:25 – 37:40

    This listener sent a doozy of a message, and this might be why

  16. 37:40 – 39:30

    Try this one short activity to bring more love into your life

  17. 39:30 – 40:06

    The #1 reason you struggle with deep connection, according to research

  18. 40:06 – 44:24

    Science shows doing this, even with a stranger, helps you feel better

  19. 44:24 – 46:00

    How the Law of Reciprocity creates a positive ripple effect

  20. 46:00 – 46:45

    The best thing to do to improve ANY relationship

  21. 46:45 – 49:35

    It doesn’t cost anything to give the gifts we all want most

  22. 49:35 – 50:15

    It may be uncomfortable, but do this today and you won’t regret it

  23. 50:15 – 53:30

    The incredible gift Mel’s friend received from his father on his deathbed

  24. 53:30 – 53:43

    The bloopers you love!

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