The Mel Robbins Podcast6 Sneaky Ways People Are Disrespecting You & What to Do About It
Mel Robbins on six Subtle Disrespect Tactics—and Scripts To Protect Your Peace.
In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Narrator, 6 Sneaky Ways People Are Disrespecting You & What to Do About It explores six Subtle Disrespect Tactics—and Scripts To Protect Your Peace Mel Robbins breaks down six often-overlooked ways people disrespect you: talking over you, dismissing your feelings, chronic lateness, silent treatment, condescending behavior, and backhanded compliments.
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Six Subtle Disrespect Tactics—and Scripts To Protect Your Peace
- Mel Robbins breaks down six often-overlooked ways people disrespect you: talking over you, dismissing your feelings, chronic lateness, silent treatment, condescending behavior, and backhanded compliments.
- She explains why each behavior is disrespectful, how it drains your energy and time, and why rising stress levels are making these patterns more common.
- Throughout, she emphasizes that you cannot control other people, but you can control your response—and that your response is how you build self-respect and protect your peace.
- Robbins provides specific language and mindset tools (like the “Let Them / Let Me” framework) so you can set boundaries calmly and confidently at work, at home, and in friendships.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasIf someone talks over you, keep talking, slow down, and name them.
Talking over you signals they don’t care what you have to say. Maintain your sentence, consciously slow your pace, and calmly insert their name (e.g., “Mike, I’m going to finish my point…”) to reclaim the floor and then invite their input afterward.
Validate your own emotions when others dismiss your feelings.
Phrases like “You’re too sensitive” or “You’re overreacting” are emotional invalidation. Use responses such as “I get to decide how I feel” or “Let me decide how I’m going to react to this” to affirm your inner experience instead of outsourcing it.
Treat chronic lateness as disrespect for your time—and act accordingly.
Someone who is never on time is signaling your time isn’t a priority. Communicate directly that it’s disrespectful, don’t wait indefinitely (start the meeting, see the movie, take the ferry), and if you’re the late person, drop excuses and simply say, “Thank you for your patience,” while learning to plan realistically.
Stop tolerating the silent treatment and stop staying silent about your needs.
Whether it’s sulking, ghosting, or unspoken expectations (“they should just know”), silence is immature and often abusive. Use the Let Them / Let Me lens: let them behave how they choose, and let yourself ask clearly for what you want instead of punishing people for things you never requested.
Call out condescending remarks in real time to disrupt the pattern.
Subtle put-downs (“Actually, that’s a good idea”) erode your confidence over time. Pause and respond with, “Are you trying to be condescending?” or “Can you repeat that?”—both force the other person to confront what they just said and reassert your own worth.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesIf someone talks over you, they have no interest in listening to what you have to say.
— Mel Robbins
Your peace is worth protecting.
— Mel Robbins
You have no right to be mad at somebody when you didn’t even tell them what you wanted.
— Mel Robbins
Never look up to someone who talks down to you.
— Mel Robbins
Instead of expecting other people to change, demand the change of yourself.
— Mel Robbins
QUESTIONS ANSWERED IN THIS EPISODE
5 questionsWhich of these six subtle forms of disrespect shows up most in my life, and how have I been unconsciously tolerating it?
Mel Robbins breaks down six often-overlooked ways people disrespect you: talking over you, dismissing your feelings, chronic lateness, silent treatment, condescending behavior, and backhanded compliments.
Where am I dismissing my own feelings or rushing myself through emotions the way others have done to me?
She explains why each behavior is disrespectful, how it drains your energy and time, and why rising stress levels are making these patterns more common.
How might my own chronic lateness, silence, or backhanded comments be disrespecting people I care about?
Throughout, she emphasizes that you cannot control other people, but you can control your response—and that your response is how you build self-respect and protect your peace.
What boundaries or scripts from this episode can I commit to practicing in my next difficult interaction?
Robbins provides specific language and mindset tools (like the “Let Them / Let Me” framework) so you can set boundaries calmly and confidently at work, at home, and in friendships.
In which relationships do I feel like the ‘parent to an adult child,’ and what would it look like to stop taking responsibility for their emotions?
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