Don’t Quit: The Reminder You Need to Hear When You Feel Unmotivated

1. 0:00 – 1:24

   Intro

   1. MRMel Robbins0:00

      (Ticktock sound) Holy cow. I haven't talked to you about this thing called Quitter's Day. It is a legit phenomenon. There is a particular day of the month that most people quit when they have new health goals. Mm-hmm. That's why so many of us do quit right around this time. They missed a day, they're exhausted. How sad is that? But not you. You did not fall off the wagon. You hit a bump and now your seat is back on the wagon and you can keep going. I will push you past Quitter's Day because you, my friend, are a winner. (Music) Oh my gosh, I am so excited to talk about this. I know I use that word all the time, I must sound like a broken record. But today, I am truly, deeply excited because I am going to share a concept with you that I learned two years ago that has fundamentally changed the way that I think about discipline, willpower, consistency. You're going to freaking love this, and when I realized, holy cow, I haven't talked to you about this thing called Quitter's Day. Have you heard anybody talk about the phenomenon called Quitter's Day? Anywhere? Television, podcasts, anywhere. I mean, if you've taken a course with me,

2. 1:24 – 2:27

   What is Quitters Day and why does it matter?

   1. MRMel Robbins1:24

      then you've heard me talk about it, but have you heard anyone else talk about the fact that there is something called Quitter's Day? It is a legit phenomenon, and when I learned about what Quitter's Day was and I learned about the research around it, holy smokes, it has helped me be so much more consistent when I'm trying to do anything new. You're going to freaking love this. So here's the deal. Researchers have found, get this, that based on data, there is a particular day of the month that most people quit when they have new health goals. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. And there's two reasons why I freaking love this topic of Quitter's Day. First of all, nobody talks about it. I mean, just stop and think, if there's actually a day where most people quit, I'd like to know that day. Wouldn't you like to know that day? Of course you would. And that brings me to the second reason why I'm so excited about this topic.

3. 2:27 – 7:31

   The 2 reasons Mel loves talking about Quitters Day.

   1. MRMel Robbins2:27

      If you know the day that people are most likely to quit, you can take the steps to avoid it. It's kind of like a pothole in the road, right? You can just steer right around it if you see it, and if you expect it, you can navigate around it. So let's talk about Quitter's Day, shall we? So that you don't quit and neither do I. When is Quitter's Day? Day 19. It is day 19 into any new routine, and this research f- comes from a company called Strava. Now, Strava is a fitness app and people use this app to track their runs, and Strava looked at over 800 million user logged activities. That's a lot of data. That is a lot of information, and based on the data from 800 million pieces of logged activity, they crunched the numbers and said the day when most people are likely to give up on their New Year's resolution, day 19. The day when most people are likely to give up that new thing they started, day 19. That's why it's called Quitter's Day. Day 19, which is why you and I are talking about it today, because guess what? Day 19 of 2024 is right around the corner, and you, my friend, are not going to hit that pothole. You are going to know it's coming and you are just going to steer right around it, and if you're listening to this at some other time of the year or some other year entirely, this is still relevant, because any time you make a change, you need to know that Quitter's Day is on the horizon. And research is also very interesting about new changes, because most of us start a new habit or make a new change when on a Monday, or on the first of the year, or at the beginning of a new quarter, or at the beginning of a school year. And so if that's you, guess what? There's a day 19 in that game too, and it's common. And if you're doing Dry January right now, or Whole30, or any one of the challenges that people take on at the beginning of the year, and you're approaching that day 19, oh, it's losing its luster, isn't it? When you jumped onto the bandwagon on New Year's Eve and was like, "I'll do Dry January with you guys." You were all excited and motivated. You were excited for the first week or so as you're making your mocktails, but now that we're cranking into week three, oh, you may be sleeping better, but boy is this work. Or if you've been going to the gym, this was the year you're gonna attack the gym, man, or you've been jumping on the Peloton or you've been working on not being so emotional, not being so reactive. Just let them, to the people around you. Isn't it interesting? It's kind of easy week one. Week two, it starts to be a bit of a grind. Week three, it's like, "Is this ever gonna end? Why did I agree to do this?" I'll tell you why this is hard, because managing this change, holy smokes, it's a lot of energy to create new neuroplasticity. It's a lot of energy to rewire your nervous system. It takes a lot of activation energy to break through old habits. That's why we quit, because the newness is worn off. It's not that motivating anymore, is it? It's not that exciting. It's not that shiny. You may even start to feel what I always feel right around this time. You know what I always feel? I feel mad at myself. I feel mad at myself that I actually agreed to do this BS. I start rebelling against myself.I start being angry that I actually agreed to take this on. I might even be snippy at Chris when I'm like, "We have to go for a walk. I know I agreed for- go for a walk every day after dinner, but I don't want to go for a walk," and I know you know what I'm talking about, and here's the other reason why we start to feel like quitting right about now. I'll tell you why. Are you seeing any results? I'm not seeing any results. I mean, this is, uh, this is hard work to change my life. I kind of thought if I just stopped eating gluten, all of a sudden, the menopause middle would be gonzo by now, but I'm not seeing the results I wanted to see, and this is particularly true if you kind of got duped into making changes while you were on vacation. You know, you're on vacation, you're away from your life, you're like, "Oh, this is easy. I can have a smoothie every day 'cause they're making it at the hotel," or, "Oh, this is easy. I can go for a walk every day because it's warm outside where I am right now and I'm not at work, so I got the time to do this," but guess what? It's now week two or week three and you're back at work or you're back at school, and it's kind of hard to fit all this new stuff in and get to the grocery store and prep all the stuff, and life is starting to overwhelm you, and because the new you is now in your old life. That's why it feels like a lot of work. Everything else in your life didn't change, not the place that you live, not the place that you work, just the things that you're trying to do in here. And here's another mistake that you make and I make right about now. You've probably missed a day, haven't you? If you're a normal human being and you're not a robot, you probably missed a day, and

4. 7:31 – 11:09

   Stop fretting about quitting; research says it’s okay

   1. MRMel Robbins7:31

      somehow, because you haven't kept the perfect streak, you think all the progress is lost. All the moves I've made, for naught. Well, guess what? Your friend Mel Robbins is here to tell you (snaps fingers) research says that's not true. It's not true. All the time that you have spent practicing this new behavior, going to the gym, eating the healthy stuff, drinking your water, making your mocktails, doing what you know you need to do, guess what? From a neuroplasticity standpoint, you're making a lot of progress and that progress doesn't disappear overnight. Your body doesn't just forget that you haven't had alcohol. Your body doesn't just forget all of the weight training that you've been doing, not in a day or two, but you think because you needed to make a streak of this thing, that if you miss one day, all of a sudden you've fallen off the wagon and the wagon has taken off in a sprint to the sunset. It is without you. It has stranded you here on the road. You are screwed. It is over. No changes for you. Baloney. Scientifically, it is not true. You did not fall off the wagon. You hit a bump, and now your seat is back on the wagon and you can keep going. From a habit formation standpoint, you still get all those days that you made the good choices. So don't quit. But that's why so many of us do quit right around this time. They missed a day. They're exhausted. How sad is that? But not you. Not you. Because you're gonna do what I'm gonna do. You know what I do if I'm in, like, a month-long challenge and I miss a day? I just add a day. (laughs) And that's it. Just add a day. Instead of quitting, add a day. Because if you're sick for one day or you're overwhelmed at work, don't let that prevent you from pushing yourself to keep moving forward. Of course you can make the changes stick. Of course you can make the money that you want to make. Of course you can still launch that business. Of course you can get into n- nursing school. Of course you can do this. Just because it's hard doesn't mean you can't do it. Just because it's lost its luster doesn't mean you can't push forward. In moments like this, I'm gonna tell you something, two things really help. First of all, you got to remind yourself, why did you want this change in the first place? You know, you're standing there, you're tired, you don't feel like doing it. Why did you want to do this? And this works so well, this is research from the University of Oregon. I have talked about this now on multiple podcasts that we have released in the last month. I have even given you a free resource that you can still get your, your mitts on. You can download it in less than a minute at melrobbins.com/bestyear. Several hundred thousand fellow listeners have already downloaded this from around the world. Do not miss out on living the life you could be living because this will help you answer what do you want and why do you want it? And once you figure out, "Why do I want this? Why do I want to spend a month not drinking? Why do I want to spend a month eating whole foods? Why do I want to spend a month in a experiment where I've removed gluten or dairy or sugar or something for my health? Why do I want to put in resistance training? Why do I want to get serious about making some money here, huh? Why do I want to do that? Why do I want to heal?" When you know that, there is no fricking quitter's day for you because you know what you want and you know why you want it. But you know what else can really help in a moment like this

5. 11:09 – 14:03

   Here’s what you need the most today, and you’re getting it!

   1. MRMel Robbins11:09

      where you're kind of dragging and you know why you want it? You know that friend who said they would jump on the Peloton with you every single day this month? They haven't been around the last three days-

   2. NANarrator11:20

      Mm-hmm.

   3. MRMel Robbins11:20

      ... to give you that little virtual high five. Nope, you're doing it on your own, or you know the friends, "Oh, yeah, let's do Dry January," and now they're at a wedding this weekend and, quote, "technically they're not doing Dry January with you," but they said technically they wouldn't do Dry January over this weekend, so they're not really doing Dry January. They're doing Dry January their way, which means they're not doing it your way, which makes you feel like, "Why am I doing it the Dry January way when I could be doing it my way, the way everybody else is kind of cheating?" No. You know what you need right now? You need some encouragement from someone else. You need encouragement from somebody who really believes in you. You need encouragement for somebody who really is gonna get behind that why, and I realize you can't always rely on somebody else being there to encourage you, but your friend Mel Robbins is here today.And I know that Quitter's Day is right around the corner, so I've decided today, you know what I can do for you and what I can do for me? I can turn up the bass. I can crank the volume, and I can cheer a whole heck of a lot louder for you, because you can keep going, and when you keep going, that's the difference between people who achieve great things and people who don't. When you are able to keep going when most people stop, Quitter's Day will not affect you. In fact, Quitter's Day, Quitter's Day, I'm like, "Bring that puppy on, baby." I- I could use a good Quitter's Day, because the gym's awfully crowded right now. Let's get a Quitter's Day going. That's right. Let's separate those of us who are willing to push ourselves and to motivate ourselves and to cheer each other on from those folks who, for whatever reason, won't be doing that, which technically, in my book, makes it Winner's Day, right? Winner's Day is when a lot of us keep going. It's not what happens way down the line, it's what happens when things get really tough, right? What determines a winner is when you face day 19, you want to throw in the towel, but you don't. What determines a winner is when your friends are like, "Well, technically, I'm at a wedding this weekend, so I, you know, we're doing Dry January, but just not this weekend." You're like, "Yeah, cheers to you. Lack of integrity. That's not Dry January. That's just normal drinking habits, okay? Dry January is when you go 30 days and you don't drink, and I'm a winner, so I'm not quitting on day 19 just because there's a wedding on the books." Here we go. And so today, I am going to be your own personal cheering squad. I am going to be the one that says, "Yes, you can. Yes, you will. Let's get going. I see you. I know this blows, but let's keep going." Have you ever stood, by the way, near the end of a marathon? Like, for real, have you ever in your life watched a marathon? If you have not done this,

6. 14:03 – 18:39

   One powerful event that will boost your inspiration.

   1. MRMel Robbins14:03

      will you promise me you will watch a marathon someday? It is one of the most inspiring things you will ever witness, because here's what happens. As you watch all these people running this race and they're wearing shirts dedicated to people and people are going by in wheelchairs and folks with disabilities, blind runners are being led by, uh, you know, people that are, that are co-running with them to guide, like, it is the most inspiring thing, that no matter what shape you're in, as you're watching this, at some point, something stirs up inside of you and you say to yourself, "I- I got, I gotta do a marathon someday. This is pretty amazing." And so if you're standing at the end of a marathon, here's what you would experience. You ready? First of all, in no time flat, you're barely done drinking your coffee and somehow the world-class runners leading the pack are breaking land speed records on foot, and they go flying by you at the speed of light. You're like, "Wait, whoa, did they just run 26 mi- What?" It's unbelievable. And then there's this massive wave of just great runners, and then there's another wave of, like, the weekend warriors that run, right? And then comes my favorite part, and my favorite part of a marathon happens near the finish line after five hours in, because after five, five and a half hours in, that's when you see everyday people who have committed to doing this, everyday people like you and me who are dragging themselves through 26.2 miles of a race course, and you are seeing them near the end of this. They are walking or crawling or limping or dragging or wheeling, and in some cases, there are a few that are even jogging as they make it across the finish line. It is not about the time that it took for them to get there. What you experience is the heart and the soul of a winning spirit, someone who is willing to keep putting one foot in front of the other. And so I'm gonna be the person on the side of whatever race you're running. I am clapping. I am screaming. I am cheering. I am high-fiving you. I am gonna give you my best inspirational amazingness that I got to give, and I'm talking, like, the really good stuff. Well, today, guess what? You're gonna hear it here, because I've curated it as a playlist, a playlist of motivation that you need to hear, of cheerleading, of encouragement to remind you that there's no Quitter's Day here for you, because you, yes, you are a winner. So please bookmark this for real. Send this to somebody who needs to know that Quitter's Day is coming but they're gonna keep on running by it. I guarantee you, this is so good, someone is gonna rip this off the second I release it and turn it into a YouTube video on their channel, because it is the best motivational compilation ever, but you're gonna hear it here first, 'cause you are a winner. Hey, it's your friend Mel, and do not skip this, because I have something to give you for free. No kidding. Say goodbye to 2023. Let's say hello to 2024 and make it the best year ever.So, I have something pretty amazing that I want to give you today. It's exactly what you need to hear. It is not just a pep talk, it is the kind of message that a really dear friend who's fed up with you delivers straight between

7. 18:39 – 22:42

   Mel is on a mission to get you to stop doing this.

   1. MRMel Robbins18:39

      the eyes. What am I talking about? I'm talking about your dreams. You're the kind of person, just like me, that every single year, you write down the things that you want in your life. And I would imagine that as each year rolls on and the new list gets written, you move the thing that you didn't work on this year to the list that you do for the next year, and on and on and on. I mean, how many years have you been thinking about writing a book, or changing your job, or changing where you live, or healing some aspect of your past, or finding love, or learning how to love yourself, or starting that business? These things that you hold in your heart, they are meant to be out in the world, and today, I'm on a mission to get you to stop waiting. Stop waiting for the perfect time. Stop waiting to feel ready. Stop waiting for the money. Stop waiting for permission. Stop waiting to feel like somebody's going to care about this. The only person that needs to care enough is you, because today is the day that you're going to pick up the pen. You're going to start the research. You're going to commit to taking action. Why? Because that's what you're meant to do with your life. You're meant to create a bigger vision for yourself. And the reason why I wanted to talk to you about this today is because I know you need to hear it. And look, I don't want to scare you, but I kind of want to take my hands right now and put them on your cheeks or your shoulders and shake you, because I want to wake you up and I need you to realize that your life, it's a melting ice cube. And I think we all believe that we have time, that at some point it'll be the right time, that someday you'll feel ready, that someday it'll be perfect, that someday you'll be a legitimate writer, that someday you'll have something to say. And I'm here to tell you right now that today is that someday. You will waste your whole life, and you will watch that ice cube melt. You will watch time tick by waiting for someday to come, and you are listening to this right now because you needed to hear this. You have on that secret list that you either have on a piece of paper or you have tucked into your heart a dream, a goal, something that you want to change that you are too fucking scared to get started on, and today that ends. Today you're going to stop waiting. You're going to stop wishing. You're going to stop waiting for the right time, waiting for this to happen, waiting for the other thing to happen, waiting for you to feel ready, waiting for this, waiting for that. That ice cube is going to be a puddle that will evaporate if you keep doing that, and I am not going to let 20 years go by. No way. And my mission today is to light a fire under your ass and have it burn so bright that that fire inside you becomes the engine that drives you. Today we make a commitment to ourselves that we are going to get started. What that means is, it means that you need to start to take your time and your energy, and in whatever way you can, in whatever capacity that you can, you need to start to direct your time and energy at the things that you want, not at the things that you have. And look, I know so many of you have really full lives right now. You're a single parent, you're caring for aging parents, you're underwater with your bills. You've got 10 minutes a day. You've got five minutes a day. You've got 15 minutes a day. And that's what I want to inspire you to start doing. I feel so adamant about this because time keeps going even if you don't. 'Cause when you're so in it, you're so busy in your day-to-day life as it is right now that you can't see the bigger picture. Time is passing. It's always passing. Like, I think a lot about

8. 22:42 – 26:16

   Mel took this for granted for much of her life and wishes she hadn’t.

   1. MRMel Robbins22:42

      this moment where after we sold our house where we raised our kids outside of Boston, where we spent 26 years, I always thought when I lived there, I would live there forever. I just took it for granted. And over a year ago, I drove down the street that I had been driving up and down for 26 years for the very last time, and I saw the house that I had raised my kids in disappearing in the rear view mirror for the last time. And I say that because eventually you're going to look back on this moment too, and you're going to think, "My God, I wish I had begun back then. I wish I had started. I wish I had said, 'Fuck it.' I know it's not going to happen overnight, but I'm not going to let my entire life go by just thinking about this thing that I want to create. I'm going to try. I'm going to, I'm going to step out of the thinking and step into the doing." Because it's never going to feel like the right time. It's never going to feel perfect. You're not going to feel worthy until you actually start taking the actions. And so again, I want you to stop waiting to create what you want in your life. If you want to make art, make art. If you want to write, write. If you want to travel, you got to figure out how you can travel. You are missing out on everything because you're waiting for someday. You're waiting for someday to feel ready, someday for it to be perfect, someday... Well, I'll tell you what, today is that someday. And just so you're clear, those excuses?Excuses dim the fire inside you, so let me stoke the flames with a little more coaching. See, in life, time and energy are your two biggest commodities, and right now, your life is like a melting ice cube. Every day that goes by, it melts a little bit more, and that's why I so want you to start to take this seriously. That today be the day that you get started. And this not only goes with how you're spending your time, right? Because you can find five, 10, 15 minutes a day to start chipping away and doing the work to figure out how to make some version of what you want a reality in your life. And we know, based on the research and based on what you learn on this podcast, that simply spending time every day working on something that really matters to you is the secret to bringing more meaning and joy into your life. Why? Because when you start to acknowledge your dreams by working on them, you validate something deep within your soul. Simply working on it brings something alive inside of you. What you bring to each and every day that you wake up is what you're going to create more and more of, and that's the secret. Everybody talks about habits and how habits, like, help you determine who you are. I want to boil it down and make it even more simple. Where you put your time and energy every single day will define the life you create. And so if you're putting your energy into relationships where you're not getting back what you deserve, that is a waste of time, a waste of your precious time, I might add. Is the time that you have during

9. 26:16 – 30:32

   Simply spending a few minutes on your goals every day does this.

   1. MRMel Robbins26:16

      the day, I'm talking five measly mis- minutes, 10 minutes, 15 minutes, are you directing it at what you want to create? Or are you just mindlessly going through the day and through the routine and keeping everything the same? The energy that you're putting into relationships, are those relationships that are giving you something back in return? I am here to tell you, you can change your life by waking up every day, being very clear about what you want, taking responsibility for creating it day by day by day, and slowly redirecting your time and energy toward the things that you want. It's just like pointing your car in a new direction and driving forward, and ultimately it takes you somewhere new. You know, I have another listener writing in, "I want to become a surgeon, but the process is very complicated." Well, no shit. It is very complicated if you look at the end result, but it's not complicated at all if you wake up every day and you ask yourself, "How can I pour time and energy today, in a small way, into this thing that I want to create?" And when you start to get that intentional, when you take responsibility for what you want and moving your life in small ways every single day toward it, everything changes, and it's not that complicated at all. When it comes to the things that you've never done, the dreams that you haven't begun working on, you're not afraid. You're not an imposter. You're not unworthy. You're just a beginner. And all that a beginner needs to do is wake up every day and, in small ways, point their time and their energy toward working at it. And if you do that, one of these days, you'll wake up. Maybe it'll be someday soon. Maybe it'll be a decade from now. And when you do, I want you to know how proud I am of you, and I want you to know how incredibly grateful I am to be your friend, because you proved that if you want something so much, you will go after it, and you will get it, and you will succeed, and you will be successful, and you will achieve it. And I want you to know that I'm so proud of you for doing that, because you proved that if you want something so much, you will go after it, and you will get it, and you will be successful, and you will achieve it, and you will achieve it, and you will achieve it. Because you're the one that woke up and made it happen, day by day, week by week, month by month, year by year. That's how you get it done. I'm serious about that. And that's why I'm here cheering for you. That's why I'm clapping and I'm high-fiving, and I'm telling you, "Pothole, Quitter's Day, run around that sucker." And you know what it takes to run right past Quitter's Day and be like, "Pfft, I'm a winner"? Confidence. And that's what you and I are talking about next. So you keep on going, and I'll be standing right here waiting for you after a short word from our sponsors, clapping, cheering. So you keep going. Stay with us. Welcome back. We're talking about Quitter's Day, which no longer applies to you and me, right? We see it, and we raised the game because we're winners, and we're gonna keep on going. Talk about confidence. You and I have that for days. And confidence is what you need to push through the hardest moments, because sometimes you do feel like giving up. Confidence is not something you build when you're winning. I think oftentimes when we're winning, what gets built is arrogance and bravado, and we forget what went into winning at something in the first place. True confidence, the skill of confidence, it's forged in fire. I mean, I've failed more times than I have time to tell you. You guys know that a decade ago, talk about failure, 800 grand in debt, unemployed, drinking my way through my problems, and all of that heartbreak and headache and breakdown in my life, which was horrendous to go through, it led me to the five-second rule. If there was no debt, there was no drinking, there was no heartache, there would be no five-second rule. When I was a talk show host, I, here I was taping a talk show at CBS Broadcast Center here in New York City. It was a dream of mine to be

10. 30:32 – 34:18

    Here’s what failure says about you.

    1. MRMel Robbins30:32

       able to have a daytime talk show. It gets canceled.It was leading me somewhere. Where? To this podcast, which is my most favorite thing that I have ever done in my career. See, I choose not to stay in a place of self-doubt, I choose not to wallow in failure, because I know that life is always preparing you for something, and I know that your greatest failures, your biggest heartbreaks, they always teach you the most important lessons in life. You know, and, and I keep getting questions from you guys, "Mel, oh my God, you're so confident. Like, what? You're 54 years old, you keep reinventing yourself. What is it inside you, Mel?" What is it inside me that makes me take all these risks, that makes me constantly try new things, that makes me willing to fail, to do something embarrassing or even disastrous? I'll tell you what it is. I want to get as much out of this life as I possibly can, and if you look at the math, I'm halfway through it. And it scares me to think that I could be on my deathbed and look back on my life and say, "I wish I had tried that. I wish I had had the confidence to try that." I do not want to die and have regrets, and so while I'm here, while I'm breathing, while I'm able to, I am going to follow my curiosity, I am gonna follow my heart, I am going to try new things, I am going to do absolutely everything that I can do to grow, to feel, to learn. And that's gonna require me to take risks, that's gonna require me to fuck up things, that's gonna require me to look stupid. And I'm willing to do that, because I know on the other side of the biggest heartbreaks of your life are the most amazing heart-filled moments. I know that in the middle of every failure that I experience, and boy, I experience them, oftentimes of my own doing, every single failure has, honest to God, equipped me with the lessons and the skill or the wisdom that I needed to be able to do something even cooler down the line. You know that you would not be the person you are today had it not been for that thing that you experienced, that you survived, that you learned from. And so, what drives me is just wanting to experience as much as I can from this one life that I have, and it's not all gonna be a joyride. And so I'm willing to take the risk, I'm willing to try, I'm willing to look stupid, and I'm willing to do it because I think the payoff that you get, it's worth it. It's so worth it. So, this moment is leading you somewhere, and you have within you not only the willingness to try, but you have the willingness to face absolutely anything in your life, and you have the ability to take action, which is what changes everything. Confidence is your birthright. It is a skill that you build, it is a habit that you keep. Shit is gonna get hard at times, it does for all of us, and you are going to fall, you are going to fail, you are going to have dark moments, you are going to feel lost. And what I want you to know

11. 34:18 – 39:12

    Do this every day to boost your confidence.

    1. MRMel Robbins34:18

       is if you're willing to get up every single day and dust yourself off, and learn the lesson, and tell yourself that every day you're getting a little bit better, and you are the kind of person that knows that eventually this is leading you where you're meant to go, and you're just gonna get up and you're gonna try again and you're gonna do that thing, you, my friend, are not only going to be practicing and building confidence, you are going to feel it too. And finally, as you're pushing yourself, I know I've been loud, I've been, like, reminding you that you're a winner, this is about stamina, and so I'm gonna take it down. I've been clapping my hands so hard for you that I got blisters, for crying out loud. But there is also something else that you need. You need a reminder that life is not a sprint, it is a marathon, and in order to go the distance you also have to learn how to take my cheering and belief in you and learn how to become your biggest cheerleader and believe in yourself. I am telling you, the best days of your life are ahead of you. You have to start dreaming big right now, and it creates this upward spiral. You can do this. There is a flame burning inside you. There is. You know it. You can feel it. You know that you're meant for more. You know you are not supposed to be broken down on the side of the road on this road trip called life. And I think we underestimate how quickly you can turn your life in a new direction. We spend so much time thinking it's not possible, we put so much energy into our excuses and our fears, and when you get to a point where you can say, "I'm done feeling this way. I want this to feel good. I want to turn my life in a new direction," it is amazing how quickly things can happen. You only get one life. You do have dreams, and you do deserve to make this next leg of the journey of this thing called life as exciting and as amazing as you possibly can.So pull over, assess where you are. Remember, do not stare at the rearview mirror, but focus on the windshield because you're going forward, my friend. Remind yourself that the best years of your life are on the road ahead, and I promise you, you will travel far beyond what you can currently see. (instrumental music plays) 'Cause one day, this epic road trip that we call life, it's gonna be over, and if what everybody who has approached that final leg of the journey says is true, it's gonna happen for you and me in the blink of an eye. So please, find the courage to create a new course for your life. Find the courage to take the wheel and steer it in whatever direction your heart desires, and find the courage to enjoy it. It all starts with you, and don't ever forget, you're not doing this alone because your friend Mel Robbins, I'm right here by your side. I will push you past Quitter's Day because you, my friend, are a winner. Please come back to these pep talks whenever you need them, and I'll be here. Please share them with absolutely everybody that you love because we all need to be cheered forward like this. We all need to be reminded that there is greatness inside us, that just because we miss a day doesn't mean we're gonna miss out on our dreams, that when you see day 19 in front of you, you can push right past it and put it behind you. And if you do, maybe, just maybe, your dreams will come true. But here's what I do know. You will become the person that you know you're meant to be, and that makes you a winner. And one more thing, in case nobody else tells you, I'll tell you. I love you, I believe in you, and I believe in your ability to change your life because you're a winner. I'll talk to you in a few days. And thank you so much for being here on YouTube. Do not forget to get your download, melrobbins.com/bestyourever, boom. And more importantly, subscribe to the channel. It really helps us bring you amazing stuff like this, and I know you want more motivation. Listen to this next.

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