How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over | The Mel Robbins Podcast

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

March 3, 2025

Duration

1h 10m

Channel

The Mel Robbins Podcast

Watch on YouTube

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — Today, you’re getting a wake-up call that will forever change the way you see your phone, your attention, and your time. Mel is pulling back the curtain on the hidden game that Big Tech is playing with your brain—one designed to hijack your focus, drain your energy, and keep you scrolling so they can profit off of you. But here’s the good news: once you see the game for what it is, you can stop losing and start winning. In this episode, you’ll learn why you feel exhausted after scrolling, why you can’t stop checking your phone, and how social media is manipulating you in ways you don’t even realize. Mel breaks down the science of dopamine, motivation, and attention—and how simple, research-backed changes can help you reclaim control. Mel also shares her conversation with renowned psychiatrist Dr. Alok Kanojia, also known as Dr. K, who reveals the shocking truth about what your phone is doing to your brain—and how to undo the damage starting today. By the end, you’ll have the tools to take your power back, set boundaries with technology, and start using your phone as a tool rather than being the tool. If you’re tired of feeling distracted, overwhelmed, and drained, this episode is the wake-up call you need. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-268 Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 0:00: Welcome 03:48 The Shocking Amount of Time You Spend Consuming Media 12:21 5 Questions to Evaluate Your Screen Time Habits 26:10 The Impact of AI in Today’s World 29:09 The Attention Economy: How Your Time is Being Stolen 37:17 Dr. K's Insights on Dopamine & Why You Feel Exhausted 43:20 Practical Steps to Reclaim Your Time & Attention 56:10 The Importance of Physical Boundaries with Your Phone 59:45 How to Make Your Feed Work with You, Not Against You 01:02:58 The Role of Exercise in Reducing Internet Addiction — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Mel Robbins

  host

• Dr. K (guest expert on dopamine/technology)

  guest

• Narrator

  other

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Dr. K (guest expert on dopamine/technology), How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over | The Mel Robbins Podcast explores reclaim Your Time: Outsmarting Phones, Dopamine Drains, and Big Tech Mel Robbins explains how we now live in an “attention economy” where phones, apps, and platforms are deliberately engineered to capture and monetize our time and focus. She argues that our phones are powerful tools, but when we use them unconsciously, *we* become the tool that big tech exploits.

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