The Mel Robbins Podcast“I Can’t Stop Stalking My Ex Online. How Do I Stop?” How To Move On For Good | Mel Robbins Podcast
Mel Robbins and Guest on mel Robbins Tackles Obsession, Intimacy, Faith, Parenting, and Self‑Worth.
In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Guest, “I Can’t Stop Stalking My Ex Online. How Do I Stop?” How To Move On For Good | Mel Robbins Podcast explores mel Robbins Tackles Obsession, Intimacy, Faith, Parenting, and Self‑Worth Mel Robbins answers listener questions in a rapid-fire format, covering topics from anxiety and decluttering to stalking an ex online, new-parent intimacy, faith, and feeling unworthy despite heavy self‑work. She shares practical strategies she’s adopted from expert guests, emphasizes body-based approaches to mental health, and reframes social media stalking of an ex as an addiction requiring firm boundaries. Robbins also discusses cultivating intimacy after childbirth with empathy for women’s physical and emotional recovery, and redefines self-promotion as an act of service rather than ego. Throughout, she stresses aligned action—behaving like the person you want to become—as the real engine of change, not just consuming personal development content.
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Mel Robbins Tackles Obsession, Intimacy, Faith, Parenting, and Self‑Worth
- Mel Robbins answers listener questions in a rapid-fire format, covering topics from anxiety and decluttering to stalking an ex online, new-parent intimacy, faith, and feeling unworthy despite heavy self‑work. She shares practical strategies she’s adopted from expert guests, emphasizes body-based approaches to mental health, and reframes social media stalking of an ex as an addiction requiring firm boundaries. Robbins also discusses cultivating intimacy after childbirth with empathy for women’s physical and emotional recovery, and redefines self-promotion as an act of service rather than ego. Throughout, she stresses aligned action—behaving like the person you want to become—as the real engine of change, not just consuming personal development content.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasTreat obsessive checking of an ex’s social media as an addiction.
Mel argues that repeatedly monitoring an ex’s online life delivers a dopamine-fueled emotional high followed by pain, mirroring addictive cycles like gambling or alcohol; the solution is to remove access entirely by blocking them on all platforms and enlisting friends for accountability.
Prioritize body-based habits over rumination for better mental health.
Drawing from multiple experts, she emphasizes that effective mental health strategies start ‘from the neck down’—getting out of bed immediately, seeing morning light, walking without headphones, intermittent fasting, and nervous-system care—all of which stabilize mood more reliably than just thinking differently.
Use simple, continuous decluttering instead of organizing piles.
Dana K. White’s method changed Mel’s life: stop creating piles and containers, and instead immediately return items to their proper place; this reveals where you simply own too much and makes tidying a lifestyle, not an occasional project.
Endless ‘personal development’ consumption isn’t the same as doing the work.
Mel distinguishes between enjoying motivational content and actually changing your life; real ‘work’ means altering daily habits, confronting childhood patterns, healing the nervous system, and practicing behavioral activation—acting like the worthy person you want to be even before you feel that way.
Reframe marketing your business as an act of service, not bragging.
For people afraid of seeming egotistical, she calls it selfish to hide valuable products or services because of insecurity; marketing is how people who need you can find you, so promoting your work is part of serving others, not self-aggrandizement.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesYou need to block them. You literally delete their contact information, because, Patsy, you're a fucking addict.
— Mel Robbins
When your past is in your present, you can't create a different future.
— Mel Robbins
How dare you deny people your products and services because you're too fucking insecure to market them.
— Mel Robbins
It wasn't until I started getting very focused on acting like the person you want to be that things changed.
— Mel Robbins
The world is aligned to help you when you become aligned with what is true for you.
— Mel Robbins
QUESTIONS ANSWERED IN THIS EPISODE
5 questionsIf I block my ex but still mentally obsess about them, what additional steps can I take to break the emotional addiction?
Mel Robbins answers listener questions in a rapid-fire format, covering topics from anxiety and decluttering to stalking an ex online, new-parent intimacy, faith, and feeling unworthy despite heavy self‑work. She shares practical strategies she’s adopted from expert guests, emphasizes body-based approaches to mental health, and reframes social media stalking of an ex as an addiction requiring firm boundaries. Robbins also discusses cultivating intimacy after childbirth with empathy for women’s physical and emotional recovery, and redefines self-promotion as an act of service rather than ego. Throughout, she stresses aligned action—behaving like the person you want to become—as the real engine of change, not just consuming personal development content.
How can I tell whether I’m truly ‘doing the work’ versus just consuming self-help content that makes me feel productive?
What would a practical, one-week experiment of ‘acting like the worthy version of me’ actually look like in daily behavior?
How can couples create a shared plan for rebuilding intimacy after childbirth that honors both partners’ needs and fears?
In what ways might my parenting around my kids’ friendships be driven by my own unresolved social insecurities?
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