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If you’ve ever found yourself wondering “where did all my friends go?” or felt like making friends as an adult is impossible, you are not alone.
In today’s episode, Mel is breaking down the surprising reasons why friendship feels so much harder in adulthood—and, more importantly, how to change that.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The three essential pillars for creating deep, lasting friendships.
Why you may be experiencing a “friendship recession”
How to stop taking friendship shifts personally.
How to use The Let Them Theory to take a more flexible approach to friendship.
A simple, step-by-step plan to find and keep incredible friends at any stage of life.
Mel also shares shocking research that will change the way you think about friendships—including how long it really takes to form a close bond and the single most important factor in building lasting connections.
If you feel lonely, disconnected, or simply want to strengthen the friendships you already have, this episode will give you the exact roadmap you need.
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I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode.
In this episode:
00:00 Welcome
1:02 What The Rules of Adult Friendship Are
4:43 The Great Scattering
14:49 The Three Pillars of Friendship
32:51 The Rubber Band Rule of Friendship
38:01 Using The Let Them Theory With Friends
40:48 The Truth About Adult Friendships
52:50 Your Step-by-Step Guide to Making Adult Friends
1:03:00 How to Ask for Help (and Get It)
1:06:29 Your Best Friendships Are Still Ahead of You
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