13 Semi-Controversial Truths About Men & Women - Adam Lane Smith

Adam Lane Smith is a psychotherapist and an author. Are men the problem? In a time when blame is easily assigned, it’s worth asking whether men need to re-examine how they show up in the world, including their values, behavior, & accountability. In doing so, they might uncover surprising ways to help heal much of what’s broken. Expect to learn why so many high performing men have avoidant attachment styles, why choosing the wrong women is one of the most important decisions you can make in your life, what the biggest issues with modern dating are, why validation might be more important than love in a relationship, how to break out of the friendzone, why we need to stop comforting men to death, and much more… - 0:00 - What Choosing the Wrong Woman Looks Like 7:25 - What is Happening with Oxytocin in Modern Men? 11:16 - Why Successful Men are Failing in Relationships 17:05 - How Masculinity is Changing 30:40 - Why Validation Makes Men Feel Shame 40:23 - Masculine Role Models are a Double-Edged Sword 46:27 - Why Do Women Choose Jerks Over Nice Guys? 52:18 - Men are Trying to Protect Knowledge on Masculinity 01:01:34 - Why are Men Running From Themselves? 01:09:25 - Why Marriages Need a Purpose 01:15:03 - We Need to Be More Serious and Earnest 01:21:44 - Find Out More About Adam - Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D, and more from AG1 at ⁠https://ag1.info/modernwisdom⁠ Get the best bloodwork analysis in America at ⁠https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom⁠ Get up to $50 off the RP Hypertrophy App at ⁠https://rpstrength.com/modernwisdom - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

Chris WilliamsonhostAdam Lane Smithguest

Jul 24, 20251h 22mWatch on YouTube ↗

EPISODE INFO

Released: July 24, 2025
Duration: 1h 22m
Channel: Modern Wisdom
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Adam Lane Smith is a psychotherapist and an author. Are men the problem? In a time when blame is easily assigned, it’s worth asking whether men need to re-examine how they show up in the world, including their values, behavior, & accountability. In doing so, they might uncover surprising ways to help heal much of what’s broken. Expect to learn why so many high performing men have avoidant attachment styles, why choosing the wrong women is one of the most important decisions you can make in your life, what the biggest issues with modern dating are, why validation might be more important than love in a relationship, how to break out of the friendzone, why we need to stop comforting men to death, and much more… - 0:00 - What Choosing the Wrong Woman Looks Like 7:25 - What is Happening with Oxytocin in Modern Men? 11:16 - Why Successful Men are Failing in Relationships 17:05 - How Masculinity is Changing 30:40 - Why Validation Makes Men Feel Shame 40:23 - Masculine Role Models are a Double-Edged Sword 46:27 - Why Do Women Choose Jerks Over Nice Guys? 52:18 - Men are Trying to Protect Knowledge on Masculinity 01:01:34 - Why are Men Running From Themselves? 01:09:25 - Why Marriages Need a Purpose 01:15:03 - We Need to Be More Serious and Earnest 01:21:44 - Find Out More About Adam - Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D, and more from AG1 at ⁠https://ag1.info/modernwisdom⁠ Get the best bloodwork analysis in America at ⁠https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom⁠ Get up to $50 off the RP Hypertrophy App at ⁠https://rpstrength.com/modernwisdom - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

SPEAKERS

Chris Williamson
host
Adam Lane Smith
guest

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Modern Wisdom, featuring Chris Williamson and Adam Lane Smith, 13 Semi-Controversial Truths About Men & Women - Adam Lane Smith explores modern Masculinity, Attachment Trauma, And Rebuilding Love Between Sexes Chris Williamson and attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith dissect how insecure attachment, trauma, and modern culture are sabotaging relationships, masculinity, and dating. Smith outlines a model of men as 'CEOs' needing mission-aligned 'COO' partners, arguing that secure attachment and four levels of safety are prerequisites for thriving couples.

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