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350k Q&A - Dating Advice, Jordan Peterson & Internal Fears

Subscribe on Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw and Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn to access episodes 10 hours early every day. I hit 350k Subscribers on YouTube!! Technically I also hit 300k but we hit 350k before I had time to record anything so here we are. To celebrate, I asked for questions and got more than 1000 across all platforms so here's 90 minutes of me trying to answer as many as possible. There are legitimately some world-class questions here which I wish I'd come up with, plus some really hard questions about my goals and motivations, good work people. Expect to learn whether I think calling everyone cult members is a clever idea, how a beef-fuelled Jordan Peterson annihilated me at Top Golf, my biggest internal challenges, why I haven't gone vegan, my best advice for incels, whether I believe in NoFap superpowers, why I don't use AirPods to podcast with, my thoughts on pegging and much more... Sponsors: Join the Modern Wisdom Community to connect with me & other listeners - https://modernwisdom.locals.com/ Get 15% discount on the amazing 6 Minute Diary at https://bit.ly/diarywisdom (use code MW15) Get $150 on everything from The Cold Plunge at https://thecoldplunge.com/ (use code MW150) (international shipping enquiries - info@thecoldplunge.com) Get 83% discount & 3 months free from Surfshark VPN at https://surfshark.deals/MODERNWISDOM (use code MODERNWISDOM) Extra Stuff: Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom #datingadvice #personalgrowth #mindset - 00:00 Intro 01:12 NoFap Superpowers 01:50 Advice to Career-Driven Women 02:49 Guest Requests 04:37 Fran Time 05:15 Platonic Relationships 06:09 Tits or Ass? 06:25 First-Wave Meninism 07:26 Internal Struggles 09:14 Dinner with Jordan Peterson 09:42 Asceticism 10:55 2022 Goals 12:32 Does Everything Happen for a Reason? 13:46 Naval Ravikant 14:26 Love Island 14:58 Hustling vs Wellbeing 17:50 Jordan Peterson Appearance Fee 17:57 Transitioning from Party Boy to Podcaster 19:57 Thoughts on Pegging 20:09 Having Children 21:17 Top 10 Books 21:50 Eddie Hall vs Thor 22:37 People’s Opinions of You 26:34 Non-Famous Guests 28:19 Monogamy 28:55 AirPods 30:09 Live Show/Meet & Greet 31:21 Austin 32:49 Advice to Exes 36:41 Biggest Red Pill 37:43 Stress-Testing Guests 41:21 Recommended Podcasts 43:16 Consuming Animals 45:07 Jordan Peterson Off-Camera 46:07 Lasting Struggles 48:20 Inviting the First Guest 49:31 How to Stay Focused 52:01 Decoding the Gurus 57:37 Unknown Hobbies 58:49 Effect of Fame & Money 1:02:03 Managing Strengths & Weaknesses 1:03:29 Missed Questions 1:04:10 Big 3 Lift PRs 1:04:46 Michael Malice 1:04:57 Modern Wisdom ‘Cult’ Members 1:06:45 Effects of Being Well-Known 1:11:39 Going Sober 1:11:49 Ideal Date 1:13:14 Feeling Starstruck 1:14:29 Modern Wisdom Channel Name 1:15:46 Newfoundland 1:16:36 Do Love Islanders Deserve Fame? 1:18:05 Jonny vs Yusef 1:18:43 Opinion Changes 1:21:00 Best Piece of Advice 1:22:17 What Gives You Hope? 1:24:09 Posthumous Guest 1:25:14 Considering Mortality 1:26:02 Advice to Incels 1:28:52 Lessons from the Beginning of Your Career 1:31:40 Relationships 1:31:57 Looking Back on Present Life - Join the Modern Wisdom Community on Locals - https://modernwisdom.locals.com/ Listen to all episodes on audio: Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

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Mar 21, 20221h 35mWatch on YouTube ↗

CHAPTERS

  1. 0:00 – 1:30

    350K Q&A kickoff + NoFap “superpowers” reality check

    Chris opens the milestone Q&A, explains how questions were collected, and jumps straight into semen retention/NoFap claims. He argues the main benefit is reclaiming time and attention for people with compulsive habits, not mystical charisma boosts.

    • 350K subscriber milestone and Q&A format setup
    • NoFap benefits framed as reducing compulsive behavior and freeing time
    • Skepticism toward exaggerated “pheromone/superpower” narratives
  2. 1:30 – 2:31

    Advice for career-driven women: define your own path and reassess often

    Responding to a question aimed at women in their 20s, Chris emphasizes autonomy and continual self-audit. He warns against identity lock-in and sunk-cost thinking, encouraging regular course-correction based on what actually brings fulfillment.

    • Don’t outsource life choices to culture, friends, or media
    • Use periodic introspection: happiness, direction, fit
    • Avoid sunk-cost identity traps; allow future changes
    • Advice applies broadly, not just to women
  3. 2:31 – 4:35

    Future guest pipeline + cinematic ‘big production’ episodes plan

    Chris explains how listeners can request guests and outlines a strategy to create a few high-production, cinematic interviews each year. He names Jocko Willink as a top target and frames these as both artful projects and growth levers.

    • Guest request form exists (website contact page)
    • Plan for 2–4 cinematic, visually rich episodes per year
    • Jocko Willink named as a high-priority guest
    • Differentiation strategy: production value + standout format
  4. 4:35 – 6:06

    Fitness quick hits: ‘Fran’ time + male–female platonic friendship caution

    He shares his Fran workout time and why it’s uniquely brutal. Then he answers whether men and women can be platonic friends, saying it’s possible but often complicated by asymmetrical attraction and resulting awkwardness or pain.

    • Fran explained (21-15-9 thrusters + pull-ups) and why it’s ‘hell’
    • Personal best around 7–8 minutes
    • Platonic relationships: attraction risk from either party
    • Be intentional about boundaries and friendship choices
  5. 6:06 – 7:07

    Lightning round: ‘tits or ass?’ + could the manosphere evolve?

    Chris jokes about changing preferences over time, then pivots to a more serious question: whether today’s toxic manosphere could mature into a healthier men’s movement. He hopes for an evolution that sheds destructive elements.

    • Preferences can change; humor as social commentary
    • Manosphere as an early ‘wave’ that might evolve
    • Hope for a healthier, less toxic men’s movement
    • Benefits would extend to both men and women
  6. 7:07 – 9:08

    Growth pains: scrutiny, criticism, and learning to tune out noise

    Chris describes the psychological impact of sudden channel growth—more eyes, more judgment, and the strange mismatch between wanting reach and feeling exposed. He shares a principle: as your audience scales, you must take feedback less personally while still improving.

    • Rapid growth creates heightened self-consciousness
    • Scrutiny feels intense even when it’s ‘what you wanted’
    • Scale changes feedback quality; good faith becomes less common
    • Best approach: do your best work and iterate without obsession
  7. 9:08 – 10:39

    Jordan Peterson week: dinner, beef, and a take on asceticism as “cope”

    He recounts eating beef with Jordan Peterson and answers whether asceticism is a “big lie.” Chris argues many forms of ascetic posturing can function as an ‘inner citadel’—a protective narrative that avoids the pain of competing or being rejected.

    • Behind-the-scenes Jordan Peterson dinner anecdote
    • Asceticism often used to avoid status/competition risks
    • ‘Inner citadel’ framing: redefining the game so you can’t lose
    • MGTOW/adjacent stances described as defensive coping strategies
  8. 10:39 – 13:40

    2022 show goals + why ‘everything happens for a reason’ bothers him

    Chris outlines goals to grow audio listeners so he can hire production help and reduce an unsustainable workload. He then rejects fatalistic framing, preferring a narrative that credits personal agency for turning setbacks into wins.

    • Goal: grow audio plays; enable hiring a producer
    • Current workflow is end-to-end and time-intensive
    • Anti-fatalism: success is often earned through response to adversity
    • Reframing setbacks as challenges you overcame (agency-first)
  9. 13:40 – 17:42

    Dream guests, Love Island reflections, and balancing hustle with wellbeing

    He discusses trying to book Naval Ravikant (and Sam Harris as another ‘must-get’) and says he has no regret about Love Island. He also addresses the tension between self-care/mental health messages and evolutionary-psych success pressures, arguing alignment comes from finding effort you enjoy.

    • Naval outreach history; sabbatical response
    • No Love Island regret; ‘rare life experience’ framing
    • Core life tension: push hard vs release the tiller
    • Solution: choose training/work you genuinely enjoy to reduce friction
  10. 17:42 – 21:13

    Podcast craft: paying guests, leaving the party life, and views on having kids

    Chris clarifies he doesn’t pay guests like Jordan Peterson to appear. He gives advice for transitioning from a party identity to a more values-driven life, and shares his desire to be a father, ideally with two to three children.

    • No guest appearance fees on the show
    • Value shifts are scary; friend groups often change
    • Use environment design: new communities (CrossFit, martial arts), sobriety stints
    • Wants children; siblings viewed as beneficial for development
  11. 21:13 – 26:16

    Books, sports/pop culture, and handling public opinion

    He points viewers to his reading list rather than narrowing to a short list. He weighs in on Eddie Hall vs Thor, then expands on handling criticism—especially when audiences try to box creators into ideological tribes.

    • Directs to curated ‘100 books’ list with summaries
    • Eddie Hall vs Thor speculation + body transformation admiration
    • Audience tribal categorization can trigger backlash
    • Best defense: honest effort, learn, and keep moving forward
  12. 26:16 – 29:47

    Platform responsibility: non-famous guests, monogamy, and practical gear choices

    Chris argues he already features ‘non-famous’ but highly capable niche experts and wants to do more of it. He shares cautious support for monogamy as the default, and explains why he uses wired headphones while recording despite liking AirPods.

    • Value in elevating ‘closet heroes’ with real expertise
    • Rogan as example of making careers via platforming
    • Monogamy seen as right for most; non-monogamy remains ‘unproven’ to him
    • Wired headphones reduce recording failure risk vs Bluetooth
  13. 29:47 – 44:55

    Community/life logistics: live shows, Austin move, podcasts he recommends, and vegan ethics

    He discusses wanting live events but fears low turnout, and explains moving to Austin as lifestyle + work flexibility. He recommends several well-produced podcasts, then admits his diet conflicts with his ethics on animal suffering, citing convenience as the biggest barrier.

    • Interest in live shows/meetups; ego/fear of empty room
    • Austin move motivated by weather, fitness culture, mobility, meaning + happiness
    • Podcast recommendations: existential risk and political culture series among them
    • Agrees with vegan moral argument; convenience and habit block change
  14. 44:55 – 1:35:18

    Jordan off-camera, negative inner monologue, and learning interview pushback

    Chris says Jordan Peterson is consistent off-camera—attentive, kind—and tells a Topgolf story. He then opens up about his harsh inner voice and therapy work, and explains how he’s training himself to be more disagreeable and probing in interviews without derailing rapport.

    • Off-camera Jordan: caring demeanor + surprising golf skill
    • Ongoing struggle: negative internal self-talk; therapy and ‘internal fix’ framing
    • Interview skill-building: define terms, challenge claims, find gaps
    • Pushback must preserve flow; seen as an ‘art form’

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