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600k Q&A - Masculinity Crisis, Woke Pushback & Lex Fridman

I hit 600k Subscribers on YouTube!! To celebrate, I asked for questions from YouTube, Twitter, Locals and Instagram, so here's another 90 minutes of me trying to answer as many as possible. As always there's some great questions in here about whether Lex Fridman is coming on the podcast, who the most overrated thinker is and my plans for 2023. Expect to learn what my thoughts are on masculinity being in a crisis, my best advice for men in their 20's, whether it's possible to have a well meaning conversation about the Left without calling everyone woke, where I buy my t-shirts from, who I want to bring on the show in 2023, my biggest tips for starting a YouTube channel, why it's a good thing that Newton didn't have Twitter and much more... Sponsors: Get 10% discount on all Gymshark’s products at https://bit.ly/sharkwisdom (use code: MW10) Get 15% discount on Craftd London’s jewellery at https://bit.ly/cdwisdom (use code MW15) Get the Whoop 4.0 for free and get your first month for free at http://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Extra Stuff: Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom #masculinity #woke #lexfridman - 00:00 Intro 01:02 Chris’s Spotify Listenership 02:03 Returning to College Later in Life 03:05 Changing Opinion on Birth Control 04:56 Recommended Books 05:20 Micro-dosing Mushrooms in Vegas 06:12 ‘Does Bruno Mars Is Gay?’ 06:24 Writing a Book 08:26 Hitting 600K Subs 09:41 Back Troubles 10:47 January Special Guest 12:24 Chris’s Uni Accommodation 13:02 Foregoing Relationships for Self-Improvement 15:00 Who in Self-Help is Overrated? 15:58 2 Million Subscribers? 16:29 Chris’s Relationship with Alcohol 18:03 Are We in a Masculinity Crisis? 22:00 Why Chris Cut His Afro 22:59 Obsession with Evolutionary Psychology 25:11 Advice for a Party-Hard Guy 27:58 Spaghetti Fingers or Lasagne Feet? 28:59 Sam Harris 29:57 Stupid Guests 31:00 Would Chris Be Successful if He Was Ugly? 33:55 A Dream Guest for 2023 35:56 F***, Marry, Kill: Rogan, Schulz, Peterson 37:00 Justin Timberlake Hair 37:15 Influence of Andrew Huberman 38:36 Abstaining from Alcohol 38:52 Is Athletic Greens Worth the Hype? 39:25 How Careful is Chris About Guest Selection? 41:54 Most Under-appreciated Modern Thinker 42:53 How to Find Good Friends 45:29 Chris’s Involvement in the Nightclub Business 46:36 Will Chris Host Rogan? 47:00 Greatest Achievement 48:14 Tips for Starting a Channel 50:47 Difference Between the Radical & Sensible Left 53:57 Origin of Bro Science 55:15 Being Surrounded by Negative People 56:20 Do You Need a Platform to Start a Podcast? 58:25 Is Chris Still Hungry? 1:00:41 Marriage & Children 1:01:30 Continuing to Find New Content 1:03:08 Popularity of Dating Shows 1:05:11 Matthew Walker 1:06:11 Was Jocko Difficult to Deal With? 1:07:33 Favourite Evolutionary Psychology Books 1:08:15 Is it Safe to Workout Commando? 1:08:24 Avoiding YouTube Censorship 1:09:12 Chris’s Background Lights 1:09:39 Number 1 Life Hack 1:09:53 Best Advice for Guys in Their 20’s 1:10:22 Adapting YouTube Styles for 2023 1:11:43 Having Direct Conversations in the Manosphere 1:13:09 Avoiding Controversy 1:14:14 Collaborating with Lex Fridman 1:14:48 Does Chris Meditate? 1:15:34 Where Does Chris Buy His T-Shirts? 1:16:08 Becoming a Better Mother 1:16:33 How to Settle Down Young 1:17:35 Favourite UK City 1:17:40 Is Chris on TRT? 1:17:49 Opinion on Andrew Tate 1:18:02 Trimming Pubes 1:18:18 What Chris Thinks of WEF & Jews 1:18:47 Did Historical Figures Benefit from Not Having the Internet? 1:19:41 Seeking Progression 1:20:50 What Trait Should Bring a Higher Status? 1:21:56 End of Year Review 1:22:36 Michael Malice - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

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Jan 9, 20231h 23mWatch on YouTube ↗

CHAPTERS

  1. 0:00 – 1:02

    600K Q&A kickoff: momentum, goals, and why “monk mode” needs structure

    Chris opens the 600,000-subscriber Q&A by framing self-improvement as removing vices and filling the resulting “vacuum” with deliberate goals. He explains how he gathered questions from multiple platforms and sets the tone for a wide-ranging, rapid-fire episode.

    • Monk mode only works if you replace distractions with meaningful work
    • Practical framing question: what would make the next 6 months a success?
    • Where the audience questions came from (YouTube/Twitter/Instagram/Locals)
    • Gratitude for sharing/commenting and how it fuels growth
  2. 1:02 – 3:02

    Audience growth on Spotify and taking a leap back into education

    Chris reacts to the surprising Spotify stat that most listeners discovered the show in 2022, and reflects on platform shifts. He then gives encouragement and tactical advice to a listener who quit alcohol and returned to college at 27.

    • 96% of Spotify listeners joined in 2022; likely a mix of new listeners and platform migration
    • Why Spotify is winning: search and playback-speed features
    • Returning to college later requires humility but can be a huge advantage
    • Use maturity and discipline to compress the timeline and focus hard
  3. 3:02 – 4:33

    Changing his mind on hormonal birth control (and why there’s no easy solution)

    Chris names hormonal birth control as a major opinion shift after interviewing Dr. Sarah Hill. He outlines the psychological and preference-related changes he found most alarming, while admitting he doesn’t see a simple alternative for preventing unwanted pregnancy.

    • Claims about broad psychological and mate-preference effects from hormonal birth control
    • Possible links to anxiety/depression risk when used during formative years
    • Tension between preventing teen pregnancy and potential long-term side effects
    • Acknowledges uncertainty and lack of a clean policy/personal solution
  4. 4:33 – 8:04

    Reading list plug, wild Vegas story, and early book-writing ambitions

    Chris points viewers to his curated book list, then tells a chaotic mushroom-fueled Vegas night story. He shares two possible book projects: one on the modern mating market and one synthesizing lessons learned from the podcast.

    • Directing people to his 100-book list (categorized with summaries)
    • Mushrooms + Cirque du Soleil + nightclub antics as a cautionary ‘heavy night’
    • Two book directions: modern mating market vs. podcast lessons synthesis
    • Why the mating-market book feels intimidating (high stakes, huge scope)
  5. 8:04 – 13:08

    600K milestone reflections, back-pain plan, and the David Goggins announcement

    Chris pushes back on the idea that 600K happened “quickly,” describing five years of compounding reps and headroom for growth. He updates listeners on back issues and outlines both conservative (McGill) and experimental (stem cells) approaches before revealing a major upcoming guest.

    • Five-year build; creator bias toward feeling ‘undersubscribed’
    • Back-pain strategy: Dr. Stu McGill resources and core/carry fundamentals
    • Plans for Colombia stem-cell/intradiscal interventions
    • Special guest reveal: David Goggins; why the episode is a flagship moment
  6. 13:08 – 16:09

    Monk mode for relationships, calling out overrated self-help, and subscriber goals

    Chris answers whether it’s smart to pause dating while building yourself, arguing focused seasons can pay off—if you fill the time productively. He also names a self-help figure he sees as harmful and shares realistic subscriber targets for next year.

    • Monk mode: pause chasing relationships to reinvest time into skill-building
    • Warning: don’t replace dating with empty escapism (weed/COD/etc.)
    • Overrated self-help critique: ‘wish it into existence’ = low agency mindset
    • Subscriber expectations: 1M as a strong goal; 2M as a stretch
  7. 16:09 – 18:10

    Alcohol: why sobriety is a superpower and how to reintroduce it responsibly

    Chris describes his current relationship with alcohol as better than both his drinking and fully sober phases, emphasizing control and intention. He argues that six months sober can radically reshape your life—especially in cultures organized around weekend drinking.

    • Reintroduction challenges: tolerance and rebuilding a ‘place’ for alcohol
    • Controlled, occasional drinking vs. compulsive drinking patterns
    • Sobriety as a competitive advantage in late 20s+
    • Cultural deprogramming when social life revolves around alcohol
  8. 18:10 – 21:42

    Masculinity crisis, ‘toxic masculinity’ language games, and a healthier middle path

    Chris argues there is a masculinity crisis driven partly by cultural narratives that make it hard to feel proud of masculine virtues without being attacked. He calls for a more collaborative, less adversarial framework that preserves virtues like courage and responsibility without turning women into enemies.

    • ‘Toxic masculinity’ broadened from a specific concept into a catch-all insult
    • Men lack stable cultural ‘places to stand’ without immediate backlash
    • Both sexes struggle for purpose; women’s struggles are often more culturally sympathized
    • Proposal: a ‘holistic masculinity’ that’s pro-men and pro-collaboration
  9. 21:42 – 28:44

    Identity signals: the buzz cut, evolutionary psychology overload, and escaping the party loop

    Chris explains why he cut his distinctive hair (maturity and masculinity signaling) and how COVID locked in the buzz-cut habit. He also discusses the downside of evolutionary psychology—seeing people as “programmed”—and gives practical steps for a 27-year-old stuck in partying, drugs, and sleeping around.

    • Hair change as intentional identity shift: less ‘party persona,’ more mature look
    • Evo psych can reduce empathy by turning people into ‘puppets’ of programming
    • Sovereignty theme: resisting being ruled by substances and impulses
    • Behavior change recipe: change friends, stop drinking, set goals, fill the vacuum
  10. 28:44 – 36:49

    Guests, fame, and ethics: Sam Harris, ‘stupid guests,’ pretty privilege, and dream bookings

    Chris talks about wanting Sam Harris on the show and reflects on the awkward mix of conversation and performance in podcasting. He tackles a question about how much looks shaped his life, then lists dream guests and explains why he stopped publicly posting upcoming guest lists.

    • Sam Harris as an influence; desire for him to return to existential/mindfulness themes
    • Podcasting as both authentic conversation and a public performance
    • Pretty privilege/halo effect acknowledged, but not a full explanation of life outcomes
    • Dream guests + operational reality: guest-list secrecy to prevent ‘front-running’
  11. 36:49 – 50:27

    Building the show: Huberman’s impact, sponsor picks, guest selection responsibility, and YouTube/podcast tactics

    Chris details what he adopted from Andrew Huberman and why he values open-mindedness. He defends Athletic Greens, explains how scaling changes guest-selection dynamics and the need for pushback, then gives practical advice for starting a channel/podcast and making production frictionless.

    • Habits influenced by Huberman: sleep stack, morning sunlight rule, evidence-based updating
    • Sponsor/product endorsement reasoning and personal testing claims
    • Bigger platform = more scrutiny but also more goodwill and ability to have hard conversations
    • YouTube growth advice: learn the ‘physics’ (thumbnails/titles), prioritize sound/lighting, reduce friction
  12. 50:27 – 1:23:51

    Culture war nuance and social environment: woke vs. activist, ‘bro science,’ negativity, and closing reflections

    Chris draws a line between sincere activism and performative status-seeking, arguing the internet rewards outrage and low-resolution takes. He explains where “bro science” came from, gives advice on escaping pervasive negativity by cultivating a small circle of positive people, and closes with personal updates and gratitude.

    • Woke vs. genuine activism: intent + research vs. clout/status via moral grandstanding
    • Online incentives reward dunking, not nuance; discourse needs ‘volume turned down’
    • Origin/use of ‘bro science’ as a humorous disclaimer for unverified takes
    • Negativity antidote: a few positive friends can outweigh the internet; end-of-episode wrap-up and upcoming releases

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