How Men Keep Sabotaging Themselves - Dr Robert Glover

Dr Robert Glover is a therapist, coach and an author. Being nice is something many of us aspire to become. After all, who doesn’t want to be nice? Well Nice Guy Syndrome has been ruining the lives of many men for decades, so perhaps we should aspire to be something else. Expect to learn what is actually wrong with being a nice guy, why men become so afraid of putting their needs first, how to stop people pleasing, why nice guys end up resentful and bitter, whether nice guys attract or repel women and much more... - 00:00 What’s Wrong With Being a Nice Guy? 05:54 The Origin of Nice Guys 15:06 Using Aggression as a Masculine Tool 22:15 Are Nice Guys More Orderly? 28:06 Why Nice Guys Keep Things Hidden 38:54 The Solution is Not to Be a Bad Guy 45:02 Alain de Botton on Nice Guys 48:37 Why Women Aren’t Complaining About Nice Guys 58:38 What Nice Guys Need to Know About Female Attraction 1:05:23 The Role of Emotional Tension 1:13:54 The Importance of Playfulness 1:25:42 How to Rehabilitate a Nice Guy 1:30:50 Your Most Formative Sexual Experience 1:39:59 Best Practices to Help Nice Guys 1:46:23 Where to Find Dr Glover - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

Chris WilliamsonhostDr Robert Gloverguest

Feb 1, 20241h 47mWatch on YouTube ↗

EPISODE INFO

Released: February 1, 2024
Duration: 1h 47m
Channel: Modern Wisdom
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Dr Robert Glover is a therapist, coach and an author. Being nice is something many of us aspire to become. After all, who doesn’t want to be nice? Well Nice Guy Syndrome has been ruining the lives of many men for decades, so perhaps we should aspire to be something else. Expect to learn what is actually wrong with being a nice guy, why men become so afraid of putting their needs first, how to stop people pleasing, why nice guys end up resentful and bitter, whether nice guys attract or repel women and much more... - 00:00 What’s Wrong With Being a Nice Guy? 05:54 The Origin of Nice Guys 15:06 Using Aggression as a Masculine Tool 22:15 Are Nice Guys More Orderly? 28:06 Why Nice Guys Keep Things Hidden 38:54 The Solution is Not to Be a Bad Guy 45:02 Alain de Botton on Nice Guys 48:37 Why Women Aren’t Complaining About Nice Guys 58:38 What Nice Guys Need to Know About Female Attraction 1:05:23 The Role of Emotional Tension 1:13:54 The Importance of Playfulness 1:25:42 How to Rehabilitate a Nice Guy 1:30:50 Your Most Formative Sexual Experience 1:39:59 Best Practices to Help Nice Guys 1:46:23 Where to Find Dr Glover - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

SPEAKERS

Chris Williamson
host
Dr Robert Glover
guest

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Modern Wisdom, featuring Chris Williamson and Dr Robert Glover, How Men Keep Sabotaging Themselves - Dr Robert Glover explores nice Guys, Covert Contracts, And Why Women Aren’t Attracted Anymore Dr. Robert Glover explains his "Nice Guy Syndrome" framework: men who believe they’re not okay as they are, seek approval (especially from women), avoid conflict, and hide their needs and sexuality. These patterns create inauthenticity, resentment, covert manipulation, and ultimately mediocre lives and unsatisfying relationships. He contrasts “nice guys” with overt jerks, arguing both are anxiety-driven strategies on the same continuum, and proposes a third path of grounded, self-validating masculinity. Central to change are dismantling covert contracts, getting comfortable with emotional tension and dominance/submission polarity in relationships, and building honest connections with other men.

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