How To Be Single | Relationships 104

1. 0:00 – 15:00

   What about you guys?…

   1. CWChris Williamson0:01

      What about you guys? Do you think there's any things to look out for-

   2. JOJonny0:03

      I-

   3. CWChris Williamson0:03

      ... red flags with men?

   4. JOJonny0:04

      So, the, the, the main thing is how do they talk about their ex, or if they have any generalisations about women as a whole, if you have someone who it just seems bitter about all women.

   5. YUYusef0:15

      So, so that was one. Second one was similar to what you said, I'd just ask them how ... I'd ask them about their mother. Like if they're very caring and speak very fondly of their mother, chances are-

   6. CWChris Williamson0:23

      Good to women generally.

   7. YUYusef0:24

      Yeah, chances are.

   8. CWChris Williamson0:25

      That's a, that's a really, really good test. I think I need to be very careful today. So, the, the, the reason that Tinder is bad is because it immediately brands whatever interaction you are having with the person under the guise of Tinder. Like, "How did you meet?" "Oh, we met on Tinder." "That's the guy from Tinder." You are rated below anybody, even the worst person who comes through on any other preferential medium. The worst person on Instagram is rated above the best person on Tinder. As my dad would say, with regards to the Tinder thing, "You're looking for a streak of piss in a pile of shit."

   9. JOJonny0:57

      Oh, see I was gonna say diamond in the rough, but I think-

   10. YUYusef0:59

       (laughs)

   11. CWChris Williamson1:00

       Streak of piss in a pile of shit. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back. Johnny and Yusuf from propanefitness.com, and it is finally time for Relationships 104.

   12. YUYusef1:14

       The funnel.

   13. CWChris Williamson1:15

       The insta- including-

   14. JOJonny1:17

       Oh, yes.

   15. CWChris Williamson1:17

       ... the Instagram funnel. This is the episode which is most likely to get me in trouble and make people cross.

   16. JOJonny1:24

       To rustle jinnies.

   17. YUYusef1:25

       Do you think because we're revealing the funnel, the funnel will work better or worse as a result?

   18. CWChris Williamson1:30

       I think I need to be very careful today. No, I ... the, the, the thing-

   19. YUYusef1:34

       I think we should go full Louis Theroux and just ask him about it. (laughs)

   20. JOJonny1:38

       (laughs)

   21. CWChris Williamson1:38

       Fine. "So tell us about ..."

   22. YUYusef1:41

       "Some people would say, Chris, that this is a very insensitive way of approaching relationships. What, what do you say to those people?"

   23. CWChris Williamson1:47

       So-

   24. JOJonny1:47

       I think the funnel's gonna be more effective as a ... 'cause people go, "Oh my God, I'm in the funnel."

   25. YUYusef1:50

       "I'm in the funnel, I'm in the funnel."

   26. JOJonny1:51

       "Yes."

   27. YUYusef1:51

       Yeah. Yeah.

   28. CWChris Williamson1:52

       I, I don't think ... Anyway, so relationships 101, 102, and 103 all charted in the top 50 worldwide on iTunes.

   29. YUYusef2:00

       Oh.

   30. CWChris Williamson2:01

       So thank you very much.
2. 15:00 – 30:00

   Or a snatch, and…

   1. YUYusef15:00

      Strongman.

   2. JOJonny15:00

      Or a snatch, and you're like... Yeah.

   3. YUYusef15:01

      Like, I'm not Strongman, I don't weigh 200 kilos.

   4. CWChris Williamson15:04

      (laughs)

   5. YUYusef15:04

      I don't use a lot of anabolics. I'm, I'm not on TV. Not that v- not that much in comparison. They're like, "Oh, go on. How much?"

   6. CWChris Williamson15:12

      (laughs) .

   7. YUYusef15:13

      Half.

   8. CWChris Williamson15:13

      So you can give them any number.

   9. YUYusef15:14

      Yeah.

   10. CWChris Williamson15:15

       You, you could say-

   11. YUYusef15:15

       10,000.

   12. CWChris Williamson15:17

       Oh, whoa.

   13. JOJonny15:18

       Whoa.

   14. YUYusef15:18

       (laughs)

   15. CWChris Williamson15:18

       Yeah, understood.

   16. JOJonny15:19

       "That's like three of me."

   17. YUYusef15:20

       So because I have an Instagram-

   18. CWChris Williamson15:22

       Yeah.

   19. YUYusef15:22

       ... and I have f- 400 followers and I see someone's Instagram that has 5,000 followers and lots of really polished photos and it's like, "Wow, this person-"

   20. CWChris Williamson15:33

       Good shop window.

   21. YUYusef15:34

       "... therefore is popular."

   22. CWChris Williamson15:36

       Well, you've got some so-

   23. YUYusef15:37

       Same, et cetera.

   24. CWChris Williamson15:37

       It's social proofing.

   25. YUYusef15:38

       Yeah.

   26. CWChris Williamson15:38

       Right? And, uh, this comes back to kind of the first thing that I said, which I think is really virtuous actually, that a lot of people would make fantastic potential partners. The only problem is that you're not giving them the chance.

   27. JOJonny15:51

       It's the marketing.

   28. CWChris Williamson15:52

       Yeah. They're, they're, they're, they're literally, they're literally just marketing themselves poorly.

   29. YUYusef15:57

       Mm-hmm.

   30. CWChris Williamson15:57

       Or maybe you're marketing yourself poorly. So it's like right, well, if you present yourself online in the best possible way, and if everyone else does as well, then you're giving yourself the best chance of being accepted by whoever, whichever potential partners it is that you want to get.
3. 30:00 – 45:00

   It's just data, isn't…

   1. CWChris Williamson30:00

      looking for a little bit more as a girl, I think a really good question to ask a guy is, "When was your last relationship?" And if they- Do you want it to be recent or not? You just want it to exist.

   2. YUYusef30:10

      It's just data, isn't it?

   3. CWChris Williamson30:11

      Okay. Like if it- So it's a- If it was, if it was ... I would say if it was within the last month-... or more than the la- more than five years ago.

   4. YUYusef30:20

      Mm-hmm.

   5. JOJonny30:20

      So, if it was when they're nine, is it, "I held hands with my, with my girlfriend-"

   6. CWChris Williamson30:24

      Yeah.

   7. JOJonny30:24

      "... at nine years old."

   8. CWChris Williamson30:25

      And if it was-

   9. YUYusef30:26

      E- eject. Eject.

   10. JOJonny30:26

       Eject. Yeah, yeah.

   11. CWChris Williamson30:26

       And if it was nine hours ago?

   12. JOJonny30:28

       Uh, also eject.

   13. YUYusef30:29

       Oh, I see.

   14. CWChris Williamson30:29

       Both of those. There's a Goldilocks zone in the middle.

   15. YUYusef30:31

       Nine and nine.

   16. CWChris Williamson30:31

       Yeah.

   17. YUYusef30:32

       Older than nine years old-

   18. CWChris Williamson30:33

       (laughs)

   19. YUYusef30:33

       ... but m- w- l- further, further away than nine hours ago.

   20. CWChris Williamson30:37

       Than nine hours ago. There we go, the rule of nine.

   21. YUYusef30:38

       There's your sweet spot. (laughs)

   22. CWChris Williamson30:38

       Give you the rule of nine. (laughs)

   23. YUYusef30:40

       (laughs)

   24. CWChris Williamson30:40

       Um, so, I think that's... What about you guys? Do you think there's any other things to look out for-

   25. YUYusef30:43

       I-

   26. CWChris Williamson30:43

       ... red flags with men?

   27. JOJonny30:45

       So, the, the, the main thing is, and this goes for both, how do they talk about their ex? And yes, there is a chance that their ex was this massive psycho that, that... But even then, there's a level of tact and class that if someone just downplays it or doesn't tend to go on about it, or if they have any generalizations about women as a whole, if you have someone who, um, it just seems bitter about, about all women, like, that's another-

   28. CWChris Williamson31:14

       Like, you read sorts of red pill stuff.

   29. JOJonny31:16

       Oh, yeah, particularly. R- r- red, red pill-

   30. CWChris Williamson31:18

       If he's got any Rollo Tomassi books.
4. 45:00 – 1:00:00

   It's not even about…

   1. YUYusef45:00

      their true-

   2. JOJonny45:00

      It's not even about their opinion, it's just about can they formulate a-

   3. YUYusef45:03

      Yep.

   4. JOJonny45:03

      ... uh, uh, something reasonable, and-

   5. YUYusef45:04

      I think our-

   6. CWChris Williamson45:05

      And, and even if they don't know, can they, with grace, play off the fact that they don't know?

   7. YUYusef45:09

      Mm-hmm.

   8. CWChris Williamson45:09

      Like, "Oh, I'm not really into politics, like, but I can tell you a lot about tracking forms."

   9. YUYusef45:14

      Or even just-

   10. JOJonny45:14

       Formula One. (laughs)

   11. YUYusef45:15

       ... even just say, "I don't know. I've not heard about that. What's that?"

   12. JOJonny45:17

       Mm-hmm.

   13. CWChris Williamson45:18

       Yeah.

   14. YUYusef45:18

       For example.

   15. CWChris Williamson45:19

       Yeah.

   16. YUYusef45:19

       'Cause a very, a masculine thing is like, "Oh, yeah, yeah, I saw that."

   17. CWChris Williamson45:22

       "Did- tell me about it."

   18. YUYusef45:24

       "Yeah, the Brexit stuff? Yeah. Oh, yeah, I was reading about that."

   19. JOJonny45:26

       Or, like, the male answering syndrome, like, "Oh, me? I- I wrote the book on Brexit, man."

   20. YUYusef45:30

       "Mm-hmm." (laughs)

   21. CWChris Williamson45:30

       (laughs)

   22. YUYusef45:31

       "I am Brexit, man."

   23. CWChris Williamson45:32

       "Brexit? But we went out for drinks, like, three nights ago."

   24. YUYusef45:36

       (laughs)

   25. CWChris Williamson45:36

       "It was brother. He's, he's, he's brother, his brother used to play football with me."

   26. JOJonny45:40

       (laughs)

   27. CWChris Williamson45:40

       Oh, right. Yeah. Okay. (laughs) Um, so what-

   28. YUYusef45:44

       Or show them an Anton Creel clip and see if they react or not.

   29. CWChris Williamson45:46

       In which case, marry them immediately.

   30. YUYusef45:47

       If it's positive, grab them, hold them.
5. 1:00:00 – 1:09:04

   Un-keen. …

   1. YUYusef1:00:00

      s- insufficiently-

   2. CWChris Williamson1:00:01

      Un-keen.

   3. YUYusef1:00:01

      ... un-keen.

   4. CWChris Williamson1:00:02

      Yeah.

   5. YUYusef1:00:02

      Um, that they, they probably just do it without thinking. And even if they're not, even if the, that doesn't truly represent them, they just, they've done something like, "Oh, sorry."

   6. CWChris Williamson1:00:14

      I think one of the ... Especially now that the response rate is less of a concern or a less of a major factor because of the advent of instant messaging, the content is. Like if it's, "What are you doing tonight? When are we going out next?"

   7. YUYusef1:00:32

      Right.

   8. CWChris Williamson1:00:32

      Like, you can, you can talk quite freely backwards and forwards and keep it casual.

   9. YUYusef1:00:36

      Mm-hmm.

   10. CWChris Williamson1:00:37

       You can also talk quite fr- I think sarcasm and a little bit of kind of jibing is a good tactic to be able to keep everything playful.

   11. YUYusef1:00:45

       Mm-hmm.

   12. CWChris Williamson1:00:45

       Not only does it stop you from falling too deep into the, like, falling in, uh-... early stages of love for someone who you've only met a few times.

   13. JOJonny1:00:53

       Mm-hmm.

   14. CWChris Williamson1:00:53

       It also kind of, it's that playful territory that, like, you can't have that ... Once you've been with someone for, like, six months, you can't gib them about not really being that bothered about, like-

   15. JOJonny1:01:05

       (laughs)

   16. CWChris Williamson1:01:05

       Do you know what I mean? Like, "F- fuck off, mate."

   17. YUYusef1:01:06

       Yeah.

   18. JOJonny1:01:06

       It also probes-

   19. CWChris Williamson1:01:07

       "I've seen your bumhole."

   20. YUYusef1:01:07

       Boring. (laughs)

   21. JOJonny1:01:09

       Yeah. (laughs)

   22. CWChris Williamson1:01:09

       (laughs)

   23. JOJonny1:01:10

       It, it probes whether they would, um-

   24. YUYusef1:01:11

       Change everything. (laughs)

   25. JOJonny1:01:12

       ... whether they can take a joke as well. And, and that's it. So, so I think for me, the red flags are, yeah, can they take a joke? Are they ... Have they got a sense of humor? 'Cause I think that pre-frames a lot of other things, a lot of character traits as well.

   26. CWChris Williamson1:01:25

       What are those, like, what-

   27. JOJonny1:01:25

       Like, if someone can't laugh, then there's a lot of other things wrong with them.

   28. CWChris Williamson1:01:28

       It's like pre-screening for particular-

   29. JOJonny1:01:31

       Yeah.

   30. CWChris Williamson1:01:32

       ... down-stream genetic diseases and stuff like that-

Episode duration: 1:17:18