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The Dark Side Of Feminism's "Liberation" - Mary Harrington

Mary Harrington is a contributing editor at UnHerd and an author. Women have been subject to a lot of changes over the past 200 years. Liberated first from the land, then from the house, then from the womb, and finally even from their own nature. But has it actually helped? Has modern feminism been for the best or has it made women's lives more confusing than ever? Expect to learn why feminism might not have delivered on the promises it made to the world, why there is a war on relationships between the sexes, Mary's guess on why there are so few families getting together, how women's liberation has only worked for a small number of women at the expense of many others, why abortion and birth control actually led to more single parent households and much more... Sponsors: Get $100 off plus an extra 15% discount on Qualia Mind at https://neurohacker.com/modernwisdom (use code MW15) Get 83% discount & 3 months free from Surfshark VPN at https://surfshark.deals/MODERNWISDOM (use code MODERNWISDOM) Get 20% discount on House Of Macadamias’ nuts at https://houseofmacadamias.com/modernwisdom (use code MW20) Extra Stuff: Buy Feminism Against Progress - https://amzn.to/3YUNkfY Subscribe to Mary's Substack - https://reactionaryfeminist.substack.com/ Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom #feminism #women #sex - 00:00 Intro 00:33 What Qualifies Mary to Critique Feminism? 09:00 Hasn’t There Been Progress for Women Since the Industrial Revolution? 21:28 Feminism After the 1800s 25:50 When Men ‘White-Knight’ for Women 30:20 The Impact of the Sexual Revolution 39:02 What are the Motivations Behind Modern Feminist Progress? 58:25 The Worrying Rise of 'Transhumanism' 1:11:21 Society’s Need to Abolish ‘Big Romance’ 1:25:02 Is the Sexual Revolution Sidelining Men? 1:32:16 The Feminist Case for Not Taking the Pill 1:38:24 How People Can Help to Abolish ‘Big Romance’ 1:43:26 Where to Find Mary - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

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Mar 2, 20231h 44mWatch on YouTube ↗

At a glance

WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

Mary Harrington Challenges Feminism, Freedom, and the Cyborg Future

  1. Mary Harrington argues that modern feminism is less a linear story of moral progress and more a reaction to changing material and technological conditions, from the Industrial Revolution to the pill and the internet.
  2. She contrasts a “feminism of freedom” that prioritizes individual autonomy with a “feminism of care” that centers dependence, motherhood, and relational bonds, claiming the former has decisively won and left serious human costs.
  3. Harrington critiques the sexual revolution, hormonal birth control, commodified online dating, porn, and OnlyFans as creating adversarial, transactional relations between the sexes and undermining trust, intimacy, and family formation.
  4. She warns of a coming “cyborg theocracy” and transhumanist market in bodies and reproduction, and calls for a post-romantic, solidarity-based model of marriage, limits on technological “freedom,” and a renewed respect for female embodiment and dependence.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

Reframe feminism as historical adaptation, not automatic progress.

Harrington urges listeners to see feminism as women’s strategic response to technological and economic upheavals (e.g., work leaving the home, the pill), rather than as a simple moral arc toward ever-greater freedom; this allows a more honest audit of gains and losses.

Recognize the trade‑offs of the “feminism of freedom.”

Prioritizing autonomy, paid work, and detachment from dependency has delivered real benefits, but has also devalued motherhood, care work, and interdependence, leaving many women lonely, ambivalent about pregnancy, and structurally set against their own bodies.

Treat hormonal birth control as a powerful psychoactive technology with social costs.

Harrington and others report that the pill alters libido, attraction, and mood, and enabled hookup culture by decoupling sex from consequences; she argues a feminist “pushback” on routine pill use could reduce degrading sexual encounters and re-raise the bar for intimacy.

Interrogate how markets colonize sex, bodies, and relationships.

From Playboy to online dating to OnlyFans and surrogacy, once sex and reproduction are treated as private and consequence‑free, they quickly become sites of trade; Harrington warns that commodification tends to benefit elites while exploiting poorer women’s bodies and fertility.

Resist the slide into transhumanist treatment of bodies as modular parts.

She connects gender medicine, organ-for-sentence-reduction schemes, and commercial surrogacy to a broader “cyborg theocracy” that sees human bodies as Lego-like resources, arguing this will create class‑based markets in organs, wombs, and gametes unless politically resisted.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

Pregnancy doesn’t just create a baby; it also creates a mother.

Mary Harrington

Feminism isn’t about moral progress; it’s a response to material conditions.

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We’ve finished industrializing the world, so now we’re colonizing the human body and soul.

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Choosing one person is by definition settling, because everybody annoys their partner after a while.

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We need an Occupy Ourselves movement.

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Feminism as a reaction to industrialization and technological change rather than pure moral progressThe tension between the “feminism of care” vs. the “feminism of freedom”Impact of the pill, abortion, and the sexual revolution on relationships, motherhood, and female embodimentMarketization and commodification of sex, dating, and the self (porn, online dating, OnlyFans)Transhumanism, “cyborg theocracy,” and the emerging market in human bodies and reproductive capacitiesThe mating crisis, Big Romance, and the shift to self-expressive, highly optional marriagesMale formation, single-sex spaces, and the need to “let men be men” for social stability

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