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The Science Of Personality Change - Christian Jarrett

Dr Christian Jarrett is deputy editor of Psyche and an author. Most people believe that they are their personalities. That it's an immutable, unchanging, central part of them as a person. But psychologists and neuroscientists have been studying the science of personality change for many years and have uncovered strategies to change your personality for good. Expect to learn why most personality tests are basically useless, how genetically heritable our personalities are, just how much of a change we can make from where we start off, how to stop being shy or introverted, the best strategies to become more ambitious and conscientious, the most effective strategies to maintain personality change and much more... Sponsors: Get 20% discount & free shipping on your Lawnmower 4.0 at https://www.manscaped.com/ (use code MODERNWISDOM) Get the Whoop 4.0 for free and get your first month for free at http://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Our Sponsor - get 25% discount on your at-home testosterone test at https://trylgc.com/wisdom (use code: MODERN25) Extra Stuff: Check out Christian's website - https://psyche.co/ Buy Be Who You Want - https://amzn.to/3B31sdS Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom #psychology #personality #mindset - 00:00 Intro 03:26 The Problem with Personality Quizzes 07:46 Physiology of Personality 16:10 Can Personalities Truly Change? 23:59 Developing Different Admirable Traits 33:21 Extraversion v Introversion 39:07 How Life Events Impact our Personality 48:17 Making a Personality Change 1:02:02 Becoming Emotionally Stable 1:06:10 Improving Confidence 1:12:47 Where to Find Christian - Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Listen to all episodes on audio: Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

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Sep 8, 20221h 13mWatch on YouTube ↗

At a glance

WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

How To Deliberately Re‑Engineer Your Personality Using Science, Not Woo

  1. Christian Jarrett explains the science of personality, emphasizing the Big Five model as a robust, measurable framework that predicts life outcomes as powerfully as education or socioeconomic background. He argues that personality is relatively stable but meaningfully changeable, shaped by a two-way feedback loop between biology, behavior, and environment. The conversation covers how lifestyle, relationships, and major life roles can nudge traits like conscientiousness, neuroticism, and extraversion over time. Jarrett outlines practical strategies—borrowed from psychotherapy, behavioral science, and mindset research—for intentionally shifting traits in the direction of one’s values and long-term goals.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

Use the Big Five, not pop tests, to think about personality.

Jarrett defines personality as long-term patterns of thinking, feeling, and relating, best captured by the Big Five (openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, neuroticism). Popular systems like Myers-Briggs are engaging but unreliable—people often get different results on different days—so they’re poor guides for real change.

Personality is stable but meaningfully changeable—treat it like an oil tanker.

Traits are partly genetic (around 50% of variance) and correlate with objective biology, so they aren’t just ‘mindset’. Yet long-term studies show nearly everyone changes on at least one major trait over decades. Think of personality as slow to turn but steerable with sustained effort and environmental shifts.

Small lifestyle choices create powerful feedback loops on your traits.

Behaviors like sleep quality, smoking, exercise, and diet don’t just affect health; longitudinal data links them to later shifts in neuroticism, conscientiousness, openness, and extraversion. Good habits tend to pull you upward (more stable, more disciplined); bad ones nudge traits in the opposite direction over time.

Design your environment to boost conscientiousness instead of relying on willpower.

Highly conscientious people don’t necessarily have superhuman self-control; they arrange life to avoid temptation in the first place. You can copy this by restructuring your environment, routines, and social circle to reduce friction for good behaviors and increase friction for bad ones.

Your beliefs about willpower strongly shape how much of it you have.

Research shows people who see effort as energizing (not depleting) maintain more self-control; cultures teaching that discipline is strengthening exhibit less ‘ego depletion’. Adopting the view that using willpower generates more willpower can measurably improve persistence and self-regulation.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

Personality is how you behave without putting any effort into it.

Christian Jarrett

Personality is like mood smeared across time.

Chris Williamson

It’s hard to dispute that higher conscientiousness is linked to so many preferable outcomes in life.

Christian Jarrett

Genetics do not predetermine, but they do predispose.

Chris Williamson, paraphrasing Robert Plomin

If you really genuinely want to change, you’ve got to be willing to shake things up.

Christian Jarrett

Scientific definition of personality and the Big Five traitsLimits of popular but unscientific personality models (e.g., Myers-Briggs)Personality vs mood, stability vs change across the lifespanBiological and lifestyle underpinnings of traits (brain, hormones, microbiome, sleep, smoking, fitness)Feedback loops between habits, environments, and personalityRole of life events, social roles, and relationships in shaping traitsPractical methods for changing specific traits: conscientiousness, emotional stability, extraversion/optimism

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