Modern WisdomWhat I Would Tell My 18 Year Old Self | Modern Wisdom Podcast 131
At a glance
WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Three Men Revisit Age 18: Fitness, Focus, and Fewer Regrets
- Chris Williamson and his friends Johnny and Yusef look back 10 years to explore what advice they’d give their 18–21-year-old selves, using their lives in fitness, business, religion, and relationships as case studies.
- They each share a hypothetical 30‑second phone call to their younger self, revealing themes of progressive training, ditching bad relationships, focusing on high-leverage skills, and not overidentifying with external success.
- A major thread is the danger of spreading attention too thin across projects, platforms, and goals versus doubling down on what truly matters and compounds over time.
- They conclude that the advice they think they’d give their younger selves is, in reality, the advice they still need now: simplify, focus, ask for help, and stop taking everything so seriously.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasPick a simple, progressive system and stick to it for years.
In fitness and beyond, they argue that long-term adherence to a solid plan (e.g., 5/3/1 with built-in progressive overload) beats constantly program-hopping and chasing optimization, which often leads to burnout and injury.
Do less, better: cut distractions and double down on what works.
Borrowing from poker pro Chris Sparks, they suggest that at least yearly you should treat every project, habit, and commitment as ‘up for sale’ and either double your investment in it or cut it entirely, rather than letting things stay just because they’re already in your life.
Leave bad relationships and losing situations sooner.
All three admit they stayed too long in poor relationships, jobs, and training approaches out of sunk-cost thinking and fear; the advice is to recognize when something consistently drains you and exit rather than hoping it will magically improve.
Prioritize high-leverage skills that compound over time.
They highlight skills like selling, marketing, writing, public speaking, and (possibly) coding as force multipliers that would have massively changed their trajectories if started earlier, while noting that these should layer on top of, not replace, your existing advantages.
Ask for help and get coaching much earlier.
Each of them delayed hiring coaches or mentors in fitness and business, trying to figure everything out alone; they now see that expert guidance would have saved years of trial-and-error, injuries, and misdirected effort.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesYou think you know it all, don’t you, when you’re 19? You think you’ve got it figured out. You haven’t got a clue until you’re, like, at least 28.
— Johnny
You need to stop drinking and focus on personal development. You need to focus on yourself first and not on other people.
— Chris Williamson, to his younger self
The bad news is there’s no way to accelerate the process. The good news is there’s no way to accelerate the process.
— Paraphrased by Yusef (on long-term training and progress)
At the end of each year, everything is up for sale. Nothing gets grandfathered in from year to year.
— Chris Williamson, summarizing Chris Sparks
Wherever you are giving people the most advice is probably where you need the advice the most.
— Johnny
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