Why Women Say They Want One Thing But Date Another - Rob Henderson

Rob Henderson holds a PhD in psychology from the University of Cambridge and is a Senior Fellow at the Manhattan Institute. Who holds the power in modern dating? With growing gender divides and political polarization, it’s no wonder dating feels harder than ever. So, how did we get here, and what’s the way forward? Expect to learn why political division between the sexes has grown so wide, if this is a reaction to the growing sex ratio imbalance of socioeconomically successful women compared to men, why so many men are dealing with ED and if men are to blame for women not being able to orgasm, the traits that predicts relationship satisfaction, what psychology teach us about how to choose a good partner and much more… 00:00 Has Political Division Become A Sexual Fetish? 03:44 Is There A Hypocrisy Issue In Attracting Women? 08:02 Do Men Portray Themselves In A Certain Way To Gain Attention? 13:41 Is Women Earning More Than Men Affecting Relationships? 22:59 Are Men At Fault For Not Sexually Performing? 29:22 The Subsequent Fall Out From Netflix's Adolescence 38:28 Did Adolescence Accurately Get The Message Right? 52:26 How Psychology Can Help Us Choose The Right Partner 1:08:04 Indicators Of Potential Mistreatment In A Relationship 1:18:54 Why Clarity And Inquisitiveness Can Be Key To A Healthy Relationship 1:29:58 Where To Find Rob - Get a Free Sample Pack of all LMNT Flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Get a 20% discount & free shipping on Manscaped's shavers at https://manscaped.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM20) Get a 20% discount on Nomatic's amazing luggage at https://nomatic.com/modernwisdom - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

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Apr 17, 20251h 30mWatch on YouTube ↗

EPISODE INFO

Released: April 17, 2025
Duration: 1h 30m
Channel: Modern Wisdom
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Rob Henderson holds a PhD in psychology from the University of Cambridge and is a Senior Fellow at the Manhattan Institute. Who holds the power in modern dating? With growing gender divides and political polarization, it’s no wonder dating feels harder than ever. So, how did we get here, and what’s the way forward? Expect to learn why political division between the sexes has grown so wide, if this is a reaction to the growing sex ratio imbalance of socioeconomically successful women compared to men, why so many men are dealing with ED and if men are to blame for women not being able to orgasm, the traits that predicts relationship satisfaction, what psychology teach us about how to choose a good partner and much more… 00:00 Has Political Division Become A Sexual Fetish? 03:44 Is There A Hypocrisy Issue In Attracting Women? 08:02 Do Men Portray Themselves In A Certain Way To Gain Attention? 13:41 Is Women Earning More Than Men Affecting Relationships? 22:59 Are Men At Fault For Not Sexually Performing? 29:22 The Subsequent Fall Out From Netflix's Adolescence 38:28 Did Adolescence Accurately Get The Message Right? 52:26 How Psychology Can Help Us Choose The Right Partner 1:08:04 Indicators Of Potential Mistreatment In A Relationship 1:18:54 Why Clarity And Inquisitiveness Can Be Key To A Healthy Relationship 1:29:58 Where To Find Rob - Get a Free Sample Pack of all LMNT Flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Get a 20% discount & free shipping on Manscaped's shavers at https://manscaped.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM20) Get a 20% discount on Nomatic's amazing luggage at https://nomatic.com/modernwisdom - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

SPEAKERS

Chris Williamson
host
Rob Henderson
guest

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Modern Wisdom, featuring Chris Williamson and Rob Henderson, Why Women Say They Want One Thing But Date Another - Rob Henderson explores why Dating Disappoints: Politics, Sex Ratios, and Relationship Red Flags Chris Williamson and Rob Henderson explore the gap between what women say they want in partners and the men they actually date, tying it to traits like masculinity, status, and political alignment. They dissect phenomena such as “wokefishing,” sneaky sexual strategies, and online outrage toward figures like Harry Sisson and Leonardo DiCaprio through an evolutionary psychology lens.

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