Peter Attia MD371 – Women’s sexual health: desire, arousal, and orgasms, navigating perimenopause, and more
At a glance
WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
OB-GYN Sally Greenwald on Female Desire, Orgasm, Perimenopause, and Sexual Health
- Greenwald argues sexual health is health, citing links to sleep, relaxation and exercise-like energy use, and says desire discordance between partners, not frequency, is the main divorce risk factor.
- She describes a large orgasm gap (about 95% of men versus 30% of women usually orgasm with a partner) and explains that most women need external clitoral stimulation, adequate foreplay, and responsive rather than spontaneous desire.
- On hormones, she says testosterone is well-studied for hypoactive sexual desire disorder, and she frames perimenopause care around whether a woman likes to ovulate, which guides the choice between contraceptives and menopause hormone therapy.
- She recommends a vaginal care routine modeled on facial skincare: lubricant (silicone-based or osmolality near 300), vaginal moisturizers, and local estrogen, plus pelvic floor physical therapy.
- She also covers trauma recovery with sensate focus, drugs and cannabis for low desire, sex in pregnancy and postpartum, and a redesign of sex education that is anatomical and pleasure-informed rather than fear-based.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasSexual health belongs on the longevity agenda
Greenwald cites better sleep and parasympathetic activation after sex, and Attia notes about two-thirds of his patients pick sex for their marginal-decade activities, which links to maintaining VO2 max.
Desire discordance matters more than frequency
Greenwald says divorce risk is similar across frequencies; the risk factor is one partner wanting more and the other less.
Most women need external clitoral stimulation and time
She says fewer than 10% orgasm from penetration alone, so foreplay, vibrators and manual stimulation are normal tools, and foreplay over 21 minutes is associated with orgasm in over 90% of women.
Women's desire is often responsive, so arousal can come first
Only about 15% of women have spontaneous desire, so she suggests lube beforehand, erotic reading, mindfulness, vibrators, and scheduled sex to build arousal.
Ask 'do you like ovulating?' to guide perimenopause treatment
She says about 70 to 80% of her patients prefer not to ovulate, and that answer steers choices between contraceptive pills, drospirenone, estradiol patches, and menopause hormone therapy.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesif sexual health is health and women are not experiencing it with the same amount of pleasure that men are, this is a health disparity.
— Sally Greenwald
I would like to encourage you to think about taking care of the vagina like you take care of your face.
— Sally Greenwald
If you're waiting for your husband to get a new shirt or a new Selby or anything, it... The visual stimulus is not evidence-based. Stop waiting for that.
— Sally Greenwald
if you want to be able to have sex in your marginal decade, you need to have a VO2 max of probably about 30 milliliters per kilogram per minute.
— Peter Attia
I think sexual health as a part of your health and talking about it in a very sort of like generic safe place from a physiologic perspective.
— Sally Greenwald
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