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The Invisible Trap: Evidence You're Living the Wrong Life (& Don't Know It) | Professor C Thi Nguyen

The Thrive Tour: Transform Your Health and Happiness, a live show: Book Your Tickets https://drchatterjee.com/live This episode is brought to you by: LINGO BY ABBOTT: For users in the US and UK, Lingo by Abbott is offering an exclusive 10% off a 4-week plan with the code LIVEMORE10. Just visit https://hellolingo.com/livemore for more information. Terms and conditions apply. THE WAY APP: Get 30 FREE days and begin your journey towards peace, calm and wellbeing. https://thewayapp.com/livemore We’re living in a world that has become extraordinarily skilled at measuring success. But most of us never stop to question which standards really matter to us. Are you chasing success by someone else's definition, without even knowing it? This episode will help you figure that out. My guest is C Thi Nguyen, Associate Professor of Philosophy at the University of Utah and the author of The Score: How to Stop Playing Someone Else's Game, one of the most thought-provoking books I’ve read. This conversation explores where our values really come from, what games and hobbies can teach us about living with freedom, and why so much of what matters most in life resists being measured at all. Thi has developed a fascinating framework for understanding one of the defining problems of modern life: what he calls ‘value capture’. It’s the process by which our own rich, personal values are replaced by simplified external metrics (think followers and likes, salaries, exam grades – even health metrics like your weight or blood pressure score). These metrics can never show the full picture of a human life – but they can end up running it. And once you understand this concept of value capture, you’ll start to notice it everywhere. Thi and I discuss why our culture is so poor at honouring the ‘unmeasurables’. We talk about why joy, love, forgiveness and the quality of our relationships are the substance of a life well lived. Yet they’re systematically undervalued, not because they’re unimportant, but because they’re hard to count. He’s somewhat of an expert on play, whether through sport, board games or hobbies, and we discuss what these activities, often dismissed as trivial, can teach us about meaning and how to live well. Plus, we debate the difference between principles and algorithmic rules – a distinction that might change how you approach your health and your life more broadly. What I love about Thi's thinking is that he’s not telling us to throw out all forms of measurement. He’s more nuanced than that. He is asking us to wake up to the difference between the scorecard we have inherited from the world around us, and the one we would choose for ourselves. He wants us to know that the first step towards genuine fulfilment is simply becoming aware of whose game you have been playing. #feelbetterlivemore Find out more about Thi: Website: https://objectionable.net/ Twitter https://twitter.com/add_hawk Thi’s book: The Score: How to Stop Playing Someone Else’s Game UK https://amzn.to/4eO90DY US https://amzn.to/4oWWyq2 #feelbetterlivemore #feelbetterlivemorepodcast ------- Order MAKE CHANGE THAT LASTS. US & Canada version https://amzn.to/3RyO3SL, UK version https://amzn.to/3Kt5rUK ----- Follow Dr Chatterjee at: Website: https://drchatterjee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drchatterjee Twitter: https://twitter.com/drchatterjeeuk Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drchatterjee/ Newsletter: https://drchatterjee.com/subscription DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Dr. Rangan ChatterjeehostC Thi Nguyenguest
Jun 28, 20262h 8mWatch on YouTube ↗

At a glance

WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

How metrics capture values, steering lives away from meaningful experiences

  1. Value capture occurs when subtle, developing personal values are replaced by simplified, often quantified metrics that begin to govern what we pursue and how we judge ourselves.
  2. Metrics and data are not neutral; like maps, they encode prior choices about what counts, what’s visible, and what gets ignored, which can reshape entire practices (sports judging, education, medicine, art, and relationships).
  3. Quantification helps information “travel” across large systems by stripping context, which improves accessibility and coordination but imposes real costs in lost nuance, misaligned incentives, and vulnerability to gaming or manipulation.
  4. People increasingly feel compelled to justify unmeasurable goods (joy, play, forgiveness, relationships) by tying them to measurable outcomes, which further entrenches the dominance of metrics.
  5. Games illustrate a healthier relationship to “scores”: they use explicit goals and constraints to generate meaningful processes (striving play), then invite reflection and revision—an approach that can guide more intentional living.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

Value capture is a shift from caring to counting.

You may start an activity for connection, craft, joy, or meaning, but once likes, rankings, points, or other simplified proxies appear, they can become the dominant reason for acting—eventually redefining what you think you value.

Metrics aren’t objective mirrors; they are interests made concrete.

Like a map that highlights borders and roads but omits soundscapes or ecosystems, every metric reflects choices about what to record and prioritize, embedding a value system that can quietly become “the way things are.”

Numbers win conversations because they travel, not because they matter most.

Following Theodore Porter’s view, quantification produces context-invariant chunks that are easy for strangers and institutions to compare, aggregate, and act on—often crowding out rich but “non-portable” goods like pleasure, beauty, or relational quality.

The “easy measurable” can automatically crowd out lived experience.

Examples include lifespan dominating debates over culinary joy, or engagement-hours being used as “good art” training data; once a number enters, other values can become illegible or socially “unacceptable” to mention.

Algorithmic rules create accessibility but can make people and judgment replaceable.

Using Lorraine Daston’s framing, modern systems favor explicit, exceptionless procedures (algorithms) over principles that require sensitivity; this supports large-scale coordination but reduces adaptability and erodes practical wisdom.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

So value capture is any case where your values are rich or subtle, or they're developing in that direction, and then you get put in a social setting or an institutional setting or with a technology that presents you with a simplified, usually quantified version of your value, and then the simplified version takes over.

C Thi Nguyen

Because what information is, is a particular way of understanding the world that's been sterilized to be readily understood by a distant stranger with no shared context.

C Thi Nguyen

One way to put the problem of value capture is that you're ruling yourself in terms that have been sterilized for consumption by distant strangers.

C Thi Nguyen

Well, how am I supposed to know what I like?

C Thi Nguyen

To play a game is to voluntarily take on unnecessary obstacles to create the possibility of struggling to overcome them.

C Thi Nguyen

Value capture and living by someone else’s scorecardMeasurables vs unmeasurables in life and medicineMetrics as value-laden representations (maps analogy)Portability of numbers vs context-rich qualitative judgmentInstitutional ranking systems (law schools, grades) and incentive driftMechanical values: principles vs algorithms (rules that flex vs rules that lock)Games, constraints, and “self-effacing ends” (process over outcome)

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