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The Most EYE OPENING Speech On Why You're NOT HAPPY In Life... | Mo Gawdat

Happiness is a choice. It’s a bold statement, but it’s one I wholeheartedly support.

Mo GawdatguestDr. Rangan Chatterjeehost
May 25, 20222h 3mWatch on YouTube

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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

Mo Gawdat on Heartbeats, Expectations, and Choosing Happiness Over Success

  1. Mo Gawdat describes reaching every conventional marker of success by 29 and still being clinically depressed, arguing that hard work leads to success but success does not automatically lead to happiness.
  2. He defines happiness as calm, peaceful contentment that is our default state, and as a simple equation of events minus expectations, so we only need to stop being unhappy rather than achieve more.
  3. He distinguishes unavoidable pain from chosen suffering, using the loss of his son Ali and the 90-second emotional cycle to show how replaying thoughts creates misery.
  4. The conversation challenges borrowed dreams, heroes, status symbols and an education system that molds everyone, urging people to define their own dreams and live true to who they are.
  5. Gawdat extends the themes to love, arguing that romance declines while love lasts, that people should love themselves and advertise who they are, and that happiness can be trained like going to a gym.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

Success and happiness are different things

Gawdat says hard work leads to success but not necessarily to happiness, citing his own depression at 29 and Dr Chatterjee's example of Jonny Wilkinson feeling empty after winning a World Cup.

Happiness is the default state, not an achievement

He argues children are born happy and that happiness is calm contentment already within us, which we cover up with burdens, so the task is to stop being unhappy rather than to accumulate more.

Spend your heartbeats deliberately

Gawdat frames life as a fixed credit of heartbeats that are exchanged for activities and never return, and suggests checking your memories to see which moments held connection, love or awe.

Happiness equals events minus expectations

If events meet or beat expectations you are happy, and if they miss you are not, so he recommends asking whether your perception of an event is real and your expectation is realistic.

Pain is unavoidable but suffering is a choice

Drawing on Jill Bolte Taylor's 90-second finding, he says we prolong anger and grief by replaying thoughts, which he calls the Netflix of unhappiness, and that we can choose to refocus.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

You don't need to achieve anything to be happy. You just need to stop being unhappy.

— Mo Gawdat

The truth is, hard work leads to success, but success does not always lead to happiness. We prioritized wrong, and we got what we prioritized for.

— Mo Gawdat

How stupid is it to live your life to make another dollar, when you don't need that dollar, by paying for it with a heartbeat that you need because you put it and it never comes back.

— Mo Gawdat

Pain comes from outside you. It comes because of the events of your life, and that's not a choice. Suffering is a choice. Suffering is to feel the pain and then replay it over and over and over in your head.

— Mo Gawdat

Honestly, one of the easiest shortcuts to happiness is to realize you're not six anymore.

— Mo Gawdat

Read the available transcript
Why success doesn't create happinessHeartbeats as a finite life currencyHappiness as events minus expectationsPain versus sufferingEgo, attachment and status symbolsEducation, heroes and borrowed dreamsLove, relationships and self-love

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SPEAKERS

  • Mo Gawdat

    guest

    Author of "Solve for Happy" and former Chief Business Officer at Google X who hosts the "Slow Mo" podcast.

  • Dr. Rangan Chatterjee

    host

    Medical doctor and host of the "Feel Better, Live More" podcast.

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