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Don Lemon: Who Is Afraid of the Truth?

This week, Trevor and Eugene are joined by journalist Don Lemon for a very entertaining and wide-ranging conversation. Don opens up about his high-profile exit from CNN, getting arrested while reporting, and why, four months after his arrest, the government still won’t return his phone. From there, the trio dives into the decline of authenticity in modern media, the politics of identity and belonging, and why love is love is love. Along the way, they make plenty of room for humor, unpacking relationship dynamics, internet gossip, and a brutally honest review of the Kevin Hart roast. If you haven't already.... Subscribe to the channel here: http://bit.ly/SubscribeTrevorNoah Or follow the podcast on your other favorite platforms... SiriusXM Apple Podcasts - https://bit.ly/WhatNowOnApplePodcasts Spotify - https://bit.ly/WhatNowOnSpotify 00:00 - Don Lemon reveals his age 02:00 - Accents, code-switching & hate mail 10:05 - Trevor Noah on leaving The Daily Show 13:30 - Don on leaving CNN 17:10 - Fear, greed & corporate media 18:40 - Don Lemon’s arrest story 27:00 - Government subpoenas & press freedom 30:00 - Trevor’s wild housing idea 41:00 - Does Don miss corporate media? 48:00 - Why authenticity is winning 53:00 - Trump’s media genius 1:05:00 - Hillary Clinton vs Trump 1:16:00 - Relationships & gay culture 1:18:00 - Don Lemon coming out 1:34:00 - Kevin Hart roast controversy 1:44:00 - Final thoughts

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Jun 25, 20261h 45mWatch on YouTube ↗

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  1. 0:002:00

    Don Lemon reveals his age

    1. DL

      [upbeat music] Should I, should I tell my age?

    2. TN

      If we walked on the streets together now-

    3. ED

      No way

    4. TN

      ... the three of us, I'm not even gassing you up.

    5. DL

      Yeah.

    6. TN

      If we walked together in the streets, people would not go, "Why are they with that old guy?"

    7. ED

      No way.

    8. DL

      Yeah. Yeah.

    9. TN

      They would just be like, "Your friend."

    10. DL

      Yeah.

    11. TN

      They might even say your brother to me.

    12. DL

      Yeah.

    13. TN

      They'd be like, "Uh, you- you're here with... I think he's your brother."

    14. DL

      And I would go, I'd try to do your accent, but I can't.

    15. TN

      [laughs]

    16. ED

      [laughs]

    17. DL

      "That is my brother."

    18. TN

      [laughs]

    19. DL

      Uh. [laughs]

    20. TN

      I don't-

    21. DL

      I don't know. Should I tell my age here? I don't know.

    22. TN

      You can tell your age. What's your age?

    23. DL

      I'm 60. I turned 60 this year.

    24. ED

      No way.

    25. DL

      Yeah.

    26. ED

      Man.

    27. TN

      Don, you look good.

    28. ED

      Yeah.

    29. DL

      Thank you.

    30. TN

      Like, you look good good.

  2. 2:0010:05

    Accents, code-switching & hate mail

    1. TN

      Let's, let's, let's list a few reasons.

    2. ED

      Eh, eh.

    3. TN

      Uh, no, no, no. Just give me the reasons.

    4. ED

      Why are we making this about our pet peeves-

    5. TN

      Wait, wait, wait

    6. ED

      ... where, man-

    7. TN

      I'm asking you-

    8. ED

      Get on with your proposal-

    9. TN

      Wait

    10. ED

      ... so we can shoot it down-

    11. TN

      Wait, wait, wait. First, first-

    12. ED

      ... with a clear conscience

    13. DL

      Are you guys rolling on this shit?

    14. TN

      [laughs]

    15. ED

      [laughs] Okay. What, what-

    16. DL

      I wanna, I wanna show you that this is well thought out.

    17. ED

      Okay, sharp. Let's hear it.

    18. DL

      Is this African on African crime?

    19. TN

      [laughs]

    20. ED

      [laughs] Push the feel one of us. [laughs]

    21. DL

      Can I, can I just observe-

    22. ED

      Yeah, nah

    23. DL

      ... I just observed something. Can I, can you, can I jump in?

    24. TN

      Yeah, of course. What do you mean?

    25. ED

      Anytime.

    26. DL

      So, uh, this is, uh, what do you call it when, um... Oh, shit. When you... Uh, your, your accent is heavier now when you're speaking to him.

    27. TN

      Oh, yeah, definitely. Definitely.

    28. DL

      Yeah.

    29. TN

      100%.

    30. DL

      Your acc-

  3. 10:0513:30

    Trevor Noah on leaving The Daily Show

    1. DL

      what you brought to The Daily Show.

    2. TN

      No.

    3. DL

      And I would've-

    4. TN

      No, no, no, no, no, no

    5. DL

      ... I would've-

    6. TN

      No

    7. DL

      ... I would've fought tooth and nail to keep you there.

    8. TN

      No, no, no, no, no. Honestly, they did- no. Honestly, they didn't. No. There was no, there was no fight, there was no shade, there was no nothing. All that happened was I was, I had been doing The Daily Show, it was going on seven years, right?

    9. DL

      Mm-hmm.

    10. TN

      The thing that happened was, so there, there are a few ideas I have of life that are not congruent with how Americans run their businesses sometimes.

    11. DL

      Right.

    12. TN

      Okay? So one of them is I do not believe that everything has to go on forever.

    13. DL

      Right.

    14. TN

      I also believe that people should take breaks.

    15. DL

      I agree.

    16. TN

      In both directions, by the way.

    17. DL

      I agree with both of those things.

    18. TN

      Right? Yes. So I think you should give an audience a break.

    19. DL

      Yeah.

    20. TN

      And you should give staff a break, and you should give, y- like, I like that SNL, for instance, goes off for a few months.

    21. DL

      Right. Right.

    22. TN

      I like that.

    23. DL

      Right.

    24. TN

      I think it's good. I like that TV shows go away and then come back. John Oliver takes, like, a few months off around December, January, comes back in February.

    25. DL

      Mm-hmm.

    26. TN

      I like that. And so my pitch was, "Hey, I love what we're doing here, but I'd just like to take more time. I wanna get back home to South Africa. My accent is fading."

    27. DL

      [laughs]

    28. TN

      "People are noticing this."

    29. DL

      Your, "I need my hair to grow out."

    30. TN

      Yeah, man. I wanna, like, you know, I wanna, I, I still, there's aspects of my life that I miss. Hm. And they were like, "No, man. The Daily Show has to happen the way it does every sing..." I was like, "I think there's another way this could happen." And they were like, "No." And then I was like, "Okay, it's fine. If you don't agree, then we don't agree. But there's no beef, there's no fights. My contract is gonna come to an end, so l- then let's, let's just wrap it up."

  4. 13:3017:10

    Don on leaving CNN

    1. DL

      like, you know-

    2. ED

      Oh, okay

    3. DL

      ... very low or just let it grow out, but, you know.

    4. TN

      Do, what about you? Do you miss being, like, you know?

    5. DL

      I don't.

    6. TN

      You don't miss it?

    7. ED

      At all?

    8. DL

      I do not miss it. I, I know it sounds weird, I don't miss it. I did in the beginning. It was weird in the beginning because I was at the matrix of every big, important story in the world.

    9. TN

      How many years were you at CNN?

    10. DL

      Almost 17 years.

    11. TN

      17 years.

    12. ED

      Whoa.

    13. DL

      Almost 17 years, yeah.

    14. TN

      Damn.

    15. DL

      Yeah. And, um, so it was weird. Like, I was like, "What do I do with my time?" But I don't miss having to second-guess, I don't know if you felt that way, maybe a little bit different because it was comedy. Kind of, but you were actually educating people in the news. Um, of, like, second-guessing, third-guessing, fourth-guessing-

    16. ED

      Mm-hmm

    17. DL

      ... everything that came out of my mouth because I represented a brand and, like, 4,500 employees around the world.

    18. TN

      Interesting.

    19. DL

      Some of them in war zones, so I had to be careful about what I said.

    20. ED

      Mm-hmm.

    21. DL

      Now I can just say, "Fuck you," or whatever it is. [laughs]

    22. TN

      [laughs] Don's been waiting.

    23. DL

      And, [laughs] and, or whatever.

    24. TN

      I'll grow my hair and fuck you.

    25. DL

      Yeah. [laughs]

    26. ED

      [laughs]

    27. TN

      Like, today-

    28. ED

      That's so good

    29. TN

      ... as I was recording my show today, there was a, you know, the, um, on the official, uh, Democratic, uh, Twitter account-

    30. DL

      Yeah

  5. 17:1018:40

    Fear, greed & corporate media

    1. DL

      ran it. I'm not sure if they ran it, but they ended up running it, um, in foreign countries.

    2. TN

      Oh, in non-American-

    3. DL

      Outside of the US, and then I guess they didn't, whoever's there don't, they didn't realize that this is gonna run somewhere else.

    4. TN

      Yeah.

    5. ED

      Oh, wow.

    6. DL

      And so, yeah, she's gone.

    7. TN

      Yeah. Everyone, everyone is scared.

    8. DL

      Everybody's scared.

    9. TN

      What, what's disappointed me is it's equal parts scared and equal parts greed. You know what I mean?

    10. ED

      Explain the greed part.

    11. TN

      So we say that everyone's scared.

    12. ED

      Mm-hmm.

    13. TN

      But I don't think it's only fear. I think a lot of people are putting their greed before the freedoms of the country, right? And, and a lot of these networks, these news networks, whether it's CBS, whether it's all of them, they're not just scared, they're also thinking about what they wanna do business-wise. They wanna acquire other companies.

    14. DL

      That's what it is.

    15. TN

      They want mergers and acquisitions to go through.

    16. DL

      Mm-hmm.

    17. TN

      They want-

    18. DL

      Mm-hmm

    19. TN

      ... so because they want that to happen, they're not saying anything.

    20. ED

      Mm-hmm.

    21. TN

      But they should be saying something, but they won't say something because they want their deals to go through. So, uh, it, it's like it's half scared-

    22. ED

      Mm-hmm, half greed

    23. TN

      ... I would argue the people on the ground, like the actual reporters and the journalists, they're scared because they're gonna get fired. You know, uh, did you see this thing where they said they're gonna, um- They actually w- they wanna subpoena people's records and, like, your private... 'Cause you know if you're a journalist, you know it better than we do. Explain it. If you, if you have a source, you don't have to reveal your source.

    24. DL

      You don't have to reveal your source.

    25. TN

      Yeah, right? But now they're saying they wanna-

    26. DL

      Journalists have privileges. They have, you know, um, uh, privileges like that.

    27. TN

      Yeah.

  6. 18:4027:00

    Don Lemon’s arrest story

    1. ED

      Mm-hmm.

    2. DL

      Right? Um, I'm going through it right now and I didn't even know about it.

    3. TN

      Wait, what?

    4. DL

      Yeah. So when they, uh, you know, they arrested me in, in California, uh-

    5. TN

      Yes. What, what happened there? What exactly happened?

    6. DL

      [laughs] Wow, this-

    7. TN

      But you were G about it though.

    8. DL

      [laughs]

    9. ED

      [laughs]

    10. TN

      You were, like, thugged out. You're like, "I'm..."

    11. DL

      [laughs]

    12. ED

      [laughs]

    13. TN

      You didn't back down. I thought you were gonna be like, "Ah, ah, ah." But you were like-

    14. DL

      [laughs]

    15. ED

      [laughs]

    16. TN

      "Man, I'm going in, man. Going in though."

    17. DL

      [laughs]

    18. ED

      [laughs]

    19. TN

      Don Ju- Don Julio, I'm going in though. You were not scared at all, Don?

    20. DL

      No.

    21. TN

      That was like-

    22. DL

      I was scared. It was, it was a bit frustrating but why would I be scared? I'm not scared. I'm not scared of anything.

    23. TN

      I'm scared of jail.

    24. DL

      Why?

    25. TN

      Don't, don't even...

    26. DL

      You're scared of jail?

    27. TN

      Hey, yeah, jail.

    28. DL

      Jail? Oh.

    29. TN

      Jail.

    30. DL

      Yeah. But then, then you think about, I think about the people who did go to jail so that I could be able to sit here and do this.

  7. 27:0030:00

    Government subpoenas & press freedom

    1. TN

      better name.

    2. DL

      Yeah.

    3. TN

      It's, we, you know why? It evokes an image in your head.

    4. DL

      Yeah. But I mean, if you have top, bottom, you want a side. You don't wanna be, like, in the middle. I don't, I don't-

    5. ED

      In between.

    6. TN

      I guess so. But I, that's, that's what I would've thought.

    7. ED

      [laughs]

    8. DL

      So while you're looking, let me tell you a thing.

    9. TN

      Yeah.

    10. DL

      So, uh, I did not realize it until yesterday that they had filed secretly, um, a subpoena for my YouTube channel to get my subscribers and members or subscribers-

    11. ED

      Information

    12. DL

      ... names, addresses, and phone numbers, and the judge said, "No."

    13. TN

      Guys, what are we ...

    14. DL

      The judge said no. But why would they, why would they want that? Either they want it to kill my business, to intimidate me, or to intimidate people who watch me. It's crazy.

    15. TN

      Guys, what are we doing?

    16. DL

      Or to create a list.

    17. ED

      Did you find it?

    18. DL

      What are we doing?

    19. TN

      I found it. So the legality of, um, compelled unlocking hinges on protections against unreasonable searches, Fourth Amendment, and self-incrimination, Fifth Amendment.

    20. DL

      Mm-hmm.

    21. TN

      So passcodes and, passcodes and pins. The Fifth Amendment generally protects your testimonial acts.

    22. DL

      Mm-hmm.

    23. TN

      Okay? So courts across the country widely agree that the government cannot force you to hand over a passcode or a pin, as doing so forces you to reveal the contents of your own mind.

    24. ED

      Right.

    25. TN

      All right? That's the key thing.

    26. ED

      Mm-hmm.

    27. TN

      So you're testifying against yourself-

    28. DL

      Ah

    29. TN

      ... by giving your password.

    30. ED

      Mm-hmm.

  8. 30:0041:00

    Trevor’s wild housing idea

    1. DL

      [laughs]

    2. TN

      [laughs] Exactly.

    3. DL

      Nigeria.

    4. TN

      It's ... [laughs]

    5. DL

      [laughs]

    6. ED

      Don't think we forgot, neh?

    7. TN

      Forgot what?

    8. ED

      The business idea.

    9. TN

      Okay, so my pitch was pretty simple.

    10. ED

      Yeah.

    11. TN

      It's a really simple idea. Business or societal-

    12. ED

      Societal

    13. TN

      ... proposal.

    14. ED

      Solution. Mm-hmm.

    15. TN

      If our homes are as empty as they are, and, and, and not in, like, a negative way, just most people, you wake up in the morning-

    16. ED

      Mm-hmm

    17. TN

      ... you leave the house to go to work.

    18. ED

      Mm-hmm.

    19. TN

      You only come back in the evening. Your house was empty for the entire day. The main reason you don't want somebody in your home is because you think they're gonna break things, change things, steal things-

    20. ED

      [laughs]

    21. TN

      ... uh, is, smell up the place, whatever it is

    22. ED

      They smell up the place. [laughs]

    23. DL

      Use up your air conditioning.

    24. TN

      All of this. All of this.

    25. ED

      Smell up the place.

    26. TN

      But, but imagine if we could find a way to pair each other up with your perfect house partner, someone who lives exactly like you. Exactly like you. Like, and there's gotta be somebody, 'cause the, we're not that interesting or unique as people. There's gotta be somebody who has the-

    27. ED

      Your lifestyle Tinder match

    28. TN

      ... the same vibe. Yeah, your lifestyle Tinder match. They-

    29. ED

      Mm-hmm

    30. TN

      ... they use your colognes. They would sort of dress like you. They, you know what I mean? And we, and we-

  9. 41:0048:00

    Does Don miss corporate media?

    1. DL

      corporate media?

    2. TN

      Not at all. Not at all. It, it's-

    3. DL

      You were surprised that I said that, too.

    4. TN

      No, no, no. No, no, no.

    5. DL

      But I understand why you are.

    6. TN

      I was surprised that you said you don't miss the... But then y- I think you answered my question when you followed up. What I was asking is, do you miss the job? Not, I didn't even think of it as corporate media.

    7. DL

      Yeah.

    8. TN

      I was asking if you, if you missed the job because I think this applies to everyone, regardless of whether they were on TV or radio or, you know, anything public-facing.

    9. ED

      Mm-hmm.

    10. TN

      We take for granted how much the thing we do slowly becomes who we think we are.

    11. DL

      Yeah.

    12. ED

      Mm-hmm.

    13. TN

      Right?

    14. DL

      Yeah.

    15. TN

      Someone s- and people say this with such confidence. You go, "Hey, my name's Mike." "Hi, Mike. Uh, tell me about yourself." "Well, I'm a doctor."

    16. ED

      Mm-hmm.

    17. DL

      Yeah.

    18. TN

      It's amazing how that's the first thing people lead with: I am what I do.

    19. DL

      Yeah.

    20. TN

      You know?

    21. ED

      Mm-hmm.

    22. TN

      And then if you take that away from them, all of a sudden they don't have an I am anymore.

    23. DL

      Right.

    24. TN

      And people will sometimes even lead with that. "Hey, Mike, so tell me about yourself." "Well, I used to be a doctor." And you're like, "Wait, what do you mean? What, why would you tell me about what you used... I used to be a kindergartner. I don't tell you that."

    25. DL

      [laughs]

    26. TN

      You, you know what I mean?

    27. DL

      True.

    28. TN

      But it's interesting how we've, we've really made what we do who we are, and it, I think it's amplified when you're in the public eye because-

    29. DL

      Oh, my God

    30. TN

      ... people see you as the job.

  10. 48:0053:00

    Why authenticity is winning

    1. TN

      No, they don't. No, they, they're living their dream, I will say. I will s-

    2. DL

      And-

    3. TN

      But that, but that's the thing I don't miss, is, like ... So I, I think, I think that's where ... Eugene and I talk about this all the time. We are in an interesting age of media where the, the structures that people have, have, have ordained for so long are gonna fall apart because they don't present people with anything real anymore. It, it, it, it, it all feels like a facsimile of real. It feels like it's, like it's-

    4. DL

      Mm-hmm

    5. TN

      ... manufactured. It feels like it's manicured.

    6. DL

      Mm-hmm.

    7. TN

      It feels like it's ... You know? So-

    8. DL

      Put on.

    9. TN

      Yeah. So, so you, you, you find yourself watching the news going, "I- is this the news? Is this what's happening? Is this what's actually going on? Is this ..." You, you know what I mean?

    10. DL

      Yeah.

    11. TN

      'Cause-

    12. DL

      Yeah

    13. TN

      ... the, the news at that moment-

    14. DL

      And if you, if you-

    15. TN

      Mm-hmm

    16. DL

      ... if you look at it through a- any lens-

    17. TN

      News, sports coverage, um, you know, documentaries, w- whatever you, you... It's interesting to see how the ones that are actually really experiencing growth are the ones that just feel authentic. Whether or not you're for them is irrelevant.

    18. DL

      Mm-hmm.

    19. ED

      Yeah.

    20. TN

      But the authenticity is-

    21. DL

      That's it

    22. TN

      ... is, is what's-

    23. DL

      And that's what's driving independent media-

    24. TN

      Yeah

    25. DL

      ... right now, is the authenticity.

    26. TN

      Yeah.

    27. DL

      But you're right. Facsimile is a very good word. It's almost like Stepford Wives.

    28. TN

      It, that's exactly what it is

    29. DL

      ... where you get lulled into it and you're like, and you just start watching it.

    30. TN

      That's exactly what... That's how I feel sometimes now when I'll watch, in the occasions, the moments when I'll watch the news.

  11. 53:001:05:00

    Trump’s media genius

    1. ED

      It was Cindy the lap oh.

    2. TN

      Cindy.

    3. ED

      You were so close to Cindy.

    4. TN

      Pow.

    5. ED

      John had his phone. Ha ha. [laughs]

    6. TN

      [laughs]

    7. DL

      What I'm not a fan of-

    8. ED

      Oh, man

    9. DL

      ... is feeling like I have to sell something, because we don't have large-

    10. TN

      Thank you

    11. DL

      ... large corporate-

    12. ED

      Have you met this guy?

    13. TN

      Thank-

    14. DL

      ... sponsorships. I would like to not have to go, "And here's a word from our sponsors."

    15. TN

      Let me tell... My man.

    16. DL

      I don't like that.

    17. TN

      Let me tell-

    18. DL

      I'm not, that's not my favorite part.

    19. TN

      I swear, it's like you, it's like you-

    20. ED

      Yeah, you were there

    21. DL

      ... we have to sell it. You-

    22. TN

      But it's like you, you-

    23. ED

      It's like you were there.

    24. TN

      I, I was having this conver- literally yesterday.

    25. ED

      Mm.

    26. TN

      And I was saying this to Eugene, my friend Ryan, we were all hanging out there, and I said, "This is what people don't even understand in politics right now. One of the main reasons Donald Trump has done so well, and continues to win people... I mean, now he's losing them because of Ir- He, he always lose... It's funny. Trump always wins-

    27. DL

      Mm-hmm

    28. TN

      ... people with his rhetoric and loses people with his actions.

    29. DL

      Yeah.

    30. TN

      You know?

  12. 1:05:001:16:00

    Hillary Clinton vs Trump

    1. TN

      thing, that's when you will do the thing.

    2. DL

      That's when you'll do the thing.

    3. TN

      Have you noticed how people in divorce will finally become themselves?

    4. DL

      Themselves.

    5. ED

      Mm.

    6. TN

      It's only when people are breaking up with each other that they'll finally tell the other person the truth of who they are.

    7. ED

      Mm-hmm.

    8. TN

      All of a sudden you'll say-

    9. ED

      Mm

    10. TN

      ... "I, I never w- I never liked sleeping in the same bed. I, I just wanna sleep in my own room," and-

    11. DL

      Yeah

    12. TN

      ... "And I, I don't wanna go on vacations to this place that..." And then the person goes, "Wait, when were you gonna tell me this?"

    13. DL

      Yeah.

    14. TN

      When you stop trying to do the thing, ironically, that's often when you'll do the thing.

    15. DL

      Is that what happened with Hillary Clinton, do you think?

    16. TN

      The same thing goes. If you want to see arguably the best just, like, politician, qualified hum- or, go and watch Hillary Clinton's interviews after she had wo- lost the election-

    17. DL

      Yes

    18. TN

      ... and it was, like, done.

    19. DL

      Yes.

    20. TN

      I think there's one she did on Howard Stern maybe, or... You go, "Where was this person?"

    21. DL

      Yeah, I agree.

    22. TN

      Yo-

    23. DL

      In, in person

    24. TN

      ... she is-

    25. ED

      Mm. Mm

    26. TN

      ... funny, smart, knowledgeable, throws the thing. She is fire. But you never saw that person on the campaign trail because, but this is, this is, like, the gift and the curse, I always think, in life. I argue Donald Trump won the election because he just, like the 2016 election, he won it because he's just, he was just this crazy, brash, take it to the limit person all the time.

    27. DL

      He had no shame.

    28. TN

      But that's also the reason he lost the next election, is because he had... The, the, there's two different skills in life, right? The s- the, the ability to be a revolutionary does not mean that you will have the ability to govern.

    29. DL

      Mm-hmm.

    30. ED

      Mm-hmm.

  13. 1:16:001:18:00

    Relationships & gay culture

    1. TN

      Yeah. On-

    2. DL

      And they'll say, "Ugh, no. I, I don't dig this."

    3. TN

      We'll be right back after this. [upbeat music] I have a question for you, 'cause I, I was thinking about this. I thought of it earlier, and then it came back to me now. Do you think gay guys have more fun in relationships than straight guys?

    4. ED

      Absolutely.

    5. TN

      Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. I'm asking the other gay man at the table.

    6. DL

      Well, he said, well, he, he said no.

    7. ED

      Yeah, yeah, yeah.

    8. TN

      I'm ask-

    9. DL

      [laughs]

    10. TN

      The other gay man at the table, Eugene. Please. Please.

    11. ED

      What? [laughs]

    12. DL

      And Eugene-

    13. ED

      Why does it hurt so bad-

    14. DL

      Yes, Eugene

    15. ED

      ... when someone else does it? We do it to each other all the time. [laughs]

    16. DL

      Being gay is not an insult, Eugene.

    17. TN

      [laughs]

    18. DL

      It's, I think it's a compliment.

    19. ED

      [laughs]

    20. DL

      That means you're, you know, you're hip and cool.

    21. TN

      Sm- it means you smell good.

    22. DL

      You smell good. You dress well.

    23. TN

      It means you look good. It means you know what's happening, Eugene.

    24. DL

      You're an overachiever.

    25. TN

      Got him. [laughs]

    26. ED

      When we started doing this podcast, you guys-

    27. DL

      It means you wear a jean jacket with a black T-shirt-

    28. TN

      [laughs]

    29. ED

      [laughs]

    30. DL

      ... and clear glasses. That's what it means.

  14. 1:18:001:34:00

    Don Lemon coming out

    1. DL

      Sex and the City.

    2. TN

      Well, well, it's actually funny. I think Esther Perel said it, said it beautifully once. She said, "We have a misconception that sex is not emotional for men. It's just the emotions happen at a different time for men-

    3. DL

      Yeah. [laughs] That's true

    4. TN

      ... than for women."

    5. DL

      That's true.

    6. TN

      So the sex is emotional for everybody-

    7. DL

      Mm-hmm

    8. TN

      ... but it's more when the emotions present themselves-

    9. DL

      Yeah

    10. TN

      ... that, that, that we're not so aware of. Were, were you gay your whole life?

    11. DL

      Yeah.

    12. TN

      So-

    13. DL

      Yeah, I, uh, at a very early age-

    14. TN

      Yeah

    15. DL

      ... I knew that I was, but I didn't know quite what it meant sexually.

    16. TN

      Mm.

    17. DL

      But I also knew that it was something I had to hide, because-

    18. TN

      In the South as well?

    19. DL

      Oh my gosh.

    20. TN

      Very religious family?

    21. DL

      Oh my gosh, yeah. I mean, it's even worse in the South. Look at the, what happened in the South now.

    22. TN

      Yeah.

    23. DL

      The Bible Belt and all of that, and Louisiana, Deep South. You don't get much more Southern than that. Um, yeah, so I always knew. I always knew it was something that I had to hide. And then the moment I stopped hiding it, that's when I became me, more authentic.

    24. TN

      When, w- when did you come out?

    25. DL

      I sort of came out to my friends and, and coworkers. So I was out with friends.

    26. TN

      Yeah.

    27. DL

      Like, my mom used to say, like, "How do you guy- how do the gays find each other?"

    28. TN

      [laughs]

    29. DL

      Because she had never experienced so many, uh, like, gay men openly, like, you know-

    30. TN

      Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah

  15. 1:34:001:44:00

    Kevin Hart roast controversy

    1. TN

      uh, Shangaan, we wouldn't say Tsonga- Mm-hmm ... because we know p- it's a derogatory term sometimes to say Shangaan. Mm-hmm. We, there's just, like... But I, d- do, do you ever feel like that? It's like we've-

    2. DL

      I, I do

    3. TN

      ... we've robbed ourselves a- as people of the ability to know that something is wrong, but within the context of friendships and relationships, has no malice attached to it.

    4. DL

      I'm glad you said that because I've been dying to, when I, when I knew that, when you asked me to be on the show, and then I saw this, I was like, "Oh, I gotta ask Trevor about this." So you said that you know, you, you don't say things that you know are wrong or inappropriate for that particular circle or what have you.

    5. TN

      I try my best not to, yeah.

    6. DL

      Yeah. So the Kevin Hart roast.

    7. TN

      Yes.

    8. DL

      How'd you feel about that?

    9. TN

      Man, I, I had too many feelings about the Kevin Hart roast. Um, I think the first feeling I had was maybe, maybe I was naive or maybe roasts have changed, but, like, I, I didn't like that the roast was as written as it was for everyone.

    10. DL

      Yeah.

    11. TN

      Mm-hmm. That's the first thing I'll say, right? Because in my opinion, a roast is supposed to be an opportunity for each person to write the funniest expression of how they feel about another person. Mm-hmm.

    12. DL

      And do their authentic brand of comedy.

    13. TN

      Yes. Yeah. But even if it's not- The way they would say ... but even if it's not true-

    14. DL

      Right

    15. TN

      ... you're going, "What are all the things I can roast Eugene about? What are all the things I can roast Don about? And they're not true, but these are things that s- come from my lens." Mm-hmm. "I, I, I think I can make these things funny." That's, and, and it's, it's, it comes from a place of love. That's what I think a good roast is supposed to be. It's supposed to be people who know you, people who like you, and then you can, and there'll be, like, edges on the dais because you might not know someone, so you can, shots can get fired in any direction. Mm-hmm. So that's, that's, like, on a, like, on a comedy writing side. I was like, huh. It was weird when people were like, "Let's scroll past that on the prompter," and, "Oh, the writers gave me that."

    16. DL

      Yeah. Yeah.

    17. TN

      And I was like, "Wait, what are we do-

    18. DL

      Yeah.

    19. TN

      "Then why don't the writers just come and do this?"

    20. DL

      Right.

    21. TN

      That's the first thought I had. Mm. The second feeling I had was it was just a weird one. I felt like it was weird that all the Black comedians who came on stage told jokes about the people who were there.

    22. DL

      Mm-hmm.

    23. TN

      But then a lot of the white comedians who came on told jokes about Black people.

    24. DL

      Yes.

    25. TN

      Mm. A people. I was like, I was like, "Wait, wait, wait. I thought it was the roast of Kevin Hart."

    26. DL

      Yeah.

    27. TN

      Say what you want about Sheryl Underwood, say what you want about Regina, say what you want about Naeem or whoever's up there, but it was weird that, like, just, it, this was just, like, a Black joke-

    28. DL

      Mm-hmm

    29. TN

      ... that had nothing to do with a person, and then you, you could just, you're like, "Wait, George Floyd? What?" The roast of Black people. Yeah, but you're like, "But what does George Floyd have..." I don't even understand the, the connecting thread between George Floyd and Kevin Hart. Yeah. Mm-hmm. You haven't shown me-

    30. DL

      Mm-hmm

  16. 1:44:001:45:30

    Final thoughts

    1. DL

      and, uh, yeah, a- and chaperone them and supervise them.

    2. TN

      Yeah, we're gonna lose, we're gonna lose more than we think. Yeah.

    3. DL

      I got, I have another appointment.

    4. ED

      We, we're missing a, a-

    5. TN

      You're going?

    6. ED

      ... appointment.

    7. DL

      I have, I have another appointment. I have to-

    8. TN

      Well, could, well, you gotta come back then.

    9. DL

      No. [laughs]

    10. TN

      No, no, no.

    11. DL

      I have to go.

    12. TN

      I mean, like, in, you gotta come back.

    13. DL

      No, okay. Oh.

    14. TN

      Just we'll do another one.

    15. DL

      You like me. You really like me.

    16. TN

      Yeah. Ah, Don.

    17. ED

      You think we would lie?

    18. TN

      This guy.

    19. ED

      You would never do that to me.

    20. TN

      This guy. You think there's makeup here, Don?

    21. DL

      [laughs]

    22. TN

      No, man, this was amazing.

    23. DL

      I loved this.

    24. TN

      This was, like, genuinely, man.

    25. DL

      This is what a podcast should be.

    26. TN

      Ah, music to my ears. But for real, man.

    27. DL

      Yeah.

    28. TN

      Thank you. Thank you for joining us.

    29. ED

      This was a, this was a-

    30. DL

      Can I be the third host someday?

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