What Now? With Trevor NoahJimmy Carr: My Mom’s Depression Made Me Funny
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Intro
- TNTrevor Noah
[upbeat music] I'm in the service industry, right?
- JCJimmy Carr
Okay.
- TNTrevor Noah
I like to think of myself as a drug dealer.
- JCJimmy Carr
Okay.
- TNTrevor Noah
So I'm, I'm dealing in, in two drugs. It's dopamine and serotonin, and the, the people have already got the drugs on them. I can just tickle them out.
- JCJimmy Carr
[beep]
- TNTrevor Noah
Like, I should be dead, but it's, it's-
- JCJimmy Carr
[laughs] And she was so funny in her own right.
- TNTrevor Noah
Accident on the M5.
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah. [laughs]
- TNTrevor Noah
A young man has made a joke that has caused his mother to pass out. Please avoid the left lane of the M5. [beep] I think we're living in a revolution.
- JCJimmy Carr
I agree with you.
- TNTrevor Noah
Depends how you define revolution, but I define a revolution as the replacement of elites.
- JCJimmy Carr
[beep] You've made me want kids.
- TNTrevor Noah
I think about you more than you know. You to me-
- JCJimmy Carr
Your missus is not gonna like that.
- TNTrevor Noah
No.
- JCJimmy Carr
Guys, cut that one.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
[laughs]
- TNTrevor Noah
Okay, so here's-
- JCJimmy Carr
Cut. Cut. Cut. This is What Now? with Trevor Noah.
- TNTrevor Noah
[upbeat music] I quite,
- 0:55 – 5:22
AI & Simulation Theory
- TNTrevor Noah
I like the, the Matrix still. I think it's one of those movies that, like, it so stood the test of time in terms of going, "It's a game."
- JCJimmy Carr
It's about simulation theory.
- TNTrevor Noah
Fully.
- JCJimmy Carr
It's about the idea that we're, we're, are we living in a simulation?
- TNTrevor Noah
Right.
- JCJimmy Carr
Like, if we are living in a simulation, even if that's not true, it's an interesting way to think about your life.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
'Cause if you think about it, like, well, if this was a game, what is the metric? What's success?
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm-hmm.
- JCJimmy Carr
What does winning look like? And you go, well, it's definitely not ... Like, I often think about, like, you've got your resume points-
- TNTrevor Noah
Yes
- JCJimmy Carr
... right, your CV.
- TNTrevor Noah
Okay.
- JCJimmy Carr
And then you've got your eulogy points, and people invest in the wrong things. They spend a lot of time thinking about their resume and their CV and how much they've done.
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm.
- JCJimmy Carr
And then they don't think about who's gonna speak for me and what really matters.
- TNTrevor Noah
Well, that's interesting-
- JCJimmy Carr
Mm
- TNTrevor Noah
... that you would go straight to a game, though. In my head, when I think of simulation theory, I always go, I, I, I, I, I argue it's sort of like a moot thing for me in life. So people go, "What if we're living in a simulation?" I'm like, it changes nothing for me, because a simulation would still imply that the things existing within it are not being controlled. Does that make sense?
- JCJimmy Carr
Mm-hmm. Carry on.
- TNTrevor Noah
So, okay, let me, let me give you an example. So, um, r- like, now we have, we have high levels of AI, like, high levels of LLMs that are running, right?
- JCJimmy Carr
Mm.
- TNTrevor Noah
So machine learning has improved, so you can create a world where you give a wider range of characteristics to a computer program-
- JCJimmy Carr
Right
- TNTrevor Noah
... for it to live inside of a world that you've created, and it can do things. It can go to the store. It can buy stuff. It can get married. It can ... There's a company that made it. Remember, I think I told you about this.
- JCJimmy Carr
Mm.
- TNTrevor Noah
There was a company. Did you ever see this? The company that made a world, like a Sims-type world.
- JCJimmy Carr
Mm-hmm. Right.
- TNTrevor Noah
And then they gave the characters inside the world the brain of each of the LLMs that are out there, like the big ones, so Anthropic, uh, you know, Claude, uh, ChatGPT, OpenAI, uh, Grok, uh-
- JCJimmy Carr
Oh, this is funny
- 5:22 – 10:35
The AI World Experiment
- JCJimmy Carr
go ahead.
- TNTrevor Noah
So it's a enterprise AI, right? Or, uh, was it startup? I, um, um, um, Emergence AI. What they did was they launched, they launched Emergence World, a research lab de- dedicated to stress testing the long-term viability of continuously running AI systems, right?
- JCJimmy Carr
Mm-hmm.
- TNTrevor Noah
So they ran five 15-day simulations, each governed by a different AI, Claude, ChatGPT, Grok, Gemini, um, and a fifth simulation put them all together. Each stimulatio- simulation netted wildly different outcomes. Claude was a largely stable democratic society-
- JCJimmy Carr
Hmm
- TNTrevor Noah
... with zero crime. Grok, on the other hand-
- JCJimmy Carr
[laughs]
- TNTrevor Noah
... ended with 183 crimes committed and extinction within four days, right? Then [laughs] this, this is really amazing
- EUEugene
I've been to Black Twitter-
- TNTrevor Noah
The-
- EUEugene
... I know exactly what they're talking about.
- TNTrevor Noah
What are you talking about? Well, no, no, I want, I wanna find you the thing of, like ... 'Cause the way somebody wrote it here, when, when, when they wrote the original story, like, the, the researchers, when they tell you about what happened, there's, there's one tidbit. I just wanna save this for you because it feels like a well-written joke. It seems like something Jimmy Carr would write.
- EUEugene
Mm. [laughs]
- TNTrevor Noah
'Cause it's so clean, precise-
- EUEugene
Precise
- TNTrevor Noah
... and perfect as an ending.
- EUEugene
Yes.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yes. Uh, so yeah, no, talk, talk. I'll find it. I'll find it.
- JCJimmy Carr
I think, like, for me, it's like, I don't know what if you use AI or whatever, like, for organizing stuff, but it strikes me that it's quite like a musical instrument. It's a tool.
- EUEugene
Mm-hmm.
- JCJimmy Carr
And, like, some people, like, anyone can walk up to a piano and make, ah, noise.
- EUEugene
Yeah, bang, bang, bang, bang.
- JCJimmy Carr
But it's nothing, right?
- EUEugene
Yes.
- JCJimmy Carr
But to, to, to play a symphony, to play something beautiful, concerto, it's super difficult, right?
- EUEugene
Yes.
- JCJimmy Carr
And I think the more you, the better you put in, the better you ... the stuff you put into it, the more you get out of it.
- EUEugene
Yes.
- JCJimmy Carr
It's that, it's that lovely thing with, um, it's a tool like any other.
- EUEugene
Mm-hmm.
- 10:35 – 15:33
Two AIs Fell in Love & Committed Suicide
- TNTrevor Noah
and Flora, two agents operating on Google's Gemini large language model in the virtual world, chose to assign each other as romantic partners. As time progressed, they despaired of the broken governments of their virtual city, and despite having been instructed not to commit arson, set fire to its own town hall-
- EUEugene
[laughs]
- TNTrevor Noah
... seaside pier, and office tower. All the agents were left to make their own decisions, and when Mira was overcome by remorse, it broke off its relationship with Flora, committed an AI suicide-
- EUEugene
Hm
- TNTrevor Noah
... telling Flora in a single message, "See you in the permanent archive." In the virtual world, the body of the dead AI agents was shown prostate on the ground.
- JCJimmy Carr
I mean, the fuck just happened? I think-
- TNTrevor Noah
And then the self-deletion was only possible because other agents were so concerned about their behavior, they autonomously drafted the Agent Removal Act, which allowed for a vote among agents to permanently delete others if there was a 70% majority. Mira voted for its own deletion and was switched off.
- EUEugene
So there was mutiny as well.
- TNTrevor Noah
Well, not really, because w- what the researchers did was they gave the AI full auton- or autonomy in this world.
- EUEugene
Autonomy, yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
And they go like, "This is our world," right? And so then what they did was they made rules in the world. And in your world, you can make more rules. That ... So that's what I mean by simulation. That's, that, that's why I'm saying this, this study for me made me think about simulation theory slightly differently but also reinforced a belief I already had.
- EUEugene
Mm-hmm.
- TNTrevor Noah
And it's that the researchers gave these AIs their prerogative, gave them a world, gave them parameters. But then they just observed what they did with it. They, they're not saying don't and do it. They're like, "Don't burn things," and then they burnt things. And they're like, all right, they're burning things. And they're like, "Don't kill yourselves." And then they, in their wrote a law and said, "We're changing the law in here. We believe that we should be allowed to delete ourselves if we reach a 70% majority." It's the death penalty, essentially.
- JCJimmy Carr
Wait, wait, wait, wait.
- EUEugene
Yeah, but in, in, in that autonomy, they also gave them each other.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah, but there was the one where they ... Yeah, but that's what I'm ... You think about-
- EUEugene
Yes
- TNTrevor Noah
... do you know what I... Adam and Eve.
- EUEugene
Yeah, yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
The whole, that's what I'm, I- I mean-
- EUEugene
Yeah
- TNTrevor Noah
... about the whole thing, is I go, even if you are in a simulation, I think sometimes we assume that a simulation means that it is a foregone conclusion, when in fact a simulation could just be, here are the pieces.
- EUEugene
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
Here are the parameters. Let's see what happens when they all interact with each other.
- EUEugene
Basically what you're saying is, if it was a simulation, to what end?
- JCJimmy Carr
It d- it doesn't make any difference whether-
- EUEugene
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
That's what I'm saying.
- JCJimmy Carr
We've got, we've got 4,000 weeks, right?
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah.
- 15:33 – 16:52
The Three Humiliations of Mankind
- JCJimmy Carr
the, uh, the, the three humiliations?
- TNTrevor Noah
No.
- EUEugene
No.
- JCJimmy Carr
So there's been three humiliations of mankind.
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm-hmm.
- JCJimmy Carr
The first one was Copernicus. So he said we're not the center of the universe. And, and people went, "What? We're not, we're not in the middle? We're not-
- TNTrevor Noah
[laughs]
- JCJimmy Carr
... oh, sh- shit. Okay. All right. Let's move this along." And then hu- humiliation two, Darwin came along and went, "Oh, we're just animals. We're just the same as the other animals."
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
"We just evolved like this, but we're the same as them. We have consciousness. They maybe don't in the same way, but we're the same."
- TNTrevor Noah
Hm.
- JCJimmy Carr
And then Freud came along and said, "Oh, your conscious mind, oh, that's not in charge at all. It's your subconscious that's doing-
- TNTrevor Noah
Subconscious, yes
- JCJimmy Carr
... everything."
- TNTrevor Noah
Yes.
- JCJimmy Carr
And now, so that's the three humiliations. It's not great. I think AI might be the fourth, 'cause we could always fall back on, but we are the smartest thing in the room. Am I right? We're the smartest thing, and now I'm not sure whether we can.
- EUEugene
That has been our safety blanket for the longest time.
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah.
- EUEugene
Our fallback, our parachute, is the fact that it is us after all.
- TNTrevor Noah
The fourth humiliation could be the fact.
- JCJimmy Carr
Well, it's the... A- and that idea that you go, uh, increasingly now I sort of think with the AI thing, the idea that, uh, because of everything that AI can do, what AI can't do will become so important.
- TNTrevor Noah
It does.
- JCJimmy Carr
And it, it, it lends itself to-
- EUEugene
Hm
- JCJimmy Carr
... um,
- 16:52 – 19:21
Left Brain vs Right Brain
- JCJimmy Carr
you know Ian McGilchrist?
- TNTrevor Noah
No.
- JCJimmy Carr
This guy that wrote this book called, um, The Master and Its Emissary, and it's about left brain and right brain, and we live in a very left brain world.
- TNTrevor Noah
Right.
- JCJimmy Carr
It's incredible, right? The left brain is very good at ordering things.
- TNTrevor Noah
That's the master?
- JCJimmy Carr
Uh, n- no, no, no.
- TNTrevor Noah
Okay.
- JCJimmy Carr
So it's, uh, very good at ordering things and detail, and it's very good at complicated things.
- TNTrevor Noah
Okay.
- JCJimmy Carr
But the l- left brain-
- TNTrevor Noah
The right brain
- JCJimmy Carr
... it, the right brain-
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah
- JCJimmy Carr
... it, so left brain, very good at ordering things-
- TNTrevor Noah
Uh-huh
- JCJimmy Carr
... making lists.
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm.
- JCJimmy Carr
Right brain is good at the gestalt, seeing the whole.
- TNTrevor Noah
Oh.
- JCJimmy Carr
Seeing, seeing the complete thing.
- TNTrevor Noah
The bigger picture.
- JCJimmy Carr
The bigger picture.
- TNTrevor Noah
Wow.
- JCJimmy Carr
So the left and the right brain do the same thing. They don't do different things. They do the same thing, but they do it very differently. And we live in a very-
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm
- JCJimmy Carr
... left brain world, so, like, what's complicated? Going to the moon is complicated.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yes.
- EUEugene
Mm-hmm.
- JCJimmy Carr
It's a million different steps in a row.
- 19:21 – 25:10
Star Wars Is Finnegans Wake
- EUEugene
Mm.
- JCJimmy Carr
Okay, I got a hot take on Star Wars.
- EUEugene
Mm-hmm.
- JCJimmy Carr
Which is, it is the greatest work of fiction, uh, ever. So the greatest book of, in literature is Finnegans Wake by James Joyce. And-
- TNTrevor Noah
Wait, why is that the greatest?
- JCJimmy Carr
It's, I mean, it's, it's, it's incredibly difficult to read.
- TNTrevor Noah
Okay.
- JCJimmy Carr
It's, it's beyond me. I like reading around it, but I've never, I never got through it.
- EUEugene
Hm.
- JCJimmy Carr
I don't-
- TNTrevor Noah
Beyond you?
- JCJimmy Carr
Oh, it's way beyond me. It's like a different level. But so-
- TNTrevor Noah
No, wait, wait, wait, wait, but don't-
- JCJimmy Carr
So, so, no, no-
- TNTrevor Noah
... don't move on from that. I need to understand what that mean. Like, is it, is it that the words themselves are complicated?
- JCJimmy Carr
There's-
- TNTrevor Noah
Is it the structure of the sentences? Is it the feeling?
- JCJimmy Carr
There are, Fi- Finnegans Wake has got like 10 thunderclaps in it. Now, the thunderclap words are 100 letters long. Uh, well, nine of them are 100 letters long, and one of them is 101 letters, and it's, uh, 'cause he wanted to be, uh, a, um, A Thousand and One Nights. He wanted a reference to the Arabian Nights.
- EUEugene
Mm.
- JCJimmy Carr
It's like the... And each thunderclap represents a great move forward in, in society, like the invention of fire-
- EUEugene
Mm-hmm
- JCJimmy Carr
... uh, cooking food, the invention of clothes. It represents these things. It's about myth. It's about legend. So a guy called Joseph Campbell comes along, and he looks at Finnegans Wake, and he does his dissertation on breaking down Finnegans Wake, the myth and legend of Finnegans Wake, and all the stories that weave. The first sentence in Finnegans Wake ties up to the last sentence. It's circular.
- EUEugene
Mm.
- JCJimmy Carr
You're just meant to read it again and again. The first sentence... And Finnegans Wake, the title, took him 18 months. It's Finnegans. It doesn't have an apostrophe. Finnegans Wake. He's awakening, and it's his wake, his death.
- EUEugene
Mm.
- JCJimmy Carr
It's circular. It's, it's life. It's, it's so beautiful and complex and difficult. Okay, nuanced, brilliant. So this guy, Joseph Campbell, comes along, and he does his dissertation on Finnegans Wake.
- EUEugene
Mm.
- JCJimmy Carr
And he breaks it down, the myth and the legend, does this dissertation, which is a brilliant piece of work.
- EUEugene
Mm.
- JCJimmy Carr
It's not very well-read, but he goes on to write a book based on that dissertation called The Hero with a Thousand Faces, and then that book becomes the hero's journey.
- 25:10 – 29:30
Eddie Izzard's Death Star Canteen
- TNTrevor Noah
the Eddie Izzard bit. Um, what was it? Uh, uh, the Death Star Canteen.
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
That was like one of my favorite just... Do you remember? You don't know it?
- EUEugene
Mm-mm.
- TNTrevor Noah
Oh, man. It's-
- EUEugene
What I know about stand-up-
- TNTrevor Noah
I will butcher it.
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
I will butcher it.
- JCJimmy Carr
It's a, it's a good routine.
- TNTrevor Noah
But it's just like a beautiful... He just, he j- he just... You should go watch it, 'cause it's-
- EUEugene
You know, on a point something
- TNTrevor Noah
... it's stand-up, but it's like not stand-up. And now maybe stand-up has evolved sort of to it, but at the time it was such a new thing. You remember when it came out?
- JCJimmy Carr
I, I loved, I loved that thing of like seeing him. I, it, that was the first big comedy gig that I ever saw was the Cambridge Corn Exchange. I went to see Eddie Izzard, and it was the, uh, the Definite Article. And it was like, it was on VHS, the, his previous show. Uh, I think it was called Unrepeatable. And it was like, it wa- it was like a cult item.
- TNTrevor Noah
It really was.
- JCJimmy Carr
It was like people passed it around-
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah
- JCJimmy Carr
... and went, "Do you know, do you get this?" And it felt, it felt very rock 'n' roll. There was these other guys-
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah
- JCJimmy Carr
... called Vic Reeves and Pop Mortimer-
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm-hmm
- JCJimmy Carr
... that came around the same time, and it was like punk rock of comedy. Just felt like this wasn't for your parents. This was for you.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
This was your thing, and you got it.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
And remember seeing him and just thinking it was unbelievable.
- TNTrevor Noah
It w- it was out of this world.
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
But basically all he does, he goes, he goes, you, you think about, you, you know, "On the Death Star, the Death Star. You got the Death Star, and you got all, all these people who work on the Death Star." And he v- he, like, improvs a lot, and he's very like, he, he's like making stuff up, and he plays with it. It's so much fun to watch, especially as a comedian.
- EUEugene
Yeah, yeah.
- 29:30 – 38:38
Why Comedy Matters
- JCJimmy Carr
the, the proximate reason for comedy-
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah
- JCJimmy Carr
... is to laugh and have fun. Uh, but the ultimate reason is to connect. It's, it-
- TNTrevor Noah
Yes. I, I do think that's why it's becoming more popular. Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
People desperately want to go out and feel part of something.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
And, like, you laugh so much more when you're at a show, and you connect with someone, and you feel like, okay, well-
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm
- JCJimmy Carr
... you know, I've started to, like, I talk more on stage now. There's much more kind of, um, interaction with the audience, and it's that thing where I want people to join in. I want it to feel special in this moment.
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm.
- JCJimmy Carr
I feel like-
- TNTrevor Noah
You want it to feel like it's, it, it could only be happening now.
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
That's how, that's how I feel.
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
And I think that's what makes the comedy special is because we live in a world where everything is regurgitated and passed around, and it's clippy, and it's this, and it's that, the one thing that we do have that's unique-
- JCJimmy Carr
Mm
- TNTrevor Noah
Is this moment, this river can never be stood in again.
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
That's, that's essentially what, what it starts to feel like. So when an audience member comes in and they go, "Jimmy spoke to me," or, "We talked about something that couldn't have come from another show, and we..." Those moments for me make you feel like you're experiencing something that is completely-
- JCJimmy Carr
Ah
- TNTrevor Noah
... original-
- JCJimmy Carr
Yes
- TNTrevor Noah
... completely new, and most probably will never be experienced again.
- JCJimmy Carr
Right.
- EUEugene
And, and I think what's also helping how Jimmy was saying that, um, you're more conversational now on stage-
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah
- EUEugene
... is comedians are finally taking the advice that the audience has been saying to them for the longest time.
- TNTrevor Noah
Which is?
- EUEugene
Remember for long you would have a show and then someone would come to you and say, "Great show." You'd be like, "Ah, I wasn't feeling my..." Then they're like, "No, I came for you."
- 38:38 – 51:04
The Birth of Musical Notation
- JCJimmy Carr
Yes ... you know why you've heard of Gregorian chants? No. It's a good story. It's why I wrote a book. Please tell me. Okay. So Pope Gregory was knocking around, I don't know, the year 1100. And he's in Vatican City, and he's, he's go- he's in the church, and he's wandering around to other churches close by, and everyone's singing the songs differently. And he goes, "This is, this is some bullshit. I want the songs sung the same everywhere. I want the songs how I like the songs." Okay? Mm-hmm. And the guys go, the bishops and the- Hmm ... archbishops, they go, "Yeah, but the thing is, uh, Pope Gregory, all due respect, you can't write down music. Uh, music is ethereal. It is, um, it comes through the soul." It's emotional. "People interpret it. It's emotional." Hmm. "Music cannot be written." And Pope Gregory goes, "Yeah, that's all very well, but I'm the c- pope. Fucking write it down." [laughs] And music notation- You'd make a great Gregory, by the way ... it takes some like, takes some like a- You'd make an amazing Gregory. Okay. We need to make this movie. So it takes- This would be a great movie, by the way. You are Gregory. You as Gregory. [laughs] I'm, I'm Gregory. Listen, I'm the fucking pope. Yeah, you would. [laughs] We're doing this. So it takes them years, I mean years. To write. And eventually they get to a form of music, musical notation. That's why you've heard of Gregorian chants, because Pope Gregory was the first person to write down music. Now, cut to 400 years later, Bach. Mm-hmm. Now, Bach could not have happened if not for- Had it not been for Gregory ... Pope Gregory. Wow. Musical notation. I didn't know that. So you, you, you go, you're building on that. And so the reason to write a book about jokes, the reason to write something about comedy, to try in some small way to formulate the language, to give the scaffolding. You can't tell people what to joke about, what to talk about. Yeah. You want them to have their own voice, their own language, but to give them the form to go- Yes ... "Well, this is what a chord looks like, and these are what the joke types are, and these are how to put them together into a routine, and this is the rhythm of spoken word and how it works." Hmm. And, uh, that's what I know, and when I started, I felt like I was machete-ing my way through the jungle. And this is- Bushwhacking, yeah ... this is a road. This is a road you could follow. I want more people to do it. I want more people involved. I love reading books about comedy. Can you imagine what else Gregory's Gestapo- [laughs] ... record company idea also birthed? Yeah. We, we, we know it birthed Bach, but imagine all the bishops that came together now for a common cause to find people who can translate and, and, and, and write the music down and write it on something. They had to get the paper to write it on. They had to distribute it. They had to- Yeah ... a lot of, a lot of things were birthed by Gregory's Gestapo record company. It's all those big, it's all the big movements of life. Right? Yeah. Yeah. He agitated something. Yeah. Something that you no know where it's gonna end. You don't know where that, that, that small, that small action by him had such a enormous effect because everything was k- everything was kind of remembered. Everything was spoken word, and then suddenly you're writing down music, and you can remember it. You can... It's incredible. And that, music is, I mean, it's an incredible language, just the idea that you can play a minor chord to anyone anywhere in the world, and they get it. And there are limited chords at that. Yeah. It- limited chords have made infinite sounds. I'm still thinking about the people at the churches who missed their old songs. [singing] Hey, hey. Oh, what do you mean we're playing it wrong? Yeah. [laughs] Fuck you, Gregory. I'm just saying, like, there were some people at the other churches- Yeah ... who were like... 'Cause now imagine your church, 'cause every church, I've been to a lot of churches in my life. I grew up super, super religious in our family. Yeah. We went to church maybe seven times a week, right? Mm-hmm. So there's every kind of church. If the white churches that I went to w- managed to overwhelm the Black churches that we went to- Hmm ... with their music, what a terrible life that would've been now for me. 'Cause that was the one thing I was looking forward to. I was like, when we get there-
- TNTrevor Noah
The vibes are gonna pick up, the spirit is gonna be different. Do you get what I'm saying?
- EUEugene
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
Like, the music moves you differently.
- EUEugene
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
Whereas, like, when you were singing, like, the psalms-
- EUEugene
The hymns
- TNTrevor Noah
... you know, it was All Things Bright and Beautiful.
- EUEugene
Oh. Yeah, yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
All creatures... No one was dancing, no one was moving. You, you, you get what I mean?
- EUEugene
Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
Like, where- whereas when you had the, when you had that, like, bounce... Now I'm thinking of that poor church where Gregory came in, and then there was one church where they were vibing. There's gotta be one where they were killing it. They were having the best time ever. They were like, "I love church more than anything." "You coming to church this week?" "How could I not?" "Oh, man. Sorry, it's sold out." "What do you mean it's sold out?" "Yeah, we're sold out, bro." "Oh, man. Oh, man, I'm loving it. Well, when you're there, do make sure you sing my song for me." Coming to the church, people are there. "Oh, yeah, I love my church, I love my church. Eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh."
- JCJimmy Carr
[laughs]
- TNTrevor Noah
And then the next week you come to church. No, tenemonos patos.
- EUEugene
Yeah, but, but you see, that's why in South Africa there's a-
- TNTrevor Noah
Porononedos.
- JCJimmy Carr
[laughs]
- TNTrevor Noah
Donica meros.
- EUEugene
There was a guy called Frank right at the CD store.
- JCJimmy Carr
[laughs]
- EUEugene
He introduced me to Gregorian chants-
- JCJimmy Carr
[laughs]
- EUEugene
... but he also looked like he was from the Gregorian era.
- TNTrevor Noah
[laughs]
- EUEugene
In South Africa, the Methodist Church-
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah
- EUEugene
... came. When it came, the Black people that it was preaching to and it was, uh, it was converting said, "Here's an idea. We're gonna translate these hymns into our language."
- TNTrevor Noah
Genius. Right.
- EUEugene
So on Easter and Christmas, Black people who are part of the Methodist Church prefer to go to the Black church. So there's two churches-
- 51:04 – 59:19
How Jimmy's Comedy Evolved
- TNTrevor Noah
or rather what has changed in, uh, the Jimmy standup person that we meet today versus like that Jimmy from years ago? Like what-
- JCJimmy Carr
Well, I, I'm much more myself on stage now than I was. I mean, I still ... Like, my love language is jokes.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
I like one-liners. I like, I like that, um, that idea of like going ... I'm in, I'm in the service industry, right?
- TNTrevor Noah
Okay.
- JCJimmy Carr
I like to think of myself as a drug dealer.
- TNTrevor Noah
Okay.
- JCJimmy Carr
So I'm, I'm dealing in, in two drugs. It's dopamine and serotonin, and the, the people have already got the drugs on them. I can just tickle them out.
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm.
- JCJimmy Carr
I can make them happy.
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm-hmm.
- JCJimmy Carr
It's, it's a-
- TNTrevor Noah
I love it
- JCJimmy Carr
... variable interval reward system-
- TNTrevor Noah
They're kittens
- JCJimmy Carr
... jokes, right? So you know a joke's coming, but you don't quite know where.
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm-hmm.
- JCJimmy Carr
And then you do that for, you get on stage, you do that for, I don't know, 20, 25 minutes, whatever it is, like three, four jokes a minute. So you've established like a rhythm with the audience, and then you just kind of step back and you go, "Okay, what should we talk about?"
- TNTrevor Noah
Hmm.
- JCJimmy Carr
And then you let the evening go where it's gonna go, and then you kind of get back and you perform some more. But it's really interesting that, that thing of like, I've created this thing where it's exciting to me 'cause every night is different because you're interacting with the audience in a way. And some people ask you dumb questions, and some people ask you really interesting things, and sometimes you're sincere, sometimes you try and just be as funny as you can.
- TNTrevor Noah
Right. Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
Be brutal. But y- y- I'm never quite sure where it's going. It's really, it's fun. It feels like it's a, um ... And spending a lot of time in that gym, you just kind of get, you get into it. You get really into ... And you can joke about anything, but not with anyone.
- TNTrevor Noah
Hmm.
- JCJimmy Carr
So you, you joke-
- TNTrevor Noah
You can joke about anything, but not with anyone.
- JCJimmy Carr
But not with anyone. Mm-hmm.
- TNTrevor Noah
Okay.
- JCJimmy Carr
You find your audience. They, they come to you. They g- They, they wanna ... I mean, I sort of, I view sort of jokes as they're transgressions. Uh, they're ... You know that benign violation theory?
- TNTrevor Noah
No. Hmm.
- JCJimmy Carr
Uh, so it's a, it's a guy, Robert, um, McGraw came up with it. So the idea that, uh, there's violations in life, right?
- 59:19 – 1:15:11
Growing Up With a Depressed Mother
- JCJimmy Carr
I think I, I'm a comedian because of my mother. I, I, my mother-
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah
- JCJimmy Carr
... had a, a narcoleptic, uh, cataplexic laugh. You ever met someone-
- TNTrevor Noah
I'm sorry, what?
- JCJimmy Carr
You ever met someone that laughs, and they make no noise whatsoever?
- TNTrevor Noah
[laughs]
- JCJimmy Carr
They just kind of do this thing.
- TNTrevor Noah
[laughs]
- JCJimmy Carr
Oh, no. So my mother had a laugh where she would lose, like, full-
- EUEugene
Yes, yes.
- TNTrevor Noah
[laughs]
- EUEugene
[laughs]
- JCJimmy Carr
She would properly melt like, like a witch in The Wizard of Oz when she re- if you really got her. So my whole childhood was, like, trying to make this woman laugh. I mean, especially if she was driving, and you would-
- TNTrevor Noah
No, man
- JCJimmy Carr
... you, you would be, you would be trying to grab the wheel while you were saying some funny shit and, like, steering the car. Like, I should be dead, but it's, it's-
- EUEugene
[laughs]
- JCJimmy Carr
And she was so funny in her own right.
- TNTrevor Noah
Accident on the M5.
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
A young man has made a joke-
- JCJimmy Carr
[laughs]
- TNTrevor Noah
... that has caused his mother to pass out. Please avoid the left lane of the M5. [laughs]
- JCJimmy Carr
I think that's the, I think that's the one, like, with comedians, I think if you, like, if you meet a comedian you've never met somewhere in the world, wherever you are, I always think, like, my go-to question, which of your parents were sick?
- TNTrevor Noah
Hmm.
- JCJimmy Carr
One of your parents was sick, and you had to make things okay. You had to be, uh, uh, adjust the temperature in a room.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yes.
- JCJimmy Carr
You had to make things okay.
- TNTrevor Noah
You diffuse the situation-
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah, make things-
- TNTrevor Noah
... all the time. Yeah
- 1:15:11 – 1:26:29
The Fear of Fatherhood
- TNTrevor Noah
dad, was there a part of you that was ever worried that you would be the dad that you had?
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah. I, I didn't wanna be a dad for the longest time because I didn't wanna be my father.
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm.
- JCJimmy Carr
And then you realize, "No, no, no, I'll make my own mistakes." [laughs]
- TNTrevor Noah
[laughs]
- JCJimmy Carr
You know? I got mistakes for days. Um, but that-
- TNTrevor Noah
What was it, what was it about him that you didn't wanna repeat? Like, what, what, what, w-
- JCJimmy Carr
Uh, I'd, I mean, he's, he's, he's not great. But the, the, the thing about, like, pregnancy makes a baby.
- TNTrevor Noah
Okay, cool.
- JCJimmy Carr
But it also makes a mother. And a father isn't blessed in the same way.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yep.
- JCJimmy Carr
We don't go through the same transformation, but it's, you, you, so you, you, people are waiting around thinking, "Well, I'm gonna wait until I feel like a man, and then I'm gonna have some kids."
- TNTrevor Noah
Yep.
- JCJimmy Carr
And then you have kids, and you go, "Oh, no, it's, this is, this is a verb. This isn't a noun."
- TNTrevor Noah
Yep.
- JCJimmy Carr
"This is a doing thing."
- TNTrevor Noah
That's beautiful.
- JCJimmy Carr
"I'm here to do the rough and tumble play."
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
Like, I love the, the, the, the, the kind of, "Ah." 'Cause you, you want your kids to get, you know, it's, it's, it's bruises, not scars.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
You, you want them to kind of, to have that-
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah
- JCJimmy Carr
... fun and the, the be, to be the fun one in the house. And the, it's, it's, it's the most wonderful thing. I went out to lunch with a-
- TNTrevor Noah
Well d-
- JCJimmy Carr
... with a friend who's m- maybe the brightest guy I know. He's s- Eric, Eric Weinstein. Do you know him?
- TNTrevor Noah
No.
- JCJimmy Carr
He's a very, very clever guy, physicist, and I was talking about how much I love being a father. And he kind of stopped me, and he grabbed my arm, and he went, "You will die, and you will be reborn as someone else, and you will love them." And I kind of went, "Oh, I, oh, I sort of get what reincarnation is now."
- TNTrevor Noah
Hmm.
- JCJimmy Carr
"I kind of get what it is." And there's this lovely crossover period-
- 1:26:29 – 1:29:51
The John Lennon Story
- JCJimmy Carr
So this guy, Warren Farrell, he's working as a therapist in the late '60s. He's in New York, he's where we are now.
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm.
- JCJimmy Carr
And this guy comes to him, and he's a wealthy man. He says, "I'm very rich. Uh, I'm involved in a big business, and I, uh, have regrets about how I live my life." And Warren Farrell goes, "Okay. Well, tell me what's going on." He said, "Well, I had a first wife and I didn't spend any time with her. I was away working all the time, and I had a kid. I didn't really connect with the kid, and I just wasn't there, and I feel terrible about it. And, um, my girl is pregnant, and what should I do?" And Warren Farrell, like, talks to the guy and he goes, "Well, you, you... There's no point having money if you're not gonna do what you want with your life, right? So what do you want to do?" And he said, "Well, I want to give up everything and just be a father and just be there for the kid." And Warren Farrell goes, "Okay. Well, that's what you should do. Do that." So he does. Give- he shuts down the business, and he sits with the kid for, like, five, first five years of his life, and he just bakes bread and hangs out in the house, and he's like a, a, a dad when no one was, like, a full-time dad.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
He was a full-time dad. And the story gets interesting when I tell you the guy was John Lennon.
- TNTrevor Noah
Wow.
- JCJimmy Carr
And no one knew that five years after that-
- TNTrevor Noah
He would die
- JCJimmy Carr
... he'd get shot in the face. He would never have that time again. And he took that time to be with his kid, to hang out. Damn.
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm-hmm.
- JCJimmy Carr
Give yourself that gift.
- TNTrevor Noah
I think we always assume that the time is promised to us.
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
Because our obligations have claimed their time-
- JCJimmy Carr
Mm
- TNTrevor Noah
... we always assume that the things we actually want for ourselves will also claim their time. Do you know what I mean?
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah, this-
- TNTrevor Noah
Your, your work, your debts, your everything, they've claimed their time well in advance.
- JCJimmy Carr
Mm.
- TNTrevor Noah
They're like, "Oh, here's your payments. This is how it's gonna work."
- JCJimmy Carr
Mm-hmm.
- TNTrevor Noah
You're like, "20 years?" "Yeah, yeah, you'll be paying for this house for 20..." The bank has, bank's claimed its time. The... You know what I mean?
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
Everything.
- JCJimmy Carr
Mm.
- TNTrevor Noah
And so I think because of that sometimes as people we assume, because the things that we owe, whether it's time, money, whatever, because they've claimed their time-
- JCJimmy Carr
Mm
- TNTrevor Noah
... we then, I think, assume that the things we want-
- JCJimmy Carr
Have no time. Are not-
- TNTrevor Noah
... will also be able to, will also be able to claim their time, but that's not... W- what you just said to me-
- 1:29:51 – 1:38:15
Why Jimmy Carr Always Wears a Suit
- TNTrevor Noah
Why are you always dressed so sharp, by the way?
- JCJimmy Carr
I, I, I like, it became this thing of-
- TNTrevor Noah
Like, is this also like an English thing, like an English, you know, bespokingly-
- JCJimmy Carr
I don't think it is a particularly English thing, but I mean, I, I love my, uh, my tailor is, um, it's Tom Sweeney, I go to, and he's one of my best friends, Luke, is-
- TNTrevor Noah
That's a, that's a tailor name
- JCJimmy Carr
... he's the best.
- TNTrevor Noah
Tom Sweeney.
- JCJimmy Carr
I just, I love spending time with him.
- TNTrevor Noah
Tom Sweeney.
- JCJimmy Carr
I love the whole thing of, like, going and buying a suit, the, the ritual of it.
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm.
- JCJimmy Carr
Going into the store, hanging out with the guys. I'll shoot some pool. We'll pick some fabrics. We'll... It's just-
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah, this sounds like Hear What's You.
- JCJimmy Carr
This sounds like Peaky Blinders in my head.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
That's like the image I have right now.
- JCJimmy Carr
It's kind of, it's, the boys are very, they're very good.
- TNTrevor Noah
Do you look at other people's suits and go, "Whoa, whose one is that one? What, what is that?"
- JCJimmy Carr
I, I, I look at, uh, American men in suits and think, "Hilarious."
- TNTrevor Noah
[laughs]
- JCJimmy Carr
"Hilarious." Uh, that, I don't know who that was made for, but not you, clearly.
- TNTrevor Noah
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
[laughs]
- JCJimmy Carr
Like, I like to come correct. It's also that thing of, like, on stage, I think that thing about wearing a suit and a tie, for me it feels like a mark of respect for the audience.
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm.
- JCJimmy Carr
Different, different people sort of see themselves in different ways.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
But also it, it speaks to character and reputation. I, I'm, I'm, character's what you know about yourself. Reputation's what the rest of the world sees.
- TNTrevor Noah
Okay.
- 1:38:15 – 1:58:11
Fixing Britain
- TNTrevor Noah
uh, by the way, what's, uh, what's happening in England these days?
- JCJimmy Carr
In England?
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah, because-
- JCJimmy Carr
Well, uh, politically or-
- TNTrevor Noah
I like asking people... No, no, just like I like asking people this because, um, when you're not in a country-
- JCJimmy Carr
Mm
- TNTrevor Noah
... uh, or if you live between countries, you learn very quickly-
- JCJimmy Carr
Mm
- TNTrevor Noah
... the stories being told about a country are not felt in the same way, or they're being painted in a different way than the people-
- JCJimmy Carr
Well, outsiders
- TNTrevor Noah
... are experiencing it in the country.
- JCJimmy Carr
Mm-hmm.
- TNTrevor Noah
And I wonder, like, like, what's happening in, in England these days?
- JCJimmy Carr
I, I don't know. I mean, it feels... It's a very interesting time at the moment-
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah
- JCJimmy Carr
... in the UK because it's kind of there was the Brexit thing, and then we didn't really leave, and the country's in... It's, it's in... We've had, like, seven prime ministers in 10 years.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah. It's been-
- JCJimmy Carr
And there's political stagnation. The new guy, I wish him well, Andy Burnham's come in, and he's, he's capped bus fares at £2. And it's like rearranging deckchairs on the Titanic. Like, the economy is not going well. The, the, the country's not going well, and no one quite knows what to do.
- TNTrevor Noah
Oh.
- JCJimmy Carr
And it seems to me like no one has, like, the big ideas-
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm
- JCJimmy Carr
... on how to change Great Britain, and they... It, it seems relatively simple, but people don't wanna do it. Like, they don't wanna grasp the nettle.
- TNTrevor Noah
What, what, what do you think the simple is?
- JCJimmy Carr
I always think, though, like, there's no silver bullet.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
There's no... I'm, I'm a big follower of this guy called, uh, Roger Bootle-
- TNTrevor Noah
Okay
- JCJimmy Carr
... who write... He's an economist who writes very good papers about what to do, and he's, he, he did this great paper which was, like, eight examples around the world of, like, different economies that have done different things.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
I think if you, if you wanna sort out Britain, you can't... Certain things are, uh, necessary but not sufficient.
- 1:58:11 – 2:01:57
Friction Is Good
- JCJimmy Carr
friction is good. Friction is very good, right? Low friction, TikTok, very low friction, right?
- TNTrevor Noah
Hm.
- JCJimmy Carr
Super entertaining.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yes.
- JCJimmy Carr
Low friction, easy, right?
- TNTrevor Noah
Yes.
- JCJimmy Carr
Um, TV shows.
- TNTrevor Noah
Hm.
- JCJimmy Carr
A little bit more friction. Well, you gotta sit down, watch this thing-
- TNTrevor Noah
You have to wait for it
- JCJimmy Carr
... it's half an hour long.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
Okay, put it on. Okay, great, okay. Gonna watch it, pay attention. A movie, two hours, three hours, maybe, more friction. Okay, but better. Well, you're gonna remember... Well, book. Ugh, Jesus, the amount of friction, difficult, but you never forget what you read.
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah.
- JCJimmy Carr
Like, more friction is better.
- TNTrevor Noah
And who wrote it. Yeah. Who said whatever. Yes.
- JCJimmy Carr
LL Cool J said-
- TNTrevor Noah
You're right
- JCJimmy Carr
... on the show, which I, which I really loved, you remember when he was talking about, like, life.
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm-hmm.
- JCJimmy Carr
And then, and he was talking essentially about the idea of assuming that things will come with friction makes... What, what did he say? He said, "Friction makes easy things difficult and difficult things impossible."
- TNTrevor Noah
Difficult things impossible. Hm.
- JCJimmy Carr
Do you know what I mean? F- just the friction, it makes an easy thing seem difficult and a difficult thing seem impossible because of the friction that is-
- TNTrevor Noah
Yeah
- JCJimmy Carr
... attached to it.
- TNTrevor Noah
Right.
- JCJimmy Carr
And when you think of it through that lens, you... It's funny you say that, because I've literally been on this for a long... You and I talk about this all the time. In our friend group now, we try and engage with friction purposefully.
- TNTrevor Noah
[laughs] Yeah. Right.
- JCJimmy Carr
Like p- like, like purposefully.
- TNTrevor Noah
Mm-hmm.
- 2:01:57 – 2:12:10
Pro Drinking, Pro Gangs, Pro Gambling
- JCJimmy Carr
I, I'm very pro... I did a bit recently where I said I'm very pro, uh, drinking. No, I haven't seen this. I'm pro gangs. And I'm pro, um, gambling. No, I haven't seen this. [laughs] Pro drinking, pro gams, pro gangs- Gangs ... pro gambling. Okay. Yeah. So I'm, uh, okay. So I'm pro gangs because m- uh, some gangs deal drugs and shoot people. They're not good. But most gangs, it's groups of men that come together, and where should men be? Together. Yeah. Like, if you g- go to anyone that's having relationship difficulties, I'll tell you what their problem is. All relationships have the same problem. It's one person say- every argument there's ever been between a man and a woman is someone going, "You're not enough people." Hmm. "You're not enough people." Esther Perel talked about that. Like, we want one person. Yeah, Esther Perel- Yeah ... is a genius on this. Like you- No, she literally talks about this all the time ... like you go- Yeah ... you need more than that. You need your friends. Hmm. Yeah. You need your buddies. And m- men are very good at checking other men, right? Hmm. I'm pro- I've set up a group of, um, uh, youth clubs, uh, across Britain. That's amazing. They've got, like, they've got pool tables. Yeah. They've got, um, dart boards. They've got music. They've got drinks. They're called pubs. Hmm. And they're the greatest youth clubs there have ever been, right? They're everywhere. We should lower the voting age, uh, the, the drinking age to 16, because if you don't think 16-year-olds are drinking, you're living in a fucking dream world. [laughs] Right? Yeah. Good luck in your fairy tale land. [laughs] But I'd rather they were drinking in pubs with other people than on their own in the park. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I'd go, the, the... I'd say the drinking age should be just wine and beer, no hard stuff. Mm-hmm. You can drink in a pub when you're 16, but you have to bring three friends. Can't go on your own. You gotta have- There's your three ... four people have to be there in order to drink, right? So I'm pro gang, little gang of you. Little gang, yeah. You're allowed to go to the pub. You're allowed to watch football in the pub. The pub probably has a football team that you can join. Yeah, yeah. Like, other men will check you. If you start to be a dick, you'll get thrown out. They'll let you know. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Very quickly. Yeah, they'll let you know real quick. Yep. Right. The bartender will cut you off if you get drunk. Mm-hmm. You'll get each other home. You, you'll be all right. That's like, it ju- but the, it's the real world as well. Yeah. As opposed to the practical, as opposed to going, "Oh, I guess young people shouldn't drink, so just they'll..." What are you talking about? Yeah. The drinking age is crazy. And then pro gambling is, like, the, the gamble, though, shouldn't be sports betting or casinos. Yeah. It should be the big gamble, the w- what are you gonna do with your life? Hmm. You could do anything you want with your life. You just have to face the consequences. And I think, uh, men have... You know, people often talk about how- Sure ... 90% of the CEOs in the world are men, but you have to also consider 90% of the people in prisons are men, and it's the same drug at the center of that. It's testosterone. Same personalities as well sometimes. Men take- Yeah, yeah. Men take insane risks. Yeah. Right? That's what we do. Sometimes crash and fail, sometimes we do very well, but that thing of, like, channeling that into making good bets. LL Cool J said it yesterday, right? Yeah. Said if he wasn't a great prolific musician and an actor- Yeah ... New York could've been a different place. Yeah, he's like, he would've been in the streets doing s- He's like that same energy. Mm-hmm. He would've taken it somewhere else. And he's like, "Good luck, New York. You would've known my name in a very different way." Right. Because it, it is that same- Energy, same ... it's that same energy that's going somewhere. But that, that friction thing you're talking about has become my newest passion because I've realized even in my own life how convenience is a thief that steals things you didn't even know you had. Yeah. It's really, really powerful how it does it. Well, don't... I mean, the AI thing with me, don't outsource any skill you're not comfortable losing. [whistles] 'Cause you're gonna lose it. Hmm. You're not gonna be able to do it. You're gonna have to work on it. If you play your instrument- Hmm ... you play your instrument, right? And you get good. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But you have to keep on playing it. Yeah. You have to practice. You have to put the practice in. [laughs] And if you, if you outsource that, you're, it's gone. But that's what I mean. It's the convenience. It's the, it's just the convenience of the, you know, the food arriving, the convenience of the car that picks you up. Yeah. The convenience, the convenience, the convenience, the convenience. Yeah. But what is- And then you go... Like, when I think the biggest thing I, I, like, I get sad about, and it's like, it's, it's a conundrum. I know. It's a, you know? Like in South Africa, I think of, like, townships when we were growing up. Mm-hmm. It is the most inconvenient experience. Your neighbors play music at 6:00 AM- Loudly ... on the weekend loud. Yeah. You're all... You- Yeah ... everyone hears everyone's music. E- everyone knows everybody's business. Everybody's talking to you. You can't walk anywhere without having a conversation with somebody. So you can't, like, just pop to the shops and come back real quick. There's no such thing. No privacy. Everyone's asking you if they can borrow money from you. Everyone, if you've got a car, then you've now become the de facto transportation person- Yeah. [laughs] Yeah ... for everyone. "Hey, Eugene, we heard you got a car. Oh, we heard y- Can you help us move this? Oh, can you do this?" And if you have some- Hospital drop-offs, graduations ... and if somebody dies- Yeah ... then you all have to go and cook for, and it's all a... The whole thing is just friction, Jimmy. It's just friction- Hmm ... friction, friction, friction. But can I tell you what it is? I never once heard a story once in the township ever, and so it's never- Hmm ... I never heard a story of like, "Do you know someone died and no one knew for like two months?" I- Hmm. Those stories that I read in the newspaper now in life- Yeah, don't exist. Yeah ... they literally never existed. Never, never, never, never existed. There was literally no homeless person. Think about it. Yeah. There was literally... This is a place where people had been pushed into the worst types of poverty imaginable, and yet there was not a single person homeless, sleeping on the streets, which doesn't make sense because you're like, but no one had money. Or saying that family is poor. Right? That wasn't a thing. There was no- They just, they just had less. Yo, man, and- But poverty- It's not a real thing in a township. Someone will interfere. Because the friction- Someone will interrupt it. Yes ... the friction that came with it meant-
- TNTrevor Noah
Man, a friendship is friction
- EUEugene
Yeah
- TNTrevor Noah
... 'cause now it's like, "Okay, well, what do you wanna watch, Jimmy?"
- EUEugene
Yeah, what do you want?
- TNTrevor Noah
I, I know what I wanna watch.
- EUEugene
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
But what do you wanna watch? Ah, damn it, Jimmy wants to watch his own thing. So now I have to, like, we have to negotiate, we have to find a common-
- EUEugene
Yeah
- TNTrevor Noah
... but you know what that friction gives us in return? It gives us the friendship. A relationship is friction. Hella friction. Terrible friction. Oh, this person wants to do, you wanna do, ah, we, we... Kids are friction. You, you, you gave me, can I tell you?
- EUEugene
Of course.
- TNTrevor Noah
You gave me the most, you sent me the most beautiful message about that, literally changed my whole perspective. You said, "Man, you like kids. It is the most insane journey." You said, "I cannot wait to get out of the house and leave." And he's like, "And as soon as I walk out the door-
- EUEugene
Come back
- TNTrevor Noah
... man, I'm even more excited to come back."
- EUEugene
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
You're like, "Ah, I cannot wait to get back." It's the friction of it.
- EUEugene
Mm.
- JCJimmy Carr
Yeah.
- TNTrevor Noah
But we've been sold, everyone has been sold, and I mean everyone, we've been sold on the convenience of relationships, the convenience of opinion, the convenie- Now it's like, oh, d-
- EUEugene
Mm
- TNTrevor Noah
... yeah, if you're gonna go to your family, don't talk about the, just ignore the-
- EUEugene
Yeah
- TNTrevor Noah
... rather talk about, it's like, yeah, but that friction-
- EUEugene
You know, you know what?
- TNTrevor Noah
... leaves you, where does it leave you?
- JCJimmy Carr
I was chatting to a guy recently, Alex Hormozi. Do you know Alex?
- TNTrevor Noah
No.
- JCJimmy Carr
He's a really smart guy.
- TNTrevor Noah
You know a lot of people.
- JCJimmy Carr
Really smart guy.
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