How to Balance Your Hormones: What Your Doctor Isn’t Telling You About Menopause

How to Balance Your Hormones: What Your Doctor Isn’t Telling You About Menopause

The Mel Robbins PodcastMay 9, 20241h 6m

Mel Robbins (host), Dr. Jen Gunter (guest)

Menopause as a normal physiological transition (“puberty in reverse”)Common symptoms, variability of experience, and major myths about menopauseEvidence-based menopausal hormone therapy vs. compounded “bioidentical” hormones and pelletsNon-hormonal foundations: exercise, nutrition, and lifestyle for midlife healthReal risks and benefits of hormone therapy (breast cancer, heart disease, osteoporosis, dementia)How to work with doctors: what to ask for, when testing is needed, timing of HRTSupport systems and relationships: partner/family roles and not blaming menopause for inequity

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Dr. Jen Gunter, How to Balance Your Hormones: What Your Doctor Isn’t Telling You About Menopause explores menopause Demystified: Evidence-Based Hormones, Myths Shattered, Power Restored Mel Robbins interviews OB-GYN Dr. Jen Gunter about what menopause really is, how it affects the body, and how women can safely treat symptoms using evidence-based medicine. They reframe menopause as “puberty in reverse,” a normal life stage that can be both challenging and liberating, not the end of a woman’s value or health. A major focus is separating FDA-approved menopausal hormone therapy from unregulated compounded “bioidentical” products and pellets, and clarifying real versus exaggerated risks such as breast cancer and cardiovascular disease. The conversation also covers non-hormonal strategies, how to talk to doctors and loved ones, and why women should refuse to blame hormones for structural sexism or “mediocre men.”

Menopause Demystified: Evidence-Based Hormones, Myths Shattered, Power Restored

Mel Robbins interviews OB-GYN Dr. Jen Gunter about what menopause really is, how it affects the body, and how women can safely treat symptoms using evidence-based medicine. They reframe menopause as “puberty in reverse,” a normal life stage that can be both challenging and liberating, not the end of a woman’s value or health. A major focus is separating FDA-approved menopausal hormone therapy from unregulated compounded “bioidentical” products and pellets, and clarifying real versus exaggerated risks such as breast cancer and cardiovascular disease. The conversation also covers non-hormonal strategies, how to talk to doctors and loved ones, and why women should refuse to blame hormones for structural sexism or “mediocre men.”

Key Takeaways

Reframe menopause as a normal transition, not a personal decline.

Menopause is a natural stage of the ovulatory cycle, akin to puberty in reverse, with a wide range of normal experiences—some unpleasant, some liberating. ...

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Prioritize exercise and basic lifestyle habits even before hormones.

Regular exercise (especially resistance training), adequate protein, high fiber intake, and not smoking have powerful effects on bone health, muscle mass, mood, heart and brain health, and fall risk—touching almost every domain affected by menopause.

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Choose FDA‑approved hormone therapies and avoid routine compounded “bioidentical” products.

“Bioidentical” is a marketing term; compounded creams, pellets, and bespoke mixes are not FDA-approved, not batch-tested, and often deliver unknown doses, potentially increasing risks like endometrial cancer or failing to protect bones. ...

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Use symptom‑driven, not lab‑driven, decisions for most women over 45.

For women 45 and older with typical symptoms (hot flashes, irregular periods, vaginal dryness), clinicians generally don’t need hormone blood tests to start treatment—symptoms and age are enough. ...

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Time hormone therapy wisely and individualize risk–benefit decisions.

Starting menopausal hormone therapy within 10 years of the last period and before ~60 is associated with lower risks for dementia and cardiovascular disease; transdermal estradiol plus oral progesterone is the current standard with very low breast cancer risk for most. ...

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Don’t let menopause become a scapegoat for unfair treatment or bad relationships.

While symptoms can affect mood and tolerance, using menopause to excuse a partner’s lack of contribution or workplace sexism mislabels structural problems as hormonal. ...

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Prepare, advocate, and bring evidence into your medical visits.

Women can improve care by learning basic terminology (estradiol, Premarin, transdermal vs. ...

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Notable Quotes

You can think about menopause as puberty in reverse.

Dr. Jen Gunter

Using FDA‑approved hormones is like going to the gas station… Getting compounded formulations is like buying gas from a dude on the side of the road who says he has bespoke gas for you.

Dr. Jen Gunter

If you could only ever do one thing for your health, it would be to get your exercise.

Dr. Jen Gunter

When people use the word ‘bioidentical,’ it tells me that they think women are dumb.

Dr. Jen Gunter

The answer to being mistreated is not taking hormones. The answer to being mistreated is to be treated correctly.

Dr. Jen Gunter

Questions Answered in This Episode

How can I practically assess my personal risk–benefit profile for menopausal hormone therapy with my doctor, using tools like breast cancer and cardiovascular risk calculators?

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If I’ve already been using compounded “bioidentical” hormones or pellets, what steps should I take now to evaluate my current hormone exposure and potential risks?

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What specific exercise and resistance-training routines are most effective for preserving bone density and muscle mass during and after the menopause transition?

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How should women with a history of breast cancer, blood clots, or heart disease approach symptom management if systemic hormones are not recommended for them?

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What conversations and boundary-setting strategies can women use at home and at work to distinguish between hormone-related challenges and unfair expectations or unequal labor?

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Transcript Preview

Mel Robbins

Everything you need to know about menopause.

Dr. Jen Gunter

Just like you went through puberty, which might have been challenging and had some symptoms, menopause is n- in many ways the same thing. You can think about it as puberty in reverse.

Mel Robbins

That actually makes a lot of sense. You know, when I was going through perimenopause, I got bioidentical hormones from a compound pharmacy, and I thought I was fancy.

Dr. Jen Gunter

Move away from using bioidentical and just call them compounded, 'cause bioidentical doesn't mean anything. So bioidentical is a marketing term used to describe hormones that are plant-based. They're just making things up.

Mel Robbins

There were all these warnings like, "Don't expose to light. Don't do this. Do that." Now, did I follow those? Of course not.

Dr. Jen Gunter

So this is the analogy I use. Using FDA-approved hormones is like going to the gas station. You fill your car and you have a working gas gauge, and you're like, "I know what's in there," and that's important. Getting these compounded formulations is like buying gas from a dude on the side of the road who's telling you he has bespoke gas for you.

Mel Robbins

I am speechless. Hey, it's Mel. I am so thrilled to bring this episode and conversation to you today. Dr. Jen Gunter is here to tell you everything you need to know about menopause, with a very particular focus on exactly what to do in order to feel better. Now, Dr. Gunter has been called the internet's favorite OBGYN. She is a double board-certified, fellowship-trained medical doctor, and she is a fierce advocate for women's health. She is also the bestselling author of three international bestsellers, including The Menopause Manifesto and her latest best-seller, Blood. She's known for myth-busting and no-nonsense facts, and you are going to love this conversation with her today. And I want to remind you, this is not just for you. Please be generous and share this with every single woman that you know, because what you're about to hear will change her life and yours. Without further ado, please help me welcome Dr. Jen Gunter to the Mel Robbins Podcast. Dr. Gunter, I'm so glad you're here.

Dr. Jen Gunter

I am so glad to be here.

Mel Robbins

So, Dr. Gunter, thank you so much for jumping on a plane, flying all the way across country to be here with us in Boston. I cannot wait to jump in and talk about menopause, bust the myths, have you empower us. I want to start by having you speak directly to the person who's listening who is either about to hit menopause, going through menopause, or maybe they're listening to this episode because somebody that they love has sent it to them. Could you talk to the person listening about what they are going to experience and what they're going to learn and how they're going to feel after they're done learning from you today?

Dr. Jen Gunter

Yeah. So I want you to feel seen if you're going through the menopause transition. I think so often women are made to feel small and they're not important, and women are uniquely affected by ageism. So you kind of have the double whammy at this time. So I'm hoping that you'll feel that your concerns are valid and they're important, and there are lots of options to do from a health standpoint, and there are many ways to take care of yourself. And I'm hoping that I can give you some tools to reframe what's going on with your body so you kind of know where you are and also give you tools to find help if you're struggling.

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