3 Truths You Need to Hear: The Best Expert Advice to Unlock Your Potential

(instrumental music plays) You know, the other day, I read this passage quoting the Buddha, "What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you create." In fact, let's just break that apart a little bit. See, what you think becomes what you actually say to yourself every day, and what you say to yourself every day becomes what you do and what you don't do, and what you do in life is who you become. Well, today, I'm gonna reveal three lies that you think are true about yourself, and these are lies that you probably tell yourself every single day. And these lies that you think and that you say to yourself, they impact what you're doing and what you're not doing, and that impacts what's possible in your life. And so today, one by one, I am gonna reveal these three lies, and I'm gonna tell you the truth, the truth about who you are, and the truth about what you can do and what you're capable of, and the truth about who you are meant to become. Hey, it's your friend Mel. I am so excited that you're here with me. It's always such an honor to get to spend some time and to be together. And if you're brand new, welcome to the Mel Robbins Podcast family. Now, I know you're the type of person who values your time, and you're interested in learning about ways that you can improve your life. I absolutely love that. You're gonna love our conversation today, because today, we're gonna talk about the importance of the things that you say to yourself, and how the things that you say turn into who you become. And have you ever had an experience in life, maybe you've been on a sports team, or you've had a mentor, there's somebody that you really look up to, and all of a sudden, they call you out on your BS? And you, maybe you're whining about something or, "I don't think I can do that," and they're like, "That's not true." Or maybe you've done that with somebody that you love. I know I do that with my kids all the time, when they start getting down on themselves, I'm the first one to be like, "That's not true." Or when your spouse is in a funk, or a friend of yours, they just can't get over the breakup, and they've been down and out forever, but you see the truth about who this person that you love truly is at their core. And you know when somebody's telling themselves a lie, right? "Oh, I'll never find love again. I'll never lose the weight. I'll never find another job. I can't get good grades. Nobody likes me." And when you see somebody that you love and they say those kind of lies to themselves, you're like, "That's not true." In fact, if you're like me, you get kinda mad at 'em, don't you? You're like, "Will you just stop trashing yourself like that? Will you just see what I see? Will you just dust yourself off?" Well, today, I'm gonna be doing that with you, because there are these three lies that you have been telling yourself, you probably don't even realize that you're doing this, and when I think about you sitting there, lying to yourself like this, honestly, it makes me mad. Now let me tell you why it makes me mad. It makes me mad because I can see you're the one shutting the door on your own potential. You don't even realize the power of what you think and say to yourself as you're sitting there shutting the door on your dreams and on what's possible. And you know what? Your friend Mel Robbins, I'm not having it. I see something so much bigger for you, and it starts with you changing what you think and what you say to yourself. And you wanna know why I was inspired to do this? I was inspired to do this because recently, we have had so many amazing conversations, like (imitates explosion) on the podcast. And if you're a brand new listener, don't you worry. Don't you worry, because you are listening to the very correct, amazing episode that you should listen to for the first time. And anybody that I reference or anything that you hear, it'll be in the resources. Just go down to the notes section, and you will be able to find all of the podcasts that I'm referring to, okay? So you're not missing anything. But, you know, the truth is, recently, people that have been on this... were talking fire, fire coming out of their mouth, and it's really made me reflect on the way that I talk to myself, and the way that I had shut the door on myself, whether it's in the past or recently. And these conversations, holy cow, talk about opening up some doors. And so with the help of inspiring and world-renowned experts in psychology and neuroscience and manifesting, holy cow, we're gonna show you the truth of who you are, of what you're capable of. So I hope you've buckled up. I hope you are ready. I hope you have cleared your calendar, because this is a conversation that you are meant to hear in this moment right now. And I'm gonna start by just kind of setting the broadest possible context for our conversation, okay? There's a reason why this matters. It is so damaging to lie to yourself, and it is important for you to start telling yourself the truth, and this goes way deeper than common sense. I wanna introduce you to Dr. James Doty, who is a world-renowned Stanford neurosurgeon and neuroscientist, and he's an expert on the science of manifestation. He recently told me why the lies you tell yourself have such a devastating impact on the quality of your life, and I want you to listen up to what Dr. Doty has to say.