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ADHD Chatter Podcast5 Simple Tricks to HACK Your ADHD - Dr James Kustow
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Dr James Kustow on Regulating ADHD Through Seven Practical Pillars
- Dr Kustow understands ADHD as a problem of regulation across ten domains, including energy, sleep, emotion and attention, rather than a simple attention deficit, and he describes it as a spectrum like blood pressure.
- He argues that rejection sensitivity drives people pleasing, avoidance and perfectionism, and that masking and boom-and-bust energy use take a heavy toll, with strain often showing in the late 30s and 40s.
- His book offers seven pillars for thriving, starting with a growth-oriented mindset and then sleep, time and task management, nutrition and movement, environment, and emotional regulation, which he calls the largest pillar.
- He says diagnosis and medication are valuable but not the end of the job, and that lifestyle work can reduce medication dose needs by around 30% or sometimes avert the need for medication.
- Practical hacks include putting cues at the point of action, habit stacking, gamifying tasks, pausing before saying yes, and tapping or his Solo Soma routine for calming down.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasADHD is better understood as dysregulation than attention deficit
Dr Kustow says every ADHD feature, from hyperfocus to sleep and immune issues, can be explained as too much or too little regulation. Hyperfocus, for example, is a problem of not being able to detach.
Rejection sensitivity reshapes personality
He sees it leading to people pleasing, avoidance and perfectionism, which feel protective short-term but make the underlying fear grow. He says understanding RSD lets people catch early signs and talk about it.
Masking and compensation cost enormous energy
People with ADHD stay up late, work harder and mask to keep pace, which can be absorbed in youth but starts to show strain toward the late 30s and 40s. He relates his own university years of extreme effort and heavy caffeine use.
Arguments can be an unconscious way of self-medicating
Dr Kustow says the adrenaline from anger and conflict can temporarily regulate an ADHD brain, leaving calm afterwards. Knowing this helps people stop using their stress system as treatment, and a code word and a state change can help in the moment.
External structure compensates for internal chaos
He notes people often seek diagnosis after the first year of university when scaffolding disappears. He recommends routines, habit stacking and structure with variation so it does not become boring.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesThe problem with hyperfocus is not that you can't latch on, it's that you can't detach.
— Dr. James Kustow
Any time there's a fear or a phobia of something and you avoid it in whatever way, the phobia grows, the thing gets worse.
— Dr. James Kustow
I'm definitely not going to use ADHD as an excuse. If people really need to understand why I messed up, then I'll explain it, but not excuse it.
— Dr. James Kustow
I don't like to carry anything forward that's got a negative charge attached to it, ever.
— Dr. James Kustow
There's never been a point in history when humans have had such accessible free dopamine. You can just reach into your pocket, and within a second, I can be hysterically laughing off an Instagram Reel.
— Alex Partridge
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Dr. James Kustow
guestDoctor and ADHD clinician/author who discusses adult ADHD, comorbid physical health, and therapeutic approaches including EMDR and EFT.
Alex Partridge
hostPodcast host of "ADHD Chatter" who interviews guests about ADHD and runs recurring audience segments.
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