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Deep Dive with Ali Abdaal

The Ultimate Method To Take Control Of Your Life in 2023 - Ryder Carroll

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Feb 9, 20231h 55mWatch on YouTube

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Bullet Journal as Mindfulness Disguised as Productivity
Ali introduces Ryder Carroll and asks how the bullet journal began. Ryder explains it grew out of necessity and describes it as a mindfulness practice that clarifies the why behind what you do, and says the artistic social media image of it can mislead people.
- •Ryder grew up with learning disabilities and had only pen and paper to work with
- •He describes the method as a mindfulness practice disguised as a productivity system
- •Purpose matters more than process, and productivity without purpose feels empty
- •Social media shows decorated journals, but the essence is building a tool around a specific intention
Growing Up with ADD and Hitting the Productivity Wall
Ryder describes ADD as trying to catch the rain and explains how the system first made him productive but then made him ask why he was doing things. He recounts achieving his goals and still feeling something was missing, which pushed him to turn the system on his inner life.
- •ADD felt like trying to catch the rain, with everything seeming important
- •He needed a core organizing principle before choosing a system
- •Getting the raise and position never felt like enough
- •He realized he was accomplishing other people's goals
- •He redirected the tools toward self-awareness and noticing his own patterns
From UX Design to Startup and Meaningful Work
Ryder traces his career from early web design and fashion-company contract work to a paint-by-numbers startup that he and a developer later sold. Volunteering for tech not-for-profits showed him the fulfillment of work at scale, and he reflects on how midlife-crisis-style questions are better asked in small regular steps.
- •He began designing websites in the early 2000s and worked as a senior art director
- •The paint-by-numbers startup was a proud product but unfulfilling as a business
- •Volunteer tech work for not-for-profits could serve thousands of people
- •He argues that asking about meaning and values regularly avoids a later reckoning
- •He treated his life as a product, looking at its bugs and features
How the Method Coalesced: Tasks, Events, Notes and the Four Rs
Ryder explains how people noticed him with his notebook and asked for help, which led him to strip his system down to its most durable tools. He lays out rapid logging with tasks, events and notes, the system versus the practice, and the cycle of record, reflect, refine and respond.
- •He had tried countless apps and systems before sharing the method
- •The core is writing tasks, events and notes, each with its own icon, and revisiting them
- •Writing less forces active listening and uses your own words
- •The method runs as record, reflect, refine, respond
- •Ali says the Audible version was hard to follow because the method is visual
Ali's Setup and the Bullet Journal as a Laboratory for Life
After the sponsor breaks, Ali describes how he adapted the modular system, with morning pages, gratitude and a Homework for Life entry. Ryder frames the journal as a laboratory powered by intention, where notes capture feelings and reading them back lets you edit your own story.
- •Ali uses symbols for events, tasks and notes plus gratitude and a nightly story-worthy moment
- •Ryder calls it a laboratory for life powered by intention
- •Rituals at daily, weekly, monthly and yearly scales add context
- •Notes can record feelings, so patterns like a draining project show up when you reread
- •Ali's note about an intermittent fasting day shows how writing makes things register
Rituals Over Habits and Intentional Curation
Ryder says he prefers rituals to habits because meaningful behaviors require attention, and describes his own long-form journaling and reading practice. Ali's gym example leads into how reconnecting with the why can give purpose to chores or reveal things that should be dropped, and Ryder explains collections and the index.
- •Habits aim for automatic behavior, while rituals are meaningful behaviors that need attention
- •Ryder does longer journaling at weekly, monthly and notebook-end intervals
- •Ali's dislike of his gym sessions versus enjoying squash shows what intention can reveal
- •Doing the dishes can signal commitment to a relationship, while stale goals like learning French can be dropped
- •Collections group related content and the index lets you find them
Migration and the Three-Question Filter
Ryder explains monthly migration, where open tasks are reviewed with curiosity rather than self-blame. He describes the filter of whether something is vital, whether it matters, and whether there are consequences, and Ali shares how rewriting tasks led him to say no to more things.
- •Once a month you review open tasks and ask why they did not get done
- •The filter asks if it is vital, if it matters to you or someone you love, and whether skipping it has consequences
- •Rewriting is a feature because anything not worth a moment to rewrite adds little value
- •Ali dropped a psychedelic idea and migrated kickboxing and a gym cancellation
- •Ryder finds a notebook helps him go offline compared with digital tools
Daily Log, Capture and Rapid Logging
Ryder explains that the daily log works like a messy inbox where thoughts are offloaded so you can stay present. He describes his five-minute morning and evening rituals and the plus symbol that marks ideas to expand, which Ali plans to use for video ideas.
- •The daily log is the messiest part and acts like an inbox
- •Ryder spends at least five minutes in the morning and evening on priorities and review
- •He turns the note dash into a plus to mark ideas to expand
- •The plus also works for journaling prompts to unpack later
- •The journal feeds his PKM tool Roam, and the margins let him scan ideas quickly
Common Misconceptions and Time Slowing Down
Ryder says the most common concern is people believing they must be artists, when the core is writing thoughts in a line or two. Ali describes how time seems to slow down since he began, and Ryder explains that time is taken rather than made.
- •The most common concern is 'I'm not an artist, I can't bullet journal'
- •Any notebook or piece of paper will work
- •Ali feels more intentional and says time has slowed down since starting
- •Ryder says time can only be taken, either from you or by you
- •When he stops journaling, time speeds up and things fall through the cracks
From Blog to Kickstarter, Notebook and Business
Ryder tells how he built a website in 2013 as a kind of thank-you to the open web, and how it was picked up by Lifehacker. Users with very different needs inspired a Kickstarter in 2014, whose notebook tiers sold out in a day and turned the project into a business with Leuchtturm.
- •He formalized his notebook practice into vocabulary and a four-minute video in about two weeks
- •The site was a thank-you to the early web community that shared knowledge freely
- •People such as veterans and stay-at-home moms used it for problems he had never faced
- •The Kickstarter funded a use-case site, but the notebook tiers sold out within a day
- •He partnered with Leuchtturm, whose notebook he already used, and the name was chosen partly because the URL was available
Designing the Notebook and the Art Debate
Ryder walks through the notebook's features, including version two and the stickers used outside the notebook. He then explains his split feelings on bullet journal art: it can be a way to connect with your values, but elaborate setups can stop people from getting started.
- •Version one added instructions, bookmarks, numbered pages and an index
- •Version two has thicker paper, grid guides, a tool pack and a detachable guide
- •Stickers like the lightning bolt serve as reminders outside the notebook
- •Art can be a valuable creative outlet, but the problem is when people think it's required
- •Ali enjoyed the art side and is becoming more minimal; Ryder says to start with the basics and develop style over time
Going Full-Time and Writing The Bullet Journal Method
Ryder describes the chaos of managing a viral Kickstarter alongside a full-time job and why he chose to commit to the method, guided by his value of service. He then covers the book deal and writing process, including lowering the bar, 'without hope, without despair,' and developing the title and subtitle.
- •Managing the Kickstarter while employed was a nightmare, and he chose service as his core value
- •He took a financial gamble to leave the agency job
- •His goal for the book was to help as many people as possible, not to be a bestseller
- •He writes a bad first draft and then sculpts it, handing off sections in cycles
- •The title stressed that it is a method, and the subtitle was chosen through user testing
Finding Your Values and Anti-Values
Ali asks how to figure out your values, and Ryder says it is an ongoing process of studying lived experience. He suggests looking at meaningful moments and at moments of discomfort, where the anti-value on show points to the opposite value you want, and notes that values differ by domain.
- •Values reveal themselves through choices and your responses to them, not from picking from a list
- •Look at what felt meaningful and what behavior supported it
- •Feeling terrible reveals an anti-value, and its opposite shows what you want
- •Values drive how you choose to respond to situations
- •Different life domains, such as work and home, call for different values
Goals as Lighthouses and Long-Term Planning
Asked about three- to ten-year planning, Ryder offers a lighthouse analogy: goals orient you but are not destinations. They discuss changing goals versus quitting, and Ali shares how a three-year business vision shifted and led him to run yearly experiments.
- •A goal set on day one is at the furthest distance from reality, so it will shift as you learn
- •Lighthouses guide navigation but you never go to them
- •Ryder suggests starting on a five-year goal and changing your mind as it becomes real
- •Quitting is acceptable if you understand why the goal no longer adds value, and difficulty alone shouldn't decide it
- •Ali's three-year plan changed within months, and he treats his studio moves as year-long experiments
The Companion App, What Changed, and the Future of Bullet Journal
Ryder explains the companion app as a bridge between digital and analog, with reminders, backups and curated information. He says the big change in his life is knowing why he does what he does, and that the future lies in education that shows tailored use cases, guided by community feedback.
- •The app adds reminders, reflection tracking, quotes and photo backups, and extends the notebook
- •If money was no issue, Ryder says he would do the same work and donate to others
- •Bullet journaling changed his life by giving him a clear why
- •The blank page problem is why he wants education for specific audiences such as students and doctors
- •He credits the community for pointing out new opportunities; the site is bulletjournal.com

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