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The Better-Sex Doctor: The Link Between Masturbating & Prostate Cancer! Dr Rena Malik

Dr Rena Malik is a Urologist & Pelvic Surgeon, her YouTube channel has over 1.8 million subscribers, where she releases weekly episodes on everything to do with sexual health education. 0:00 Intro 02:40 What is it you're seeking to do? 03:30 How do you define sexual health? 03:46 Do we understand our bodies? 05:10 Where does your training come from? 06:37 What's your training with the pelvic floor? 09:07 Why should our doctors be asking about our sexual health? 11:15 Is a weak pelvic floor in men linked to erectile dysfunction, and does sitting cause it too? 12:58 How much sex should couples be having? 14:42 Should we be experiencing pain during sex? 16:57 The vagina's expanding process 19:23 How do we communicate with our partners about sex? 22:21 What's the first step in re-building a good sex life? 26:22 Men vs women’s sexual desire as we age 29:11 Anticipation around sex causing more harm than good 30:11 Is a low libido a hormone problem? 32:29 Ways to increase testosterone 35:25 A decline in testosterone levels and sperm counts 36:37 Chemicals in everyday objects impacting sperm counts 38:30 How have sperm counts been decreasing over the years? 42:06 How do we increase our semen volume 43:56 Does masturbating improve my pelvic floor? 44:55 The impact our technology is having on our genitals 47:48 Does masturbation decrease testosterone levels? 49:17 Does too much masturbation have a bad effect on us? 51:10 Will masturbating make people blind? 51:29 What do you think of no nut November 53:05 Masturbating giving you more clarity of mind 56:23 Post nut clarity 01:01:48 Porn, is it bad? 01:05:47 VR headsets and porn 01:10:14 Trauma and how it relates to our sex lives 01:12:50 Can you have sex when pregnant? 01:13:33 Orgasms and the clitoris 01:19:36 What is an orgasm 01:23:16 Scheduling time for sex? 01:24:47 Is there a disparity on how long sex should actually take compared to how long it takes 01:28:25 Vagina myths 01:30:30 Pelvic floor exercises, how to do them 01:32:48 How do we know if we have pelvic floor issues 01:35:52 PENIS SIZE, is it possible to increase the size? 01:38:39 How big is a penis on average vs how big people think they should be? 01:41:50 Will my penis get smaller as we age? 01:43:08 Does body parts size indicate a bigger penis? 01:45:45 Labiaplasty 01:47:21 Squirting 01:50:16 Last guest question Follow Rena: Twitter - https://bit.ly/3VzI3vu Instagram - https://bit.ly/3TDaRk6 YouTube - https://bit.ly/3vx9knV Follow me: https://beacons.ai/diaryofaceo Shop the Conversation Cards: https://thediary.com/products/the-cards Sponsors: Zoe - http://joinzoe.com with an exclusive code CEO10 for 10% off Study mentioned: https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/ejaculation_frequency_and_prostate_cancer#:~:text=In%20fact%2C%20the%20reverse%20was,lower%20risk%20of%20prostate%20cancer. This episode of The Diary Of A CEO was filmed at Gold Tree Studios, located in the heart of the Sunset Strip, West Hollywood, California

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Apr 1, 20241h 54mWatch on YouTube ↗

CHAPTERS

  1. 0:00 – 10:40

    Intro, Viral Statistic & Introducing Dr. Rena Malik

    The clip opens with the striking claim that men who ejaculate 21+ times a month have lower prostate cancer risk, followed by a rapid teaser of key myths the episode will address. Host Stephen Bartlett thanks viewers for The Diary of a CEO’s growth and promises to raise production and guest quality in 2024, before formally introducing Dr. Rena Malik, a board‑certified urologist and sexual‑health educator.

  2. 10:40 – 25:10

    Why Sexual Health Matters And How Little We Understand

    Malik explains her mission: to make sexual‑health education freely accessible and understandable, arguing that sexual health is core health. She defines sexual health, highlights common physiological phenomena (like nocturnal erections and wet dreams), and shows how media and porn scripts create unrealistic expectations and shame.

  3. 25:10 – 37:20

    Pelvic Floor 101: Structure, Symptoms, And Hidden Connections

    Malik gives a detailed tour of the pelvic floor, emphasizing it exists in men too and acts as a muscular bowl supporting pelvic organs. She connects pelvic‑floor weakness and hyper‑tension to leaking, pain, constipation, urinary urgency, erectile dysfunction, and how back/hip injuries and prolonged sitting can cause discoordination.

  4. 37:20 – 47:40

    Why Doctors Ignore Sex And Why That’s Dangerous

    The discussion shifts to systemic neglect of sexual health in medicine. Malik explains how unaddressed sexual problems fuel shame, relationship strain, and mental‑health issues, and shares data connecting erectile dysfunction with future heart attacks, framing ED as a vascular warning sign.

  5. 47:40 – 1:00:00

    Sex Frequency, Pain, And The Reality Gap With Porn

    Malik dismantles myths about how much sex ‘everyone else’ is having and addresses pain during sex. She stresses quality over quantity, outlines the physiological arousal process in women (lubrication, vaginal lengthening), and champions lubrication and foreplay as simple, often‑ignored fixes, while noting when deeper evaluation is needed.

  6. 1:00:00 – 1:13:30

    Sex Education Failure, Porn As Teacher, And Communication Breakdown

    The pair explore how poor sex education and reliance on porn warp expectations and make communication around sex excruciatingly hard. Malik outlines how to have constructive ‘sex talks’ with a partner, why they often go badly at first, and the value of therapy and repeated, low‑pressure conversations.

  7. 1:13:30 – 1:26:40

    Reviving Sexless Relationships, Desire Types, And Scheduling Intimacy

    Malik offers guidance to people in long‑term, low‑sex relationships, distinguishing between those who are genuinely okay without sex and those who are quietly suffering. She explains spontaneous vs responsive desire, especially in long‑term couples, and normalizes planning intimacy as a way to rekindle connection without performance pressure.

  8. 1:26:40 – 1:33:50

    Hormones, Testosterone, Lifestyle, And Declining Sperm Counts

    The conversation turns biological, with Malik detailing the role of testosterone in both male and female libido and how stress hormones, sleep, exercise, diet, and endocrine disruptors affect levels. She explains population‑level declines in testosterone and sperm quality, and what individuals can realistically control.

  9. 1:33:50 – 1:40:00

    Masturbation, Testosterone, No Nut November, And ‘Post‑Nut Clarity’

    The pair directly address widespread myths about masturbation’s impact on testosterone and mental performance. Malik dissects a small 21‑day abstinence study, critiques No Nut November rhetoric, and discusses when masturbation becomes problematic versus beneficial. They also explore ‘post‑nut clarity’ and evolutionary theories around refractory periods.

  10. 1:40:00 – 1:57:20

    Heat, Tech, And Habits That Impact Fertility And Semen Volume

    Malik explains why testicles sit outside the body and how heat—from phones in pockets, laptops on laps, saunas, or hot tubs—can temporarily reduce sperm production. She also unpacks what determines semen volume and how pelvic‑floor strength affects ejaculatory force.

  11. 1:57:20 – 2:16:00

    Porn, VR, Addiction, And The Future Of Intimacy

    Stephen raises concerns about advanced VR porn (e.g., Apple Vision Pro) and its potential to outcompete real‑world dating. Malik distinguishes between porn as neutral entertainment and problematic use, articulates particular harms of early exposure in children, and cautiously considers both risks and therapeutic uses of immersive tech.

  12. 2:16:00 – 2:23:30

    Trauma, Therapy, And Why We Need Better Education

    Malik links unresolved trauma to pelvic‑floor dysfunction and long‑term sexual issues, recounting cases of older patients whose untreated trauma manifested as severe physical problems. She argues for integrating trauma literacy, accurate sex education, and digital literacy into schooling and reiterates that every sexual‑function problem has a psychological component.

  13. 2:23:30 – 2:35:10

    Pregnancy, Clitoris, Female Orgasm Pathways, And The Orgasm Gap

    The conversation moves back to female anatomy and pleasure. Malik confirms it’s safe to have sex during pregnancy and then comprehensively explains the clitoris, G‑zone, cervix, and how different nerve pathways can lead to orgasm. She quantifies time‑to‑orgasm differences and presents data revealing stark disparities between male–female vs female–female first‑time encounters.

  14. 2:35:10 – 2:41:10

    What An Orgasm Really Is And How It Works

    Malik describes orgasms as a build‑up and release of muscular and neurological tension rather than a simple on/off switch. She covers physiological changes (heart rate, blood pressure, pupil dilation, pelvic‑floor contractions) and why continuous, rhythmic stimulation matters for reaching climax.

  15. 2:41:10 – 2:47:20

    Scheduling Intimacy, Mindfulness, And Rethinking How Long Sex ‘Should’ Last

    They revisit scheduling intimacy as a practical strategy, clarifying that what’s scheduled is connection, not guaranteed sex. Malik then breaks down perception vs reality on ‘normal’ sex duration and shows how knowing the true averages can actually relieve pressure and make sex more accessible in busy lives.

  16. 2:47:20 – 2:59:20

    Vaginal ‘Looseness’, Childbirth, Pelvic‑Floor Training, And How To Do Kegels

    Malik busts the myth that lots of sex makes vaginas ‘loose’. She differentiates between pelvic‑floor weakness (often from childbirth or connective‑tissue factors) and tightness, then gives a practical primer on Kegels, stressing correct technique and the importance of relaxation, progression, and pelvic‑floor physio.

  17. 2:59:20 – 3:09:40

    Penis Size, Enhancement Claims, And What Women Actually Choose

    The discussion turns to penis size anxiety and the burgeoning enlargement industry. Malik reviews evidence for traction devices, explains why pumps and many surgeries don’t deliver safe, meaningful gains, and contrasts male size ideals with women’s actual sex‑toy purchasing behavior.

  18. 3:09:40 – 3:18:00

    Aging, Shrinkage Myths, Nose Size, And Rising Penis Length Trends

    Malik tackles whether penises shrink with age, separates true atrophy due to vascular disease from the illusion created by weight gain, and mentions intriguing (but limited) research linking penile length to nose length and showing secular increases in average penis size.

  19. 3:18:00 – 3:30:50

    Labiaplasty, Genital Aesthetics, And Squirting Science

    The focus returns to female genitals: rising labiaplasty rates, porn‑driven aesthetic ideals, and what’s known (and unknown) about female ejaculation and squirting. Malik clarifies different vaginal fluids, emphasizes the diversity of labia as normal, and notes that research on squirting is sparse and inconclusive.

  20. 3:30:50

    Closing Reflections: Sexual Health, Partnerships, And Life Success

    In closing, Malik shares the core message she hopes her career conveys: sexual health is integral to overall health and deserves prioritization and education. She and Stephen reflect on how sex and relationships affect career performance, and she underscores that choosing the right partner is one of the most consequential decisions for long‑term wellbeing and success.

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