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How to End Power Struggles

You ask your child to put on their shoes or brush their teeth, and you’re met with a flat-out “No!” If you’re like most parents, you’re familiar with the power struggle that follows: You insist, your kid resists or ignores you, you get frustrated, they get frustrated, and nobody wins. The good news? There’s another way. This week, Dr. Becky answers questions from three different parents about tricky moments of refusal with their kids. As always, she zooms out to consider the big picture: Why do our kids say “no” in the first place? Then, she offers actionable scripts and strategies to connect to your child’s experience, while embodying your authority as a parent. You’ll leave this episode with a game-changing framework for resistance and a ton of tools to increase cooperation in your home. Join Good Inside Membership: http://www.goodinside.com Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Want More? Check these out: Why Won't My Kids Listen To Anything I Say?" - https://youtu.be/Rb7FSL1y3Oo Stop Calling Your Kid "Defiant" - https://youtu.be/DJXEYwgwNwY Deep Dive: Myleik Teele on What No One Tells You About Parenthood - https://youtu.be/PhSpSVnsYhY Deeply Feeling Kids Need a Different Approach - https://youtu.be/WQNM5EyDtKE Motherhood Doesn’t Have to Be Martyrdom - https://youtu.be/ywJMtRHzqFY

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May 10, 202229mWatch on YouTube ↗

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Released
May 10, 2022
Duration
29m
Channel
Good Inside with Dr. Becky
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

You ask your child to put on their shoes or brush their teeth, and you’re met with a flat-out “No!” If you’re like most parents, you’re familiar with the power struggle that follows: You insist, your kid resists or ignores you, you get frustrated, they get frustrated, and nobody wins. The good news? There’s another way. This week, Dr. Becky answers questions from three different parents about tricky moments of refusal with their kids. As always, she zooms out to consider the big picture: Why do our kids say “no” in the first place? Then, she offers actionable scripts and strategies to connect to your child’s experience, while embodying your authority as a parent. You’ll leave this episode with a game-changing framework for resistance and a ton of tools to increase cooperation in your home. Join Good Inside Membership: http://www.goodinside.com Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Want More? Check these out: Why Won't My Kids Listen To Anything I Say?" - https://youtu.be/Rb7FSL1y3Oo Stop Calling Your Kid "Defiant" - https://youtu.be/DJXEYwgwNwY Deep Dive: Myleik Teele on What No One Tells You About Parenthood - https://youtu.be/PhSpSVnsYhY Deeply Feeling Kids Need a Different Approach - https://youtu.be/WQNM5EyDtKE Motherhood Doesn’t Have to Be Martyrdom - https://youtu.be/ywJMtRHzqFY

SPEAKERS

  • Dr. Becky

    host

    Clinical psychologist and founder/host of Good Inside, providing parenting guidance and coaching.

  • Unnamed Parent 1

    guest

    Parent caller seeking advice about power struggles with a young child.

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Good Inside with Dr. Becky, featuring Dr. Becky and Unnamed Parent 1, How to End Power Struggles explores end toddler power struggles by validating ‘no’ and building cooperation. Frequent “no” and refusal in toddlers/preschoolers often reflect healthy identity formation and a need for separation and control, not defiance.

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