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How to Raise a Confident Kid | Dr. Becky

Two parents came to Dr. Becky back to back, both with the same worry: my kid isn't confident. One had a young kid who clung to her at a birthday party while every other kid ran around the gymnastics mat. The other had a teenager who got suspended for staying silent on a group text while other kids were being cruel. One set of parents wanted their kid to join the crowd faster. The other wanted their kid to be able to break from it. In this solo episode, Dr. Becky makes the case that confidence isn't feeling good about yourself. It's trusting yourself even when you don't, and feeling like it's okay to be you in more and more kinds of situations. She names three things loving parents do that quietly shrink that range: changing the feeling, changing the outcome, and making the outside louder than the inside. She also shares one question to ask yourself the next time your kid is upset and you feel the urge to fix it: what am I trying to change right now? Thanks to Carter’s, Good Inside’s new Confidence Program is free for every family for the next six months. Click here to learn more. Chapters 0:00 – Intro: two parents, two definitions of confidence 3:05 – Why confidence isn't about feeling good 4:56 – Growing up in a world of quick fixes 7:01 – Three things that work against confidence 7:22 – #1: Changing the feeling 8:30 – #2: Changing the outcome 10:33 – Confidence comes from a track record 12:11 – #3: Making the outside louder than the inside 14:56 – One thing to try today: what am I trying to change? 17:25 – How to get the free Confidence Program Want more support with the moments that test you as a parent? Good Inside gives you the tools and community for that: https://www.goodinside.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen&utm_content=description_20260929 #goodinside #drbecky #confidence #resilience #raisingkids #parenting

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September 29, 2026
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19m
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Good Inside with Dr. Becky
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Two parents came to Dr. Becky back to back, both with the same worry: my kid isn't confident. One had a young kid who clung to her at a birthday party while every other kid ran around the gymnastics mat. The other had a teenager who got suspended for staying silent on a group text while other kids were being cruel. One set of parents wanted their kid to join the crowd faster. The other wanted their kid to be able to break from it. In this solo episode, Dr. Becky makes the case that confidence isn't feeling good about yourself. It's trusting yourself even when you don't, and feeling like it's okay to be you in more and more kinds of situations. She names three things loving parents do that quietly shrink that range: changing the feeling, changing the outcome, and making the outside louder than the inside. She also shares one question to ask yourself the next time your kid is upset and you feel the urge to fix it: what am I trying to change right now? Thanks to Carter’s, Good Inside’s new Confidence Program is free for every family for the next six months. Click here to learn more. Chapters 0:00 – Intro: two parents, two definitions of confidence 3:05 – Why confidence isn't about feeling good 4:56 – Growing up in a world of quick fixes 7:01 – Three things that work against confidence 7:22 – #1: Changing the feeling 8:30 – #2: Changing the outcome 10:33 – Confidence comes from a track record 12:11 – #3: Making the outside louder than the inside 14:56 – One thing to try today: what am I trying to change? 17:25 – How to get the free Confidence Program Want more support with the moments that test you as a parent? Good Inside gives you the tools and community for that: https://www.goodinside.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen&utm_content=description_20260929 #goodinside #drbecky #confidence #resilience #raisingkids #parenting

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    Clinical psychologist and parenting expert, host of Good Inside with Dr. Becky.

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Good Inside with Dr. Becky, featuring Dr. Becky, How to Raise a Confident Kid | Dr. Becky explores confidence grows when kids handle hard moments without being rescued Dr. Becky explains that “confidence” is often misdefined in childhood as jumping in with the crowd, even though later we value confidence as the ability to act differently from the crowd.

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