Good Inside with Dr. BeckyI Thought I’d Thrive as a New Mom — Here’s What Actually Happened
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Setting the theme: the scary 2:00 AM thought—“This is boring”
- BEDr. Becky
I'm really glad you're here. This is a show we made especially for parents and parents-to-be in those first few weeks and months after having a baby. That third trimester, that foggy newborn stage, the stretch where everything feels new and close to the surface. And each episode starts with a thought, the kind of thought that shows up at 2:00 AM, the kind of thought you don't really wanna say out loud, the kind of thought that makes you wonder, "Is something wrong with me? Am I doing this whole parenting thing right?" And today, that thought is, "This is boring." [laughs] If you've ever had that sentence run through your head, even once, I want you to know you are definitely not the only one. And when that thought shows up, it can feel scary. It can feel lonely. It can feel like there's something about you that's off or wrong for this job. In this episode, we're gonna name it, and we're gonna hear a parent's story around that thought, and we're
- 1:00 – 3:14
Meet Myleik Teele + life before baby: freedom, travel, and time
- BEDr. Becky
gonna slow the thought down enough to make it feel a little less complicated, a little more understandable. If you can, save this for a quiet moment or a hard moment or one of those middle-of-the-night moments, and think of this as a friendly voice in your ear during that time. And today, that voice belongs to Myleik Teele. Myleik is hard to describe, because she's so many things. She's an entrepreneur. She's a mentor. She's a speaker. She is a-
- MTMyleik Teele
Coach
- BEDr. Becky
... coach.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes.
- BEDr. Becky
And you are someone who's always becoming and emerging.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes.
- BEDr. Becky
Is that fair?
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes. Unfolding.
- BEDr. Becky
Unfolding. And she's a major part of the GOODINSIDE community, and she's a mom of two. [gentle music] All right, Myleik, let's start pre-baby. Ready?
- MTMyleik Teele
Yeah.
- BEDr. Becky
Who was Myleik before her first baby arrived?
- MTMyleik Teele
Oh, my gosh. Entrepreneur, traveler, girlfriend, fun times. I had a wonderful life before I became a parent-
- BEDr. Becky
[laughs]
- MTMyleik Teele
... and I thought, "You know what? I should... Maybe we should add some children to this wonderful life."
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yeah. That was who I was.
- BEDr. Becky
What comes up when you think about pre-child Myleik?
- MTMyleik Teele
How free I was, how... I think how much time I had.
- BEDr. Becky
[laughs] Yep.
- MTMyleik Teele
I had so much time before I became a parent.
- BEDr. Becky
Did you realize it at the time?
- MTMyleik Teele
I did not-
- BEDr. Becky
Okay. [laughs]
- MTMyleik Teele
... realize it at the time. I didn't realize it at the time.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
After I became a parent, I thought to myself, "What was I doing with all of that time?"
- BEDr. Becky
Like a Saturday.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yeah, a Saturday, when I just woke up when I wanted to-
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah
- MTMyleik Teele
... did what I wanted to.
- 3:14 – 3:48
The competence carryover: efficiency, preparation, and “I’m going to crush this”
- BEDr. Becky
Um, okay. So in that pre-baby time, that pre-baby Myleik, tell me about some of the things you felt especially confident about.
- MTMyleik Teele
I felt confident that I could show up anywhere on time and prepared.
- BEDr. Becky
Mm.
- MTMyleik Teele
I felt confident about the, the amount of time, about the things that I would need. Um, I felt confident in my ability to get things done. I was very efficient.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
Um, I was really good at a lot of things-
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah
- MTMyleik Teele
... before I had a baby.
- BEDr. Becky
Okay. We're gonna get there.
- MTMyleik Teele
[laughs]
- 3:48 – 6:20
Optimizing motherhood: books, schedules, and a fully engineered newborn plan
- BEDr. Becky
Tell me, did you assume, or maybe what did you assume would feel natural when you became a mom?
- MTMyleik Teele
I thought that I had learned how to do so many things on my own. So I, I was an, I'm an entrepreneur, and I thought that when I have a child-
- BEDr. Becky
Mm-hmm
- MTMyleik Teele
... I will apply everything that sort of has gotten me to this place to parenting, and I am going to kill this. I am going to be as good at parenting as I am at my business. I started something from nothing. I, I knew I had this.
- BEDr. Becky
So, uh, that's really interesting. You'd already birthed something.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes.
- BEDr. Becky
So, so, like-
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes
- BEDr. Becky
... being an entrepreneur, starting a company, you started Curlbox.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes.
- BEDr. Becky
Very successful, like-
- MTMyleik Teele
Box
- BEDr. Becky
... it was in, it was, it was an idea. It was like a, it became a embryo.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes.
- BEDr. Becky
It became... And then you ge- you gestated on, on this.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes, yes.
- BEDr. Becky
And it grew.
- MTMyleik Teele
And it grew, and it did well for a long time, and I just thought, "Of course I know what I'm doing. You know, I'll get my spreadsheet. I'll get the right players in place, and I'm going to kill this."
- BEDr. Becky
Like, the world has never seen a mom-
- MTMyleik Teele
No
- BEDr. Becky
... like me. [laughs]
- MTMyleik Teele
The, I'm serious. Yeah. [laughs]
- BEDr. Becky
I'm gonna cross that.
- MTMyleik Teele
I just, I just knew I had it.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah. Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yeah.
- BEDr. Becky
So kind of I assumed everything I had learned to that point-
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes
- BEDr. Becky
... would translate.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yeah.
- 6:20 – 8:46
Reality hits (March 2018): no joy, constant monotony, and boredom
- BEDr. Becky
Okay. So we're gonna travel to March of 2018 And I wanna hear about a moment in March of 2018, maybe it was April, May, not past May, if you don't mind.
- MTMyleik Teele
Okay.
- BEDr. Becky
Like, somewhere really in those early moments, or let's just say any moment where you would say, "Yeah, it was not like all the things I just talked about pre-baby."
- MTMyleik Teele
I very quickly realized I am not enjoying this-
- BEDr. Becky
Mm
- MTMyleik Teele
... at all. I am not, even with all of the planning that I had, there just seemed to be not a drop of joy in any of it.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
And it was very boring, and sometime monotonous and all of the, you know, the diapers, the... And I felt [laughs] like I just didn't e- I, I didn't expect it to feel this way. I thought it was going to feel better.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
I thought that I would, like, wake every morning and just, like, pour my coffee, "Another beautiful day in motherhood."
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
"I got this." And it was not that.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah. Unenjoyable, boring.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes.
- BEDr. Becky
That was not in the pre-birth plan.
- MTMyleik Teele
There's no book that says, "Here's something for you when it's not enjoyable or when you feel really bored." There, there... No one ever mentioned it.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah. Talk about the boring, and if it's a moment or maybe it's a string of moments.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes.
- BEDr. Becky
What, what, what do you start picturing when you think about that word in that early time?
- MTMyleik Teele
Just when we think, when I think about my life before I had a baby, it was very exciting, and now here I am managing little bits of laundry all the time, and so I'm bored to tears with the amount of laundry I feel like I now have to do. I am bored with refilling, restocking, um, sterilizing, t- you know, trying to find all the right things that will maybe solve this problem, and I just, I was like, "I don't like this."
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
It, it was a string of events, and I was just, like, up and down every day, nothing exciting.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
Just napping, eating, sleeping, laundry, rinse and repeat.
- 8:46 – 10:45
Why boredom felt so intense: novelty-seeking meets “wash, rinse, repeat”
- BEDr. Becky
And I'm just thinking about the rinse and repeat, and I think it sounds like, like, you like novelty.
- MTMyleik Teele
I do. I love novelty.
- BEDr. Becky
Say more about that.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes. I, I love going to new places. I love going to new restaurants. You know, I love things being new, and there is... I thought that motherhood would be novelty. There's this new human.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
This is going to be exciting. I mean, if this isn't novelty, what is?
- BEDr. Becky
Right.
- MTMyleik Teele
And it's not that. It wasn't that.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah, I don't know why this is coming to mind. This is so absurd of a association, but I'm gonna share it. I think about the person whose job before they have a baby is, like, um, 70% of my time I put stamps on envelopes.
- MTMyleik Teele
Right. Yeah.
- BEDr. Becky
Right? Every once in a while, I'm definitely dealing with some employees who are really upset.
- MTMyleik Teele
Right.
- BEDr. Becky
And then I go back to stamping sta-
- MTMyleik Teele
Right
- BEDr. Becky
... envelopes [laughs] over and over, and we might say, me and you-
- MTMyleik Teele
Right
- BEDr. Becky
... um, "Eh, feels like it might get a little old"-
- MTMyleik Teele
Right
- BEDr. Becky
... "or," right?
- MTMyleik Teele
Right.
- BEDr. Becky
Um, and before you have a baby, if you're someone especially who knows, I... You had an exciting life.
- MTMyleik Teele
I did.
- BEDr. Becky
A lot of novelty, this new thing.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes.
- BEDr. Becky
Something unexpected in, like, a fun way-
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes
- BEDr. Becky
... a new challenge, and-
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes
- BEDr. Becky
... it's so true. Babies are such a new challenge, but that's very holistic and zoomed out.
- MTMyleik Teele
Right.
- 10:45 – 12:44
Shame spiral: “What’s wrong with me?” and fear of being a bad parent
- BEDr. Becky
What, what did you do with that thought? Like, where... Like, follow it. What happened after?
- MTMyleik Teele
This is so boring, and I, I felt a little bad that I didn't enjoy it the way that I hoped that I would-
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah
- MTMyleik Teele
... and the way that I assumed other people did. I, when I thought that, I started to think, "Well, what's wrong with me that I'm, that this, that I'm just so bored to tears? Is there something about me-
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah
- MTMyleik Teele
... that could be better or different, and will I be this parent to my child forever?" Like, I'm thinking all of these things, you know? Is this, will this impact? Will they know that I don't like this?
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah, so that, there's, there's so much there, but for s- am I the on- like, am I the only one?
- MTMyleik Teele
Right.
- BEDr. Becky
Like, is, that parent looks happy. Like, I'm not supposed to feel this way. Good parents don't-
- MTMyleik Teele
Good parents don't feel this way
- BEDr. Becky
They love sterilization.
- MTMyleik Teele
They [laughs]
- BEDr. Becky
[laughs]
- MTMyleik Teele
Yeah, they do. They do. It's like, you know, we've seen the videos.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
This is, this is a video of me. I wake up-
- BEDr. Becky
[laughs]
- MTMyleik Teele
... at 5:13, and I start my day. You know, I put the bottles over here. I do this, and I mean, they're moving arms, legs, everything, and no. I thought that that would be me-
- BEDr. Becky
Mm
- MTMyleik Teele
... and that I would enjoy that, or I would be doing that.
- BEDr. Becky
Mm-hmm.
- MTMyleik Teele
But that was not my reality, and I think what made this so boring for me-
- BEDr. Becky
[laughs]
- MTMyleik Teele
... was not being connected with the people that I used to do things with.
- BEDr. Becky
Ah.
- MTMyleik Teele
Not only am I bored doing this, you know, I'm up now at 3:30 AM, and there's no one to talk to, you know? Or when everybody else is sort of moving around without me, it's, I can't do anything anymore.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
It feels like that.
- 12:44 – 14:33
The “life pie chart” shift: novelty and connection drop while monotony surges
- BEDr. Becky
I, I'm seeing a pie chart.
- MTMyleik Teele
Mm-hmm.
- BEDr. Becky
I actually think, like, for anyone listening too, think about the pie chart of your life and what percentage of your life gives you connection and excitement and novelty. I, I think you might have had a higher percentage of those-
- MTMyleik Teele
I, I absolutely did
- BEDr. Becky
... than other people.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes.
- BEDr. Becky
Right?
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes.
- BEDr. Becky
No one tells you that's almost, like, a risk factor for how things are gonna feel, right? [laughs]
- MTMyleik Teele
Now.
- BEDr. Becky
Now.
- MTMyleik Teele
Now I know. [laughs]
- BEDr. Becky
Okay, right. So if you think about that pie chart, you just said something that I've never thought before, which is, um, then you think about your pie chart after baby. The things that gave you novelty and excitement just go way down. You can't have them.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes.
- BEDr. Becky
But there's also the insertion of so many more monotonous things. It's a do- like, it's a double whammy.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes, yes.
- BEDr. Becky
Right?
- MTMyleik Teele
That goes down, and now I, I had s-
- BEDr. Becky
Ugh
- MTMyleik Teele
... I didn't have as much monotony in my life before. Very little.
- BEDr. Becky
And you had full control, being like-
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes
- BEDr. Becky
... Saturday felt monotonous. I'm gonna do something very different on Sunday.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes.
- BEDr. Becky
Like, can you imagine? This sterilization thing isn't for me.
- MTMyleik Teele
Right.
- BEDr. Becky
So I don't even know.
- MTMyleik Teele
Tomorrow, I don't have to worry because I won't choose to do this.
- BEDr. Becky
Right. You, you're like, "Well, and I'm gonna have to do it."
- MTMyleik Teele
Right.
- 14:33 – 15:34
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- BEDr. Becky
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- 15:34 – 17:21
The most surprising part: you can’t “fix” this hard—parenting is staying in it
- BEDr. Becky
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- MTMyleik Teele
Yes. I- what was most surprising about how I felt was I did not think that someone like me could feel so sort of terrible about this. I, every time I had a challenge in my life, I felt like I have figured out a way to knock it down, I got this, and feel better quickly, pretty quickly.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
And this, I just could not.
- BEDr. Becky
Doing a good job as a new parent is not making the hard easy. It's actually just talking ourselves through staying in the hard, right? And I know, it sucks. It's so annoying-
- MTMyleik Teele
No
- BEDr. Becky
... that that's true.
- MTMyleik Teele
Right.
- BEDr. Becky
Is that [laughs]
- MTMyleik Teele
It's, but the, the deep sigh is that I just, I feel like no one said that.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
And if I had just... I mean, that as an approach, that would've been incredibly helpful.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
Just more tolerating the hard and not pushing myself to get better or to enjoy it or to let, you know, pushing myself to enjoy it.
- BEDr. Becky
That's right. That's right.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yeah.
- 17:21 – 18:21
Feelings + self-talk: the ‘layers’ that make boredom unbearable
- BEDr. Becky
Because I do think how we feel in a moment, and I only have this because I've zoomed out too, is, like, there's the feeling.
- MTMyleik Teele
Mm-hmm.
- BEDr. Becky
Let's say the feeling is this is unenjoyable or this is boring, but then how we end up feeling is that feeling plus how we talk to ourselves about the feeling.
- MTMyleik Teele
Mm-hmm.
- BEDr. Becky
Every, "I shouldn't feel this way" makes the hard feeling more. Do other parents feel this way? More, right? And we can't change the feeling.
- MTMyleik Teele
Right.
- BEDr. Becky
But it's actually not finding it boring that's the worst feeling in a day. It's, I think it's the-
- MTMyleik Teele
Right
- BEDr. Becky
... the, the layers.
- MTMyleik Teele
The layers of-
- BEDr. Becky
Right?
- MTMyleik Teele
Uh, yeah.
- BEDr. Becky
Uh, because if it's boring... It's funny, I'm thinking about you back then. I've started some companies. I can deal with boring.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes.
- BEDr. Becky
[laughs] But-
- MTMyleik Teele
And I can deal with hard. I can deal with long hours.
- BEDr. Becky
I can [laughs]
- MTMyleik Teele
These are, these are things that I've done before.
- BEDr. Becky
But not when we think it should be different.
- MTMyleik Teele
Right.
- BEDr. Becky
Then that, that's crushing to everyone.
- MTMyleik Teele
Right.
- BEDr. Becky
Right?
- MTMyleik Teele
Yeah.
- 18:21 – 20:08
What older Myleik would tell new-mom Myleik: stop solving, start validating
- BEDr. Becky
You now, thinking about first-time mom Myleik, you know, what, if, if you were next to her on the couch, what- What are some of the things you'd say?
- MTMyleik Teele
If I were sitting next to first-time mom Myleik on the couch, I would probably snuggle up next to her and say, "It's okay if you aren't enjoying this. [laughs] It's okay. This is boring, and it's hard, and this is not a, this is not a time for you to try to strategize yourself out of the feeling."
- BEDr. Becky
Mm. Like [laughs] ... The boring isn't a problem to solve?
- MTMyleik Teele
It's not a problem to solve. You can be bored, and it won't be this way forever.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
Because I think that's the part that felt the hardest, is that it just seemed like I, this is, I had this fun and exciting life, and now I have this incredibly boring life that I should be excited about because I wanted this. I said I wanted this. Everyone else seems to be excited about this stage in their life.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
And it won't be this way forever. You won't feel this way forever.
- BEDr. Becky
Would you tell her [laughs] sort of, "Look, like, knowing you, it makes sense you find this stage boring"?
- MTMyleik Teele
I would say that to her, too. N- knowing you-
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah
- MTMyleik Teele
... and knowing how you do things-
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah
- MTMyleik Teele
... it makes sense that all of the sort of day-to-day monotony of this is dragging you down.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yeah. You're just, you don't like it.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah. I have a question for you. Uh, uh, not looking for a specific answer.
- MTMyleik Teele
Mm-hmm.
- 20:08 – 23:10
As kids grow, joy returns: feedback, independence, travel, and shorter idea-to-action gap
- BEDr. Becky
Do you like parenthood more and more as your kids get older?
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes.
- BEDr. Becky
Say more about that-
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes
- BEDr. Becky
... and how that relates to what you know about yourself as-
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes
- BEDr. Becky
... an individual.
- MTMyleik Teele
I, now, like, knowing what I know about myself and how I like to do things, now that my children are almost six and almost eight, and they can do more things for themselves, we can travel, and I don't have to pack every single thing every time you walk out of the door, they can hold their own things, I enjoy this stage so much more than I did when they were just not able to say anything, no feedback, no-
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah
- MTMyleik Teele
... like, no return on what you feel like you're giving.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
You know? It's just, like, constantly putting out, and so now, yeah, now they're older. I'm like, "This is, this is cool."
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
I like this.
- BEDr. Becky
And I, I do feel like it's something that's, like, so often missing. Like, I'm just being you for a second. Knowing what I know about myself, I love novelty. I love to travel. I love to do new things. All of that is actually gonna make me an amazing mom. Like, the life I'm gonna create... I have the chills.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yeah.
- BEDr. Becky
Like, the life I'm gonna create for my kids-
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes
- BEDr. Becky
... they're, they're so lucky-
- MTMyleik Teele
Yeah
- BEDr. Becky
... to have a parent who can, like, "Yeah, let's go do that," right?
- MTMyleik Teele
Yeah.
- BEDr. Becky
And knowing that picture, oh, first couple years, that might not really be possible, and so those years, like, might be hard, and I'm gonna be kind to myself, I'm gonna get through it, I'm gonna have joy in different moments. But, like, after that stage, ooh.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yeah.
- BEDr. Becky
Like, that, that's gonna be my zone.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes.
- BEDr. Becky
Right?
- MTMyleik Teele
Yes. Yes. It was... We used to have this joke in the early days of parenting, and my partner would come in and go, "What would you be doing right now if you weren't on the couch, like, with the baby?" Like, "We'd get in Miami. Ugh, who wants that?" [laughs]
- BEDr. Becky
[laughs] You know? Going out to a new restaurant and dancing. Ugh.
- MTMyleik Teele
Ugh. [laughs]
- 23:10 – 27:14
Closing message: boredom is not a report card or a prediction about your parenting
- BEDr. Becky
Okay, so I have a, I have a specific thing I wanna kind of land on the end. S- anyone listening, but maybe especially the parent listening who if they reflect on their decades before parenthood, they have like, "I am an efficiency person. I'm an idea into action person. Um, I, I like to go do a lot of things, and I am a good problem solver."
- MTMyleik Teele
Yeah.
- BEDr. Becky
What do you wanna, what do you wanna say to that person listening?
- MTMyleik Teele
To the person who is listening to this podcast, who rocked so many things in their lives before being a parent, and that, I mean, led you to wanting to, to become a parent-
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah
- MTMyleik Teele
... because you just know you can do it.
- BEDr. Becky
Yes.
- MTMyleik Teele
I want that person to know that not enjoying, finding themselves bored to tears by the absolute monotony of it all is okay, and not a sign that they're doing anything wrong, not a sign that they're going to not enjoy it forever, or they're, it's going to be boring forever. And if, if I could say just this one thing, is, like, please don't ... pro- feel the need to problem solve around the boredom or how you feel.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
It is, it is okay.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah.
- MTMyleik Teele
Yeah.
- BEDr. Becky
I- I'm just gonna mirror that. I think especially for that person, that ma- that makes perfect sense, and the only reason you'd have to feel bad about that is if you think that feeling is a report card on your parenting or predictor of your parenting.
- MTMyleik Teele
Right.
- BEDr. Becky
And I think being on the other side, for both of us, n- this is interesting. The only thing I know for sure is it is not a report card or a future prediction.
- MTMyleik Teele
No, that is true.
- BEDr. Becky
Yeah. If you've ever thought, "This is boring," now you have evidence. You are not the only one. And if you're listening before your baby arrives, you might have a thought like this at some point. And if you do, just keep in mind, nothing is wrong with you. It doesn't mean you don't love your baby, it doesn't mean you're ungrateful, and it doesn't mean you made a mistake. Becoming a parent changes you, and it changes the entire environment around you. And when things change so intensely, complicated and new thoughts can come with it. Your story might be different, and your hard moments might sound different. They're still real, and they count. And your hard moments and your hard thoughts do not mean anything characterological about you, and they are not a prediction about your parenting. We are all moving through this in our own homes, at our own hours, and we are not doing this alone. If you have a story that you'd be open to sharing with other parents or parents-to-be, we would love to hear from you. Please email podcast@goodinside.com. And now, let's end the way we always do. Place your feet on the ground, place a hand on your heart, and let's remind ourselves, even as we struggle on the outside, we remain good inside. That feels especially important for this episode. I'll see you soon. [outro music]
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