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When Our Nervous Systems Hijack Our Parenting

If you’ve yelled at your kid, you’re not a bad parent. You’re a good parent with an overwhelmed nervous system. Today, Dr. Becky breaks down the science behind yelling, snapping, and shutting down. She explains why our bodies react before our brains can catch up - and how understanding this will help you pause, reset, and reconnect. Get the Good Inside App by Dr. Becky: https://bit.ly/4fSxbzk Your Good Inside membership might be eligible for HSA/FSA reimbursement! To learn more about how to get your membership reimbursed, check out the link here: https://www.goodinside.com/fsa-hsa-eligibility/ Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter For a full transcript of the episode, go to goodinside.com/podcast Thank you to our sponsor Hot Wheels. Check out our full series with Hot Wheels at http://hotwheels.com/challengeaccepted Thank you to our sponsor DREO. Check out the DREO Baby Humidifier at http://dreo.com/ and use code Becky20 for 20% off.  Thank you to our sponsor Zelle. When it counts, send money with Zelle. Wish you could take back that yelling moment? You can. The Yelling Reset gives you the tools to pause, reset, and repair — so you can build real connection with your kids. Sign up today http://bit.ly/46GX9Vi

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Oct 7, 202520mWatch on YouTube ↗

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EPISODE INFO

Released
October 7, 2025
Duration
20m
Channel
Good Inside with Dr. Becky
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

If you’ve yelled at your kid, you’re not a bad parent. You’re a good parent with an overwhelmed nervous system. Today, Dr. Becky breaks down the science behind yelling, snapping, and shutting down. She explains why our bodies react before our brains can catch up - and how understanding this will help you pause, reset, and reconnect. Get the Good Inside App by Dr. Becky: https://bit.ly/4fSxbzk Your Good Inside membership might be eligible for HSA/FSA reimbursement! To learn more about how to get your membership reimbursed, check out the link here: https://www.goodinside.com/fsa-hsa-eligibility/ Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter For a full transcript of the episode, go to goodinside.com/podcast Thank you to our sponsor Hot Wheels. Check out our full series with Hot Wheels at http://hotwheels.com/challengeaccepted Thank you to our sponsor DREO. Check out the DREO Baby Humidifier at http://dreo.com/ and use code Becky20 for 20% off. Thank you to our sponsor Zelle. When it counts, send money with Zelle. Wish you could take back that yelling moment? You can. The Yelling Reset gives you the tools to pause, reset, and repair — so you can build real connection with your kids. Sign up today http://bit.ly/46GX9Vi

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  • Dr. Becky

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    Clinical psychologist and parenting expert, host of Good Inside.

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Good Inside with Dr. Becky, featuring Dr. Becky, When Our Nervous Systems Hijack Our Parenting explores why parents yell: nervous systems repeat past, repair breaks cycles Yelling (or going cold) is framed as an automatic protective “animal defense response” that can outrun a parent’s values in the heat of conflict.

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